First time getting appraisal glance from a male!

[Lana Mae]

Decided to dress today and went to the bank! I was getting out of the car and had my back to the bank and when I turned around a young Hispanic male was giving me an appraising look while he was going into the bank! I just smiled and went about my business at the walk up ATM. There were at least 2 other males that walked by but no looks! Then Lana Mae drove to the gas station and topped up the tank! There was a breeze and it felt nice blowing through my wig hair! I am still dressed and doing laundry! My counselor asked me last time if it was more satisfying to go out or do chores around the house and I told here it really doesn't matter! Just a little Lana Mae update! Hugs Lana Mae PS-The nosy neighbors got a good look today! They were backing into their driveway as I was pulling out and they were both looking my way! OH, well! LOL

[IleneD]

Lana,

I you keep drawing looks from men, eventually you will get lucky.
Keep up the good work, girl.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lana Mae :hugs:, Like I said before," You are so out there now.


It sounds like you got a passing grade today. >Orchid ..O:daydreaming:O..

[Lana Mae]

Ilene: I am not sure I want to get "lucky"!
Orchid: Funny I thought I did not look all that great today! I was wearing my "guy" clothes(what I wear in male mode!)(women's jean and tee shirt) I just did the make up and added the bra/forms and my wig! I guess the clothes were appropriate for going to the bank!
Thanks for your replies, ladies!
Hugs Lana Mae

[Allisa]

Just be wary and alert at the ATM. A woman at the machine would be an easier target than a man.You knew eventually the neighbors would find out, it really is no big deal.

[franlee]

It's got to be nice to move about with the ability to blend in with everyday traffic. And that there is no bad reactions from the public. As far as appraisal that is just a natural thing for either gender to do.

[Rayleen]

Lana May, you will get use to it and so as people you meet seeing you.

It will get easier as you continue you trips out and about.


Rayleen

[Michaelasfun]

Sounds like validation to me! Way to go!

[Tracii G]

A very positive day it seems. Good for you !!

[Lana Mae]

Allisa: I am belted in Tae Kwon Do! Yeah, the neighbors have to find out eventually! LOL
franlee: Yeah, but it is my first time as far as I know! LOL
Rayleen: I found it amusing! Also somewhat validating!
Michaela: Yes, it was validating!
Tracii: Very positive!
Thanks ladies for your responses!
Hugs Lana Mae

[Sarah Louise]

Sounds like a very successful day out. I always think that if you get looked at by men rather then women, then you're probably doing something right. When it happens to me I usually chuckle to myself and imagine they wouldn't be too impressed if they knew what I was hiding under my dress - lol.

[bridget thronton]

Sounds like a good day indeec

[DaisyLawrence]

It seems you assume he was appraising you 'as a woman'. Seems a big leap to make without any direct communication. Young men usual appraise young women. What evidence is there that he was not just having a good stare at what he thought was an obvious MIAD? Sorry but it may be reality check time.

[Krea]

Lana Mae, i enjoy reading your updates. It sounds as tho you are really living to the full, enjoying truly being yourself. It's a great example for those of us still peering out of the closet. :thumbsup:

Daisy, you make a fair point that we don't actually know what someone else is thinking, but it doesn't really matter whether the young man was looking at Lana Mae in an appraising way or otherwise. What is more important is that Lana Mae now has the confidence to go out without worrying about how people may react.

[Rayleen]

Lana Mae,

It looks like Daisy was talking about, you seem to get appraisal from men, but how about other women ?

Rayleen

[Beverley Sims]

Many forward steps being taken here.

Good for you Lana.

[phili]

Lana Mae, I'm glad you wanted to share your noticing of being noticed- and some of the feelings you had.

Appraisal is necessary- a survival instinct. Goes both ways. Our reaction to people noticing us is a big part of bringing the matter to a conclusion. The young man is observing you, noticing and managing his own reactions as a male to the discovery that you are a male, remembering people he has seen before, contemplating the future of society evolving before his eyes, recalling his grandmother and her friends, remembering when he put on his sister's dress, wondering if he too might become an elderly crossdresser, and much, much more, all in the blink of an eye!

On your part, a thousand things probably passed through your mind as well- to be encapsulated in an enjoyable realization that you can be out and about, and enjoy taking part in the world as a TG woman.

And you are doing a great service for advancing the cause, letting everyone know that TG women are no trouble after all!

[Lana Mae]

Sarah: Yes, I laughed to myself and thought the same! LOL
Bridget: Indeed a good day!
Daisy: I don't know but basically I was going by the expression on his face! It really does not matter because we can't bring him back and ask!
Krea: Thanks that is what I was hoping for-helping others get out by example!
Rayleen: At church, I get treated like any other woman! When out and not at church, well I had one lady at the grocery smiling at me! Really no comments from the ladies thus far!
Beverly: Thanks!
Thanks ladies for your replies!
Hugs Lana Mae

[Amy Lynn3]

Lana, so proud of you for presenting yourself to the world as one of the gurls. Keep doing what makes you happy, because we only have one life, so enjoy it.

[Bobbi46]

Lana, What a lovely thing to happen to you, some of us yearn for something to happen like that but so few get it, I am very happy for you and more happenings like this make us all more acceptable to others

[Teresa]

Lana,
To answer your counsellor's question first I prefer to be out and about , I'm finding being dressed at home is so normal I hardly consider it CDing anymore . Even my neighbour across the road saw me come down my path to the car and said good morning , his wife is puzzled why we need to do it , that's all he told me last time I spoke to him , so I replied she's not the only one to think that at times .
I may not still be full time but I'm getting to the point where I only want to do my chores etc. dressed .

I'm really not aware who is looking anymore , I'm finding if you don't look for a reaction you don't appear to get one. There are obviously several reasons why a guy may look, I was only thinking about this point when walking through the lounge area of a hotel on the way to the bar . It was very busy and yes people were glancing at us as we bought our drinks and walked past them back to out function room , it occured to me that some could be frustrated CDers wishing they could do the same thing . I did see some looks of disapproval the more I do it the less I understand why they do disapprove , I had to smile at a comment I did hear a wife make , she said , " you wouldn't catch my husband doing that ! " The forum has many mambers whose wives/ partners thought that how little some of them knew !

[ambigendrous]

I had to smile at a comment I did hear a wife make , she said , " you wouldn't catch my husband doing that ! "

To which the correct response would be "Because he hides it so well..." or "Because he prefers longer/shorter/tighter/looser dresses." :devil:

[Lana Mae]

Amy Lynn: You are so right!
Phili: (Almost missed your post!) Thanks! A good analysis of what was going on! LOL
Teresa: Generally, I do not notice or ignore but I had just got out of the car and had my back to him as I was turning around and boom there he was! Really no biggy but i just noticed it this time!
Bobbi: Yes I imagine there will be plenty more! LOL
Ambigenderous: Yeah! LOL
Thanks ladies for your responses
Hugs Lana Mae

[sarah_hillcrest]

congrats!

[IleneD]

Lana,

If it gives you any comfort, I drew remarks from some gents in public.
I was going to our local GBLT Center for an evening rooftop social they were sponsoring. It was just this last Friday. I went en femme (of course). Not overdone. Demure and simple. As I was entering the facility, a couple guys apparent hooted something. I think it was a loud request to suck one of his body parts with a couple "Hey babies" thrown in. I was pretty much unaware of it. I just heard noise. A gay man part of a group gathered outside the center grabbed me from behind and asked if I heard the offensive comment the man made. All I could do was ignore it for I'd not heard it directly.
I don't have time or energy to address such nonsense unless it poses an imminent threat. But yes.... it's possible for us all to encounter the attention of men.
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Me at the GBLT Social, and what caused all the fuss.

[Yukihime]

I've had both bad and good appraisal glances from men since I first started going out dressed:

- during my very first outing, which was in Malaysia , I was quite sure I saw a couple of guys smiling and pointing in my direction as I walked past

- another time, in Singapore, a guy did a doubletake as he walked past, and gave me such a venomous stare I was kinda shocked, but I just walked past him

- after exiting my hotel and about to go shopping, a guy adjusting his motorcycle wolf whistled me

- unexpectedly shared a lift with what seemed like a team of African footballers or some other sport and power walked to my own room when I discovered they were also staying on the same floor

- received looks from a few guys at a 24/7 convenience store to get drinks around 10pm

More recently, (although not a guy's appraisal) a fellow sister in Thailand asked me if my figure was natural, but I had to tell her sadly it wasn't. ^^;

[Lana Mae]

Sarah: I don't know about congrats as I usually just ignore such things! LOL
Ilene: Other than the guy in the grocery store with the big grin, this is the only time I noticed! Have gotten some "ugly" looks but no bad words or actions!
Yukihime: Thanks for sharing! Yeah, it takes all kinds! LOL
Thanks ladies for your responses!
Hugs Lana Mae

[Roxanne Lanyon]

I have been out in public a few times, now, as Roxanne. Generally, it has been uneventful! I have been "Ma'amed", and called "dearie", and it really makes me feel ever so good. But, I would adore to hear a nice comment or something from a male. That would make my day wonderful! Not suggestive, or unclean, but just gentlemanly. Oh, I can dream, can't I? Roxanne

[StephanieH]

I've gotten a lot of looks from guys in New Orleans in years past when going out dressed, and you can generally tell if they're looking at you as in "what the hell?" or if it's "well, lookee here." There are a LOT of crossdressers and TV's in the French Quarter, so most of the "looks" come from gay guys (I suppose) but it still feels flattering nonetheless and my wife and I joke about it, which is nice also.

What I like better is being dressed and having another woman or girl or lady not notice and call me "ma'am" or ask me about something in a store - THAT really makes me feel much more special.

[Roxanne Lanyon]

Lana,

I you keep drawing looks from men, eventually you will get lucky.
Keep up the good work, girl.

Oh, that would be so sweet!

[Julie Martin]

@Stephanie H-

I'm with you on that sis..if I get a "Maam" from a female..especially if she's not a sales assistant..it does make my day! Although the guy who chatted me up when I was about to head to my car from a hotel lobby clearly thought he was talking to a woman..but..he was pretty old, I think his eyesight was bad :-)!

[Lana Mae]

Roxanne: I have yet to be ma'amed! Yes, you can dream if you want to!
Stephanie: Here is to more special times!
Roxanne: Sweet for you! I like girls not guys!
Julie: I have yet to be ma'amed! It would be nice!
Thanks for your responses, ladies!
Hugs Lana Mae

[MonicaPVD]

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's awesome to draw attention from guys. I have found an entire range of men who are drawn to me. These range from fetishists who find the concept of a CD arousing to men who are genuinely interested in more than a fantasy or a sexual encounter. Very cool.

[Lana Mae]

Monica: I am not interested in men at all! That said though, it was somewhat flattering! LOL

[Roxanne Lanyon]

Oh, Lana Mae, yes, I will keep on dreaming. I am Roxanne, aren't I? (Sort of reminds me of an old play . . . .!).

[Lana Mae]

Dream on Roxanne, dream on! Hugs Lana Mae