Felicia M
10-10-2018, 09:17 PM
I have been wanting to respond to so many threads on here as of late but every time I set out to do so I find myself unable to articulate what has been on my mind lately. It started with these two threads:
"Lets dress while it still means something" by @phili
and also
"The stress of living two lives and the genderless trend" by @sarah_hillcrest
Both threads touched on the erosion of gender. I have expressed before that I believe it is slowly eroding away and becoming much more fluid. I feel it will only continue to accelerate but I didn't want to respond as I couldn't really articulate what I think and feel on a much deeper level.
Then I was struck by another couple of other threads:
"Having urges to be sexual with men" by @JENQUEENS51
and also
"Crossdressing and being gay" by @Maria 60
Both threads delved into our sexual nature. There seems to be this nagging obsession with perception and who we are sexually and what people believe we are sexually. There also seems to be a nagging obsession to label who we are and what we are which I completely understand given the struggle to deal with narratives in the world. As I was reading through the Urges thread I read this from @Charlotte7
And, you know what, this is 2018, let's just call it sex and do away with the labels. As long as you keep yourself and the person you're having sex with safe, as long as both parties are fully consenting adults, then nothing else matters.
I thought it was such a brilliant statement at the time and then I stumbled upon this today as I was reading Epsilon Theory which expanded on the idea.
Penn: There was this sentence said to me — at the time I heard it, I ridiculed it and now it seems like the most profound thing ever said. You know Siegfried & Roy?
Marchese: Of course.
Penn: I was having lunch with Siegfried and he was telling this story about dating a woman. I guess he saw a quizzical look on my face and he said in his German accent with his coiffed hair, “I am not gay. I am not straight. I am Siegfried.” I think that’s the only real truth I’ve ever heard. I don’t want to be atheist, libertarian, gay, straight. I don’t even want to be a man anymore. The only team I want us to be talking about is all 7 billion of us human beings.
― Penn Jillette, interview by David Marchese for Vulture (August 14, 2018)
link to the entire piece Clear Eyes, Full Hearts, Can't Lose:
https://www.epsilontheory.com/clear-eyes-full-hearts-cant-lose/
I read the above (and the rest of the entirety of the Epsilon piece) and everything coalesced in my mind. We are all trying to live out our truth. Almost everyone's truth is slightly different from one another's but one thing is clear. We are human. We are a spectrum. A living breathing spectrum that perceives and feels and grows every single day. And we are evolving. We are changing. We are feeling things for the first or second or hundredth time. And you know what we perceive now may change in one or five or seven years because as our conscience unfolds our perceptions change and expand. Beliefs crumble and fall and are remade again.
It really spoke to me about gender and perception. How at this moment in time it may be more important to perceive ourselves as human and let go of the binary way we have perceived and lived for thousands of years.
In a way we are all Siegfried. We are all trying to find our way. I think this is something to try and remember as everyone struggles in their own way to find their truth.
"Lets dress while it still means something" by @phili
and also
"The stress of living two lives and the genderless trend" by @sarah_hillcrest
Both threads touched on the erosion of gender. I have expressed before that I believe it is slowly eroding away and becoming much more fluid. I feel it will only continue to accelerate but I didn't want to respond as I couldn't really articulate what I think and feel on a much deeper level.
Then I was struck by another couple of other threads:
"Having urges to be sexual with men" by @JENQUEENS51
and also
"Crossdressing and being gay" by @Maria 60
Both threads delved into our sexual nature. There seems to be this nagging obsession with perception and who we are sexually and what people believe we are sexually. There also seems to be a nagging obsession to label who we are and what we are which I completely understand given the struggle to deal with narratives in the world. As I was reading through the Urges thread I read this from @Charlotte7
And, you know what, this is 2018, let's just call it sex and do away with the labels. As long as you keep yourself and the person you're having sex with safe, as long as both parties are fully consenting adults, then nothing else matters.
I thought it was such a brilliant statement at the time and then I stumbled upon this today as I was reading Epsilon Theory which expanded on the idea.
Penn: There was this sentence said to me — at the time I heard it, I ridiculed it and now it seems like the most profound thing ever said. You know Siegfried & Roy?
Marchese: Of course.
Penn: I was having lunch with Siegfried and he was telling this story about dating a woman. I guess he saw a quizzical look on my face and he said in his German accent with his coiffed hair, “I am not gay. I am not straight. I am Siegfried.” I think that’s the only real truth I’ve ever heard. I don’t want to be atheist, libertarian, gay, straight. I don’t even want to be a man anymore. The only team I want us to be talking about is all 7 billion of us human beings.
― Penn Jillette, interview by David Marchese for Vulture (August 14, 2018)
link to the entire piece Clear Eyes, Full Hearts, Can't Lose:
https://www.epsilontheory.com/clear-eyes-full-hearts-cant-lose/
I read the above (and the rest of the entirety of the Epsilon piece) and everything coalesced in my mind. We are all trying to live out our truth. Almost everyone's truth is slightly different from one another's but one thing is clear. We are human. We are a spectrum. A living breathing spectrum that perceives and feels and grows every single day. And we are evolving. We are changing. We are feeling things for the first or second or hundredth time. And you know what we perceive now may change in one or five or seven years because as our conscience unfolds our perceptions change and expand. Beliefs crumble and fall and are remade again.
It really spoke to me about gender and perception. How at this moment in time it may be more important to perceive ourselves as human and let go of the binary way we have perceived and lived for thousands of years.
In a way we are all Siegfried. We are all trying to find our way. I think this is something to try and remember as everyone struggles in their own way to find their truth.