Plumber did a two step at my front door !

[Teresa]

I have a problem with my heating system so I arranged for a plumber to call this coming Friday , well he rang today to see if he could have a quick look to see what parts he may need . He said he was only five minutes round the corner , I was fully dressed in a blouse and pleated skirt with full makeup and wig and deep into my painting so no way I could change even if I wanted to . So all I said was I'm TG so may answer the door not quite as he would expect . Evenso he did do a two step when he saw me , he was fine about it and checked the fault out , I did point out I was going out on Friday evening so would be getting tarted up in the afternoon , looks like I could get the job done in double quick time !!

[carhill2mn]

The plumber that I use has been to my house several times. He only knows Carole and I have no intention of telling him anything else.

[Robertacd]

Why would you tell a plumber any of that stuff?

[Crissy 107]

Teresa, I loved your “ Getting tarted up in the afternoon”. That made me smile as it sounds like real fun!
Crissy

[Rhonda Jean]

Girl, you don't need to explain to people you're TG! Just be you with no explanation and the vast majority of people will just assume you're a woman. You've come a LONG way! It's time you settled into being the woman (that you are) and forget about all this revealing nonsense!

[Teresa]

Roberta,
Because he will be working with an assistant all day so at some point I will have to get ready and apply more makeup and change into my evening wear before they have finished ! How can I not say anything ?

Rhonda,Carole,
I'm perfectly OK about going out and having delivery people call but not as comfortable with a situation with meeting a tradesman at the door who will have to enter my home , that is a first for me dressed . At least it has made it easier for Friday depending how long the job does take .

[Bobbi46]

Teresa, Tarting up? I thought that was a job done in the kitchen! LoL

[Teresa]

Bobbi,
Yes , I do like making tarts but it does need a special outfit ! Don't tell me you know a joke about a plumber !!

[Robertacd]

Roberta,
Because he will be working with an assistant all day so at some point I will have to get ready and apply more makeup and change into my evening wear before they have finished ! How can I not say anything ?


The plumbers are there to fix the plumbing, nothing else.

I am pretty sure a GG would not tell the plumber she will be getting all tarted up while they're working.

[Allisa]

Was he expecting a man? did you make the appointment in your male name? And if he's not done by the time you have to get tarted up will there be running water for you? will you be dressed as your male self when he arrives and then get dressed? inquiring minds want to know!

[Teresa]

Lisa,
Obviously I did not alter my voice when I first phoned him to call and I used a male name . I prefer to meet them again dressed on Friday morning now he knows my situation . Although I did have to cancel a meet up with a new CDer with another member who wants to join us at our next social meeting and that was planned in drab .
It's only a diverter valve and a pressure release valve on the central heating side , so I should still have hot and cold running water . It shouldn't be a long job depending if he finds the system doesn't want flushing through but if it goes on till late afternoon I don't have a choice but will have to redo my makeup and get changed for the evening .

Roberta ,
A GG might in those circumstances ask if she would have hot and cold water if she was going out for the evening , I don't see a difference .

[Jamie Christopher]

Teresa I think you did just great!

Jamie

[suzanne]

If he's any kind of a pro, he knows it's none of his G D* business what you wear and that your money is just as green as anyone else's. In that context, you owe him absolutely nothing in the way of explanation of forewarning.

G D - gosh darn. What were YOU thinking it stood for?

[Teresa]

Suzanne,
Getting a good plumber in the UK isn't easy to find I didn't want toi scare him off on my doorstep , as I said he did do a two step before entering but then again I forgot to say my dog also met him at the door !

[Beverley Sims]

Plumber, get out in double quick time, should be half price.....
See, there advantages in what we do. :-)

[Teresa]

Plumber Update


He called earlier than expected on Friday morning so I hadn't time to dress anyway , when I touched on the previous visit he did thank me for telling him about being dressed before his visit . I don't think he really understood but we did have a little joke about it . Anyway he's perfectly happy to do more work for me and is also happy to take on the maintenance contract of my rental property .

[Jean 103]

Really? No you don't need to explain yourself.

Be yourself it will all be fine.

I work in trades. When I'm on the job I'm representing the company. I'm there to do the job in a courteous, timely manner and it's down the road to the next one.

It's your life, but if you can get passed how you are dressed when meeting people it will make your life much easier.

That being said I still like to dress completely when meeting people for the first time.

Besides this is completely normal for women. I never show up at a customer’s house without an appointment.

[Teresa]

Jean,
I know part of my problem is trying to lose what my wife thinks about it , also I'm always sensitive and aware of what other people think . That may come from my photographic background where I was continually trying to read people to get the right or positive reaction from them . The last thing I could afford to do was offend them in anyway otherwise the session wouldn't happen , I'm still sensitive to offending people .

[marlacd]

Plumber Update


He called earlier than expected on Friday morning so I hadn't time to dress anyway , when I touched on the previous visit he did thank me for telling him about being dressed before his visit . I don't think he really understood but we did have a little joke about it . Anyway he's perfectly happy to do more work for me and is also happy to take on the maintenance contract of my rental property .

See, your money spends just the same as anyone else's. As a tradesman myself, the only thing I'd object to when a person comes to the door is, does your dog bite? (Oh and birthday suits) What I do object to, is lazy bum adult children that won't answer the door, or gripe about being woke up. (At 2:00 in the afternoon) If you offered him a maintenance contract on your rental, congratulations, you made his day. (If you offered it to me, I'd have danced all the way to the truck)

[IleneD]

Teresa,

Lovely.
Another adventure in every day living. This time it's as an entirely new human being; a new you. It's so interesting how the most pedestrian task is almost a new experience because it is seen through the eager eyes of Teresa.
I'm not precisely in your place with respect to relationships. But by God I do admire the inner strength you've displayed in making positive change for your own well-being and peace of mind.

[DaisyLawrence]

Your constant need to explain yourself where no normal person would (TG, TS or otherwise) dismays me. It can be driven by either exhibitionism OR a total lack of confidence in who you think you are, nothing else.

[Kiwi Primrose]

I can't see any flaws in your first discussions with the plumber. I'm sure the result would be light-hearted and understanding.

[Teresa]

Daisy,
You need to read my full replies before making odd comments like this ,"Any normal person !" So I'm abnormal according to you , no I'm not a total exhibitionist but it was a necessity for my photography , you somehow confuse that with outgoing , I certainly do not lack confidence but as I explained I am very sensitive to other people's feelings .

Please just accept we really are chalk and cheese , my World and your World are poles apart and accept it as that . I don't keep making these comments to your lifestyle , in fact we don't really know what your lifestyle is because you don't really tell members here much at all about yourself maybe you are a little paranoid .

[GretchenM]

Teresa,

Circumstances modify what should happen ideally and we all see circumstances differently. You did what you thought was right for your circumstances. Don't really see how anybody can expect more than that. I may have done much the same thing. A new adventure for you.

Gretchen

[Maid_Marion]

It would be great if we could talk about these things with our understanding SOs, but we all know that this just isn't possible for most of us. I have no issue with members using this forum to talk about what is on their mind as it pertains to cross dressing.

[Ressie]

I like your humorous story about your day Teresa. Letting him know you're TG was just fine in my view - although probably not really necessary. I love the getting tarted up expression too as it shows your candid, jovial personality.

The expression Don't complain, don't explain is good advice but it doesn't have to apply to every situation. Thanks for the snapshot of your everyday life of transitioning.

[Teresa]

Just to add a footnote , I have a thread about buying some femme wellies in the shopping section , I didn't realise the delivery would happen on a Saturday I was just clearing up lunch when the doorbell rang. I was totally dressed with hands still wet and covered in suds from washing up so I must have looked like a typical housewife to the delivery guy when I answered the door , I never even gave it a second thought , he just smiled and left after the usual signature on his delivery pad . I don't feel like it's crossdressing anymore because it feels so natural .

[Jean 103]

Teresa.
I know I can’t think of my wife or I get this like video playing in my head.

You have to somewhat walk around with blinders on. There is so much coming at you all the time that it will drive you crazy if you take it all in, all the time. Being full time is different than going on an occasional outing. Anyone of my days could fill pages here.

Try not to worry about what other people think. Just put you best foot forward and go for it. As time goes on you will find things get easier. I’m on as I see it, year three.
I dress more and more like other women. I think I will always be basically a crossdresser thou. The first thing I always want to put on is a skirt or dress. I normally wear short shorts or Jeggings if I’m going out. I try and dress with a sense of style. When you go to the same places all the time people, or at least the girls notice.

And yes it all feels normal now.

With Love Jean

[Teresa]

Jean,
It's easier now I've made the decision to go full time in my new home town , most only know me as Teresa , I've reregistered at my GP surgery . You may have read about how I'm OK with my neighbours . After only six months I'm still sensitive to some issues as in this case having a tradesman come into my home for the first time . The real problem for me is still my wife she is making it difficult with family and friends , I thought and hoped we could keep our separation amicable but I now know I'm going to have to cut her off for me to totally move forward . So now it's the pros and cons of divorce to consider .

I'm totally comfortable with my appearance , I sense I'm pitching it about right but like you it does mean dressing as any many other women dress , I may wear heels but all of them are wedges , I may wear skirts when others may not but I've learned very quickly what to balance the look . I don't get any reactions so I no longer look over my shoulder expecting them , I'm not sure how more normal it can become whether I'm TG or TS .

[DaisyLawrence]

Daisy,
You need to read my full replies before making odd comments like this ,"Any normal person !" So I'm abnormal according to you , no I'm not a total exhibitionist but it was a necessity for my photography , you somehow confuse that with outgoing , I certainly do not lack confidence but as I explained I am very sensitive to other people's feelings .

Please just accept we really are chalk and cheese , my World and your World are poles apart and accept it as that . I don't keep making these comments to your lifestyle , in fact we don't really know what your lifestyle is because you don't really tell members here much at all about yourself maybe you are a little paranoid .

Oh dear oh dear, here we go again with the "I don't want your opinion Daisy" approach. All I said was that you do not need to explain yourself just as did Robertacd and just as did RhondaJean but they do not get the 'treatment' just curteous dismissal of their opinions. And I mean it, if you are what you say you are, a transgendder person, then why do you always need to explain yourself rather than just living your life like anyone else (yes, a normal person). Do you think our friends in the TS section feel the need to tell someone when they book an appointment that who answers the door will look like a woman but used to be a man? Does someone covered in tattoos warn the plumber beforehand? Does a person with no legs feel the need to advise of such in advance? It's irrelavant. And no I didn't say you are not confident (that much is obvious) I just suggested you may lack inner confidence in who you think you are. And no I didn't say you are an exhibitionist, I simply suggested it could be a possible explanation for this repeated "look at me I'm a crossdresser" thing you have going on.

Teresa, this is a discussion forum. We post threads with the sole purpose of inviting disscussion and comment. If you are only interested in receiving the usual sicophantic dribble from the "you look great, what a great story and I wish I was you brigade" then what is the point? It's not a popularity contest. You do not need to loose your temper with me and get personal everytime I voice an opinion that differs from your own, afterall by starting a thread you invited opinion from members and that includes me and Roberta and Rhonda. Yes we may disaggree, I suggest you get over it and treat my opinion with the respect it deserves.

Oh and feel free to make any comment you like on my lifestyle. And no I am not paranoid, I just didn't realise you had any interest in anyones lifestyle but your own. If there is something you would like to know then ask away.

[Patience]

I think tradesfolk who make housecalls are thankful if the client is wearing clothes - period.

[Teresa]

Daisy,
Yes you are entitled to your opinion, you ask for respect and courtesy, I'm sorry you have to earn it and I'm afraid you have none from me because you offer little if any to me and other members here .

[DaisyLawrence]

Ooo, big surprise, another personal attack.

[Shelly Preston]

Enough is Enough

This thread is done