AmandaRaquel
08-28-2018, 03:42 PM
So my wife is taking Amanda out! Part 1
Warning - long post.
It has been over 5 months since I visited these pages. Life. Nothing crazy but things were moving so hectic that I did not even feel like checking on what is happening online.
Actually, in my last post I mentioned that I went out fully dressed with my wife and two girlfriends. It was amazing. But this was also the first time my wife spent time with Amanda and friends out like that. It was her first time in public with Amanda.
Afterwards, she admitted that she saw me in a different light for the first time; more like a girlfriend than a husband. She said that it was because all other people calling me Amanda and me being fully dressed in public that was a big shock.
It took us some time to process it all and figure out what it means and how this would that impact us going forward. I was scared that maybe “I crossed the line.” She is the most important person in my life and I did not want to do anything to negatively affect our relationship. So, at least subconsciously, Amanda disappeared. Maybe I wanted to overcompensate and show that I am still me. I don’t know. The desire to dress disappeared, or at the very least, diminished.
Throughout this my wife was assuring me that she was fine and that it was just the initial shock of seeing me as “one of her friends.” She felt that something was not right. I had/have no problems with her treating me like a girlfriend vs husband. But, at the end of the day, I want to make sure that we partners. It took me some time to process it all. Almost 3 months - which seems like forever.
But as you may have guessed, Amanda did not disappear and slowly remerged. Of course, with a being absent for a few months, Amanda came back strong and the pink fog set in. Needless to say, there were some purchases on my credit card!
Throughout all this my wife has been super supportive. Even suggesting dress-up nights and encouraging Amanda to go out. There were some “firsts.” Amanda driving in a car. Amanda walking in the neighborhood (well the driveway). Amanda getting her legs waxed.
Which brings me to the true beginning of this post.
This morning my wife suggested that we take a day off (in the next few days) and go shopping. And by saying “we,” I mean - my wife and Amanda. That is both sweet and terrifying for me!
So, here I am thinking about it. Looking for ideas. I am still not super open to be in public (CD friendly clubs are one thing, but being out in the middle of the day is something that I still did not experience).
We may try a mall or something like that. It is still hot and I don’t want to melt. Plus those malls in the middle of the workweek are relatively empty. Looking for some ideas in CT, NY,NJ.
Thoughts/suggestions? Also unsure what to wear - maybe jeans and flats.
Ufff....decisions decisions decisions.
I know that I’m lucky.
Warning - long post.
It has been over 5 months since I visited these pages. Life. Nothing crazy but things were moving so hectic that I did not even feel like checking on what is happening online.
Actually, in my last post I mentioned that I went out fully dressed with my wife and two girlfriends. It was amazing. But this was also the first time my wife spent time with Amanda and friends out like that. It was her first time in public with Amanda.
Afterwards, she admitted that she saw me in a different light for the first time; more like a girlfriend than a husband. She said that it was because all other people calling me Amanda and me being fully dressed in public that was a big shock.
It took us some time to process it all and figure out what it means and how this would that impact us going forward. I was scared that maybe “I crossed the line.” She is the most important person in my life and I did not want to do anything to negatively affect our relationship. So, at least subconsciously, Amanda disappeared. Maybe I wanted to overcompensate and show that I am still me. I don’t know. The desire to dress disappeared, or at the very least, diminished.
Throughout this my wife was assuring me that she was fine and that it was just the initial shock of seeing me as “one of her friends.” She felt that something was not right. I had/have no problems with her treating me like a girlfriend vs husband. But, at the end of the day, I want to make sure that we partners. It took me some time to process it all. Almost 3 months - which seems like forever.
But as you may have guessed, Amanda did not disappear and slowly remerged. Of course, with a being absent for a few months, Amanda came back strong and the pink fog set in. Needless to say, there were some purchases on my credit card!
Throughout all this my wife has been super supportive. Even suggesting dress-up nights and encouraging Amanda to go out. There were some “firsts.” Amanda driving in a car. Amanda walking in the neighborhood (well the driveway). Amanda getting her legs waxed.
Which brings me to the true beginning of this post.
This morning my wife suggested that we take a day off (in the next few days) and go shopping. And by saying “we,” I mean - my wife and Amanda. That is both sweet and terrifying for me!
So, here I am thinking about it. Looking for ideas. I am still not super open to be in public (CD friendly clubs are one thing, but being out in the middle of the day is something that I still did not experience).
We may try a mall or something like that. It is still hot and I don’t want to melt. Plus those malls in the middle of the workweek are relatively empty. Looking for some ideas in CT, NY,NJ.
Thoughts/suggestions? Also unsure what to wear - maybe jeans and flats.
Ufff....decisions decisions decisions.
I know that I’m lucky.