Are you evolving?

[Stacy Darling]

My question is about how we are evolving as society does?

My social acquaintance believe that I'm grasping what is in reach, yet it's my belief that it is all in the flow of nature!!

[Teresa]

Stacy,
I do believe it's going hand in hand . I admit coming out full time this year has been much easier then I imagined it could be . The other problem may have been that I was socialising very little before I separated so perhaps I had lost touch with people .

[robbieatbest]

I feel as though I am evolving in that I now go out much more in what I consider female and I am far more likely to tell people that I am a transvestite. as yet no one as made any comment about the way I am dressed and so that suggests I can be more open. I haven't got to wearing make up yet unless it is a gathering "who know" or wearing a skirt or dress, maybe that is still a long way off.
Cheers
Robbie

[Jaylyn]

Because of my marriage and the stipulations my wife has suddenly given me I would say my evolving has hit a brick wall and now the future will be in a DADT atmosphere with a hide it, get it over with and I wish you'd get rid of all the evidence before you die type envolment.

[Stacy Darling]

Die type is a term I grew up, that's why it's leaving! Just a smile Jaylyn!

Using a specific term has no meaning anyhow Robbie! You're Robbie!

Karma Teresa with love!

[Sarah Doepner]

As I grow more confident, more comfortable and accept myself more fully I end up seeing more of the rest of the world presenting as Sarah. I do believe through the media and education of all sorts, society in general is growing more aware and tolerant of the Transgender community. However, we are in a period of transition and there are those who feel threatened by what we represent to them (I have no full or clear idea what that is, but it must be scary!) It seems more polarized at times since the scared folks are louder than ever, but overall there is progress. It is less apparent in the over 30 age group, but those younger seem to understand there really isn't anything to be afraid of and maybe they will teach their elders that lesson. It's time.

[Stacy Darling]

I was recently referred to as being a pioneer in my local society Sarah (@49) Just a CD, but putting it out there!

[Helen_Highwater]

Stacy,

At a personal level, I gained confidence, went out, got treated well, gained confidence....... I suppose one way I've grown is certainly early on I tried to be as natural as I could be when interacting with say an SA but it was kept to a minimum. Now I'd say I'm more proactive. I'll engage more, try to develop a conversation however brief the time allows. I suppose I'm just trying to show I'm simply a human like everyone else, sort of , see we don't bite. Went out, got treated well, gained confidence.

As for the bigger picture, how are we evolving and what effect does that have? I feel we're influencing the debate about gender, blurring the lines. Every interaction we have will leave an impression upon those we meet. Some will already be supportive, some will always remain bigoted, others who really hadn't given it any thought hopefully move towards the positive.

I would argue that the internet has changed us from being largely isolated individuals into a more cohesive group that is finding it's place in the wider LGBT community.

[Krisi]

Before answering the question about "evolving", I would have to know what was meant by the term. I'm sure there are different opinions or definitions.

[Stephanie47]

Yes, another potential misunderstanding when using a single word to define a complex issue. Me? Personally? I am not one to charge out the door and carry a banner proclaiming anything without some serious thoughts. For a long time I was filled with self loathing because I really did not understand the why. Why was I doing this? Then there was the misconceptions perpetuated by society. Society's norms and expectations. Back in the 1960's to wear women's clothing meant you were a homosexual. Of course, homosexuals were fair game for a beat down and discrimination. To be termed a "faggot, fruit, queer" etc and said with such vile terms was upsetting and confusing. There was no Internet. There were no readily available books. The "Kinsey Report" was kept behind the librarian's desk. The local newspaper store had Playboy magazine and the owner would yell at teenagers to get away from it.

Now? I accept myself for who I am. Is that evolving? For me, yes. Unlike many of this forum my desires are personal. I do not feel any need to go forth into the world en femme. On occasion I do, but, I do not get any satisfaction from it. Does that mean there is room to evolve further? In my personal situation I think I have reached balance in my life. I read of others on this forum who obviously have not found balance. It's for each to decide.

[Tracy Irving]

I don't see myself developing into something more complex so probably not. However, I do change and adapt while my body entropies.

[Tracii G]

Evolving into what exactly?

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Stacy :hugs:, At about six weeks short of 76 I think that I an as Evolved as I am going to be,

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> >Orchid ..o:daydreaming:O..

[Jenny22]

Robieatbest (age 68) said she will say she's a transvestite, but the evolved terms today are crossdresser or transgender, and much better understood by the general public. With respects to who we girls are and what we girls do, yes, we are evolving.

[Rachelish]

Evolve synonyms: develop, progress, make progress, advance, move forward, make headway, mature, grow, open out, unfold, unroll, expand, enlarge, spread, extend;

I'm fine with those up to 'mature', the rest sound painful. Seriously, yes, I've come a long way in a short time, and Rachel has definitely been an evolution.

[Cheryl T]

As the saying goes, "The only constant is change".
I hope that I am constantly evolving as a person and as a woman.

[KimberlyJean]

Cheryl is right, everyone is always evolving. Think of the way you seen things 10 years ago. Do you see everything the same now or are some views different. If you look at age 20 to age 30 you see a big difference, 30 to 40? I have changed, I'll let you know when I get to 50 if I have changed.
Evolving along the transgender spectrum, who knows? I know I am evolving or as my wife would say "getting worse".

[Michelle 51]

I don't think I am till I look back and see the changes.

[Nikki A.]

I feel I've gotten more comfortable with myself. I will go out and interact with the public as Nikki. This is something that I thought I would never do.
I also think that society has changed from hostility to tolerance. Can we possibly run into a non tolerant person, yes but I think that it is less likely now than before.
If this is evolving then yes I have evolved. And so has the world around us.

[Beverley Sims]

Well the internet has sure speeded up evolution if that is what it is.

[Wildaboutheels]

I have never lived my life trying to fit in with the crowd, wear what's "in fashion" and trying to simply blend in. Nor have I lived my life at the other end of the spectrum. Both in junior high and high school, I rarely followed any fashion trend UNLESS it was a "look" I personally liked.

Currently today, I have expanded my CDing (out in the RW) attire to include skorts and skirts in the last 18 months. The compliments I have received for years have gone up exponentially with these 2 additions.

NO, I do not claim to be able to read minds, but EVERY compliment I have ever received, seemed sincere. Eye contact and a sincere smile go a long way when giving a compliment.

I'm not too worried about ever "evolving" into dresses.

[Lygophilia]

I never really saw any progress in my life.

[Bobbi46]

Evolving or maturing ? both sugest a steadily changing life, some start out underdressing and stay at thet others transition completely, others dress completely but do not transition, all different levels of how the individual feels plus life is a big learning curve and so evolving must be a continuum of our life as a whole.

[sometimes_miss]

I don't think society in general is the process of evolution. Rather, it's in devolution. Stupid people are reproducing more, and faster, than smart people, and it's now become acceptable to be ignorant, and not even try to educate yourself in America. Some people even celebrate the fact that they're ignorant, as if it's a positive thing. We have our leaders now, who can't spell, can't write, and can't even speak coherently.
Yes, we're going downhill... backwards....and we're speeding up.

[docrobbysherry]

Nothing remains the same. We r either evolving or dying, or both. :battingeyelashes:

[Roxanne Lanyon]

I think I am evolving. My skirts are getting longer, my shoes cuter, and my nylons sheerer! One day my men will be sweeter, too! (I can only hope, Right, honey?)
Roxanne and her Ever so Sweet Thoughts

[BillieS]

I am definitely evolving! I'm much more adventurous now than I was just 8-10 months ago. (I notice my bio is a little out of date even.)

I'm in girl mode almost all the time now outside work, and am broadening my horizons further!

[Patience]

One day my men will be sweeter, too! (I can only hope, Right?)If you ain’t got hope, what have you got?

I’ve only been doing this for a year. I’m a work in progress.

[njcddresser]

I think the feminine side of me has and continues to evolve.

Going back to my child hood and teen years, I knew that I liked wearing women clothes, particularly panties. This stayed with me through my 40's. I was completely in the closet. It wasn't something I got to do often but the desire was there.

Five years ago, I came out to myself and my wife that I was a crossdresser and wanted to explore dressing as a woman and potentially going out en femme. For the next couple years, I dressed up every chance I got, whether I was going out or not.

I've also come to accept that a big part of who I am is very feminine. This is now fully engrained in me.

I actually don't get fully dressed en femme very often anymore but my personality now has many many feminine characteristics.

jackie

[t-girlxsophie]

Yes I definately feel that I have evolved.In the last cpl of years I've become more confident and am comfortable in my skin.I have experienced so many new things,pushed the envelope and met some great new friends.Im getting out more and more and I feel there's no limit to how far I can take it

Sophie

[Jaymees22]

I'm pretty sure I'm evolving, but sometimes I regress.
I find myself wanting to wear ever shorter dresses and skirts, sheer tops, leather pants, ripped jeans and just clothes suited for a much younger woman!
Oh well this too shall pass but I hope not too soon.

[CynthiaD]

Yes, definitely I'm evolving. Every time I think I've reached the end and have gone as far as possible, something happens and I realize I've taken another step. One I didn't even anticipate.

[Shely]

With pierced ears and pedicures with painted toes, I guess I am. Society isn't evolving fast enough for me though. I would love to see a major shift in the direction of freedom to wear anything a person wanted without others judging them.

[Roxanne Lanyon]

I am pretty sure I am. I now love to stay dressed longer, and, sometimes, I feel like I should be more attractive to others. "Oh my!"
Roxanne Lanyon

[Ressie]

I don't understand the question.

1.
develop gradually, especially from a simple to a more complex form.
"the company has evolved into a major chemical manufacturer"

[suzanne]

I'm glad you think the environment you live in is evolving. We in Canada are watching nervously as the US tries to drive itself forward into the 14th century while too many in our own country are thinking "That's a good idea. We should be heading there too." I plan to stand my ground and not be driven back into the closet, but some days I dont feel I'll be all that successful.