SCC ... What do I do now? ( retorical question )

[Joyce Swindell]

It's been over a month since the Southern Comfort Conference in Ft Lauderdale. This was a long time bucket list thing for me. This was an event I only read about and could only wish to attend for many years. I had a wonderful time being Joyce 24/3, I stayed up late, enjoyed all that I could that the conference had to offer. I spent too much money but have zero regrets.


Truthfully the whole thing has had a very profound effect on me fem-wise. I have had no desire to dress as Joyce since. This has been quite a concern for me. I've let my body hair grow and have considered getting a haircut. (No worries...not going to cut it ...too hard to grow back at my age). Today was the first day I've had any urge to put on a bra but it was fleeting.


I'm pretty certain I will get over it...it's just something I didn't expect! I don't really have a great desire to go to the regular monthly meeting this weekend either but I do want to share my SCC pics and stories with my friends....maybe I'll go....playing it by ear and most likely...if I go it will be in a pant suit or something more fem casual.

[Patience]

Looks like the conference got your itch very well scratched. Good for you. Let us know how you feel when the pink fog rolls back in.

I'd love to have such an experience. Someday, who knows...

[Sami Brown]

As long as you are content, I don't think there is anything you need to do differently. One shouldn't need to force oneself to do something.

Maybe the urge will return, maybe not. There is nothing wrong with either.

My only other advice is not to purge your clothes for a while. If the urge returns, your stuff will be waiting for you. Your intuition that you will get over it is probably true. You just don't know whether it will be a few days or a lot longer. If it is longer, it doesn't hurt to hold onto your things.

Sami

[Shayla]

Joyce, it seems like for many of us the need to dress en femme comes and goes. Sometimes for years at a time. But I think we have all learned it always comes back.
After my first time out fully dressed I did not have the urge to dress again at all for a few months.

[phili]

Hi Joyce,
Some day researchers will take the time to track what settles our drive to crossdress, how much, and for how long. I felt this recently after a deep massage body work session, just like ok I am a man, fine! Ifelt like I had enough benefits and privileges and women could have whatever they had and I wasn't jealous at all, nor did I identify with them.

I then felt so uneasy being separated from my girliness, which has been such a deep daily companion for so long. The next day put on a dress to see what would happen, and I was sailing back down my familiar paths again, and feeling like my 'fine, I'm a man' feeling was very fleeting and really unavailable to resurrect.

My theory now is that I simply need to be less attached to either boy or girl mode- let myself flow and have no excuses. I feel that some relationships are built around my gender as much as my personalities, so that makes it difficult until everyone else gets the same flexibility with regard to how I look and feel to them.

[Crissy 107]

Joyce, I find it odd that after going to what I have heard is a great conference you would feel like you do. Maybe it is a result of a feminine overload for the 3 days. Maybe it was accomplishing a bucket list item and that caused the slump. Whatever the reason you know it will come back and most likely stronger then before. Good idea on not cutting your hair and you should absolutely go to your regular monthly meeting and share with everyone your wonderful pictures, I’m sure they will all love it. Hang in there, this too shall pass. Crissy

[Lana Mae]

Zero regrets says it was a good thing! Don't cut that hair, I wish I could grow mine out! DO NOT PURGE! Go to your meeting dress casual, show off your pictures, and have a good time! See how you feel about all of this in a week or two and go from there! Hugs Lana Mae

[docrobbysherry]

Joyce, how many girls attended this year? I haven't read any posts here about it.:battingeyelashes:

[alwayshave]

Joyce, It would just seem that you had your fill for a while and now the need is returning.

[Joyce Swindell]

Docrobbysherry

I don't really know a good number to say...most everything I attended was well attended. I went to Lips and we had to get an additional van. The same with dinners away from the motel. As far as that goes the ones I attended at the motel were pretty well attended. There was some disorganization to the classroom sessions as some of the speakers didn't show up in time and some classes were moved from one room to another. A couple classes were a bit sparse that I had attended. I only attended 3-4 classes but all had good information.

I understand that the Saturday night dinner was sold out but there were plenty of empty seats in a very large room. I would guess about 65-75% full. Karaoke was a lot of fun and we had plenty of singers...including me! (which was also on my bucket list to sing in fem) All of the drinking/social events were ...guessing 30 to 40 folks. The pool party was almost crowded!

Hope that helps

[Bobbi46]

Don't do anything in haste, as has been said keep all of your femme things you may feel a bit of an anticlimax after what must have been an exhiliarating three days for you, but dont feel down over this and don't put any pressure on yourself. These three days may have been too much for you nice no doubt as they were. Take things slowly I am sure the desire to dress again will return just give yourself time and take each day as it comes you will be fine.

[Beverley Sims]

Go looking for the next event.

Maybe you got enough out of your system at SCC.

The urge is sure to come back when you settle down.

[Teresa]

Joyce,
It's a question I do wonder about sometimes , do we oversaturate ourselves in the whole situation ? Is it case of overloading the brain ? Do we want it as much as we think we do , or is it partly the Pink Fog we float in too much ?

I must admit when I get a morning that starts like that I still decide to put my makeup and within a few minutes of starting the thoughts have gone away and I've moved onto thinking what outfits to wear depending on where I'm going and what the weather is doing .

[Roxanne Lanyon]

I love being in the Pink Fog!
Roxanne

[docrobbysherry]

Thanks, Joyce! By comparison, the SCC's I attended in Atlanta had about 750 attendees each! :heehee:

As for, "What's next?"
I suggest u attend Wildside in Vegas next Spring! We had 270 girls there this year. And, it should make your SCC look like grandmother's tea party!:devil: