Knowing to much

[Maria 60]

Today in the lunch room one female co-worker came in and showed another female co-worker a pair of shoes she just bought. They were high heels and they had a zipper at the back, and me with my big mouth told her to be careful when she puts her foot in because your pantyhose might snagged on the zipper. They both looked at me and asked me if I knew that by experience or am I just speculating.
Ahhhh !!! I said, I heard my wife complaining about that. I don't know, they didn't look to convinced but I didn't care I like talking to them about fashion. Sometimes I believe we know more then we think about women's things. Did this ever happen to you a slip of the mouth and don't realize it.

[Rayleen]

Sure is a great tip, keep your trap shut when you feel like giving advice.

[Fran-K]

Quick thinking Maria!

Fran

[t-girlxsophie]

Thankfully that's never happened,in fact I'm lucky that there's a cpl girls in work that im close with and love nothing more than talking about girly things with me.fashion ,shopping etc

Sophie

[Beverley Sims]

I have opened my mouth many times and agree with whatever comment comes out, other times I just say I have a physics degree and I just know these things.

[docrobbysherry]

I would NEVER give a woman dressing advice unsolicited!:doh:

It would be like me advising Einstein about nuclear physics!:brolleyes:

[IleneD]

Maria,

I think this is revealing of a secret desire to come out to the world; to scream it..... or at least hint it. Don't feel bad. I think many CD/TG and those who live lifestyles that may require a form of "coming out, have that tendency to drop hints. It's like trolling for a sympathetic ear.

Great story from the tales of everyday life. You saved her hosiery.

[Tracii G]

I agree with Ilene because I know I went thru that with the women at work.
Did they figure me out ? I have no idea

[Jean 103]

It's like two sides of a fence.
On the one side you are in the closet and this is your view.
Then on the other side you are out, full time. Here the view is much different.
I'm not saying that any view is better than the other, just pointing out that they are very different.

For me it's not a thing with my coworkers but with the customers I have to watch it. Like the time this sixtyish lady is complaining to me about how many purses her 80ish mother has. I don't remember what I said , I do remember thinking good for her.

[mbmeen12]

I thought it was good advice and let them speculate. I bet they both found it titillating later on. To answer your question, only other time I was too engage in heels with a secretary. lol

[Anna Gracie]

I work in a field with almost female only. Many times I have to bite my tounge knowing more about girly stuff then them.

[Connie D50]

I do find myself slipping sometimes, Cute shoes, nice hair style, my worse is red carpet Award shows. When I get a funny look I say two daughters, four granddaughters, and of course one wife. in 41 years of marriage you learn things lol.

[DIANEF]

Where I work it is mostly female staff. I have made so many comments on how their hair is, what jewellery they are wearing, their clothes ect that they just take it as normal. Even so I still have to be careful not to take it too far.

[sometimes_miss]

I would NEVER give a woman dressing advice unsolicited!
Women do it to each other all the time. Over the years, I've steered several women to a particular coworker that I knew keeps clear nail polish in her locker for emergency stocking repair.

As far as drawing attention to yourself by knowing the problems that women think only THEY understand, I've been in that very situation, and was instantly questioned by the two ladies as to just exactly how I knew anything about it. My reply was that I had many girlfriends over the years, and knew a lot of things about women and their problems (and then asked if they would also like some advice on their feminine hygiene products, since I had been in the medical field for a long time and was around when Toxic Shock Syndrome was a problem due to such products). It shut that discussion down real quick!
Should the question arise, I would simply tell them that in our profession, we learn to be acute observers of other people's behavior, and should be willing to offer advice whenever it seems needed.
I'm not sure how you could use that to describe your own life, but most jobs require intelligent observation and problem solving, so take that for what it's worth.

[Traci H]

I recall many times having conversations with female coworkers and the conversation drifted into the female knowledge area. I am known for being a sort of know it all, but in the back of my mind I was constantly making decisions on how much I say in order not to tip my hand. Many times I knew the answer or could offer a solution and I had to bite my tongue. Very hard for a know it all. :-)

[Charlotte7]

Back in the mid 90s when "Pride and Prejudice" was all the rage over here there was a group of girls have a discussion about the costumes, but they couldn't agree. I wasn't technically part of the debate, but, and I'm sure only to be helpful, I piped up "Oh, the dresses, they're Empire Line".

See: https://i.pinimg.com/originals/80/10/e9/8010e999933ed9a7ae21c08f33cfc67f.jpg for what I mean and the delightful Jennifer Ehle and her kittenish grin. Actually many in the Jane Austen Society weren't too happy with the production as they thought it accentuated the sisters' busts too much. Me, I wouldn't have minded being a Bennett sister :)

I suppose at the end of the day, that's one of the things that makes us cross dressers - we'd (well I would) rather be Miss Elizabeth Bennett than Mr Fitzwilliam Darcy - all those dresses, all those dances and balls, all that dressing up!!

[Micki_Finn]

My question is why you felt the need to mansplain women’s foorwear to two women? Did you think they’d never had shoes with zippers before? Or perhaps you just assumed they had never worn hose? This is probably more why they were giving you looks than anything.

[Alyssa Lane]

Best bet, don’t advise unless asked. Just like joining a conversation between strangers

[Mickitv]

Good comeback but I agree with others unless you are asked be quiet.

[Nikki A.]

I have to think twice when to open my mouth. Some people know some don't.

[Rachelish]

Easily done but I have so far managed to hold my tongue when my wife and daughter discuss such things.


https://i.pinimg.com/originals/80/10/e9/8010e999933ed9a7ae21c08f33cfc67f.jpg
Charlotte, thanks for the reminder. I might just have to dig out the DVD :)

[Macey]

A woman I work with was complaining that her legs were covered with red spots. She and I joked that she must be dying of rocky mountain spotted fever. She was concerned, though, that she might have a skin rash. Since she was wearing capris, a quick glance revealed that all of her red spots seemed to be on hair follicles. I told her that she's probably just over shaving and lay off shaving her legs for a few days.


She didn't bat an eye, didn't outwardly show any signs of 'how would you know that as a guy?' She was just grateful for the advice and grateful that it wasn't some mystery rash or rocky mountain spotted fever lol ;)

[Charlotte7]

Charlotte, thanks for the reminder. I might just have to dig out the DVD :)


Rachel, you're welcome and enjoy. It's a regular binge watch in this house. We went to Lyme Park (aka Pemberley) a couple of years back and it was a treat walking in the footsteps of Elizabeth Bennett et al. There were some members from the Jane Austen Society paying a (costumed) visit at the same time too. Yes, a fondly remembered day out.

[Krisi]

My wife is more apt to slip than me. Too many times we've gone to the store to return something and she has told the clerk "We need to return this." It would be fine if it was a toaster but it's embarrassing when it's a skirt or a dress.

I don't think I've ever gotten into a fashion or makeup discussion with a woman other than my wife.

[LeannS]

My wife had to take a break from Midsomer Mysteries and she broke out the Jane Austin dvd's.
Most of the outfits were nice but some looked like drapes that I commented on and she just laughed.

[Crissy 107]

I have been around my wife and a a couple of her friends and they start to talk about nails. I listen but would love to put my 2 cents in but avoid doing so.
Crissy

[Devi SM]

Maria,

I think this is revealing of a secret desire to come out to the world; to scream it..... or at least hint it. Don't feel bad. I think many CD/TG and those who live lifestyles that may require a form of "coming out, have that tendency to drop hints. It's like trolling for a sympathetic ear.

I completely agree with Llene!
I would say too that the mouth speaks out from what is in the heart, so you love so much to dress that one day is gonna trait you, but that is the inevitability if life. Be prepare for when that happen.
Few months ago two friends of my wife, ffrom her country, visit us. They are not too fluid with English and I saw them struggling trying to translate cosmetics and make up stuff in a CVS store. There Vanessa appear giving them more than a translation but advises a out different products, after a while on of the women said too my wife, I'd love to have a husband like him that knows a lot if this women's thing, my wife smile but then the friend ask me, How do you know so much? I answered, because I'm a trasgender woman, they just move the head with some "I dont understand what you said" and wife interview saying I'm so smart looking to me with big eyes...lol

[CrossKimmy]

I’ve had to bite my tongue on numerous occasions