Going out en femme for the first time tonite!

[DawnLabelle]

Hi all,

Just wanted to share this fairly large step :). A buddy of mine decided to host a "crossdress" party, where all the guys go as chicks, and all the chicks go as guys. And no, I have no idea if he is a tranny or not (although I've heard he looks fantastic en femme which he did once for halloween), and no, no one there apart from my "date" (a very close female friend) knows that I'm a tranny.

Understandably im pretty nervous about this, I'm really looking forward to it, but at the same time I'm worried about possibly being outed, or being lauged at for looking "too" female (im going all out, wig, makeup, heels, fully shaved, etc), or worried that I simply wont feel comfortable.

anyway, thats about it, just wanted to share. any words of wisdom out there for me to quell my nerves :)?. And hopefully tomorrow I'll have some nice pics to put in the pictures directory and an avatar for myself :D

hugs!
Dawn

[Julie Avery]

I can imagine your anxiety, I've never been out of the house en femme. I can't imagine any scenario where you could get out among people, en femme, that would make it easier to get through the anxiety, than the one you describe. I say "Get your nerve up and go :)".

[Breanne]

Go for it! Enjoy! dispel all fears . . or you'll regret it for the rest of your life.

[Cherry Lynn]

We went to a crossdress party like you speak of several years ago and I went all out like you are. I was not the least bit anxious and had a wonderful time, especially since all the women complimented me on my legs and said they wished theirs looked as good as mine. It has been awhile since that party and he has wanted to do it again but some of the couples were uncomfortable so there goes the fun. Anyway go and have a wonderful time. I sure wish I could go with you,by the way where are you,giggle.

[Shelby]

It wasn't for a party but a murder mystery show. So I had a character to fall back on. I've crossdressed before for a few theater events and am considered the resident theater crossdreser with a laugh by them. I naturally laugh along, but I do enjoy dressing up as a woman. Well we did this mystery show and I was all decked out from head to toe (thus the avatar). Everyone was looking at me, hard not too. since this was a character driven show, even the audience had to be in character, so they couldn't ask me any personal questions. They had to stay within the context of my character which had a sex change. After the event was over, I had lots of people hanging around to talk to me. Lots of guys just looked, women asked me how I got my cleavage. Suffice to say, no one ever asked me if this was more of personal coming out opportunity for me, they just seemed to buy the idea that this was theater and it was merely for fun. Plus if you sell it to them that this is just for fun in a convincing manner,they'll buy anything.

[Claire]

Sounds fun. Can't wait to hear the rest of the story. Hope you have a great experience
:thumbsup:

[Barb Valentine]

I say go for it
If you really feel nervous about it have a couple of stiff drinks first
it can't hurt
so go out and enjoy your self

[_Janelle_]

Sounds like fun - lets us know how it all turns out - with pics of course!

Have fun!

Janelle

[EricaCD]

Have a great time and enjoy the opportunity to enjoy your feminine side in what will probably be a very accepting environment! And wear a knockout outfit!

Erica

[Laurie Ann]

I hope you have a wonderful evening.

[trannie T]

Hope that you have a great time! Looking forward to tomorrow's posting.

[DawnLabelle]

Well I'm back from the party, tired and quite a little drunk, had to cab it home with my chick-friend (i.e., not romantic relationship friend, best friend actually, but i digress) and leave it there, cabby gave us a funny little look and a grin at a woman in jeans and a gangsta hoodie, with a fake beard, and a 6"4 (in 6" platform calf boots no less) tranny get into his car, and I didn't even feel uncomfortable walking around in drag nor being in the car.

but once again, I digress :), but I warn you, I may ramble ;)

Getting ready was fun, I had shaved my chest and legs that morning, and my bud nair'ed the rest of me (if there is a God, im gonna have a serious talk with her about putting the urge to dress in a bloody furr ball). First time i was ever fully hairless, and you know what, it looks great in femme (of course), but it also looks pretty decent in male mode as well. Its also amazing how much more you feel of your clothing, rubbing a leg against something, someone touch on your arm, everything feels stronger as if the hair actually dulls those senses. Anyway, as I mentioned on my first post, it was a "crossdress" costume party, so I was the only actual CDer there (not that they knew it), but there was another guy there who wanted to try on my boots (I was the only one in heels, the only one who had completely shaved, etc etc) and I think he may have enjoyed being in drag (he looked great by the way) a little more than he expected.

The party was great, I didn't even know anyone there apart from 3 (out of 25 or so) so I met a bunch of wierd and fun people. All of them having only seen me in femme, and apart from a few curious looks that I got (like how does he walk in those, and why does he act so femme), but strangely enough they didn't bother me in the least. I knew I was acting femme (the way I hold my smoke, how I walked, crossed my legs... short skirt after all ;) ), and I knew I was drawing alot of attention to it, even with my actual friends there, but I didn't care in the least, I was completely comfortable the whole time. Hell, even my (female) neighbor came down and got me a great top set to wear, little cami and sweater thing top, super tight :) ). Only her boyfriend, my best friend (who knows) didn't want to see what I looked like, he's never been unsupportive of me, even asked if I was going out en femme, but he simply doesn't want to actually see me in drag, and I'm pretty cool with it.

Anyway, I'm rambling like a loony here, kind of a tranny outpouring ;). I'm going to post some pics in the pictures group of my night out. Odd, I was at first worried about posting my face, after all I wasn't that passable, gotta hide the beard shadow better, but I'm happy with the way I looked, and I kind of dont really care anymore if people see these who may know me, whatever, im fed up of hiding this, I wont neccessarily flaunt it but It is part of me.

okies, off to post pics, thanks to all who read this far and all who posted support!

Hugs to all
Dawn

[Deidra Cowen]

Thanks for sharing your fun adventure and way to go girl! :thumbsup:

[Adrienne Heels]

It sounds like you had a wonderful time, hon !!

[JEAN]

I have only been out fully dressed once and that was to see a woman who sells me my cosmetics. Needless to say I was pretty nervous but when I met with her she made me feel at ease and gave me some great make-up tips. I really enjoyed the time I spent with her and she even took a few pictures of me when we were done. All in all it was great and I would love to do it again.

[Joy Carter]

So glad you got to be your self in public. I went out in the early seveties and I got so much hostilty that I was not welcome back to the hosts home. It wasn't my reactions it was his brother that called me names all night and tried to get a reaction out of me by bumping into me then challenged me to fight. Oh if we were still in high school I would have cleaned the little jerks clock. I'm the calm and reserve type and would have helped him to his feet after I decked him, I know a bar room brawler in heels. The people at the party talked about that incident for years and they wouldn't let me forget it. Something about black heels in August I didn't understand that one. Be all you can be hun and don't worry about what other think.

[DawnLabelle]

Well, its the morning after now, and already I can't wait to go out again :D. Of course next time I want it to be with other actual CDs to a club, I really wanna hit the dance floor, and I'm amazed I was able to take the whole night in heels without too much pain (but it felt oh so good to take em off, dang!). Gotta find other out and about girls in montreal. Any chance anyone who posts here is a montreal'er?.

oop, gotta split, ill finish this later :)

[CharleneCD]

Congradulations on your first big night out. I am so happy that you felt so good and had a great time.

Now as to your friend who hosted the party. He dressed for Haloween and now throws a crossdresed party? I would be willing to bet money thet your friend is a sister.

[DawnLabelle]

Congradulations on your first big night out. I am so happy that you felt so good and had a great time.

Now as to your friend who hosted the party. He dressed for Haloween and now throws a crossdresed party? I would be willing to bet money thet your friend is a sister.

well, my gal-pal actually agrees with you but im not convinced just yet, he didn't put too much work into his outfit last night, but as you said, it was his idea and how many "regular" guys would have that idea for a party eh? :). I also saw the pic of him from halloween (it was about 8 years ago) and it blew me away, completely passable and I didn't even recognize it was him.

gawd I feel like shopping now

[CharleneCD]

A good way to find him out would be to ask questions on how he achieved such a wonderful look for the Haloween pic. If he is too evasive, or goes into too much detail on how he did you might hve an answer. And then you could always just tell him that he is so passable when he fems up. Only a CD would say something like that and he would know. If he's not CD it wont faze him.

[Cherry Lynn]

So glad you had a good time Dawn. I just love to get out en femme.

[DawnLabelle]

I actually didn't even need to ask him how he did the makeup, he offered the information right away which was a friend of his who is now a makeup artist did it for him. The pic didn't show much else but face / half chest so I couln't get any more idea's from the rest of the outfit.

I do get your point tho, use t-girl terminology (en femme, passable, etc) to see if it triggers a response of recognition in him, to try one day ;).

[Audra Sinclair]

I once worked for a large department store and the employees came up with the idea to raise money for a local charity. It required all the managers to dress up as females and put on a show for the public. The public would vote on who had the best legs, best overall ect. Each vote cost them a dollar. When I was asked if I was going to participate I stammered around and said I was not sure.......Inside I was so excited. After two days I let them talk me into it. For a week I planned how I was going to do it. I was so nervous I did not hardly eat for two days before the show.

Some of the GG's volunterred to do the make-up for the guys. I told them I would have my wife do my make-up at home and I would come in dressed up.
My wife was not overly excited about me doing this. She knows I crossdress.
She was worried people might think I did this all the time. Anyway, I went home from work and did my make-up and got dressed in a black skirt, black and red sweater, 1" high heels and a blond wig. I had press on nails and a gold locket around my neck. I drove into work and entered through a side door. I was scared out of my mind. I walked straight to my office and closed the door. I walked past several employees in the back of the store and they harldy paid any attention to me.

I called one of the managers on my radio and asked him where he was. He told me he was getting his make-up put on in the confrence room. I left my office and walked down the hall to the confrence room and entered. Everyone looked at me in amazement. Someone made a comment, "you have done this before havn't you". I denied ever having dresssed as a female. One of the managers said there was no way he was going to get the most votes with me in the running.

There were about 10 of us male managers dressed up as females and we paraded out to the front of the store. We were escorted by to the micraphone and then the MC, a female, asked us questions and we made a little walk around a circle so everyone could judge us. I was so excited being in front of all those people dressed as a female. People were taking pictures.
One of the GG employees told me later a couple of men were looking at me and make the comment that I had better legs then his wife.

I won all the catagories except worst dressed. I think I overdid it though. Some of the employees were questioning why I looked so good. On GG told me later she thought I was a CD. I denied it completely. The pictures hung on the bulletin board for several months and I received several comments about the way I looked. I did not receive any negative comments.

I don't work there anymore but I have the video tape of the whole event and I wastch it occasionally and relieve the excitement of that day.:)