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Jean 103
11-24-2018, 05:56 AM
I hear these words a few feet to my left. A soft voice just to my right. I’m in the dairy aisle at the grocery story. It’s yesterday, black Friday at 3 in the afternoon. I turn, smile and say Thank You.

I don’t do the black Friday thing, I just needed a few things and thought maybe the crowds might have died down. I went by ULTA first. The parking lot was completely full, I didn’t stop, not spending anytime standing in any lines. Next Home depot, I promised my landlord (a nice lady I rent a room from) that I would replace the wax seal on the toilet in her bathroom, Saturday. Yes I did pick up a couple extra items I can use at work. Now Grocery store and home.

I just felt like wearing a dress today. I don’t care if I look out of place or attract attention. All my friends are GGs, these are the people I wish to impress. The dress, a soft cotton maroon paisley print, below the knee. No stockings, I have a tan, this is something my friends stopped me from doing a long time ago. Shoes, suede Maroon pumps, round toe, 2.5” heel, a Plain ladies Levi jacket. Pairing the jacket and dress is a young look, pumps that match give it a more upscale look. Otherwise I would have gone with a pair of black ankle boots with 3” block heels.

I’m out, Full time, so this is all normal in my world. I don’t get the over the top comments so much anymore. I think it’s because like my friends I’ve gone to wearing skinny jeans most of the time. Why, because it’s easy to change up and you have a new outfit.

The reason for all this is, you all likely look at me as I’m different because I’m out, full time, a little farther down the line. But I think the public will always see me as a crossdresser. I see myself as a TG person, I have accepted this as simply the way things are, my normal.

My best friend thinks it’s great I can wear whatever I want. I don’t expect her or anyone else to understand that I can’t. I’m limited by myself, as I both want and appreciate the comment” You’re Beautiful”

phili
11-24-2018, 09:05 AM
I hear these words a few feet to my left. A soft voice just to my right. I’m in the dairy aisle at the grocery story. It’s yesterday, black Friday at 3 in the afternoon. I turn, smile and say Thank You.

My best friend thinks it’s great I can wear whatever I want. I don’t expect her or anyone else to understand that I can’t. I’m limited by myself, as I both want and appreciate the comment” You’re Beautiful”

Jean,
How wonderful to receive that compliment! I think it is because you are peaceful and authentic and vulnerable - AND the comment was more about you than your clothes- but it is clear that they were not detracting from your beauty.

What I don't understand about your post is the last part- why is it that you can't wear what you want?

Phil

kimdl93
11-24-2018, 09:07 AM
That one comment made braving the crowds with while. But what I really admire is that it evoked these thoughts and the description of a well adjusted and happy TG person.

Im not even remotely so well adjusted, and over the years I’ve perhaps lost ground in the battle for self acceptance, but I do recall from better days just how good it felt to dress as I wished and interact with the everyday world.

deebra
11-24-2018, 09:13 AM
Jean,
From your post and avatar You Are Beautiful, not just outwardly but of the heart helping your landlord. Love that you are out.

Rhonda Jean
11-24-2018, 09:23 AM
This reminds me that I need to be better at giving compliments. It's such a powerful thing, but hard for me to do. I can't seem to do it without it sounding like a "line".

The cool thing about this one is how it came out of left field. Most of us probably get compliments from store clerks, hairdressers, or others who are kind of forced into interaction with us. When it happens like this one did it make it particularly special. I can think of a few that still make me smile!

GracieRose
11-24-2018, 07:40 PM
I'm thrilled when I get a ma'am.
Being called a young lady the other day caught me off guard. But, the server at Chik-fil-A was calling all the women young lady.
If you looked like your avatar, then the comment was quite appropriate.

docrobbysherry
11-25-2018, 12:48 AM
Jean, when r u going to drop the other shoe?:battingeyelashes:

Man, woman, child? Old, young, who complimented u?:)

jazmine
11-25-2018, 01:46 AM
God bless you mother-@#$%er!. Words I say when I'm blown away at somebody's awesomeness. The highest compliment I am known to give out!

Jean 103
11-25-2018, 04:22 AM
My avatar, that’s me about a year ago. My hair is a bit longer now.

Sherry, she is fiftyish, about 5’tall, the way you dress tells a lot about you. Her clothes were a bit off. Without talking with her I couldn’t tell why. It doesn’t really matter, I could tell by the tone of her voice she was sincere.

Today I took my landlady to Penney’s and Michael’s. My landlady is handicapped, she requires a walker and oxygen. So she requires a little assistance, at Michael’s they have a power chair, Ever try keeping up while wearing heels? Ok, we are checking out, my friend has purple hi-lites in her hair and it suits her, she receives way more attention than I do. This SA comes over he is saying how much he likes my friend and her hair. He looks at me and asks if I shop here much. I’m thinking really who do you think brings her here, that and we regularly shop here till closing time. It is nothing for us to spend 2 or 3 hours in one store.

Phil, I do wear pretty much what I want, the thing is that I find I’m received and treated better if I’m dressed complete with makeup and all. I have gone out without makeup many times, two come to mind both times I was treated as a woman, first time I was having dinner with my landlady, the other, just a month ago I was by myself. When she first ma’am me, I smiled to let her know it was ok. Both times I was in all woman’s clothes, top, jeans, ankle boots.

Beverley Sims
11-25-2018, 07:20 AM
That is a wonderful compliment to get from someone any time.

Go with the flow and enjoy the moment.

Krisi
11-26-2018, 09:28 AM
I'm afraid to compliment a woman like that. You don't know the mindset of the person you are complicating and some would take it as a pickup line or sexual harassment. It's a shame the world has come to that, but at least in the USA, it has.

Teresa
11-26-2018, 03:33 PM
Jean ,
That's wonderful to receive comments like that . May I ask was it a man or a woman saying it and do you feel OK receiving comments like that from either gender ? I've just seen the reply to Sherry in answer to this question .

I agree with the label statement , in fact I try not to use any label but Teresa , I'm actually getting use to using Terri , if pushes I say I am TG but never say I'm a CDer somehow I don't feel like a CDer anymore . Some of us must get to the point where we don't have any male clothes at all so are we still Cders ?

Clothes are now worn more for practical reasons I have to embrace jeans / trousers I prefer boot cut so I can wear ankle boots or my long boots inside or out with my jeans . I may just wear a sweater dress tomorrow because I'm attending my first appointment to a solicitor to get formallities started on making the separation legal .