Wearing heels publicly while in man mode

[Stiletto Gurl]

I am in no way passable, never would be (unfortunately), especially with facial hair at the moment, however my desire to wear my Nine West heels or booties with my dress jeans is overwhelming. My jeans are longer and hide the heels enough but that little sexy heel clicking on the ground while ever so slightly sticking out might give it away. Has anyone else ever been in this situation and what did you do?

[Jennifer_Ph]

I've done it many times. Go for it, you'll enjoy it!

[bridget thronton]

I have done this a few times - if it makes you happy enjoy it

[Sidney]

I'd like to try it but I think people would get tired of picking me up every time I fell. Beside I may break a hip or something. I do wear short 2 inch heels sometimes.

[Rhonda Jean]

I do it quite a bit, and have forever. Not stilettos, though. Narrow, but not that narrow. I also wear western boots in male mode quite a bit, and had the heels on all of them built up to 2-3/4" No one has ever commented on the extra high heels on my western boots, but even when I've thought my jeans covered the other high heels I see people's eyes drawn to them. I don't know that I'd even notice on someone else, but some people are particularly perceptive of it.

[docrobbysherry]

When I wear my 3 1/2" heeled brown boots in man mode no one gives me a second glance!:daydreaming:

[Stiletto Gurl]

I’d love to see what you all wear when doing this. Maybe it will boost my confidence.

[Pumped]

I have a couple pairs on boots with chunky heels I wear out in male mode. One pair has a four inch heel. Not one comment about them.

[Jennifer_Ph]

I wear these a LOT. https://www.amazon.com/Brash-Cognac-Womens-Thrasher-Regular/dp/B07567R7VS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1531843813&sr=8-1&keywords=payless+combat

[Taylor186]

I’d love to see what you all wear when doing this. Maybe it will boost my confidence.

Just google "men wearing high heels" then click on images. You will see 100s of examples.

[Tracii G]

I used to do it all the time usually boots or ankle boots.
I really don't care for traditional high heels because they hurt my feet.

Nice MG 1600 I presume?

[Micki_Finn]

Wait a minute... Dress jeans? Like... formal jeans?

[Jennifer_Ph]

One of the cars at work.. but it's a 1500. :-D

[Tracii G]

My brother had that same body style and it just had MGA on the hood grills so I think his was a 1960 1500.

[Stiletto Gurl]

Yes, why? Nice dark denim.

[Edelia]

I had a very supportive and lovely crazy girlfriend, but she always forbade me to dress like that.

[Mgreenva]

I love my Nine West and wear them out in male mode all the time. I get lots of positive comments and even more “you wear them well and walk better than I can”. I started off only wearing black but now nude rules. I have several stores that I stop at most of the ladies compliment me on my shoes. I say no one cares go for it.

[Diane Smith]

I wear pointy toed spikes, 4" to 4.5", out and about regularly in "boy" mode. I tend to prefer ankle boots or knee high boots in the fall and winter. I get a few stares every now and then, and fewer comments, most of them positive. There are a few stores I visit while making my regular errands where I have never been seen without heels. I do prefer to wear pants long enough to cover at least most of the heel - partly for stealth, but as much because I think it looks better.

For the most part it's a non-issue, but I would want to make sure everyone close to me knew I was doing this and was OK with it. You should think about how you would deal with meeting someone you know while out in your heels - it will happen eventually. (Hint: Honesty is the best policy.)

- Diane

[Robbin_Sinclair]

For a crossdresser's site with an English and theater flair, I am surprised that nobody posted doing it in a show. I did it three times, in Caberet, Rock of Ages and something locally written that is political.

...My point is that balance is really important. And Always have gaffer's tape. it is called in theater. That is like good grey duct tape but better. Your supports of the shoe are critical. Then, it becomes really rather easy.

Did it once on ice in Chicago trying miserably to pass in a production of the Scrooge Christmas story at the Goodman downtown.. :hugs:

[Desiree2bababe]

You bet I have, the roughest and toughest of men just smiled at me.

[pedalgirl]

I usually always wear female footwear. If your pants are long enough to cover the top of the shoe most people will never notice.

[deebra]

I have a 3" heel knee high black swede boot that I absolutely love to walk in, so womanly. I have worn them under long black boot cut girl jeans to two different malls. The mall cop clocked me, so did a male sales person, a female and a couple other females at a different mall, the last two had a big laugh. The long jeans, same color as the boot covered just about all of the boot except for a little of the heel. Wore the same thing at a different mall and don't think any one noticed. ????????? I also wear tan 2" heel booties with long boot cut matching color pants and they pass.

Why do some find it wrong for a man to wear girl foot wear when it looks nice on him and anything that a woman wears whether it be male or female is wonderful? Some really screwed up people out there!!!!!!

Wear what you like, toughen up your skin, ignore them and enjoy.

[phili]

Wild high heeled boots for men are part of popular culture music scene, so the path is opening wider and wider.

Shoes are such a small fraction of our appearance that the heels are less important than the manner in which we are walking- i.e. what we confirm about gender when we get attention for the sound.

I remember when a pierced ear was a huge deal- I can't remember any more which ear signaled gay and the other straight but swashbuckling! Now it means nothing. I suspect heels are going the same way.

[Karmen]

I sometimes wear female boots with wide heels in winter when going shopping or somewhere I probably won't meet anyone I know (similar to those Jennifer_Ph posted in this thread), but I'm too scared to wear higher heels or even pumps or sandals with high heels in male mode. I just don't want to be too conspicuous and provoke someone to take a picture and post it online. But I always try on shoes in store when I'm buying them in male mode, even I risk someone might see me wearing them for a minute or so.

[Adrienne Heels]

I've done it like going to the mall and found no one seemed to care!

[suzanne]

Yes, do it! Surprisingly, heels in male mode works incredibly well. Last year, I had the great pleasure of seeing the stage version of "Kinky Boots" The role of Lola was played by a former winner of Ru Pauls Drag Race. Her femme outfits were predictably fabulous, but the real surprise was when she came on stage in a mens suit, she wore 5 inch heels and looked stunning.

I do it myself, as well. The heels, not the stunning part. But it works. I know it looks good because women give me compliments all the time. Men, of course, say nothing. But who cares? And however it may look, I feel ten times better than that, because it makes my feet look smaller, and my legs look longer.

[rockerreds]

I went to a Television show in December in male mode but with heels, no reaction either way.

[Tasha McIntyre]

I don't wear heels, but quite often wear womens sandals or court shoes whilst in man mode. The shoes never really get a second glance, my skirt on the other hand quite often gets a second glance.

[Carrie M]

I've worn black heeled sandals under boot cut women's jeans without much notice being taken. It's funny but, being English and older, I look back to the mid '70's and remember my red platform heeled shoes, skinny tight white cords, and see through cheesecloth shirts and realize how feminine we guys could dress back then. And it was simply fashion. I did crossdress back then too but honestly most clothing was gender shared, at least in the big city. Weird times we live in today I sometimes think.