Did You Try on Any of HER CLOTHES before She Knew you liked to Crossdress

[Robbiegirl]

I am still deep in the closet with my loving wife and have always worried that if I told her or got caught the subject would come up about me trying on some of her Dresses and Lingerie. We are very close to the same size, so yes in the beginning I did alot of this. I have bought her lots of lingerie over the years as gifts so I am worried this might become an issue.

So what i am asking is at anytime did the fact that you had tried on Her things without asking become an issue ?

Was she upset that she realized the Lingerie you bought her was as more for you than for her ?

Were their specific things she no longer wanted to wear as a result of you wearing them and did she destroy them or give them away

[oh to be rachel]

My wife's clothing is pretty much child sized compared to mine. Not a chance in hell.
On the other hand, I have looked (but not tried) other girlfriends clothing through the years.

[ShelleyTVUK]

Hi

That issue didn't really come up with my Wife. I am slim but much taller and broader than she is so I never tried. I can fit into a UK size 12 skirt so in theory they would fit but dresses are way too small for me. I don't think she would ever suspect I would want to wear her clothes.

If you are planning on telling her that you crossdress then I would start by writing a letter that you can read out to her. That way you can make sure you put in everything you want to say and, more importantly, how you want to say it. I spent a few weeks putting my letter together before telling her. Another advantage of having a letter is that if you start to cry like I did, you can let her finish it. Make sure you read it to her yourself though if you can rather than giving it to her and leaving for work. ;-)

I would be as honest as you can with her. I personally don't think its necessary to divulge every detail if you think is going to blow up out of proportion. I didn't tell my wife I gave myself a name just because I read that sometimes that can be difficult for them to get their head around me having a female name so I just said I didn't have one yet.

I read a lot about peoples experiences and wearing your wife's clothes did seem to cause a lot of problems. It might be better to tell her about your crossdressing first and try and avoid the subject for as long as you can about wearing her clothes if you decide to tell her everything.

Hope that helps and good luck!
Shelley
xx

[docrobbysherry]

No. I never even thot about that!:thumbsdn:

I never would secretly try on a girl friend or wive's clothes! With the countless second hand stores where I live, why would I take a chance of her finding out? :Angry3:

Besides, if I liked the item, I'd want to wear it again!:D

[DIANEF]

In the early days I wore a few of my wife's things but soon decided I would be better off with my own stuff, besides which my style has always been somewhat different to hers. Now I don't even so much as have a spray of her perfume.

[Shayla]

Yes, but that was a secondary issue to the fact that I liked to crossdress.

[Laura28]

Yes I use to. But now have numerous articles if clothing and shoes etc. however she has borrowed my stuff more the a few times.

[dana digs sweaters]

No! Honesty from the start! :love:

My next older sister tho.... :battingeyelashes:

[Rhonda Jean]

She knew all along, so the short answer to your question in the title is no. It's kind of a weird thing, though, that speaks to how difficult this can be to talk about. She freely shared everything with me early on. Despite that, I sometimes still felt the need to not tell her if I dressed when she was not around. If I had asked, or just told her what I was going to wear and where I was going it would have been fine with her. I didn't lie about it, I just didn't offer up information as freely as I should have. I soon had my own clothes and rarely borrowed from her.

The only time I remember her not wearing something she knew I'd worn was many years in. She was going through a phase of really appearing to be accepting and encouraging. We were shopping together and she found a dress that she really liked that was pretty expensive for a "party dress" that she knew she'd only wear a time or two. We were the same size, so she said we could share it to help justify the expense. We'd probably been married for 20 years at that time and this was the only time I can remember that she bought something specifically for us to share. I was ecstatic, of course. I loved the dress and the fact that it was something for both of us to wear made it about 10 times more awesome! A couple of weeks later she hung it over on my side of the closet. When I asked her about it she said, "I don't want it. I thought I could do it and I tried, but I don't want to wear anything that you wear." I told her she should keep it for herself, but she said didn't want it because it was bought for us to share.

She really did try. I could write a book about all the ways and times she tried. Bad as I hate the way things turned out, I have to admit that I get it.

I did wear it. I probably shouldn't have, knowing the story behind it, but I did. I've said on this forum before that I used to allow myself a couple of times a year to wear something out that was too short, too tight, too low cut, too sparkly. This was one of those dresses. Probably at least partially because of all the back story, I was always super excited/nervous/scared when I wore it. I had heels to match that were higher and thinner than I usually wore, too. I told her at least the first time I wore it, and immediately thought I should have kept that to myself.

[Meghan4now]

Admittedly, yes I have, but do not do so after coming out to her. Well once on a while, just a quick look see. And I did appropriate an item or too she was getting rid of.

Of course, she bristles at my sharing hers, and won't wear my girl stuff. But she did appropriate a couple of my girl things, some of my guy things, and has no qualms about borrowing a sweatshirt, jacket, occasional shirt or jacket. And loans me a jacket and a piece of jewelry from time to time. Really depends on intent, mood, alcohol or the phase of the moon.

[Ceera]

Not much, no. Most of my wife’s stuff would not fit me. She was nearly a foot shorter, and a bit smaller in the chest and shoulders, not taking her DD boobs into account. I did try on a few of her bras, but her band size on non sports bras was about 2” too tight for my comfort. I could get them on, but it was not worth wearing. She wore unisex t-shirts and sweatshirts far more often than blouses or full dresses, and the few feminine blouses or dresses she had never would have fit my shoulders. She also had a few elastic waist or knit skirts or knit dresses that I could have worn, and did try on, but most were not to my taste anyway. Never bought anything “for her”, while secretly intending it to sometimes be used by me. Never let my wife know I had tried on any of her clothes. Nothing my daughter wore at the time would have fit me.

For me, the time between when I first started covertly underdressing, and when my wife knew I was preferring to wear silky bikini panties under my male attire, was short - maybe four months. I started underdressing in public (and heavily closeted full dressing when at home and alone) when I was in my 50’s, after my father died. After keeping it totally secret that I was underdressing with panties for several months, I allowed my wife (and soon after that our teen daughter) to see my non-lacy, solid color bikini briefs in our laundry, and I began openly wearing them when I dressed or undressed. Both wife and daughter accepted my explanation that very similar bikini briefs used to be marketed to men in the 70’s, when I was in high school, and were considered sexy and stylish at the time. I said I found them more comfortable now than what I could find in the mens section. Both statements were true, but I did not admit to them that I also had lacy panties and thongs and a small gym bag containing few other types of female clothes, (blouse, skirt, heavily padded bra, shoes, very cheap wig, and even one corset), which I tried on occasionally, and only when they were both out of the house. I was fairly certain that would have lit the fuse on a powder keg! My wife’s reply was along the lines of, “Well... okay... But don’t wear mine.” That was fine with me, as her preferred panties were bland, high-waisted, white cotton briefs. Daughter just shrugged and did not care. Sadly, my wife passed away only a few months later, of a very premature and unexpected heart failure. And it was not until after she was gone that I shaved my beard and started to consider buying more feminine outerwear, real breast forms and a wig that did not come from a Halloween store, and the other stuff needed to go out in public and pass for female.

What is funny is that, after my wife died, I was able to come out fully to my daughter, (18 at the time), and she was 100% accepting - even of me going out in public, or being bisexual and possibly dating men as well as women. And today, with her in her early 20’s, my daughter often borrows my blouses, skirts or even panty hose and tights! We often shop for clothes together, and in several cases my daughter and I have agreed on clothing items we plan to share.

[biancabellelover]

No. Crossdressing was literally a revelation to me when I put on one of my wife’s bras. I told her the next day.

Michelle

[kayegirl]

With my current wife no, she is at least three sizes below me.
But I did wear some of my late wife's clothing. Inevitably she caught me and I was ordered to remove the item, at once. It was a denim skirt but what had most upset her was that she had put on some weight, post child birth, and the skirt was too small for her. Got all my own stuff after that.

[AmandaRaquel]

I wear some of my wife’s clothes. But she knows about it and even suggests some to complement Amanda’s look. Not all
of her clothes fit me but enough do and we played “who wears it better” a few times. I do not take or try her clothes without asking first though. I think that is a bit disrespectful. But I also understand that some gurls here are in DADT relationships or worse.

My advice - try getting your own outfits instead of risking stretching or damaging your SO’s clothes. Unless she knows and approves of you taking her stuff, you are risking damaging the relationship and trust. Plus, sooner or later your SO will likely notice that something is off and her clothes fit her differently. Lol

[Alice B]

I have to admit that I did and she noticed,

[aprilgirl]

No, I didn't. In fact, at the time of getting to know my future wife, and her me, I was taking a break from dressing. I told her about my interests which took her some time to process, and many open discussions afterwards. Ultimately she revamped my wardrobe, and the only time I've worn anything of hers is when she handed it to me.

[Beverley Sims]

I never did because she knew from the outset and I had my own clothes anyway.

[mmandy31]

I went out with a girl my size and she let me wear her lingerie and now I just by my own

[Macey]

I never had a desire to crossdress until early this year. I found a blouse that my wife discarded and wore it while doing some housework (she was at her job). Did that with that blouse off and on for several weeks, I was going to talk it over with my wife, but was spending the time trying to figure it out. THOUGHT I had it tucked away well enough in my dresser, but herself found it and we had a long and meaningful talk. Well, here I am. Here we are. Rest is history.

[Shybrenda]

No I always had my own hidden away, my wife is tall but I am much broader up top. Used to hide my clothes in the back of my closet thinking I was safe but was I? I think deep down I wanted her to find it so there would be no secrets about my dressing. So when she was looking for some extra hangers she found some dresses and slips. Her question to me was who is she. I had been married 36 years at that point so when I told her it was me I thought that was the end of a great marrage. To my surprise after a week of conversations she has become my biggest supporter ( now married 39 years and going strong).

[beckypanties]

No, I've never worn any of my wife's clothes except for the time that I briefly tried on a pair of her panties that she handed to me to try. That's when we found out that we wore the same size, and it was the day that I officially switched to wearing panties full time.

Now I did try on a few of my ex-wife's things, but she was considerably larger than me and none of her things came close to fitting properly.

[Michelle Vinova]

Yes, I have and sometimes still do!

When I came out to my wife that was one question she never asked because I think she knew the answer anyway and didn’t want to hear it out loud. She would be possessive of her things, I know, but the dresses! (Insert Pink Fog here)

Although she is more petite than me, my stash is partly built ona few items that she had in a give away bag that fit me.

That being said, I’m pretty happy with my own things these days and don’t need to try on her things (again). The only time I do now is when she’s bought a lot of new items and they are in the “maybe I’ll keep, maybe return” pile. At that point I don’t really view them as ‘hers’ yet. (insert pink fog here)

[Mermaiden]

Yes, I have done that and not told her as I don’t think she’d like it. I feel bad about it as it seems dishonest. I have a rule of thumb that anything I can’t tell me wife, I shouldn’t be doing. It’s a good rule but not perfect. .on the other hand, she has given me panties that don’t fit her.

[ramilove]

Yes and not anymore, we have established ground rules I am putting together my own wardrobe. Sue is not exactly on board but understanding, we do talk and she is very respectful in allowing me the space I need.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Did You Try on Any of HER CLOTHES before She Knew you liked to Crossdress?

Umm, if I told you I would have to shoot you.

As for your other questions, she doesn't know, or at least pretends that she doesn't know.

When we first got married, we were about the same size. She expanded into larger sizes and I didn't.

I don't "dress and tell."

[Pumped]

Not gonna happen! She is a XS and I am a L/XL, XXL on top if I add boobs!

[HollyGreene]

My wife's things are too small for me, except her panties, but her choice in that department is not for me.
My first wife and I were closer in size. She often wore some of my panties "by mistake", so I did the same with her's.
As for other clothes, I did occasionally wear some of those without her knowledge, but they were only the things that she never wore any longer.
I would never have worn any of her current clothes without her permission.

[Alyssa Lane]

Well my wife has pretty much stolen some of my stuff, like sweaters and shirts, so yes she is the same size almost, she is just slightly smaller but not by much, maybe 1”
And yes in the beginning i have, she was about to get rid of a couple dresses and I liked them along with a shirt I’m actually wearing now.298940

[Maria_mtf]

I did exactly what you said, tried on many of her dresses and underwear. When I told her she hated it and the first rule was do not do it again.

Buying her underwear she did accuse me of buying stuf for myself, which she didnt like, but it wasnt true.

Depends on the person as to how they will react, and even though I am guilty myself there is no excuse for wearing her stuff without permission. Pink fog seems to override rational behaviour and makes us selfish (does to me anyway).

[Linda E. Woodworth]

Yes, in the beginning I wore some of my wife clothes. She still complains about me stretching out a pair of heels she had many many years ago.

Now I have my own clothes and rarely try on her stuff. She's forbidden me from touch certain dresses since I may stretch them out of shape. I'm somewhat larger than my wife.

I've always had my own lingerie and never bought my wife things hoping I could wear it.

[Stacy Darling]

My wife wears black! the only black I wear is on my face! Her clothes could never reach my colour standard!
Stacy!

[Rachelish]

During the cold snap* of November/December 2010 my wife lent me a pair of her tights, which I enjoyed far too much :) and may well have set an unstoppable (pink) force in motion. I'll admit I did try on a few of her things after that before starting my own 'wardrobe' (a.k.a. bin bag in roof) but it never felt right. It did, however, help work out what sizes were likely to fit me. She has some dresses which I love (and fit me) but would never be able to find to buy now. I also view bags of clothes ready to go to charity as fair game so will be keeping an eye out :waiting:

(* We had temps down to -18C and didn't get above freezing for 2-3 weeks, which is rare even for the NE of the UK. I appreciate this may seem quite balmy for some other locations.)

[Krisi]

Yes, I tried on (and wore) my wife's clothes before she knew I liked to crossdress. I paid for them, why should I not wear them?

[Asew]

First off, I love Krisi's response about we bought them so we should be able to wear them :)

Before my wife knew I did wear a few of her things. Then when she tried to donate clothes she didn't want, I would go through her donations and take a few of the things I liked and would put them in with her clothes in totes for other seasons (that way if they were found I could just say that I liked them on her and didn't want her to donate them). I would wear these items the most since they almost felt like mine since she didn't want them anymore. She tried to get rid of my favorite jean skirt 3 times and never caught on until I told her about my dressing last January and revealed I did this.

After I told her she said I could wear anything of hers unless it was special for some reason (so about 2% of her wardrobe was off limits). She was mad that I tried on her wedding dress (didn't fit well anyways). She bought us a petticoat to share though she has never worn it (not really her thing anyways). But now that I am out to here I prefer to stick to my new wardrobe anyways :)

And I still go through her donations (and the mother-in-laws, but she is losing weight and her old clothes are too big for both us but make free good material for my skirt sewing hobby).

[Stephanie47]

When my wife and I were first married she was petite; a 34B. She is five foot two, although she will argue for an extra inch. I am six foot which is down from six foot one. I'll argue for an extra half inch. I wore a 42 Tall suit jacket. The size difference made it impossible. However, being a newly married guy and not knowing anything about lingerie I bought her a white peignoir gown. It swam on her. One night when I went for a glass of water in the kitchen I slipped into the nylon gown because I loved (still do) nylon. She awoke and found me standing there in her gown. Wha? I told her the truth that I loved the feel of the nylon. She knew nothing of men who liked to wear women's clothing. It started a period of bedroom kinky sex; nylon gowns and hosiery. It had benefits for her. Call it fetish sex. Anyway, when things progressed on my part and she became knowledgeable about cross dressing or at least was confused about my desires, she shut down on the idea. I will admit I tried to get her at least to buy me nylon panties. I suppose in retrospect it was a ploy to try to get her to accept me as a way for me to accept myself. One birthday for myself I convinced her to go to Mervyn's with me and buy panties. She shook like a leaf in a windstorm. I realized then it was spousal abuse to try to compel her to do something she did not agree with. It all led to cross dressing to be a private affair. She did encourage me to find a support group for an outlet, but, in the early 1980's there were none in our area.

Last year she was cleaning out the back of her side of the closet and was donating all those lovely gowns she wore when she was petite. In the pile was the white peignoir I had bought her. She casually said I should take anything I wanted. She knew I would never fit into anything other than the white gown. I did keep it and freshened it up. It is now in my armoire.

[Nikki A.]

I told my wife before we got married so I guess the point is moot. I did ask before wearing anything of hers and she did hand me down some items that she didn't want. We were both pretty close in size, so if she bought something and she decided that she didn't like it, I had first dibbs before she returned it. Then again there were things that I bought for my self.

[Devi SM]

Wife didn't have any of those reactions you mention. At the beginning I had just lingerie and sexy stuff that was impossible to go out, except for clubbing so I mainly tried her stuff. Then once she saw me wearing one if her pants told me that I could stretch out and tear of because my butt is bigger than hers but she has the hips and thicker tight so then she saw me in her dresses and tops and was no complain. After a while we could go to shopping and I could choose things for me and she try them knowing are buying for me or sometimes for both. Other times I buy stuff for me and she likes them and we share, so now our closet has more variety because she was too traditional and I add some younger, fresh taste.
Only complain was a couple of times i stain with make up a top. She almost doesn't wear make up.

[Judy-Somthing]

My wife is a lot smaller than me so I could never try anything on but, when I got busted about my cross-dressing secret two years ago by leaving my sz 13 pumps out she freaked.

She asked if I wore about and I said I used hers, ever since then she hides it away every day, she was not happy about it.

The truth is, I had my own make up but if I told her she would have made me throw it out. You know how expensive makeup is.

[connie johnson]

I have been dressing since I was a teen. Never had anything of my own until I was married 10 years. Before my wife knew, I would wear some of her things. We're close to the same size so it all worked out for me. I used to buy her lingerie and she would hardly ever wear it for me. One day we were kinda arguing about her not wearing the lingerie. I went and put some on and said if you're not going to wear it then I will. She liked it. Though it was fun. That's when I told her I liked to dress up. I told her I would wear her things when I was home alone and she didn't get mad. Since then I have gotten many things on my own. She helps me shop sometimes and we pick things out. I had bought myself a nice dres one time and then she saw it she claimed it for her's. No problem. We now occasionally still trade some things because we're still close to the same size. Recently we went to JC penny's and we bought four dresses for me. She really likes one of them and borrows it from me to wear to her work. I've tried to put it on her side of the closet for her but she keeps putting it on my side. She told me she will wear it when she want but it's mine. She will also buy shoes for me. I'm only about a half size larger so when we shop and I have her try the ones I like on and she picks a pair that are a little loose for her. She's great. I love her so much. 💁🏻

[stephNE]

No, she knew first. I met my wife in 1979, and on about our third date she asked me what I want to do.
I decided that I should find out if she was going to accept my dressing, so I asked if I could try on some of her things. She said yes, picked out a couple things, and helped me get dressed up. Now almost 40 years later, she is still my wife.

[DaisyLawrence]

That's the way to do it Steph :) Watch and learn people, watch and learn.

[deebra]

For all the No's come on now, when you were curious about what it felt like to wear sexy girl underwear and she was away and her bras and panties were right there, you didn't try them on and put them back for here not to notice? Hey Pinocchio your nose is starting to grow.

[Maria in heels]

I never tried on my wife's clothing, as she was never a "girly girl" and her profession kind of dictated that she only wore pants and tops ... never dresses, and every party function was always an issue because she had "nothing to wear". But I came with my own wardrobe of lingerie and dresses, so there wasn't a need to "borrow" from her. Now, on the other hand, we are much older now, and after children, she has started borrowing several of my dresses that are stretch form fitting and they work well on her, so she now wears my dresses exclusively !

[Gillian Gigs]

Yes, I did wear my wife's clothes before I came out to her. She was bigger in the bottom than me, so I would wear undies that she didn't wear as they were too small for her. She had some old stretched bras that I would wear also. She was and is still bit of a clothes packrat and that helped me stay below the radar. Now all of my CD clothes are mine, she helps me shop when I want, or ask for any help. I spend more money than her on lingerie, own more skirts, and between the two of us wear any hosiery 99% more often.

[Vicky Peters]

Yes, when I was deep in the closet, I tried on her cloths for sizing purposes. Now since the door has been open, I shop for myself.

[Brocdol]

Yes i have tried her clothes on. We are not the same size in dresses as im taller broader shoulders. Before i came clean to her. It didnt come up when i told her i like dressing i think she had an idea though. I dont any more i have plenty of my own now.

[Veronica Lacey]

Hi Robbiegirl…

My wife - then girlfriend - knew of my dressing desires about 3 months after we began dating so no chance for me to wear anything of hers. I had my own small wardrobe at home and that was enough.

Indeed, my desires to dress would propel me to gladly shop for various clothing gifts for my wife but also shop for myself along the way. Yes, we were similar size so it was easy to buy multiple items with the internal monologue of "2 for her, 1 for me" kind of deal. I certainly loved to find her lingerie, blouses, skirts and the rare dress or two and did ok with sizing, styles and colours. (I purchased so much over a 3 years span from a particular local lingerie store that I became a preferred customer.) All said, however, the lingerie I picked for her was only for her and not for me to borrow. I had my own.

Where this actually backfired one day is when my wife somehow stumbled on a skirt I had stashed away. It was the same skirt and size that I had purchased for her a couple years prior but in a different colour, something for me to wear. That's when she felt a bit hurt and made the quiet accusation/assumption that I only purchased for her because it allowed me to shop for myself or wear her things. She asked how many other things of hers did I duplicate (there were actually no others but that was not the point.) After that moment it seemed that she ceased to wear a few things as she simply felt that I was wearing the same and that was not a good feeling for her. I guess it just makes her think of me wearing them instead and that's something she just does not want to think about. Ultimately it did not matter that I would purchase things for her to wear exclusively - not for me to give to her and secretly borrow - and while it is not a major issue it did have a negative impact but we worked through it. She simply boxed up the items and has not touched them since (to my knowledge.) I donated my version of the skirt shortly afterwards.

Maybe we could compare it to a somebody who likes to go places and do things with you largely or entirely because they really just like to be seen in your cool car or because you even let them drive it on occasion. Fun if you don't catch on, a bit hurtful if you learn the truth. However, I suppose it's quite possible that somebody would be offended and deeply hurt. After all, you're borrowing without permission.

I have always shared the truth with her when she wanted to know something. We then had a healthy opportunity to discuss and move forward. Not always comfortable but better than the alternatives. I hope that you can find ways to eventually share all that you wish to with you wife.

[Patience]

Yes.5678

[jacques]

Hello Robbiegirl,
yes I did try on some of my wife's clothes when she was away once. She probably does not know that; but it made me realise that I had to but my own clothes.
luv J

[Alice B]

I told her that I wanted to try dressing at the get go. I did try some of her things on after that and she instantly knew. She did give me a few things she was getting rid of, but has never bought me any clothing, except for some ear tings.

[Angela Marie]

I told my wife shortly after we started dating so secrecy was never an issue. She is shorter than me, about 5ft 2, but i'm small for a guy so some of her tops work for me. She has no problem with me wearing them. When she was throwing out some of her bras she told me I could take any ones I wanted

[JaclynL61]

I don't really recall if it was before, during or after. But her response was "get your own".

[HollyGreene]

I don't wear my wife's clothes.
Many years ago I wore a girlfriend's clothes, but only with her permission, except for one time.
The first time we slept together, she was wearing a bra and panties, which she slipped off later. The panties ended up at the foot of the bed, and during the throes of passion, ended up around my ankle. In the morning, I pulled them on, and I wore them for the rest of that day, without her knowledge. In the evening, I washed and dried them and the next day when I was back at her place, I put them in her panty drawer.
They were pale pink, cotton panties, and I've had a thing about pink cotton panties ever since.

[alwayshave]

Yes. Though we were no were near in size, I tried on a nightgown of hers that I loved. Was able to shimmy into it. That is the only time.

[Robbiegirl]

Jamie, great Point ! I am rally shocked more guys have not admited to trying on some of the pretty nighties our wives owned and hardly ever wore. Most had lots of stretch so they were easy to wiggle into . Loved them

[DianaPrince]

I wore my wife’s panties before I figured out I was cross dressing. As soon as I understood it, I got my own stuff.

[wendy]

I am ashamed to say yes. At the beginning I didn't have the guts to tell her that I love to CD, so when she was away I would try on some of her stuff - helps that we are roughly the same size. What I didn't know was she was already suspecting something, because I had stretched some of her clothing. She only told me that after I told her about Wendy's persona.

After I did tell her I stopped trying on any of her stuff and just bought my own.