My french neighbours see me close up for the first time

[Bobbi46]

Tonight was another first for me, I had finished some gardening much earlier and when It became dark I realised my car was still outside, windows open and unlocked so although I had been relaxing after the work i still had my skinny jeans bra and forms and a tee shirt on, as I had just finished locking my car up I was slowly walking back to my house using my torch when out of the darkness a bright torch was shone in my direction! I was like a cat caught in the headlights of a vehicle so not to be seen as being rude I thought it best to go and speak to them so I walked up to them and this is the first time that Dominic and Marie Christine have been as close as 2 yards away when I have been en femme.
It was such a most normal thing to have happen to me in that they had seen a Pine Marten which is a deadly creature if it makes its home for the winter in an enclosed roof space and what they wanted to know was if I had seen it, any way there I was obviously en femme chatting to them as best I could in French and they chatted to me as though i was just like anybody else.
I can tell you it was a big boost for my confidence to be close to neighbours who up to now had only seen me dressed from a distance but to be up close was so different and more to the point the more I chatted with them the more at ease I felt with my femininity in front of not just neighbours as before but more like friends as well.
Even as I write this thread I am thinking how once again my femininity is being accepted at a greater level in this close knit little hamlet of 11 people plus me.

[Crissy 107]

Bobbi, What a great experience to have your French neighbors engage in a conversation with you and accept you for being you. I know that had to make your day in your little hamlet. I’m very happy for you. Crissy

[Beverley Sims]

I found that small communities in France were more accepting of most things, even foreigners, much better than being in Paris.

I never felt comfortable in Paris.

[Fran in skirts]

Bobbi it is just fantastic that you have been able to let your neighbors see you as Bobbi and be accepted. I know this just made your day.
I am happy for you! :cheer::cheer: :yippee::yippee:

[phili]

Bobbi,
It is soooo nice to realize that we really can just be as feminine as we want, from MIAD up to full on transformation, and people just accept us. I feel as if a lifetime of worry was unneeded, and it is not too early to enjoy my freedom.

My theory is that manhhood is socially constructed , and everyone knows it. It is a group effort, but after childhood, once someone just says I dont' fit and I'm going back to being feminine, there is nothing to do but accept it and incorporate the variety of people. Females who don't conform are everywhere,as well, so it really is not a surprise that males exist who don't conform.

Can you stay in France and enjoy this freedom fully? I think after a bit of realizing you are accepted there you will feel comfortable going anywhere.

PS In small towns people talk, so the word was out a long time ago when someone first saw you at a distance, and they didn't run or stay away when they saw it was you up close. They were telling you you were part of the fabric of support that makes up the town, and people probably call you" l'anglaise chere"! So tomorrow wear your prettiest dress to buy your morning roll and coffee.

[DaisyLawrence]

:thumbsup:

[Bobbi46]

Crissy,
Thank you its sometimes the little things that make something a bit special last night was just one of those.
Beverly,
yes I think you are right, also everybody knows everybody else and where I am it is so safe as well. Big cities everywhere are not the ideal places for our community just a few days ago a man was wearing an LGBT bracelet in a restaurant in London and another customer got over went to him was abusve and flattened his face with a punch! Nothing like that happens here. Its just quiet, a few people and if I am lucky during the day the odd tractor and car may go by other than that a sleepy hamlet.
Fran in Skirts
yes its funny how the little things have the most impact on ones lives

This whole episode lifted me up hugely and I will think about it for a while yet, as it has turned out my neighbours are great and that is what makes living here so nice.

[Barbara Black]

I agree that the neighborhood has probably discussed you for a while and this was the final step in recognition. Now, as suggested above, go out and wear that dress that you've been dying to wear outside for a long time. Nothin' holding you back now!!

[kimdl93]

https://www.connexionfrance.com/Mag/Nature/Pine-marten-pest-or-protected

in defense of pine marten... deadly, perhaps, if you’re a gray squirrel

[Bobbi46]

barbara,
very true in what you say its all out there for me now, slowly over a period of trime I have allowed myself to be seen whilst either going to put my car away in my barn or greeting a neighbour over the garden wall, so now i guess the wheel has turned full circle all around me seem to have accepted me fully.
A very comforting thing considering the sometimes expreienced hostility that one can get. Fortunately that has not happened round here and to me.

[Jenny22]

Bobbi, here's a wild thought. Invite the entire 11 population of your hamlet to your house for some tasty local vino and snacks and wear a nice dress while they are there. Encourage everyone to talk openly about what you do. It could be fun!

[Bobbi46]

Now that is one wild idea only problem my french is limited and in this region they tend to speak very fast to say the least, i would be like a beeched whale, mind you thay would have a nice time drinking the wine, I have Bordeaux, Medoc St Emilion and Loire vineyards all within striking distance of me for days out.
But you have put one amazing idea into my head.

[Crissy 107]

Bobbi, here's a wild thought. Invite the entire 11 population of your hamlet to your house for some tasty local vino and snacks and wear a nice dress while they are there. Encourage everyone to talk openly about what you do. It could be fun!
Bobbi, This is interesting and could be fun. Crissy

[Bobbi46]

Watch this space! Google translate needed!!

[Joannie]

Bobbi's story is inspiring. I just wonder if I will ever feel such acceptance. I hope for all of us, that enlightenment is out there somewhere.