A slight talking to and some alone time

[sarah_hillcrest]

I so appreciate being able to spill my guts here! I'm fond of writing dialouge but I'm just going to explain this time.

So was getting out of the shower last evening and wife is standing in the bathroom, says we've got to talk. She says she feels like she is being very understanding, but that she's really worried I'm going to "blow it" she explains that I'd left my crossdresser forum open on my computer with my big girl face right their on the screen advising people to shop at thrift stores. Opps. She can't figure out how I'm so casual about all this. "Your underwear drawer is girlier looking then mine, you leave your panties out on the floor, you've got makeup and nail polish on your desk, and an entire wardrobe down in the basement, aren't you worried?" I apologized, but the fact is that I've gotten really careless lately. She is so scared that people are going to find out, and I'm not. I don't want people to know, I'm not trying to get caught, it just seems so unlikely to me. She was beginning to think that I was far more serious about living as a girl then I am. I assured her that the issue was more of my chronic carelessness. Luckily there was no real conflict and we had a wonderful evening.

Now that brings us to the next topic which is that my wife and her mother are going out of town for a mother daughter vacation next weekend, are going to be gone for 5 days. I'm not sure what I'll do, but I'm leaning towards a big girl trip out. But I haven't worked out any details yet, and my wife's paranoia has affected me now. I wish I had a CD friend to meet up with or somewhere I could think to go, and I'm not sure if I'm ready to go strut around a mall somewhere. I want to go somewhere scenic and do some photographs one evening, but I haven't even figured out where yet.

[Tracii G]

If you have a nice park close by go there and take some pics.

[sarah_hillcrest]

yeah lots of parks, lots of scenic national forest areas too. I have a few in mind, just can't decide which one will be best.

[Tracii G]

Just pick one and go LOL

[phili]

If it is your first time out be prepared to be surprised how much you want to stay out!

Tell people your location and maybe a member is nearby to hold the camera!

[Stacy Darling]

Now that brings us to the next topic which is that my wife and her mother are going out of town for a mother daughter vacation next weekend, are going to be gone for 5 days. I'm not sure what I'll do, but I'm leaning towards a big girl trip out.

Whaaaaaattt? Have you left your screen up again, and this is your wife talking? If you leant anymore you'd fall over that crest, nearly did myself!:eek:
Some place more private sounds good to me, botanic gardens & temple gardens have peace mostly.

Lucky Chic!
Stacy!

[Teresa]

Sarah,
Your CDing is drifting into normality , it's not doing any harm so what if someone does see a few items will the World end ? This cloak and dagger stuff has to end eventually , My wife used to be very untidy on occasions but not once could I say what will people think if they saw certain things left out , It's a very one sided situation sometimes with our wives/partners .

Now the burning question is what is Sarah going to do when she has a few days of freedom ? It's a wonderful thought but the problem is you won't want it to end , it's surprising in that short time how much your CDing can move on . I know when I had the chance my first drive was full of so many emotions , but eveytime I did it I felt more comfortable , I look back now at that time with a smile on my face . To think now it's quite normal to leave the house dressed in broad daylight, maybe see the neighbours , jump in the car and go off into town to do my errands ans some shopping .

[Micki_Finn]

I smell a trap. Your wife confronts you about being careless about exposing yourself right before she knows she’s going to be gone for 5 days? My instinct tells me she’s testing you to see what you do with your “free time”. I’m guessing she’s normally not a fan of you going out dressed? I’m not saying you shouldn’t, but if it violates the “house rules” or even if you just know she wouldn’t be pleased, then you should consider NOT going out, or at least be aware that it’s possible she’ll be looking for clues when she gets back.

[Cassandra Lynn]

but the fact is that I've gotten really careless lately. She is so scared that people are going to find out, and I'm not. I don't want people to know, I'm not trying to get caught, it just seems so unlikely to me. She was beginning to think that I was far more serious about living as a girl then I am. I assured her that the issue was more of my chronic carelessness. Luckily there was no real conflict and we had a wonderful evening.


This is really neither here nor there, in the grand scheme of things, but I think there's another way to look at this; and I underlined one sentence to illustrate my thoughts.
It may well be that you are 'somewhat unconsciously' allowing your inner woman freedom to be. Perhaps you are not so much being a "chronic careless" person, but trying to just live freely, live more out in the open, exist as the authentic person you wish to be?


Only you know what and where your ladies limits are and what the results could be, but I have to agree with Micki, be careful.


Cass

[Tracii G]

Like Micki I sense a bit of tomfoolery on her part.
Almost like she is daring you to do something.
She may have one friend she has told everything to and have them watching to see if you do go out.
Most women aren't scared of what others will think of you but what others think of them for being married to a CDer.
Women don't do anything without a plan and several back up plans as well if plan A fails.
I have been married twice so I do have experience in the matter.LOL
If it were me I would tell her I might go out I might not it just depends on how I feel that day.
Slip in the old line If I'm missing you really bad I'll just stay home and watch a movie.

[Devi SM]

Sarah,
I'm dropping wife this coming Friday at the airport to an overseas trip to visit her old mom for two weeks. I'll be three weekends on some weekdays to go out.
As several here know, my wife knows I'm even transition HRT but doesn't enjoy too much going out with Vanessa, so spend the most time, weekdays dressed at home working and weekends we go out together but in male mode.
Now I have plans to go shopping of course, beach during the day, clubbing at night.
I don't you but I'm near the beach and I already got my bikini and all stuff for beach even thought I plan a nudist beach...lol
Wherever you go enjoy it.

[sarah_hillcrest]

It may well be that you are 'somewhat unconsciously' allowing your inner woman freedom to be. Perhaps you are not so much being a "chronic careless" person, but trying to just live freely, live more out in the open, exist as the authentic person you wish to be?

Cass

You raise a good point, nothing I've done would be improper if I was a GG, and to me none of it is improper. I don't like this dual personality thing I'm starting to get.


I smell a trap. Your wife confronts you about being careless about exposing yourself right before she knows she’s going to be gone for 5 days? My instinct tells me she’s testing you to see what you do with your “free time”. I’m guessing she’s normally not a fan of you going out dressed? I’m not saying you shouldn’t, but if it violates the “house rules” or even if you just know she wouldn't be pleased, then you should consider NOT going out, or at least be aware that it’s possible she’ll be looking for clues when she gets back.

I hadn't thought of this, but she's not usually that devious. She doesn't know that I've gone out dressed before, I've actually gone out three times, each time to a trail to hike in the dead season of winter. I imagine she would not like that. She could get on this forum and read all about it, but she doesn't want to. We don't really have house rules, but she made me promise that I wouldn't do anything that embarrasses her. I'm not going anywhere I could get noticed for sure, and I may just go for a drive. I can quite easily get out without being seen by the neighbors.


Sarah,

Now the burning question is what is Sarah going to do when she has a few days of freedom ? It's a wonderful thohjt but the problem is you won't want iyt to end ,

It's funny for weeks I've been looking forward to this, and now that it's about here I'm starting to freak out.

[Robertacd]

She says that she's really worried I'm going to "blow it" she explains that I'd left my crossdresser forum open on my computer with my big girl face right their on the screen "Your underwear drawer is girlier looking then mine, you leave your panties out on the floor, you've got makeup and nail polish on your desk, and an entire wardrobe down in the basement, aren't you worried?"


Who is she worried about seeing your stuff?

Who besides you and your wife live in your house?

[sarah_hillcrest]

Who is she worried about seeing your stuff?

Who besides you and your wife live in your house?

That's the thing, no one. In fact, I could easily count on two hands the number of people who have been to our house this year. Both our parents live in town and make occasional visits, hers show up at least once a week if not more, and mine about twice a year. LOL. Like all the clothes in the basement, there is absolutely nothing weird about having spare clothing hanging up with our winter coats, sweaters, and stuff. She is a worrier, always has been.

[Asew]

When she said you are going to "blow it", my first thought was that she meant you are going make her not be understanding of your crossdressing. That perhaps she doesn't want to see it so much. But as I read on does sound more like she doesn't want others to know.

I guess you should have fun during her vacation and remember to pick after yourself before she gets back :)

[RainbowDash]

Before I went on my vacation, I had all kinds of feminine stuff lying around all over the floor and on the bed (I don't have as much closet space as I used to). So I cleaned up and put it away where it could not be seen. Still, I made the mistake of one day leaving a bra on the bed, and then my brother in-law came by to give me something while I was at work and saw it.

[Nikkilovesdresses]

...my wife and her mother are going out of town for a mother daughter vacation next weekend, are going to be gone for 5 days.

You've seen Bewitched? I'd be worried if I were you...

[Jenny22]

Your wife is tolerant of your dressing. Be ever thankful for that. Your leaving your femme stuff lying about the house is almost, to her, pushing your CDing into her face, me thinks. So, don't do it if its a concern of hers. Going out while she's away is OK, as long as you do it far from home where no one will recognize you, thus not embarrassing her.

[sometimes_miss]

I sort of agree with Tracii, she's concerned about what other people will think about HER for being married to what other people might think as a pervert, gay, basically a less than desirable partner. Women derive a significant amount of their prestige by how good a choice they make when choosing a partner. Few if any women admire another who dates/marries say, a female impersonator for example. Crossdressers simply aren't high on the desirable mate list for women.

[sarah_hillcrest]

Sarah,
I'm dropping wife this coming Friday at the airport to an overseas trip to visit her old mom for two weeks. I'll be three weekends on some weekdays to go out.
As several here know, my wife knows I'm even transition HRT but doesn't enjoy too much going out with Vanessa, so spend the most time, weekdays dressed at home working and weekends we go out together but in male mode.
Now I have plans to go shopping of course, beach during the day, clubbing at night.
I don't you but I'm near the beach and I already got my bikini and all stuff for beach even thought I plan a nudist beach...lol
Wherever you go enjoy it.

That sounds awesome! That's one of the big differences between me and her. I think I'd really have no problem walking around a nudist beach nude, she'd be freaking out.


Like Micki I sense a bit of tomfoolery on her part.
Almost like she is daring you to do something.
She may have one friend she has told everything to and have them watching to see if you do go out.
Most women aren't scared of what others will think of you but what others think of them for being married to a CDer.
Women don't do anything without a plan and several back up plans as well if plan A fails.
I have been married twice so I do have experience in the matter.LOL
If it were me I would tell her I might go out I might not it just depends on how I feel that day.
Slip in the old line If I'm missing you really bad I'll just stay home and watch a movie.

Well that's unlikely, she doesn't have any friends even remotely close enough to tell this too, and she has told me she really wishes she did. She also warned me that her Dad may ask me for help one day, and that I should keep the doors locked just in case soemone comes by. As far as going out I just don't think that she would even think that is something I would do.


You've seen Bewitched? I'd be worried if I were you...

Not a clue...


Your wife is tolerant of your dressing. Be ever thankful for that. Your leaving your femme stuff lying about the house is almost, to her, pushing your CDing into her face, me thinks. So, don't do it if its a concern of hers. Going out while she's away is OK, as long as you do it far from home where no one will recognize you, thus not embarrassing her.

This is very true and something I need to be more aware of. I think you are right about going out as well.


I sort of agree with Tracii, she's concerned about what other people will think about HER for being married to what other people might think as a pervert, gay, basically a less than desirable partner. Women derive a significant amount of their prestige by how good a choice they make when choosing a partner. Few if any women admire another who dates/marries say, a female impersonator for example. Crossdressers simply aren't high on the desirable mate list for women.

Do you have a big sad rain cloud over your head? LOL, anyway yeah I mean obviously yes.

[Tracii G]

I thought a lot of things about both wives I had "oh there is no way she would cheat we have been married 15 years" or "my wife wouldn't steal my credit card and gamble away $800.00".
Any time you think you know thats when you haven't a clue.

[alwayshave]

Sarah, I would not say you have been carless, but comfortable. Until my step daughter moved in with us I left everything out, breast forms on my desk next to my makeup. My wife's only complaint is that my forms were larger than her natural abilities.

[CarlaWestin]

When these epic opportunities hit the calendar, we get flooded with ideas and scenarios for the time slot.
Having survived and enjoyed many of these rejuvenating, living as the true ME events, I've learned to just
relax and enjoy. And don't let other stresses to invade.

[Jenny22]

"Bewitched" .. an old TV comedy show. Mother and daughter (ala your wife and her mom) were both witches. Be prepared!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Sarah :hugs:, You need to get some Pink Fog spray repellent so you are not so forgetful Leaving things open and out.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~>Orchid ..o:daydreaming:o..

[abby054]

...Most women aren't scared of what others will think of you but what others think of them for being married to a CDer.

BINGO!


I smell a trap...

It is so obvious that even I can see this one a mile off. Think with your head this time, not with your heels.


"Bewitched" .. an old TV comedy show. Mother and daughter (ala your wife and her mom) were both witches. Be prepared!

...while Wife was kind and loving, Mother was constantly scheming to embarrass the man.

[SamanthaToday]

Sarah. I think there's a real possibility that your wife is going to tell her Mom. She wants to tell someone and you said She doesn't have friends that live close. So for her it's all about face to face. Well She has 5 days face to face with her Mother. Doesnt mean it's bad just that She needs to talk to someone.

[Beverley Sims]

A photographic outing by yourself on a nice sunny day, take a few photos to reflect your activities.