Sooooooo I told my first friend, and a male one at that

[KatrinaK]

So I had chosen a female friend to talk to first, to guage the waters but she’s been totally unavailable due to family issues for months. A good friend of my wife’s, who I have become equally good friends with over the last 5 years, came to stay with us. He happens to have a good trans friend, which I know because we spent a weekend together at Desert Trip, the music festival a couple years ago featuring Roger Waters, the Stones, Boc Dylan, The Who, Neil Young and Paul McCartney. Not a bad weekend, but I digress. Anyhow I spend the entire weekend with a trans woman and had no idea.

So he just broke up with his girlfriend, and we ended up talking about the difficulties of marriage. I mentioned that I bring an element of complication to my marriage and that someday I may share that with him. He says, “I’m pretty sure I know what that is.”

I move on because it was late at night and the floor was his to discuss his breakup. Didn’t want to hijack the conversation. The next night I ask him what he was talking about, bringing up the subject ready to come out to him. His answer was “Gender Dysphoria” which was frankly a good guess despite the fact my nails were painted, legs shaved, and I was wearing a couple of women’s rings... come on they look good with the oval gel manicure ;)

Anyhow, he said THATS AWESOME you two are the coolest couple I know. And he has some very cool friends. He asked mature questions and I gave him honest answers. We showed him some pictures of us dolled up together and it was all in all a home run.

It doesn’t really make thinking about coming out to more people less stressful, but it was a big confidence boost. He almost swallowed his tongue when he saw Katrina pics. Made me feel good.

Thanks for listening!
XO,
Kat

[KristinaK]

That is so awesome! I have only come out to my in laws (who are old hippies, have a gay son who does drag, and a bi daughter) they were totally cool and accepting. It’s a huge relief to come out to people who are supportive and care. I read so many stories of things going badly so I’ve been VERY scared to come out to friends.

[Becky Blue]

Great story and very well expressed too Katrina! Must have been really good to share yourself with someone and get total acceptance.

On a side note is Boc Dylan related to Bob at all? the rest of the guys are music giants.

[Tracii G]

So nice to hear a positive story and I am really happy for you.

[Rogina B]

Your friend "gets it"...You will become more comfortable as your circle of friends that "get it" increase over time. There will be some that don't but because your wife is 'with you on it" most of your friends will be happy that you are happy.

[Beverley Sims]

Being out to others does help spread your wings.

Confidence boost.....

Awesome.

[Shely]

I am so hoping that someday I will also be able to let others in on my secret.

[Fran in skirts]

When I started to wear skirts it was at home only and then to the gas station and some fast food places. Then one day I decided that I had to out myself to the world and family. I started with my best friend we were chatting on Skype and without giving it another thought I stood up and showed him my skirt and then told that is what I now wear. When he asked why I said they were so much more comfortable than pants or shorts. After that we had no problem with being seen together. I started to wear them all of the time and everywhere I went. Next I came out to my daughter since I was going to be flying out to Colorado for the holidays and was flying skirted. She had no problem with it at all, her comment "Cool". That has been over 4 years ago now almost 5 years. I have found that most people do not even care about what you are wearing or if they do they keep it to themselves.
I found that life is easier when you don't have to hide.

Fran

[Jen.nd]

That is so cool! Awesome friend you have!

[nikkiwindsor]

Can you share some of your positive karma (& courage) with the rest of us? No surprise that he was a shocked when he saw the beautiful feminine side of you!