Do u wear a wedding ring or do something else to keep from being bothered?

[nikkiwindsor]

The few times I've been out to bars during Halloween, I've been "hit" on by men. I now want to "steel" myself to go out in public during the day, blend in, and simply be left alone. Ideally, I'd enjoy going to a coffee shop, have a drink, and surf the internet. But, I'm concerned that people (particularly men) may approach me and want to talk. Will wearing a women's wedding ring or doing something else keep people at bay? I remember my wife telling me stories of just going to get groceries or shopping in a department store and having men, on occasion, follow her around...real creepy and I don't want to experience anything like that.

Nikki

[char GG]

A wedding ring will not stop anyone who is intent on “getting to know you”. In fact, some guys prefer to hit on married women because they feel both have something to hide from their spouses.

IMO, just wear your wedding ring proudly and be ready with a polite response if someone approaches you that you would rather not talk to.

[alwayshave]

Nikki, I wear my men's wedding ring with an engagement ring. However, I was planning on getting this at amazon: Newshe Wedding Rings For Women Engagement Ring Set 925 Sterling Silver 2.4Ct Round White AAA Cz Size 5-12. Its only $32.

[stephNE]

Hi Nikki, I do wear my wedding ring. I never take it off, but that doesn't stop some men. I think you'll find it happens much less in the daytime that in the evenings.

A few weeks ago my wife and I were shopping, and we stopped in a McDonalds for lunch. I assume we look like two women just out doing normal shopping things. But as I got my drink, I noticed a guy, construction worker type, looking at me. He was smiling and gave me the raised eyebrow nod. I ignored him. When we sat down I told my wife, looked over again and he was still looking at me, and still smiling. I rolled my eyes, looked away and never looked back. My wife got a kick out of it.

I was also recently in a grocery store. When the cashier rang up my stuff I reached in my purse to pull out the debit card. When I looked up he was leaning forward looking down my top.

I have no attraction to men. There's just nothing there (for me). But it is a creepy feeling, maybe one that women have to put up with every day. I don't like it, but I accept it and feel its part of the experience of being a woman. At the best, I think I'm an ugly old fat woman, so I don't know what these guys are looking at anyway.

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[Linda E. Woodworth]

Nikki, as the other girls have already said, a wedding band on your finger isn't going to stop any man who is "interested". I was hit on at Southern Comfort by a gentleman who preferred girls like us. I must add that his was a gentleman about it and left me alone when I explained I wasn't interested. I wouldn't expect that to be the case.

My suggestion, just follow the guide that genetic women use to fend off unwelcome advances. It seems to be something they're born with! I mentioned this to my two daughters and they agreed!

Oh, and I wear a smaller wedding band and engagement ring set (cubic zirconia) when I'm dressed.

[BrendaPDX]

I don't wear a ring for that purpose, but I do wear other jewelry. I obviously don't get out much but I like the distraction that bracelets and a fake wedding ring next to my men's wedding ring. Just for the flair.

[Elizabeth G]

I don't know if it keeps people away or not but I do wear a wedding band/engagement ring set when I go out and I haven't had a problem yet. Perhaps it's when and where I choose to go or maybe I'm just too old and ugly :lol:

[Beverley Sims]

I am too ugly to be bothered by anyone, only a short sighted blind man would want to feel me up. :-)

I already have a wedding ring.

[IleneD]

Hmmmmm....
maybe I should be drinking more of what you're drinking.

[Majella St Gerard]

Just go out and enjoy yourself, men are pigs and will hit on anything resembling a woman, there is nothing you can do to dissuade them. I usually tell admirers that I like girls and then try to ignore them.

[Julie MA]

Men's wedding ring on the left. Cheap solitaire on the right. I don't mind anyone trying to get to know me, even if they are hitting on me. They usually are just curious or offering compliments.

[Tracii G]

Yep I wear a wedding set in 100% girl mode.

[LilSissyStevie]

I don't know why anyone would think this could work. I never notice wedding rings. That's how I know I'm really a typical male. My wife always notices these things.

[Teresa]

Nikki,
I'm not a great ring wearer because I have fat fingers , so rings don't suit me very much . Besides I had a painful accident when wearing a ring while working on a car , somehow I managed to short out the battery with my ring and sustained a very bad burn .

I have had a pass made at me and I don't think wearing a ring would have made any difference .

[jamienoir]

So uhhhh you come here often? Is that the ice breaker.

[Tracii G]

I wear the set I have because it looks nice and it has caused a few men to think twice.
I was in a club with a few GG friends and when a guy hit on me one of the girls said sir she is married can't you see the rings?
I did declined the drink and the dance from the guy.He just wasn't my type.
The lady at the table next to us said guys just don't look to see if a woman is married or not do they?
The whole point is a wedding band or set is very important to most women and if that is what we wish to emulate its just another item to complete the look.


The ring set I have.

[Jenny22]

Very pretty, Tracii .. the rings! The rings, I mean (grin).
I wear a wedding ring set whenever I go out girly just to complete the feminine look, plus a pretty pinky ring next to it, and a ring on my right ring finger. I doubt a guy would hit on me because of my age, but the conversation might be fun, if one did. So, yes .. wear wedding set rings, with stones. Note: Wally world has a nice selection of them in the jewelry department. I believe they go up to a size 10. They are pretty and not expensive.

My current rings are expandable, but the elastic is wearing out. I had to order my new size 12 rings on line, and really have to manipulate them to get them over my swollen knuckle.

Do any of you know where I can get a new set of expandable ones???

[Michaelasfun]

A faux diamond wedding ring is always on my hand when going out. I just stopped by a dept. store rack one day and tried some on til I found a suitable look and size. Given Halloween is coming, may want to accessorize with a garlic necklace to ward off evil too lol

[Alice B]

My wedding ring never, ever comes off

[GracieRose]

I always wear my wedding ring (except when swinging a sledge hammer to split wood).
When en femme, I add a cheap engagement ring with a cubic zirconium stone.
I'm married, and not interested in advances.
I haven't been hit on, but that could be as much because of my looks as my rings.

[t-girlxsophie]

My wedding ring is a Celtic design and I think could pass as a female ring,I always wear it in either mode,but as has been said a few times I dont think it would put a Lot of "admirers" off pursuing you,it certainly hasn't on the (admittedly few times) it has happened to me

Sophie

[Leslie Mary S]

I am not married.
I have a turquoise and bear claw ring on the left hand. When out in a dress I rotate the stone to the palm side. I have two people who regularly hit on me in one of the clubs. They know I am a male but then they are gay. It is a mild try each time. They are intelligent and we have nice chats. They have NEVER invited me out any where. One did want me to enter into his business but I passed. I have the advantage of 4" of height (without heels) and at least 50 pounds. Now one of the woman club owners has a friend who is sweet on me. She is 7 years my senior. Small and dainty like my late wife. I'm 74.

Humm. I have noticed that only married women tend to wear a string of pearls.

[Patience]

[...]men are pigs.[...]

Hey, go easy on the male bashing, hun. I know more than a few men who are perfectly fine people. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that some of my best friends are men.

Nikki, the wedding band may be an effective secondary barrier, but by the time a guy has seen your hand, he'll already have had a good look at everything else.

The most effective barrier you can have, in my opinion, is a pair of sunglasses. The ability to choose with whom you have eye contact is very useful. Just a matter of finding a pair that works for you.

I like your new dress, btw.

[DIANEF]

My wedding ring hasn't been off my finger since it first went on over 31 years ago. It hasn't stopped women hitting on me in while I was in drab, (rarely I'll admit), it didn't stop two guys wanting to 'buy me a drink' on a night out in Manchester's gay village. If a person is interested a band of gold is, more often than not, not going to stop them.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I always wear my wedding ring. I haven't taken it off since I was married over 40 years ago, except for medical treatment when my hands may swell up. When en femme, I add an inexpensive CZ "engagement ring" that happens to have 3 relatively large stones.

I have been hit on by a man who thought I was a woman, a man who knew that I was a CD, a Bi woman who knew I was a CD, a few CDs who knew I was CD and GG woman who knew I was a CD (I think). I'm totally not interested in the men, but I did flirt with all the women, even the CDs. I'm married, so flirting is as far as I let it go, except maybe a kiss or two.

As for the men, I have a new line that I haven't had the chance to try out, "Sorry, but I'm only interested in women."

[DaisyLawrence]

I wear a ring 24/7 because I am married. Not sure if it affects how people respond to me.

[AngelaYVR]

I wear a Swarovski "engagement" ring as the gold lasts longer than the cheapo rings that I used to buy. I don't think it makes any difference but I do love the sudden exclamation of "Oh you're engaged!" from people I talk to. Luckily for me I attract a lot more female admirers than men (just don't tell my wife!)

[Rachelakld]

I wear a wedding ring, it's cheap, but lets people know I'm not on the market.

[Connie D50]

I think going out to a bar is one thing. All the other places during the day I don't think you have to worry. Guys have a different frame of mind in a bar and with drinks in them.

[Cheryl T]

I wear a wedding ring because I love being married to my wife and want everyone to know.
Be it drab or dressed I am proud to be with her and announce it to all.
Besides, I just feel so much happier wearing a beautiful diamond ring.

[KatrinaK]

I wear a wedding band and engagement ring that I bought for myself on Amazon. I wear it in honor of my wife. Despite that, she's very clear that Katrina is her girlfriend (with a lower case G) if you know what I mean.

[Kandi Robbins]

I do wear a faux woman's wedding ring. That is more for presentation purposes than anything.

The ring has nothing to do with the fact that in over 400+ times out, I have never been hit on by a man. That is because I fool no one. Maybe it's because I rarely put myself in those situations. Maybe it's because I am simply unattractive. Maybe it's because I'd kick the behind of anyone who would give me a problem. Not sure. Never once have I considered this to be a problem.

I firmly believe the ring has no effect one way or the other.

But what do I know?

[nikkiwindsor]

Mmm Kandi, you're quite attractive...evidently, you clearly aren't putting yourself into compromising situations. From my experience, it's not about fooling anyone. They're plenty of men who admire and are attracted to trans-gals for whatever reason. Since I'm in love with my wife and faithful to her, I'm going to buy and proudly wear a wedding band and ring. Hopefully, they'll be an added benefit of keeping unsolicited advances at bay.

[Devi SM]

Nikki, in my culture husband and and wife wear the same kind of ring, traditionally a gold 18 carats, I wear mine very proudly of the wife I'm married.
Now, honestly, I don't want to sound few friendly but I think we would be very presumed on thinking that are so passable that a wedding ring would stop admirers.
If any of us is so passable is because feel like a real woman and look like one and a guy approaching with some intentions would be a compliment but I'm pretty sure that after open our mouth the guy would dissapear, if he still trying something with us is just because is looking for something with a trainy.
As I I said several times, I don't pay attention to people's eyes, faces or expressions because I don't want to be disappointed with rejection. I prefer to dream that I'm a beauty and I behave in that way.
Few times I had guys approaching and always was when in a club where some tgirl hookers work as hamburgers Mary at long beach ca and if I show my pics from then, I looked like one.
Now I don't have the pleasure to receive those compliments and I dress almost full time with real boobies not forms except sometimes hip pads but a more discreet or decent attire.

[RADER]

Yes, my MAN wedding ring, just a plane gold ring. Even though my wife died 6 years ago, I feel
like I still Cary my love for her with the ring.
Rader

[Kimberly Adams]

I have a ring I've worn that looks like wedding ring but just to look more legit. I've been hit on dressed at gay bars a couple of times but not out in the general public. If you look good enough to get hit on I would think that would be a nice compliment.

[Heidi Stevens]

I wear a great looking band and solitaire CZ. You also should have them in the correct order if you wear this combo. The solitaire engagement ring goes on first.

[nikkiwindsor]

I have a ring I've worn that looks like wedding ring but just to look more legit. I've been hit on dressed at gay bars a couple of times but not out in the general public. If you look good enough to get hit on I would think that would be a nice compliment.

Yes, getting hit upon is very affirming of my femininity...but this time when I go out I just want to blend

[Becky Blue]

I have been approached by a few guys over the years and simply say "I am not interested, go away" in a nice sweet way, never been a problem. I don't think wearing or not wearing a wedding ring will make any difference.

[T Gram]

Nikki...you could always reply to them in your deepest masculine voice... "Sorry hun I'm taken"