Keeping the CD you are!

[Stacy Darling]

I've heard talk of those which wish to feel like a woman, think like a woman a even have sex like a woman!~ Don't get me wrong though, I've practiced all of those! That was me though!

My thoughts are more about embracing who YOUcd are and not of how you/we should be moulding ourselves! OR presenting to society because we are CD! Be who YOU are!

I guess that I don't want anyone to think that you "Must dress this way or walk this way" to fit in!

I'm Pan, CD, Aspie and have trouble picking the gender of others, but would never change that! It's ME!

So, as you read the pages or walk the streets, focus on the YOU, it starts and ends with you! Not others.
Stacy!

[Nic J]

Stacy, that's so true. :thumbsup:
When i first joined here a while back i felt a bit out of place because i am on the miad end of the spectrum. What some might describe as "CD-lite".
I have come to realise that it's not about emulating others (altho i have learned and taken ideas from them) but about expressing myself in my own way. There is no "correct" way to be a CDer. We can all be different and still be part of the CD community. :gh:

[Nikki A.]

Well I agree we all need to be who we are and there is no need to conform to other's ideals. I, for myself do enjoy going out as Nikki. I try my best, to look like, act, dress and do the normal things that a woman does. So if Krea is a CD-lite does that make me a CD ultra

[Teresa]

Stacy,
As I said in another reply I don't concern myself too much about labels anymore , the public aren't bothered , they see what they want to see .

No I don't mould myself an anyone , I'm out as Teresa what slot others put me in is up to them , I do my best, all I'm aiming for is to integrate into society , I do get some nice comments which I'm always grateful for , to me it means I'm getting it near enough right for the majority of people .

[Bobbi46]

Stacy,
Very emotive, yes it is all about the individual ones perception of the level of accepable femininity, of how one carries oneself when out and about, does one blend in completely? not all of us for sure yes there are the lucky ones who cannot be told apart from the real woman but for the rest we get as close as possible and in the right places and times everything goes smoothly.
Basing ones looks on a women one may seen might not work all of the time its all down to dress and presentation a hard thing to acheive at times but can be done with care, at the end of the day we are who we are and must be us.

[DIANEF]

Regrettably there are too many on this forum who think their way 'is the only way', or if you do something different from them you are obviously doing it wrong, or they presume to know what you think or know why you 'did' whatever, the list goes on. As for 'labels', have one if you need one and don't let anyone choose it for you. More than anything be true to yourself, if you are happy the way you are, that is all that matters.

[DaisyLawrence]

Regrettably there are too many on this forum who think their way 'is the only way', or if you do something different from them you are obviously doing it wrong, or they presume to know what you think or know why you 'did' whatever, the list goes on. As for 'labels', have one if you need one and don't let anyone choose it for you. More than anything be true to yourself, if you are happy the way you are, that is all that matters.

Spot on Diane. Apart from labels, no-one needs them, they may think they do but that is a construct of societal 'norms' (the same norms that say they are crossdressing in the first place rather than actually just wearing their clothes of choice).

People, do as Stacy said and concentrate on you. No-one needs a label as everyone is an individual, a bit of crossdressing is only one of a trillion differences between all humans on the planet. I am me, a human being, nothing more, nothing less.

[sometimes_miss]

I don't think that many are 'moulding' themselves as they see others are, but more like they may be trying out different styles of expressing themselves in a feminine way after having learned how another person does it, to see how it 'fits'.

[Roxanne Lanyon]

I am Roxanne, in my femininity, and feel oh so wonderful being her! I love different styles, and everyday am learning a bit more about myself. I love being a woman!
Roxanne

Being her, is ever so wonderful!

[alwayshave]

Stacy, I am pretty comfortable in my CD skin. I don't care what others think. I am very happy when I am dressed.

[Asew]

I think when I first started dressing, I felt the need to dress fully as a woman. I think it stems from a binary gender point of view. Once I realized I could wear say just a skirt, I actually realized I didn't care for the fake boobs and didn't really want to dress fully most of the time. So I feel like I am definitely presenting the CD I am now (though I am still figuring out my CD style which results in some minor tweaks).

[Anne E]

Thank you, Stacy. I think that's spot on. Being a CD, I get to think about who I really am in more ways than most people do.

Anne

[Beverley Sims]

I dress all the time to blend in and go about my business.

I do consider others around me a little and always present tastefully, I think.

[docrobbysherry]

I both agree and disagree, Stacy. I agree we should accept ourselves for who/what we r.:thumbsup:

On the other hand, I am so different as a dresser and a person from who I was 22 years ago when Sherry was born?
That I don't even recognize myself OR her back then!:daydreaming:

Change is inevitable, dahlink, don't fite it!:D

[t-girlxsophie]

I've found a new freedom to be myself,getting out dressed more from home.I enjoy the feeling being out and about presenting as a woman, that is the biggest change I see in me.My CDing in general though is the same now as its always been,just with a few more years on the clock.

Sophie