Should of been a girl

[Jenny22]

There are so many truly beautiful ladies on this forum who have very feminine facial features that I simply have to ask (you have those same facial features as a man): have you ever been told that you should have been a girl or would nice/pretty as a girl?

It happened to me many times when I was young.

[Lygophilia]

By my Dad's step family and back in school. They said I looked better dressed as a girl or a full transition. I hated to be compared as female when I was younger, due to how I was raised on how females were the inferior sex, but at that sametime, I was struggling with GID.

[Allisa]

When I was much, much, much younger I had a "baby" face; very smooth, non hairy, tight skin and naturally long lashes. I was called a pretty boy on more occasions than I liked, and on rare occasions had girls ask to "dress me up", maybe my long hair didn't help. Than life played a cruel joke and surged my hormones and the manliness came rushing forward and all things changed.

[Confucius]

Yes, as a youth I was often told that I should have been a girl. However it wasn't because of my good looks, but just because I was so sickly skinny. I looked too frail to play sports with the boys. As a result I was more comfortable with the girl's activities.

There was one memorable moment when I was about 13 years old and helping my mom around the kitchen. She turned to me and said, "you should have been born a girl". I asked why she would say that, believing it was because I seemed to enjoy helping with the cooking. Instead she pointed out physical features, my eyes, my complexion, and my thin body. Then she went on talking about how I would look with long hair and a pretty dress. It seemed she was ready to give me a makeover to prove her point. I started protesting, asking her to stop it. She stopped. Later I wondered what would have happened if I encouraged her to give me a makeover. It would have changed my life.

[Michaelasfun]

My wife says I look better as a guy. I choose not to believe her lol

[DIANEF]

A female work colleague once told me I 'would make a good girl' when in a quiet time of day we were discussing male and female grooming and clothes. I just said 'oh, I'll take that as a compliment' and said no more. (this was about four years ago)

[Rayleen]

If we should been a girl, we wouldn't be crossdressing I guess. I had a good figure younger, I would have love being a girl too but time changed everything.

[Patience]

Should HAVE been a girl. The words are not interchangeable.

[Lana Mae]

Unbeknowst to me, my wife told my daughter that I probably should have been born a girl! She mentioned mannerisms as the reason! My daughter told me about it after my wife passed away! Hugs Lana Mae

[HollyGreene]

When I was 16 a girl at my school told me that I would look good as a girl.
I was a bit taken aback, but secretly flattered.
Some time later she invited me to her house on a Saturday, and when I was there, she said the same thing again. Her parents were out and she had no siblings, so with the house to ourselves, she asked me if she could put make-up on me. After some time of me saying no, and her pleading with me, I "reluctantly" agreed to it.
One thing led to another and I ended up made up, with me hair restyled (it was quite long in those days), and wearing some of her clothes.
She did a pretty good job of the makeup and hair, and I have to say that she was right; I did look good as a girl.

Sometimes I wish I'd kept in touch. She might have made a great, supportive wife!

[lingerieLiz]

My sisters used the line, you look like a girl repeatedly. My mother was asked if she was looking for a dress for her daughter (me). Had a girlfriend that told me I would be a very pretty girl. I did pass quite easy. Fine features, no beard, and less body hair than many of the girls. The only thing I didn't have was mile long legs. I was also short and slim.

[OCCarly]

No. But one girl I tried to date in college said I should be a gay man. I don’t know if that counts.

Peace and hugs, Carly

[DaisyLawrence]

Back in the 70's when I was young and had the required long hair of the time, I was mistaken as my sisters younger sister a lot which was brilliant despite everyone elses determination to extort the situation for humour at my expense. A few blokes have called me a girl in the past but I wouldn't say they were intending to be kind (jokes on them). Unfortunately my facial features are not the most feminine but we are what we are so what the heck.



A female work colleague once told me I 'would make a good girl' when in a quiet time of day we were discussing male and female grooming and clothes. I just said 'oh, I'll take that as a compliment' and said no more. (this was about four years ago)

Diane, I would have said (with a very serious face) 'Oh, do you really think so? Only I have always wanted to be a girl and was wondering if I should transition or not?'. Would have been great to see her face/reaction, especially if she thought you were serious. You could then have dimissed it as humour if needs be. :)

[sometimes_miss]

At very young ages, I apparently had beautiful blond hair and blue eyes, and mom kept my hair a bit long to help hide the hideous birthmark on my face. And yes, I was told many times that I would have made a lovely girl. Didn't affect me, though; the first time I ever considered that I wasn't a boy was when someone told me that I wasn't. All the comments about my hair did, was make my older sister angrier that I got the good hair, and she didn't.

[Jane G]

Na never looked that much like a girl, despite my best efforts. I was always too tall and too sporty. :( I still felt like a girl though.:)

[Crissy 107]

When I was young I was bullied and they taunted me saying, Crissy is a sissy. I remember at the time wishing I had been born a girl. Crissy

[DMichele]

I don't recall ever being told that I should have been a girl, but I was told that girls would love to have my curls (I had very, very curling hair)

Working at a fast food restaurant in my late teens, the owner told me I would make some woman a good wife. He was referring to my attention to cleaning the restaurant's dining area, not my appearance. I took the compliment in stride, but his wife was no pleased with him.

[GretchenM]

When I was about 12 I got into cooking and baking. Really loved doing it, but not as much as eating what I made. Later I took Home Economics in 8th grade and got the highest grade in the cooking and baking part; didn't do so well in sewing. But during this time my uncle (5 years younger than me - long story) told me I would make somebody a great wife. We laughed about that, but secretly I thought, "Wow, that would be nice." A complement that said so much more than he imagined.

[stephNE]

Yes, many times. I was born with big eyes and have long eye lashes. Now my wife and a couple friends who have seen me dressed have said yeah, yo should have been a girl.

[Micki_Finn]

Mostly it was implied, I noticed pretty early on that other guys weren’t getting complimented on how thin they were, what nice cheekbones they had, or how girls were jealous of their hair.

[nikkiwindsor]

While growing up, relatives would constantly comment that I looked like my mom. It's true, I look very similar to her while my sister favors my dad's appearance...I'm very happy that although I was born cis-male, I at least have more feminine features.

[susanjane]

My wife says I look much better as a woman than a man, she enjoys me being a woman but sometimes like me to dress as a male. I think of myself as a woman, it's not what's down there but whats up there (in your brain). I wold say IU send about 3 hours dressed in drab and the rest of the time I am dressed in my female attire. Whilst both of were out together one evening a group of girls said have a great evening ladies, make my day.

[Tracii G]

Being the youngest of 4 boys my Mom always said I was supposed to have been a girl.
If that was just her going by the odds I don't know but I don't think back in 1952 they had any way of knowing what the baby was going to be.
It would be silly to think her saying that had anything to do with me being trans. Seems a bit far fetched.

[Alice Torn]

I have always had long shapely legs like my mom. I also have long eye lashes for a guy. And i always struggled with my masculinity, and my dad never wanted sons . I was the last born, and he was disappointed i was one more son!! My dad was a leg lover, and i had long feminine type legs, and he watched them a lot... Was picke don as a boy, through high school,low self worth as a male. i think my life would have been far better if i had been a girl. Less isolation, and rejection, seldom being wanted by ladies as a man, other, than for hard work. Never wanted by women. As a girl, i would have been in demand, rather than in isolation and rejections, and forced to be competitive, as i was mostly passive all my life. Not much fun being an old bachelor who goes many years between dates. Gays hitting on me, too. I am not gay, but when dolled up, do desire to be a lady witha gentleman some.

[DIANEF]

Diane, I would have said (with a very serious face) 'Oh, do you really think so? Only I have always wanted to be a girl and was wondering if I should transition or not?'. Would have been great to see her face/reaction, especially if she thought you were serious. You could then have dimissed it as humour if needs be. :)

Maybe you're right Daisy! Another time someone (another female co worker) asked me if I had ever worn a dress. I said, jokingly, 'not as often as I'd like to' and I swear she gave me a 'you're not kidding are you' look.

[DaisyLawrence]

I know that look well Diane. :)

[rockerreds]

Yes, I was told that " You would make a nice girl"

[Judy-Somthing]

My wife has said to me quite a few times that "why would you want to dress? it would be a scary sight!"

[Taylor186]

My wife says I look better as a guy. I choose not to believe her

Lol, same here.

[Bluesman]

When I was very young (3 or 4) I had an adult cousin who, whenever she saw me would say, "You're so pretty, you should have been a girl!" and she'd plant a big red lipstick kiss on me. I was always embarrassed, but maybe enjoyed the praise and attention? When I was in my early teens, pre-pubescent, with long "Beatles" hair which was very unusual for the time an place, and people would occasionally mistake me for a girl, at least at a distance. A waitress once asked my parents if I was a boy or a girl. I had no cross-dressing urges at the time and I was mortified!

[CherylFlint]

I think most of us here would have been a girl if given a choice, but since we do the best we can, here we are.
When I was a little kid the girls used to say I should've been "one of them", and this was between the ages of 5-10.
I always wanted a doll house but played with little cars instead.

[Desiree2bababe]

My mother said it often

[Michelle1955]

I been a female in my head always, put on a friends panties at about 5 or 6 years old that was 56 years ago but features are male. Except that I basically a 40 A cup naturally. Guess I was born in a wrong time period.

[EllieOPKS]

I was told many times when I was a kid I would make a pretty girl. I had curly hair and Bambi eyelashes. I played with a neighbor girl the same age as me a lot and she would give me dresses to wear when we played with her dolls. Our moms knew and thought of it as "cute play".

[Paula2]

I agree with Traci.. I too have "dressed" I hate that term.. since I cannot remember.. My family has always known they just choose to forget.. Kids do remember things.. I remember my mother and grandmother talking about how they both wished I was born female and how pretty I could have been:-/ I wish my family would have helped me more years ago..

[michelleg]

Overheard my Mom and Aunts talking one day saying that I should have been a girl or that I would make a pretty girl. That was when I was 13-14 and had been wearing my Mom's things every time I was home alone. After that sometimes one of my Aunt's would just say in conversation that I would be a pretty girl, thankfully I was the only male in the room when that was said. My Mom probably knew I was wearing her things and had spoken to them about it. It never progressed further than the occasional comment, so I guess she was comfortable letting me have a girl side.

[Rhonda Jean]

My wife has said to me quite a few times that "why would you want to dress? it would be a scary sight!"

Hmmm. She obviously has no idea. I think she'd say anything to dissuade you.

[Dee Baker]

Not so sure I carry those characteristics today however as a preteen and even some into my teens many females commented that I should have been a girl. As I recall many of the comments revolved around my eye lashes. :)

[Beverley Sims]

I was always a 98lb weakling and popular with girls because I did not try to hit on them all the time, I was often told I would make a great girl and was dressed often to prove it.

I was on hormone therapy for a developmental problem and when I started to grow boobs the doctor stopped it.

I should have stayed with it and become the girl that everyone felt I was.

[Ceera]

When I was young enough to still be in a stroller or crib, I had relatively long blonde hair with natural 1” ringlets. Mom was always having to correct people who said “what a pretty girl!” In reference to me.

Looking back, that is probably a big reason why my dad always insisted on me keeping my hair cut short, even when most of the other boys my age in the 60’s and 70’s were wearing their hair long. He really was proud that he had a son. And looking at my grade school pictures, if I had worn long hair back then, I bet a lot of pepole would have said I looked feminine.

From about high school onward I was consciously repressing any femininity, and as soon as I got out of high school I grew a beard. After that, no such comments.

... Until in my 50’s I shaved the beard off and tried cross dressing! Then I quickly got complemented on what a pretty girl I was!

And now, most of my friends agree that even if I wasn’t planning on full transition, in my mind and heart I definitely am female.

[ColleenCD]

When I was about seventeen Mom sat me down at her make up table and silently started to curl my shoulder length. this was her inference that I needed a haircut but numerous times previous had stated she planned on me being a girl.

In my twenties was out with friends, one asked his girlfriend which one of us would make the prettiest girl? She looked at each of us then stared straight at me "There's no question, you'd be beautiful."

A few years ago my wife and I had discussed piercing my ears, she is in favor of it. a few days later she walked into the room and told me "Most girls have pierced ears, you should too."

Colleen

[Michaelasfun]

Lol, same here.

Well, go on not believing, you look great!

[Janine cd]

I've always thought that I should have been born as a girl. My mom used to call me her precious little one when I was a toddler. I had long curly hair and remember crying when it was time to have it cut. Even when I was a teenager she kept reminding me of how I was her favorite little girl.

[CynthiaD]

I used to get called ma'am all the time when I was a young man. This really annoyed me at the time because I was trying to be uber macho. (Hiding my natural female tendencies) So I grew a lot of facial hair. That helped, but I still got mistaken for a woman from time to time. Ah, if only ...

[DaisyLawrence]

I grew a lot of facial hair. That helped, but I still got mistaken for a woman from time to time. Ah, if only ...

You got mistaken for a woman when you had a beard! What? Seriously?

[t-girlxsophie]

Nope,can't say I've ever had that happen to me,not then and not now

Sophie

[dana digs sweaters]

Nope, not even when young and having crossdressed numerous times

[phili]

I think so many of these comments heard from women saying in effect members 'would make a good girl' reflect the GGs understanding that there is a defined look, and so much of it is clothes and grooming as the badge of 'girlhood'. To make e a boy into a girl helps prove the point that it is not innate. THey are willing to share girl status, as well, which is so sweet.

[Becky Blue]

Actually numerous times over my lifetime.. as a kid i was told quite often i caught a ball like a girl and on occasion that i walk like a girl.. i understood what they meant by the catching but not the walking and even though Becky had yet to emerge for whatever reason it didn't concern me at all so the teasing kind of feel flat. Years ago at work a woman told me i had woman's legs, i said thank you and said to her they are even better in heels, she just laughed. Then I've been told a few times i have girls lips whatever that means.

[CynthiaD]

You got mistaken for a woman when you had a beard! What? Seriously?

Yes, it happened. From a distance, of course, or people not looking straight at me. "Oh, sorry. I thought you were a woman," when they looked closer. I've gotten ma'amed in male mode recently as well, and I'm bald as an egg. But these days I don't mind.

[DIANEF]

Years ago at work a woman told me i had woman's legs, .

295782

Sorry, couldn't resist :)

[Anne E]

I've been told that when I was a baby many people thought I was a girl because of my eyelashes. But no, even though I've often felt I was different I've rarely been told I was pretty.

Anne

[Giselle(Oshawa)]

when i was young i tended to walk on my tip toes and my mom often said you should have been born a girl.
little did she know?

[Stephanie47]

I do not recall ever being told I looked like a girl. Girls did not run in my family until my sister was born when I was twelve. Up until then the last girl in the family was born in 1881. My mother constantly said I was "suppose" to be a girl. Don't look at me! That egg could have blocked that male sperm. My mother's idea of the perfect family was husband, wife, older brother and younger sister. Well, she got the older brother right. I messed up not being a female dominant sperm! I was suppose to be named after my grandmother. So, you can figure out why my handle is what it is. Anyway, I finally burst out crying one day that I did like what she said all the time, and, she did not love me because I was not a girl. She never said it again. But, she was always a little too heavy handed with my father's belt across the back of my legs. Take that you little brat for not being a girl!!!! She finally had that girl twelve years later. Want to guess her name?

[cindylane9999]

Has never happened to me.