leaving from home dressed, i don't now what to think

[sara66]

I am planning in on my annual outing (my wife requests just 1 per year). I have been going to a friends house to change. However my wife suggested that I just leave from our house. We live in a very quite area. One of our the people next door just moved and the house is empty and the other will be on vacation. Leaving from home kinda freaks me out a bit. I may just have to put on my big girl panties on and just do it.

Sara :)

[Elizabeth G]

Hi Sara,

Is it safe to assume your going fully en femme? It sounds like your pretty much safe with respect to your neighbors kindly cooperating by not being there so I would say just go for it. But if your still concerned you can always leave the wig off (if you're wearing one) until you get out of the neighborhood and wear a coat and pants over everything else until you get far enough from home to feel comfortable. Then it's just a couple of minutes to get rid of the coat and pants and put on the wig and your good to go. I've done something like this in the past and it worked well for me.

Elizabeth

[Cheryl T]

Just do it and experience the entire journey as you really want to.
It's scary for sure, but once you do you'll wonder what exactly made it so scary. People, if they see you, will just use their first impression and perhaps wonder who that "new lady" is but that will last about 3 seconds till they are distracted by some other thought and they will just forget about it.

[Bobbi46]

If your ultimate goal is to be able to go out dressed from hole a regular thing to do then this is a golden opportunity to reduce the nervousness of this, one empty house on one side neighbours gone on the other side ther's nothing to hold you back at all go out toally en femme from what you are saying there is nothing to loose and a lot to be gained, If you get to where I am with my neighbours all knowing your freedom is a done thing, go out and enjoy!

[kimdl93]

Your wife has made the recommendation, so go with it and trust her judgement

[alwayshave]

Sara, if you are leaving after the sun goes down is it really an issue. Otherwise, just head straight for your car and go without looking around. Last time I left my house dressed, I lived in a large apartment building, on the the 7th floor, which meant heading to the garage on an elevator. Fortunately, no one got on the elevator and I left without any interaction with my neighbors. However, there was a ton of security cameras as the building has very high profile individuals, including a supreme court justice, so I know that I was filmed.

[Beverley Sims]

Sarah, just get dressed and leave the house, it is unlikely any one will notice.

If you do this more regularly the easier it becomes.

Fear turns to caution and you can worry about things that really matter.

[Rachelish]

Either it's no big deal if the neighbours find out so just go for it or life will be a living hell in which case take Elizabeth G's advice.

[ToniG]

Just get out and do it, and have fun. Sara> Afterwhile the scary goes away. Most folks are not paying attn anyway--they have their faces in their phones. Great that the SO is cooperative. Toni G..

[sara66]

Rationally I know I will be fine. I can get in the car in garage, I plan on a daytime outing to go shopping. It still a big step. Just a handful of people know and I would like to keep that to a minimum.
Sara :battingeyelashes:

[Helen_Highwater]

Sara,

It will seem as scary as hell but as others have said once in the car and driving away those fears soon evaporate. If you're leaving during daylight that does up the anti a little, after dark the risks are small.

Do you know what's prompted your SO to suggest this move? Is her objection to you going out lessening?

Whatever you decide, enjoy your trip out.

[Allisa]

You said just once a year you go out so what's the big deal? No one is going to remember seeing you after a day or so. They all know you as the person they see the other 364 days a year. If anyone does ask about it you can make up a story of some kind, just make sure your wife knows it so if asked when away from you the stories match. Get dressed and enjoy the moment than just walk out the door, I believe in pulling the band-aid off fast.

[Nicol]

i will never go out from my room if am dress

[bridget thronton]

Your wife is making this suggestion - it is good she is trying to support you

[Jacqueline Vivaldi]

I love to go out to many public places as Jacqueline. I leave from my house at all times of day and night. Although I would be happy to reveal myself to the world at any time, I try to protect my identity out of considerations for my wife's wishes. I am known as well as my car to everyone in the neighborhood. So, here is the procedure that I use to go out dressed. I walk from my house into the garage fully dressed. In the car I remove my ear rings and wig and place them in a bag. I take a warm-up jacket and slip my arms through the sleeves so that the un-zipped zipper is in the back and my outfit is fully covered up. Then I wear a baseball cap, wear large sunglasses and drive out the driveway paying attention that no one is standing near my exit. I drive out and if I see a neighbor I casually place my hand to obscure my painted lips. I stop for no one. After driving 3-5 miles I find a place to pull off to the side of the road; put on my wig and ear rings, brush my hair, lower the top on my convertible and raise my hands in the free air and sunshine and smile.

[audreyinalbany]

seriously? you're asking this on Halloween?

[Meghan4now]

Rationally I know I will be fine. I can get in the car in garage, I plan on a daytime outing to go shopping. It still a big step. Just a handful of people know and I would like to keep that to a minimum.
Sara :battingeyelashes:
This answers the question I thought about. Once you are in the car, especially if it is evening, your pretty much low risk.

It is like standing on the edge of the pool, not wanting to get that cold shock. Once you are in, the water is fine. Just need to make the leap.

[Di]

Your wife thinks it’s fine and I do not think she would suggest it otherwise. Don’t let the worry hamper your day. Besides you are not doing anything wrong. Enjoy your day!

[Majella St Gerard]

Do whatever you feel comfortable doing.

[Diane Taylor]

Going full fem for the first time can be scary for some and if you're only "allowed" one trip per year the fear will pretty much always be with you. Repeat excursions would eventually alleviate your fears but right now you'll have to do whatever you're comfortable with.

[robinlane98]

Just do it! Good luck!

[carhill2mn]

Of course you should just do it, especially since your wife suggested it.

[~Joanne~]

Neither neighbor being there I would be spending a whole lotta time outside ;)

[stephNE]

Yes, you should do it. A few years ago I decided I was tired of sneaking around to get out. Since then I have spent one or two days a week out as Stephanie. I have had a few neighbors and friends see me, but not one has had a bad thing to say.

Last year I returned home at around 3 in the afternoon. I parked in the drive and went inside, not noticing any neighbors. I decided to turn on my computer and check to see if I had any emails, and as soon as I did, a facebook message popped in. It was from the lady across the street. She asked "Who did I just see driving your truck with lots of hair?" SO I told her it was me. She was interest and said she wished she had a better chance to see me and what I looked liked. I sent her a couple pictures and we've since had a few nice discussions.

So, it's all good, go out have a good time, do what you want and don't worry about what others may think.

[Jenny22]

Bobbi, the mistype 'hole' gave me a good laugh. But, some of us are in a hole, so to speak.

[docrobbysherry]

Nonsense! Don't out yourself until u r ready and want to, Sara! I usually leave at nite. So, the neighbors who see me drive out of my driveway can't see who's inside.

But, during summer, I often leave home during daylite. I wear a loose coat and hat. And carry my wig, purse, etc. in a shopping bag. Once in the car I look pretty much as I normally do. They can't see my makeup in the shady car with my hat on.:thumbsup:

[lynda o]

If your wife is good with it, go for it. I leave the house dressed on a regular basis now. This is after driving my wife’s car in male mode and seeing 2 neighbors neither of which knew who was driving the car until I got out of it in our driveway, my next door neighbor said your not Teri. That told me nobody really pays attention to who is in a car. I still haven’t gotten up enough to leave en femme on my motorcycle.

[emmajane]

I do have a boyfriend and it was him that ask me too cross dress for him before I was 18.
at his flat one night he ask me to dress as a girl, now I go out all the time all my friends no me as Emma and at work too.
so go for it love, Emmajane xxxxxx:heehee::heehee:

[Devi SM]

Sara,

I want to share my thoughts about it.
You don't mention the reason of your fear but if your wiggle agrees and recommend you going out dressed from home, who else cares about it? All the time we are concern with what other people would think but there's no way we can know their thoughts. I really doubt that someone could come to you and mention anything. Once a year could be even by Halloween, so go ahead and enjoy your day!

[Kimber]

Hi Sara,
I would just go for it, especially as you have your wifes full support. Most people dont mind or care, they are usually busy in themselves.

Enjoy hunnie!

Hugs Kim..x

[Stephanie47]

If you're planning on your annual outing today...Halloween....definitely go for it. I would not even count Halloween as an annual trip. It's Crossdressing Day. She owes you a second day if it is today.

[suzanne]

If your wife thinks it won't be a problem, it won't be a problem. The SO is very often the most sensitive to potential problems.

[GracieRose]

Go for it.
I look out the window to be sure that the coast is clear and no neighbors are out in view of the street. I then get into the car, with the sunroof closed and the sun visors down (so it is a little more difficult to see into the passenger compartment). I turn on the engine and hit the garage door opener, and I'm on my way. Since there are a lot of cars that look like mine, I figure that unless someone sees me exiting my driveway, they wouldn't recognize me in 'disguise'. If you have a unique car that would be immediately recognized as yours, it may be a bit more risky.

[Krisi]

Rationally I know I will be fine. I can get in the car in garage, I plan on a daytime outing to go shopping. It still a big step. Just a handful of people know and I would like to keep that to a minimum.
Sara :battingeyelashes:

If your car is in a garage, it's pretty much a non-issue. Leave the wig and earrings off until you get out of your neighborhood, then stop and put them on. Have your wife drive. No need for that macho stuff, it's two women in a car. One has to drive, it might as well be her.

[sara66]

I just found out my neighbor cancelled her vacation. She is mostly retired so she is home most of the time. I was with her at a art show and she saw a guy in a kilt and that bothered her. Can you imagine her seeing me in dress. :heehee: So now the point is moot. Really kind of sucks. I had decided to leave dressed. I am lucky I have a friend that lets me change at her house.


Sara

[Bobbi46]

Correcting ,my typo I see the glaring error I meant home!!!!not hole, I wish I was in one right now!!

[docrobbysherry]

Bobbi, r u aware u can easily go back and edit or delete any post u made at any time?:battingeyelashes:

[Glenda58]

If your wife doesn't care I would go for it. I use to go out all the time dressed even worked in my yard dressed. Washed my car in short shorts and a tank top with bra panties on. But now my wife won't let me.

[t-girlxsophie]

As a new convert to leaving from home dressed.I can only say you should try it.Yes that first time can be nerve wracking but the two or three times I've done it has got easier every time and even on public transport I've managed without any trouble at all and it is a wonderful feeling,I hope you manage to do it

Sophie

[Kalisopwith]

I have been dressing since my early teens but only started out this year. I now find it addicting. It feels like validation I guess when no one notices or cares. Getting called Ma'am was a high!!! I do agree with others here, do it when YOU are ready!

[Patience]

If your surroundings are as deserted as you say, you should be fine. Since you only get one shot at it a year, make it count.

I've gone out numerous times but only left home dressed once. It is a bit of a rush.

[Krisi]

I look out the window to be sure that the coast is clear and no neighbors are out in view of the street. I then get into the car, with the sunroof closed and the sun visors down (so it is a little more difficult to see into the passenger compartment). I turn on the engine and hit the garage door opener, and I'm on my way. Since there are a lot of cars that look like mine, I figure that unless someone sees me exiting my driveway, they wouldn't recognize me in 'disguise'. .

Keep in mind that if you go out, you will eventually have to come back home. You won't have the luxury of looking to see that there are no neighbors outside watching. And in most cases you won't have the luxury of just driving by and coming back later. They will see your car and wonder why you didn't stop.

The safe thing to do would be to bring a set of male clothes with you and change before you come back home.

[Angela Marie]

I always leave home dressed. I make sure no one is around and I can quickly move out of range of my neighborhood. I also bring some makeup wipes and a change of clothes (shoes included lol). I have changed back many times in the car. it usually takes about 5-10 minutes. It also is a good precaution in case there is an emergency and you can't make it back home to change.

[Karmen]

Just do it! If your wife suggested it, it's probably safe to do it.