Wearing heels in public in guy mode

[leonal123]

lately I have started wearing heels in public in less crowded places, coffee shops etc. It's scary at times.. lot of guys just give a look.. Girls see with disgust.. but 70% of the crowd has neutral reaction. I was wondering if others wear heels in public as well and love that thrill..

[Adriana]

Hello Leonal,
I wear heels driving and even while pumping gas...what a rush, but havent gotten the gull to wear them out and about. My hats off to you for going out! Not an easy task, as my only experience is with wearing sandals and having bright blue toenails in the general population.
Br,
Adriana

[BeachGirl]

Yes! I have... gone into boutique lingerie shops; bikini shops. Parking close and walking in. Get some looks but once inside, the SA gets involved, some questions but a thrill for sure

[Shely]

In guy mode, really! Can't see the point in drawing that kind of attention, unless you are looking for rejection.

[Maria in heels]

Well Leona...I have been doing this, going shopping and to the movies. I've only gotten a couple of stares and I am learning not to worry about them. Its not about them, its about me only and as the time is going on, I am getting more and more comfortable just being normal in my heels. I also walk the doggie around the neighborhood both in the day and night....starting to wear heels during the day as well .... yesterday I walked the doggie wearing my Gucci brown stiletto pumps

[Beverley Sims]

I wear heels a lot in public, no one notices because I have a nice fgure when wearing a dress and my hair is all done.

Otherwise, what's the point?

The only heels I had were a pair of riding boots with spurs I wore at a rodeo once.

[Mgreenva]

I do it all the time almost daily. I have had 1 poor reaction but many great reactions. I once had a lady run across a parking lot to tell me that she thought it was great then walked another 50 yards for another lady to tell me she wasn’t going to say anything but since the other lady stopped me she thought my Nine West heels looked great and that I walked better in them than most women. We chatted for a while. I’ve come to realize I really don’t care what some one thinks. I like it so I do it.

[Helen_Highwater]

Leonal,

Can I ask, do you go out fully enfemme at any time and if not is it your intention to do so?

[Crissy 107]

I’ve got a good friend who wears heels all day everyday as it is a big help to his back pain and he does not hesitate to mention that to anyone or everyone. Now if I could only get him to join up here he could post to these types of threads.

[Pierre]

I do it as soon as I can. In the streets,travelling. Airports are a really easy place for that. No one cares. And the floor is perfect.
I generally wear 14/15cm Cuban Oxford.Hidden with flare jeans or very visible with skinny.
Once I wore 14 cm stilettos Oxford. No trouble.
The other outfits are totally masculine.
I great match. Love it!

[deebra]

I wore pumps and boots with 3" heels in guy mood in the mall, 20 something women laughed and made fun. Older women like when I wore them in Payless complimented me on how well I walked and saw nothing wrong. Those same sick 20's would wear guy work boots, jeans, flannel shirts, etc. and that would be O.K. As I said, a sick bunch.

[Wildaboutheels]

Scary? For what reason? THE biggest enemy of MOST CDers is the person in the nearest mirror. Proof of this can be seen month after month, year after year in all types of threads. ALL types of CDers reaching the same conclusion.

1)Wear what you want/"present" how you want.

2) Treat people right.

3)"Own it". Translated, don't slink around like you just robbed a bank.

Very simple formula. Ample proof is available in the P&V gallery. Humans wearing what THEY want to, wherever they want to.

[Jennifer_Ph]

It's just shoes, wear what you like to wear.

[Krisi]

Whatever floats your boat. It's not something I would do.

[Rhonda Jean]

In guy mode, really! Can't see the point in drawing that kind of attention, unless you are looking for rejection.

Oh, come now Shely. I don't know that anybody has ever exactly assessed "the point" in any of this that we do. I do it. I'm aware that heels in male mode makes me subset of an already small minority, but that's OK. I've never had a female look at me with disgust (as the OP has). I probably don't look for reactions as thoroughly as the OP does, just because I've been at this for so long. In the simplest terms, I like high heels, I don't always feel like doing the whole girl thing, and sometimes I specifically want to wear heels in male mode for because it's just fun!

Over decades and decades of going out in public beginning as a young girl and now an "older" woman, it's just not as fun/fulfilling/exciting/rewarding as it used to be. Sometimes it's just not worth all the preparation. I can slip on a pair of heels, boot cut jeans if I want to hide them a little, skinny jeans if I don't, run a few errands or whatever and come back feeling good! I don't know why, and frankly I don't know why more guys don't wear high heels. Not everything has to be so serious, or have a good and logical explanation.

[Jennifer_Ph]

Very well said, Rhonda Jean!

[Krisi]

………….. and frankly I don't know why more guys don't wear high heels.

Why would they? To look taller? Except for cowboy boots (worn by actual cowboys), high heels serve no useful purpose. A man wearing high heeled women's shoes in public will call attention to himself. Not good attention either.

I posted above "whatever floats your boat", meaning you can do what you want to do. The problem for most of us is that people will think there's something mentally wrong with us. Those of us with jobs or families need to keep this in mind.

[AmyVanessa]

I do that sometimes, go to the mall or Walmart wearing heels, usually my 2-inch black or beige pumps with jeans. I have some fun with that

[Pierre]

Oh, come now Shely. I don't know that anybody has ever exactly assessed "the point" in any of this that we do. I do it. I'm aware that heels in male mode makes me subset of an already small minority, but that's OK. I've never had a female look at me with disgust (as the OP has). I probably don't look for reactions as thoroughly as the OP does, just because I've been at this for so long. In the simplest terms, I like high heels, I don't always feel like doing the whole girl thing, and sometimes I specifically want to wear heels in male mode for because it's just fun!

Over decades and decades of going out in public beginning as a young girl and now an "older" woman, it's just not as fun/fulfilling/exciting/rewarding as it used to be. Sometimes it's just not worth all the preparation. I can slip on a pair of heels, boot cut jeans if I want to hide them a little, skinny jeans if I don't, run a few errands or whatever and come back feeling good! I don't know why, and frankly I don't know why more guys don't wear high heels. Not everything has to be so serious, or have a good and logical explanation.

Totally right. I am 100% ok with you!!

[Asew]

I did this for the first time yesterday. Usually when I go to work I wear a skirt and heels with otherwise male mode. Yesterday I had to drop my kid off at school on the way to work so I had the skirt and heels packed and changed into the heels after dropping the kid off at school and went into work with pants and heels. Didn't want to change into the skirt on the road so waited till I got to my office before changing into the skirt.

Though if I could only pick one thing, I would pick a skirt over heels in otherwise guy mode every time.

[missjoann49]

I only wear them fully dressed of which is most of the time, never in guy mode

[abbiedrake]

I've not worn heels out in guy mode but I've definitely and happily worn (clearly) women's summer lace up pumps (pink ribbons instead of laces too).
Never had a comment. Despite the tweed waistcoat, herringbone overcoat, and lipstick.
Eclectic? Meh. I've had my head kicked in for less. So if I'm enjoying it, who cares?
I like the SHOES. No matter the perceived gender. Is this 2018?
I dislike the undercurrent of judgement here that maybe OP is a fetistist because it's just the heels and guy mode.
Is this a place where crossdressing is only ok if passing fully is the bar?
Thought not... OP... Enjoy your shoes. In fact I reckon I have the perfect Joe Browns to go with my overcoat. 👍
(Ok, not 'perfect' the shoes are houndstooth but the colour combo? Yeah. Pretty good)

[Rhonda Jean]

Abbiedrake,

I think you're lace-up pumps qualify as heels.

Don't be too put off by the "undercurrent". I'm glad we're not all exactly alike, and we ought to be able to express disagreement. I've been dismayed by any number of things on here, and I'm sure that others are equally dismayed at times by me. Doing what we do, we can't shy away from that. We can disagree pretty vigorously and still be friends! There's really quite a sisterhood here. Whatever our differences, we all had a boyhood of one stripe or another, and we've all worn dresses. Gives us an uncommon commonality.

[abbiedrake]

Oh Rhonda it's all good.
To clarify when I said 'pumps' call it Britishese. They're feminine sneakers, not ladies slip on pumps.
If I put regular laces in they'd be even less worthy of notice. They came with the ribbons, I like the ribbons.
Your point was that, for the sake of argument, they're obviously women's shoes, right?
But I digress. I couldn't agree with the rest of your sentiments more. Leona asked a question which was pretty closed frankly. Yes or no. I was taken aback a little by the occasional 'whys', I guess.
I don't get a thrill out of those shoes because they're women's. I get a thrill out of those shoes. Same as I still do with my Nike Air Tech Challenge IIs. But maybe that's cos they're in the Hot Lava colorway. Maybe I just like pink. 😇
Acceptance. Surely. That's why we're all here. Right?

[Tracii G]

Pics or it didn't happen.lol
You never said what kind of heels you were wearing in guy mode 3 in heeled boots don't count because cowboy boots fill that category.

[leonal123]

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Well, I wore these today at gas station.. Will take pic outside and share..

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299151 So I like Tony Grahams look and would love to go for it minus make up.. I dont wanna come out but I like the look on the faces of men and women when they see me in heels :)

[Andrea2656]

They look great. However, not something I would do in guy mode.

[Tracii G]

I find it funny how you say you don't want to "come out" yet you do things to make people wonder. Why is that?
Maybe its a way you can convey to others you are a CD without actually saying it.
I really have a hard time understanding why people do things just for the shock value.
Its your thing so enjoy what you do I don't need to understand it I guess.

[AmyVanessa]

Those are beautiful shoes. I really like them

[Jennifer in CO]

Well, since I don't own any "guy" shoes, every time I step out the door I'm wearing womens (aka - mine) shoes. Ok, so I'm not usually flaunting that they are womens. In fact, they are chosen because they look fairly androgynous. For years I wore Payless "Believe" loafers. When they dropped the style, I had to switch to something else which is now their "Kelly" slip resistant loafer. My calf boots do have a 2" heel and I wear them a great deal, especially in the winter. Same for my "booties" although I usually stick with block heels. Do I sometimes "push" the envelope? Heck yeah. Sometimes I will wear my patent-trimmed Mary Janes. Or my double side zip loafers. I have only two pair of sandals, a pair of black gladiators and a black pair of platform wedge's (Ryans).
Now I will add, I wear and have worn girls/womens shoes for over 50 years. I have a VERY narrow foot (AAA) and a high arch so finding boys/mens shoes was both a problem and expensive when I was growing up. When I was 8, I was being fitted for shoes and the lady fitting me stopped after the 3rd or 4th pair and said (something like) lets try something. She came back with a pair of shoes, I put them on and they fit perfectly. They were girls penny loafers. At a bunch less than my regular shoes. Now Mom didn't tell me they were girls, I would find out several years later when I found the exact same pair of shoes I was wearing at the time in my (girl) Cousins closet.
So, your going to wear heels? Well, enjoy them. I do know (I watch) people (especially women) look at your shoes. If they are remotely feminine you get "the look". Now that may be a "I know what your wearing" look, or the "I like what your wearing look". But they notice. I very rarely get a look for any of my loafers or tennis shoes. The boots will on occasion catch a look, the booties less often. The gladiators so far I haven't seen anyone care. The platforms? well, I haven't worn them with anything but too-long jeans yet and if your just standing they really aren't that noticeable (mostly covered). But start walking or sit down and they have red blaring beacons with large arrows pointing at them. Them you just have to own the moment.
Enjoy!

[leonal123]

I find it funny how you say you don't want to "come out" yet you do things to make people wonder. Why is that?
Maybe its a way you can convey to others you are a CD without actually saying it.
I really have a hard time understanding why people do things just for the shock value.
Its your thing so enjoy what you do I don't need to understand it I guess.

Haha.. I donno.. I am a good looking guy but I guess I get a kick when I see women looking at me from dating perspective but then see that I am wearing heels.. but then they initiate small talk with me, I like that part :) I like being seen as a sissy by people.. But i do it discretely.. Like when i m visiting a different town or place. not in my neighborhood.. One time I went to see a place for rent and wore heels.. When the girls asked me about it, I told them that I am a sissy.. They loved it, giggled and told me that I am not allowed to wear guy clothes if I am at home.. I chickened out in the end and didnt take that place.. But i really liked being treated that way...
At the same time, i feel strangely comfortable in women's clothing, more confident and free...

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They look great. However, not something I would do in guy mode.

Trust me, I talked to guys wearing heels, I had absolutely normal conversations.. :) But i have also come across as freaks.. one guy literally rubbed his guy part against me in the queue at gas station counter..

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Leonal,

Can I ask, do you go out fully enfemme at any time and if not is it your intention to do so?

I do want to ubut I dont want to go all the way.. I want to let the women know that i am a man who is dressed up..I haev opened up to a couple of my gal pals and they tell me all their personal experience, like the guy they dated and what they did in bed etc.. They dont treat me like they treat normal guy friend anymore...

[JenniferMBlack]

I dont know why some here are so against others wearing things but I have done pretty much all of it. Skirts, a dress, heels, bra with and without forms all otherwise presenting as Male. It is even more fun to do multiples like a skirt and heels ( which are my 2 favorite things) but be plainly a guy. I dont do it for shock but because I am wearing what I want. I'm surprised you haven't gotten hell for wanting to be a sissy.

[Pumped]

I have a few pairs of boots with heels ranging from 2-1/2" to almost 4", block heels. Some look like "granny" boots, some look like western boots. I wear them any where, even to work. The higher heel gives them away if one was to really look at them. I don't wear stiletto heel pumps in public, I can not walk that good in them to not draw attention.

There is a high heel group or two on the 'net. I belong to one. There are guys there that don't dress, but wear every sort of women's shoes in public imaginable. One guy wears thigh high boots with stiletto heels to work regularly. Guys will post picks wearing shorts in the summer with cork wedges and sandals. One guy will crossdress and wear skirts and heels, totally on male mode. Neck up, all male, neck down, at first glance, flat chested female. I have seen several pictures of him I have to admit, he looks damn good. We have at least one guy here that wears heels in a sort of male mode with skirts. Waist up, male, waist down female, and he carries it well.

[Mgreenva]

I wore a pair of nude 4 inch heel Nine West pumps in a convenience store today and the clerk noticed and told me she loved my shoes. I said thank you and we continued our conversation. I don’t wear them for anyone other than myself. I like them and if you do that’s great if you don’t I don’t care. I’m about pleasing myself not anyone else

[Pierre]

I have a few pairs of boots with heels ranging from 2-1/2" to almost 4", block heels. Some look like "granny" boots, some look like western boots. I wear them any where, even to work. The higher heel gives them away if one was to really look at them. I don't wear stiletto heel pumps in public, I can not walk that good in them to not draw attention.

There is a high heel group or two on the 'net. I belong to one. There are guys there that don't dress, but wear every sort of women's shoes in public imaginable. One guy wears thigh high boots with stiletto heels to work regularly. Guys will post picks wearing shorts in the summer with cork wedges and sandals. One guy will crossdress and wear skirts and heels, totally on male mode. Neck up, all male, neck down, at first glance, flat chested female. I have seen several pictures of him I have to admit, he looks damn good. We have at least one guy here that wears heels in a sort of male mode with skirts. Waist up, male, waist down female, and he carries it well.
Hello
Are you talking of hhplace? Or hh4men ? Which are run together
I am a great addict to hh. And a member of that site.

[Michelle Crossfire]

i'm intrigued to say the least.

[Crissy 107]

Pierre and Pumped, The friend I mentioned in post #9 is also a member at HHPlace and you would know him for sure.

[Judy-Somthing]

About six months ago I saw a guy at a coffee shop come out of the mens bathroom wearing high heel boots and a knee length black skirt.
It made me feel good all day, you know that feeling when you feel your not the only crazy person.

[Pierre]

Ok. Not surprising!

[Krisi]

I dont know why some here are so against others wearing things but I have done pretty much all of it. Skirts, a dress, heels, bra with and without forms all otherwise presenting as Male. It is even more fun to do multiples like a skirt and heels ( which are my 2 favorite things) but be plainly a guy. I dont do it for shock but because I am wearing what I want. I'm surprised you haven't gotten hell for wanting to be a sissy.

I don't think people here are against wearing female clothing or shoes while still appearing as a male, you are free do wear whatever is legal in your community. I think people are just warning you that the public doesn't accept men wearing skirts, women's heels, etc.. Sure, you may not get called out in pubic but that doesn't mean you're being accepted. People are laughing to themselves and wondering what's wrong with you.

Travel a couple hundred miles from home and do this and you're probably OK. Do it in your hometown and you will hurt your family and your career.

BTW: Deep down, you are doing this for shock or to get attention.

[Pumped]

Hello
Are you talking of hhplace? Or hh4men ? Which are run together
I am a great addict to hh. And a member of that site.

Yes to HHPlace!

[pob]

BTW: Deep down, you are doing this for shock or to get attention.

Had to chime in here.

I have no desire to present as female but I love my heels and skirts. I only ever dress “50/50” and I think that I look pretty nice, I understand that if I was to go out most people would not agree, so that feeling is just for me.

If I will ever be brave enough to go out dressed it will emphatically NOT be for shock value or attention, it will be in spite of it.

[Misty_cder]

I haven't worn high heels in public while in guy mode (never been outside in female mode). I have worn low heel women's shoes while in guy mode many times. I wear boots under jeans very often and also have two dress shoe (black and brown) that I wear while dressed in typical business casual clothing. My wife helped pick these shoes for me. If she left they passed as men's shoes, then she had no problems with me wearing them outside.

[Diane Smith]

I often wear heels while doing errands and shopping around town. Never at work or when in the company of my male social groups, though. Most are 4" to 4-1/2" spikes with pointy toes. Boots, either knee high or ankle length, have become my favorites lately, although I have all kinds of styles and colors. Except in the friendly environment of my hair and nail salons, no one has ever commented on them. Extra long pants can help disguise them, although I don't always bother.

I don't do this to flaunt my TG status or make any kind of statement. It's mainly so I can break in my shoes and get more experience walking moderate distances on "real life" surfaces outdoors. As everybody who has tried it knows, this is physically much more challenging than just wearing heels around the house. Arthritis and a couple of other chronic medical conditions limit my ability to exercise and achieve flexible and graceful movements anyway, and I need all the practice I can get to keep my feet and ankles in shape for my "real" femme mode outings. I try to wear heels a minimum of a couple of hours each day just to keep up this exercise routine. Plus, they look and sound cool!

I've never been challenged about this and have been able to grow more relaxed about it over time. If you're nervous about it, start with lower block or wedge heels and a long pair of pants to help cover them. With experience, work up to higher and thinner heels and pointier toes. I'm sure I'm known behind my back as "that weird guy with the heels and long nails" in a number of the places I visit regularly, but I've always been treated respectfully, and have a lot of fun doing it.

- Diane

[Billie R]

I wear all type of shoes in guy mode. Heels, wedges, flats. Never really get a negative comment. I have bought only women shoes for a long time. I can’t remember the last time I bought male shoes. Male shoes are boring.

[JenniferMBlack]

I don't think people here are against wearing female clothing or shoes while still appearing as a male, you are free do wear whatever is legal in your community. I think people are just warning you that the public doesn't accept men wearing skirts, women's heels, etc.. Sure, you may not get called out in pubic but that doesn't mean you're being accepted. People are laughing to themselves and wondering what's wrong with you.

Travel a couple hundred miles from home and do this and you're probably OK. Do it in your hometown and you will hurt your family and your career.

BTW: Deep down, you are doing this for shock or to get attention.

I know my career is safe hell I'm not even allowed to quit, and my family knows so neither of those is a problem. I am who and or what I am and do what I like and refuse to hide in my home to do it. As to what is wrong with me as far as the "normal public goes" there isnt enough time to run through the list.

[skirt_guy]

I routinely wear women’s boots and booties with my Old Navy Flirt jeans in guy mode. One pair of mid calf side zip boots has a clearly feminine 3 inch heel. A SA in target made a point of sitting on the floor and pretending to do something on the bottom shelf so she could see my heel under my jeans. I just grinned. I love the way it feels to walk in them. For me it’s just the next step in not giving a shit about what others think. I had on my flirts and booties the other day and watched a women’s eyes go straight from booties to my face. I just smiled and kept walking. My wife recently went walking around an outdoor shopping center with me completely dressed. She just kept telling me to own it, have fun and don’t worry about someone I will never see again. Easier said than done but I’m doing it and it’s getting easier each time so my advice to anyone is that if you want to wear somet then own it and don’t worry about it. If you can’t do that, wait til you can so you don’t slink around as mentioned earlier.

[Pierre]

That's great! Have fun

[Crissy 107]

Skirt_guy, I say good for you and that you are an amazing member here with some very good advice.

[leonal123]

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I am thinking about wearing these shoes in public in guy mode.. You think people will notice it?

[Andrea Renea]

I saw a guy waiting last night at the nail salon at the mall. He was dressed like a guy except for his
shoes . They were definitely female booties. Probably 2-1/2 to 3 inch heel.

[suzanne]

I have at times. Heels are awesome and look good on guys, too!

[Pierre]

Yes,some will. Because the way you walk will be different

[Karmen]

I sometimes wear heels in guy mode in combination with long pants which cover heels while standing still. But I still don't wear high heel pumps or sandals or anything too obviously feminine, only ankle boots with fat heels. In the past I wore boots with higher heels a few times, but it was too noticeable and I don't want to push my luck any more.

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[Wildaboutheels]

Shame, shame, shame on you guys. That's just plain wronggggggg.

At least according to some here.

[Patience]

I couldn’t do that. I'd rather be out fully dressed. Otherwise, it would feel like a missed opportunity.

Still, you do you.