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KelleyB
11-05-2018, 04:46 PM
My wife said I didn't need any more clothes, and she was serious about it. For the record, 9 dresses, 7 blouses, 8 or 9 skirts. A good collection, as all the dresses are formal or semi-formal, but I'd like something more, for lack of a better word, business-like.

I found a two-piece dress today which I really like, even though the color is dark blue. Were it pink/light blue/cream/ivory/anything lighter, I'd own it, but I passed, for now.

I wonder...if I remove a couple of items from my wardrobe which I rarely wear, anyway, if that would allow me, in her eyes, to replace them with a single item?

Just thinking out loud, thanks, y'all.

I may gently bring it up, later, and see what she says, but I'm concerned she'll be annoyed I'm still shopping.

Hmmmm...

A large part of me does NOT want to rock the boat, as she's not been the slightest bit upset about me dressing almost daily, but I really like this outfit.

Krisi
11-05-2018, 04:51 PM
I don't know your wife so I can't say what she would be agreeable to. My guess is that you will be better off to keep what you have for now and not buy any new clothes for a while. Wait until she buys some clothes for herself and then say "Where's mine?"

KelleyB
11-05-2018, 05:14 PM
Excellent advice!

Tracii G
11-05-2018, 05:20 PM
You are thinking like a guy so stop that LOLOL
Let it go and wait until she buys something

Tracy Irving
11-05-2018, 06:27 PM
Fashion and taste changes all the time. Nothing wrong with mixing it up a bit.

I understand two piece dresses have been all the rage for a while now, but haven't figured out a way to add them to my collection. Maybe someday...

Beverley Sims
11-05-2018, 07:40 PM
You may lik to have it but be patient and let the wife suggest something to her taste, or wait till she want's something new and go with her then.

Buying a dress now may sour the whole relationship because of a whim.

Stephanie47
11-05-2018, 07:45 PM
You definitely need to expand your wardrobe of dresses. I cannot imagine any woman would only have formal or semi formal dresses. You need a nice assortment of knee length dresses. They could be business or casual, but, you need a better selection. I don't think you'd feel comfortable taking an evening stroll in a formal or semi-formal dress.

docrobbysherry
11-05-2018, 08:14 PM
Kelley, don't u have any say in your partnership? Stuffing who u r will eventually cause u to build up resentment!:sad:

That won't make for a happy marriage! Talk it out and come to a compromise now! Before it gets nasty!:doh:

Sami Brown
11-06-2018, 03:55 PM
You won't be going crazy shopping if you limit yourself to one new dress that isn't so formal. Knee length is perfect for being less formal.

Sami

Jane G
11-06-2018, 04:09 PM
No need to be selfish and rock the boat. There have been many dresses I would love to have bought, that are still on the shelf. If you value your wife more than your wardrobe, then be patient. There are soooo many pretty dresses out there and so few understanding partners.

Leslie Langford
11-06-2018, 04:26 PM
What exactly is a "two piece dress"? It's either a dress or it's not a dress.

Are you referring instead to a two-piece outfit with a matching and/or coordinating top and bottom? If so, that actually increases your clothing options as you could likely wear each piece separately, but paired with another item that would go equally well with it.

Maid_Marion
11-06-2018, 04:57 PM
"It is only clothes." Sounds like there is a relationship issue that needs to be addressed. Maybe she is hinting that you need to participate more in your relationship?

Bobbi46
11-06-2018, 06:02 PM
Leslie, In England a two piece dress was something that older women liked to wear and was a fashion item way back, they were simetimes referred to as a twin set and was very often worn with a pearl necklace not so much a fashion item now as far as I know.

Jenny22
11-06-2018, 09:17 PM
Kelley, do you know WHY she said no more clothes? Too much being spent? Lack of closet space? Etc.. Did you need/ask her permission to buy the clothes you do have?

KelleyB
11-07-2018, 10:42 AM
I think she doesn't want it to "get out of hand".

And, no, I did not ask for permission for what I have.

In fact, just last night, she said, "you need a winter outfit".

Why yes...yes I do!

edit: I think it's lack of closet space, though there are other closets in the house. Initially, I think it was a little overwhelming, how much I had, but she's gotten accustomed to it.

Maid Marion, 'lack of participation' is definitely not it.

Docrobbysherry, we've been married 20+ years, together almost 30, we're not in any danger.

edit: Turns out the skirt was too small for me.