Dressing up like a woman is making me want to have a body like one

[RainbowDash]

First let me point out that when I say I want to have a more feminine body, this does not mean I want to become a transgender. I will try to explain as best I can....

My crossdressing obsession started with my favorite video game character Princess Peach. I wanted to emulate her, but as time went on, I wanted to have a body similar to hers. I never gave this much thought because I didn't think it was possible since I am a man. I found out it was possible for a man to accomplish this, but it was a lot harder for men than for women. Either way, I eventually started to crossdress. However, I never stopped dreaming about having a figure like hers.

Now I'm not a big guy, not at all. I am below average size for an adult male. I am only about 5 ft 4 inches, although I am around 200 lbs and am trying to get rid of my pot belly. I've come to the conclusion that my body is closer to being a sexy hot woman than it is to being a big strong man, and I would totally be more than ok with that. As a matter of fact, I'm sorta thinking that maybe fate made me smaller than most men for this particular reason, because I was eventually going to become a crossdresser.

I am doing a couple of things to improve my body to make it look more feminine. Losing weight is the hard part since I deliver pizza, and when ur hungry there's nothing but fattening food to munch on, but I will do my best. The other thing is that I have gotten a corset, although I'm not going to wear it 24/7 for months on end to achieve the curves I want. Rather, I will wear it when I dress up, and take it off when I go back to male mode.

Anyhow, I hope to achieve that figure I want, or if nothing else, lose some weight and trim down my stomach.

[docrobbysherry]

Rainbow, I have no idea what Princess Peach looks like. So, I don't know what figure your hoping to acheive. But, I do know a corset will give u more of a fem figure as I wore them for 10 years. And, I have a few friends that r large that use them effectively.

U don't need to wear a corset constantly to reshape your body. Because as soon as u remove it it goes back to normal. However, corset training means just that. The more u wear your corset the titer u can lace it over time. Which is why I started with a 28 and moved down to a 24 in a few years!

[Teresa]

RainbowDash,
Not easy but at your height you do need to lose that weight , it's a pity there aren't more health food deliverys then you could munch on something less fattening . I'm 5' 7" and weigh 140lbs but maybe I need a little more but that's how I am .

[Rachelakld]

Hi Rainbow.

At 5'7" I used to be 220 lbs.

I don't have patience so had to lose the weight fast.

Wheatbix every breakfast, fruit during the day and a bread plate as my dinner plate.
3 days a week I would have a Hawaiian chicken burger for lunch and on those days swim 1/2 a mile at my local pools and miss out on dinner.
My first swim, I over did it and fainted in the changing room, but it got easier as weeks past.

Not a good diet, my kidneys hated me for it, but managed to get to 168 lbs in 3 months.

So my point is, visualise it strongly, keep visualising even if your delivering pizza and work your way to the body you want.

Best of luck.

[Connie D50]

Good luck in your efforts to get the body you want. I can say I wish I was 5 ft 4 inches that is a good starting point.

[IleneD]

There's a lot of that going around.

[NancySue]

I’ve done mostly all things mentioned, but have to resort to help from shapers, forms, hip and butt forms, corset, waist cincher, etc. They require some practice and work, but definitely well worth it. Good luck on achieving your goals.

[CrossKimmy]

I know how you feel girly. When I’m all dressed up, my body has slight feminine features like hips and legs with my only give away is my shoulders.

[Tracii G]

You need to understand the corset just compresses you and any extra fat is either pushed up or down.
You might look at using a girdle to contain the extra fat/ fleshy parts before you put on the corset.
I'm the same height but outweigh you and corsets really don't help me all that much.
What I'm saying is corsets are made for the female figure so don't expect a miracle trying it to make work on a male body.
If you find a combination that works and looks good please let us know.

[DIANEF]

There are few short cuts when it comes to getting weight off and doing it in a healthy way. I know from experience it takes a lot of will power and determination.
Personally I love pizza but it is a once a month thing if that. I found a good incentive was to buy myself something really nice and make sure I could get in it, it worked for me. (I'm 5'8'' and about 150 lbs by the way)

[Janine cd]

I have been able to trim my waist to 30 inches but my chest is still 40 inches and I have very broad shoulders. It's very hard to find really feminine dresses to fit my physique.I'm also 6
feet tall so most skirts and dresses are too short.

[Beverley Sims]

Like Sherry says corset training is the way to go, it just takes time.

[sometimes_miss]

Anyhow, I hope to achieve that figure I want, or if nothing else, lose some weight and trim down my stomach.
I need to point out, that there is no such thing as spot weight reduction. The fat comes off the body evenly from all over, as the weight comes off. At 5'4" and 200 pounds, you've got a very long way to go to get a narrow waist. About 80 to 90 pounds.
Wearing a corset to change your body takes a very long time, and you will have to wear it for many hours daily. Even then, you won't wind up with a feminine body curve.
And a word of advice; keep a scissor around when you lace up yourself into a corset. In the effort to keep the thing tight, you may tighten it past the point where you can breath properly, pass out before you can loosen the laces enough, and die. Please don't wind up a statistic in the 'death by misadventure' column.

[Sami Brown]

And a word of advice; keep a scissor around when you lace up yourself into a corset. In the effort to keep the thing tight, you may tighten it past the point where you can breath properly, pass out before you can loosen the laces enough, and die. Please don't wind up a statistic in the 'death by misadventure' column.
To reduce this risk, start by wearing the corset fairly loosely. You can increase the length of time or the amount of tightening over time. The key is do it gradually so that your body becomes accustomed to the tightness of the corset.

I wear a corset six days a week. Over the course of about four months I have reduced the tightness from 41" to 37". I figured I have another month to go before I get it as tight as I can tolerate, to about 36".

The key is that I didn't start at 36". If I had, passing out would have been a possibility. Don't start with being super tight.

Sami

[lingerieLiz]

start with small goals. I'm no longer the size 6 that I was 50 years ago. I plan to get headed there soon.

[Ressie]

I feel that way sometimes. I'm around 196 lbs, 5'6" and wearing a corset helps the figure. I'm not doing corset training though.

[DaisyLawrence]

Forget waist trainers, wake up and smell the coffee! At your height a healthy weight would be 125lbs, not 200. You need to loose over a third of your body weight. Otherwise start choosing an outfit to wear in your coffin. Seriously, a female shape is the least of your worries. Whatever you do don't look at your average US woman and think that they represent a healthy weight, they don't.

[LovelyLeesa]

I was facing the same thing. Love dressing but it was hard at my size. I've lost a pile of weight and fitting into so many things I never thought I could. Like all these size 12 dresses and sexy lingerie I've had. It can happen. So much easier to wear regular size pantyhose instead of hunting for 2x or more. You can do it.

[Alice_2014_B]

I knew what you meant by the title, basic figure and such. LOL

I've been complimented a lot on my butt and calves, both in guy and girl mode (mostly when en fem) from both women and men.
I must thank the Stairmaster at the gym on base for both.
At least 40 minutes on that puppy at about average 80 steps a minute is what I do.

I'm lucky, I guess, not to have too broad of shoulders.
I've been told I have a runner's body.

Most "bulk up" I do is inclined push-ups during my run.
And the only real reason I keep up on the push-ups is for the fit tests in the military.

But most of all is the one thing I cannot do (at least right now) is eat and drink healthy.
That **** is difficult.
I can sweat it out running several miles any day.
But lay off soda and/or pizza, sheesh, LOL.

:)

[docrobbysherry]

Just remember, excersize will NOT give u a fem body! I can create a pretty good one by adding padding and prosthesis to my slim, male, figure. Diets don't work. Only diet change will allow u to lose weight and keep it off!:thumbsup:

When I got serious about Sherry's figure I quit my gym and changed some bad eating habits. That was over 12 years and 25 pounds ago. I don't seem to have problems staying at 150 lbs now. No matter how much I occasionally binge!:battingeyelashes:

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[Jenny123]

I can definitely relate to your post. When I started to truly accept who I am in 2015, I was shocked at how much pressure I felt to lose weight. On an intellectual level, I always knew that women feel pressure to maintain a certain weight and be attractive. I just never realized how much it would hit me when I was starting to go out dressed as a woman.

[nikkiwindsor]

RainbowDash...you can do it! I went from 194# to 158# by eating healthy, smaller size food portions, and exercising. I"m 5'11". By getting the weight off, especially around the middle, my corset can be easily cinched. Without much work I can cinch my waist from 31.5" to 27.5". In fact, 27.5" is going too far since my waist ends up narrower than my bodycon dresses can fit to. So, cinching to 28 to 29 inches is about right. Losing weight does have one drawback (but one I certainly don't mind). My size 14 maxi dresses are now too loose. I'd say my dress size is now probably closer to a 12. If I keep the weight off I'll need to buy some new smaller sized maxi dresses. The bodycon dresses aren't a problem b/c they're made of a stretchy bandage material that stays snug as I lose weight, provided, as I aforementioned, I don't cinch too tightly. And I may need to buy a new bra. I was a 38C but now it too is loose and slipping a bit...I should get a 36C. Nikki

[Kathy Smith]

Sorry, RainbowDash, the only "magical" way to lose those inches is to lose the weight. Sensible eating & (that horrible word!) exercise is the only way. It's a great pity that your job makes pizza so tempting, isn't it? Perhaps you should swap some of the pizzas for salads and start some gentle exercise at first. There's no point in trying to lose enough weight quickly, that very rarely works. It has to come off slowly - and stay off. It would help if you were to team up with one or two others who were also trying to lose weight. The extra competition helps a lot.

Best of luck with your aims!

[RainbowDash]

Ok I have to ask this question. A bit awkward but here goes.... Let's take the corset out of the equation for a moment. If I talked to a personal trainer at a health club and told them I, a man, wanted a feminine body with curves, would they laugh me out of the building? Or would they help me out? More importantly, can they help me out? Is it even possible for a man to have those curves since I have a man's body? I'm gonna guess the answer is yes, but I'm not sure about the personal trainer thing.

'The reason I ask this is because I have dieted and exercised before in the past, and long before delivering pizza. I can do it for awhile, but then I start to weaken and gain weight back. Happens every single time. Before I became a crossdresser, I was gonna talk to a personal trainer about helping me lose weight. Now that I am a crossdresser and my goal is to have feminine curves, I'm wondering if they'd be able to help me, assuming they are willing to help me.

[nikkiwindsor]

For me, I'm internally driven (motivated) to lose weight and keep it off because I have a very strong feminine side and I want to have as close to an hour glass womanly figure as I can achieve. As I've shared in other posts, my weight loss drives my wife crazy. She knows I want to look like the woman I feel inside and that this pushes me to keep my weight in check. She's seen my bodycon dresses and knows you have to be in shape to look good in them. But, my feminine nature and looks isn't what bothers her. It's that I can lose weight far more easily than she can and she says "NOT FAIR." Now, I'm very close (within an inch) to having an hour glass figure without wearing a corset. If I slip a corset on and cinch an inch or two I create an hour glass figure which I absolutely love! In my view, you don't need a personal trainer. It's just a question of whether having a womanly figure is enough of a motivator for you to lose weight through healthier eating and exercise. It is for me because my gender dysphoria is quite strong and looking like a male bothers me a lot. I'm en femme just about every day of the week in the evenings when I get home from work and on the weekends unless I have errands to run that take me out of the house. So, just how badly do you want a woman's figure? And how hard are you willing to work at it? There are no short cuts. Cis girls have told me that hip padding didn't look good on me. They said my figure looked great and if I wanted more curves to wear the corset. You can do it RainBow dash if you want it bad enough.

https://www.reddit.com/r/crossdressing/comments/9c7q5m/shaved_legs_arms_skipped_the_hose_slipped_on/

[Jenny22]

Rainbow, the only person that can help you lose weight is YOU! Your weight will never change until you do. A corset to help achieve those curves you seek is just a pipe dream until you truly decide you MUST do it without relapsing. Go to a nutritionist, not a personal trainer, to get help, and then emphasize to yourself that you will NOT fail this time. Good luck!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi RD :hugs:, Having a body that looks very feminine is just part or the Feminine Illusion
that so many of us strive for, Isn't that what it is all about, It is for me. >Orchid ..o:daydreaming:o..

[Krisi]

Yea, we all want a sexy female body. Realistically, it's not going to happen. Losing weight is a good goal. It won't give you a feminine body but you'll feel better and be healthier. Delivering pizza is probably not a good job for someone trying to lose weight and it's not much of a career anyway. I suggest something that's more physical and is not around food.

The only effective way for a male to simulate a female body is by adding parts. Boobs, hips and butt. You'll have to lose a lot of weight and then you can do this.

[Stephanie47]

At 5'4" you're obese. It's obvious you need to lose weight. The question is how much to achieve a womanly figure. And, what constitutes a womanly figure? Your build or bone structure is going to dictate the final product (figure) when is all said and done. Many men I see at your height seem to have a barrel chest. Your natural figure as a man may preclude having the Barbie doll waist. You may lose weight and appear somewhat 'box' shaped, i.e., not indentation at the waist. At 5'4" you're going to attract less attention than a 200 lb, 6' woman. My wife is 5'2" and 180 pounds. She carries her weight in the belly. She still has indentation at the waist as viewed from the rear. It's not much, but, it is there. Once fat cells accumulate they are difficult to get rid of. I've read the problem with fat cells is their size waxes and wanes and do not disappear.

Stop eating the pizza and try to lose as much weight as possible. When you reach your plateau and cannot lose anymore, perhaps, investing in a little body sculpting to remove the fat cells may be necessary.

That belly fat, better known as visceral fat, does end up strangling your inner organs. It's very unhealthy. Living a longer healthier life may be more motivation than appearing as a woman. And, achieving a somewhat mature figure may be an added plus to a healthier life.

[RainbowDash]

Just so everyone is aware of this.... I am very much aware that I have to lose weight and a lot of it. Believe me, its not easy for everyone, and although I have tried in the past and succeeded in losing some weight, and then gained it back, I know I have to keep on trying. I have absolutely every intention on losing weight. And just so this is clear as well.... I care more about losing weight than trying to get a girlish figure, even if I am asking about having curves.

So why am I asking about trying to get a figure rather on focusing weight some of u might ask? Simple, because I thought maybe I'd be able to kill 2 birds with 1 stone and accomplish both at the same time. If this is possible to do, great, then I will do that. If however its not possible, then I will focus on simply losing weight, and then later worry about trying to get a feminine figure. I have already made a decision to not touch any food at work. And since I drive around a lot, I can easily stop at the gas station to get a sandwich or some sort of meal bar, protein shake, etc., anything other than our food. I am trying, believe me.

[Kathy Smith]

It's not easy to get weight off and get it to stay off. It's definitely possible, but it's not easy. If it was then an awful lot more people would be slimmer and Weight Watchers would be out of business. :)

How about attempting a target? Buy a nice dress that's 2 sizes too small for you and has no stretch whatsoever (to prevent you from cheating!). "Your mission should you choose to accept it is..." (remember that, anyone?) to be able to wear it comfortably.

Start by cutting out at least one pizza and replacing it with a salad - you can have as much salad veg as you like. You can snack between meals on celery sticks, raw carrots and fruit. After a while cut out another pizza. Of course, you are going to have to start including protein after a while, but as long as you are getting some at first there's no need to add more. Pizza, in itself, isn't particularly bad for you but watch the fillings! Don't have too much pizza either as all that dough has to go somewhere.

Unfortunately you're going to need some exercise too. How about just walking at first? Only half a mile, then a mile then 2 miles a day. Build it up over a period of time and it won't seem too bad.

The point is to lose weight slowly and get used to eating less of the unhealthy food and taking some exercise. If you approach it slowly the weight stands a lot more chance of staying off. Don't get all upset about keeping weighing yourself. That's not needed - you'll know when you're losing weight as you'll feel better.

[Wildaboutheels]

You are probably not going to be thrilled with what I have to say. Nor all the others here who have lost weight "many times" and/or "always gained it back".

I have 3 things for you (or anyone else) wanting to lose weight for any reason.

#1 and MOST important of all. Repeat after me.

DIET IS NOT A BAD WORD! It does not imply deprivation or starvation. Eery Human and animal on this planet has/is on a diet of something/s or another. You MUST change at least some of yours to healthier items/better choices and probably eat less of some of what you are currently eating. This change must be a permanent one. Most people gain the weight back because they go back to the same diet/exercise (or lack of exercise) program that got them fat in the first place.

#2 There is no "best diet". There will be a BEST diet for YOU. The one you like and can stick with and hopefully helps you lose the extra 50 pounds you have accumulated over the last X number of years. We are all unique and you might have to try different "diets" to find the best one for yourself.

#3 Their is no magical exercise program or machine... that will with little or no effort on your part, help you lose weight.

I will throw in a bonus. Given #3 it should be a no brainer that there is no MAGICAL pill that will make the pounds just fall off.

EXERCISE? NOT absolutely essential to losing or maintaining weight for that TINY little percentage of the Human population that is able to control/maintain their weight without it. I have met a rare few of those people in my lifetime mainly because they eat like birds. While being average or slender, none of them are toned.

You will improve your odds 1000% IF You find some form of aerobic exercise/s you enjoy enough to perform most days of the week. Lifting weights will clearly help most people but for myself, cardio works better.

As others have already mentioned, fageddabout "spot reducing". A myth.

Good Luck

[Lea]

For weight loss I set goals and rewards.
I gained ten pounds grazing at night after my daughter passed away. After I retired I gained 20 pounds in two years.
My wife and I decided we both needed to shed the pounds. We cut back on our portions, snacks and sugar. I walk thirty minutes in the morning and twenty minutes at night. Since June I am down 17 pounds and my wife is down 20 pounds.
I go the slow and steady method but every once in awhile allow myself a treat. The longer I go the easier it becomes to not even think about having junk food. I keep apples or bananas around for my snacks. I love my beer but cut most of that out. I switched to light beer, which shocked my friends, and only one after I mow. I walk 7,000 steps while mowing so I figure one does not hurt.
I do reward myself. Lost five pounds and kept it off was a new pair of clip on ear rings. Ten pounds a necklace.
I am half way to my desired weight.
I have a friend that was extremely overweight. She started by just walking to the stop sign at the end of the block and back. No she walks 3 miles a day.
Just start with small changes.
I feel better dressed with the weight gone but we always need to use hip pads etc for a female shape.

[Tracii G]

I wish you all the best RD and I'm sure you will reach your goals.

[laurenchanning]

Set a goal and work towards it. I'm tall- over 6 feet- and I'm working on losing 10 lbs. before I get my next makeover. It's great to exercise, but cutting calories along with exercise is the only thing that works for me. It isn't easy, but nothing worth achieving ever is. Good luck.

[ClosetED]

The corset or waist cincher can help, both by slowly compressing your waist and also by making you feel fuller sooner. Get a waist cincher for women, and tell them it is one for a man
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It may take months for it to stay smaller with it off for a day or 2, but others have done this- they call it the corset diet.
I happen to have fast metabolism - 6'2" and 174 lbs - and I try to eat just fruit for lunch. Eat when you are really hungry and just enough to stop that starving feeling. Keep busy, so less time to eat. Exercise walk 1-2 miles, 1-2 times a day if you can. Park at the far end of the parking lot
Hugs, Ellen

[RainbowDash]

I was also wondering about this.... People have told me to eat something every couple of hours or so to keep my metabolism going.

[garterfetish]

you look so good hun