Weddings

[jenn]

Hey all,
I was sitting at my table at a wedding this weekend observing all of the beautifule women in various dresses, skirts, on other assorted outfits. It was a casual wedding so it went from semi formal to downright sat afternoon in the backyard casual. Most of thr women however were well dressed....

Anyway to my point I found myself very jelous of these women in what they were wearing. Even one of the bridesmaids had changed into uggs for comfort about halfway through.

Has anyone found themselves in a similar situation.

Thank you!
Jenn

[Teresa]

Jenn,
I've told this story many times before but as a professional photographer for thirty years I went through these emations almost continually . Maybe I should add it to the bucket list thread but I never wanted to be the bride but always wanted to join the bridesmaids . Their dresses were easier to wear , came in some lovely colours and they always had the most fun at weddings .

The big bonus for me was I got to handle the dresses hundreds if not thousands of time over the years and occasionally got to wear them when they were left at my studio .

On one occasion a guest asked me to pose with the lineup of bridesmaids , I stood in the middle and had my arms tight round the girls either side and they did the same , I really did feel like one of the girls even if I was wearing a male suit . OK I admit I did photoshop that image afterwards and did become one of them !

In case you're wondering I never tired of feeling as I did , was I jealous ? Not really because it happened so many times .

[Elizabeth G]

I feel that way every time I go to a wedding or some such event where more formal dress is the norm.

[Tracy Irving]

Nothing wrong with wishing you were wearing what they are. It can happen at the mall, a park or anywhere else women go.

[Dawn P]

My wife and I own a bartending company. We bartend a lot of weddings. My wife will catch me looking at the ladies, she will say she is too young for you. I tell her yes she is pretty but her dress and shoes are prettier.

[elliemoss]

Oh gosh yes! Weddings, formals and even Xmas/New Years parties are always the best and worst situations for me. I enjoy watching all the beautiful ladies glammed up and it's so exciting but then yes there is that hole inside me that is a little bit sad I can't join them.

One of my ex-girlfriends was bridesmaid at a wedding we went to so atleast I got to wear her bridesmaid dress after and knew how it felt to wear.

[Beverley Sims]

Ioften look at women and wish I was wearing the clothes they have on.

It's just a past time I enjoy and so do a lot of others.

[Charlotte7]

...and occasionally got to wear them when they were left at my studio..

That's not a nice thing to do

As for the OP, yes weddings can be fun.

[Teresa]

Charlotte,
I should have added owned by a local bridal shop and not the brides, my dear friend Margaret who owned the shop knew about my CDing and didn't have a problem , she told me that she had male customers she supplied bridal wear to . Her assistant gave me a lovely gown when the business closed down I have worn it several times to special events in my social group.

[Charlotte7]

That's some friend you had there Teresa, lending you things to wear like that. Would that we could all be as lucky as you :) You really have lived the dream when it comes to weddings!!

[alwayshave]

Jenn, only every wedding I go to.

[Vikky]

I feel that way at almost social occasions i go to - weddings, dinner dances, Xmas parties, drinks dos etc. Always envious of the ladies.
Vikky

[NjJamie]

I had a very similar experience Friday night at a neighborhood Christmas party! For some reason the party was about 3:1 girls to boys, all enjoying the night and having a great time. I couldn't look around without thinking what it would be like to some day be dressed just as pretty and enjoying a fun night with friends.

The urge (PINK FOG!) got so strong that I did figure out a way to dress on Sat and drove around for a few hours before stopping in at Glamour Boutique for a self purchased present or two. As usual it was a very rewarding event but I skipped stopping in the nearby mall due to the absolute madness, with lines of cars trying just to get into the parking lot. I hate to think how strong the feelings will be at the next wedding, might have to plan for a "J-day" that weekend, hope it's sooner rather than later!

[RADER]

About a week ago, I was at a formal Legion Meeting when people where given awards for certain accomplishments.
Now all the men where dressed in their normal suit and tie. How ever most of the Ladies had on dresses.
The younger ones had knee or slightly above dress, the older ones where ankle length.
But you are correct; I wish I could have been wearing any dress.
Rader

[jenn]

I thought my feelings were fairly common. It woyld be nice if we could have a fancy dress society where one could dress in whatever formal manner they wish.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jean :hugs:, Weddings & funerals seams to bring out the finery in pretty outfits. >Orchid ..+:daydreaming:+..

[WandaRae2009]

I get the same way at weddings. The men are all dressed in suits or more casual drab clothes. Even the more casual weddings the women mostly wear dresses. I sit there thinking, I wonder if that dress comes in my sized or what it would look like on me, because it really looks good on them.

My wife will often need a new dress for a wedding. I love going shopping with her. I just wish she would let me try some on with her.

[Joan58]

One of my daughters is getting married next spring. I expressed that I have no desire to wear a tuxedo. She said the suit I have will be fine.Wanted to ask if I could wear a dress, but knew better than that. But did ask if I could wear a Kilt. She laughed and said wear any thing you want Dad.

[SailorMoon]

Being jealous is a human response that we cannot fight it once we desire something that comes from our core. With that being said, I too am jailed into these feelings of torture as I see all the beauty in front of my eyes freely walking about while I keep aging and soon my time will come as we all age. Sadly I will have an ocean of regrets on why I couldn’t be free and beautiful.

- “All will pass, time will come”

[t-girlxsophie]

Happens to me all the time,thankfully though I can usually cure it by dressing glam later on,or next day

At a funeral for a works colleague,my friend was wearing the most gorgeous outfit,I felt a wee bit out of order thinking that at the time tbh,though I did tell her that evening At work how lovely her outfit was

Sophie

[Robbiegirl]

I don't think there has ever been a Bridesmaids Dress made that a CD wouldn't gladly jump at the chance to at least try on . LOL

Even these ! LOL

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[lynn.crossdresser]

For the last 10 year we have cruised for holidays, how i wished I could glam up for the formal dinners nights in something feminine instead of the boring suits and bow ties.

[Jeanettew]

Lynn I agree 100% I cruise a lot and would kill to get to put on a lovely dress and not my suit but when at a wedding I always look around and dream about wearing some of the stunning dresses & shoes

[t-girlxsophie]

Interesting article you might be interested in Lynn and Jeanettew

https://www.outtraveler.com/cruises/2014/08/06/newest-lgbt-cruise-sets-sail-transgender-travelers-taking-center-stage

[lynn.crossdresser]

Thanks Sophie, interesting website.

[abby054]

I don't think there has ever been a Bridesmaids Dress made that a CD wouldn't gladly jump at the chance to at least try on . LOL

There is an irony here that most of the bridesmaids that I have known well enough to hear their opinions on the matter (wife and her friends and close relatives, sisters, daughter, nieces, cousins, etc.) complain that the outfits (dresses, heels, shapewear, hair...) are expensive, ugly, and uncomfortable. They cannot wait to ditch all of it. Being a bridesmaid usually tries their friendship with the bride more than it enhances their friendship. After the event, the dresses are left in a closet and forgotten or given to charity or to a starry-eyed young girl playing dress up. Yet when these women are not bridesmaids, they expect and demand these wedding customs. Trying to make sense of it all makes my hair hurt.

This all gives me much respect and admiration for my daughter, the most honest woman that I have ever known. She complained mightily about wedding "nonsense" (her word, not mine) and avoided being a bridesmaid whenever she could get away with it. When she became a bride, she rejected the whole wedding falderal and eloped, publicly stating its folly and needless expense as the reason. My wife is still wigged out about that decision a decade later. I cried all the way to the bank and then made the down payment on her house.

[char GG]

Robbiegirl,
Where do you find these old pictures!!!??

If you have ever seen the seriously hard to watch chick flick “27 dresses” you will see why many women don’t want to be bridesmaids. Although recently, the dresses seem to be ones that the ladies really could wear again.

I was lucky to be a bridesmaid in Mexico and the dresses were handmade and very beautiful. I even had the opportunity to wear it a second time. I guess I was one of the fortunate ones.

[Patience]

No, but i'd love to attend a wedding en femme. I have a couple great dresses I could wear, as long as I’m not the bride (not bloody likely).

[Robbiegirl]

Robbiegirl,
Where do you find these old pictures!!!??

If you have ever seen the seriously hard to watch chick flick “27 dresses” you will see why many women don’t want to be bridesmaids. Although recently, the dresses seem to be ones that the ladies really could wear again.

I was lucky to be a bridesmaid in Mexico and the dresses were handmade and very beautiful. I even had the opportunity to wear it a second time. I guess I was one of the fortunate ones.

I have seen the movie and found it entertaining enough ! Oh and again it would have been fun to try on one of her 26 dresses. Don't forget in one wedding she wore a tux and the lucky Guys were in dresses ! LOL

Ugly Bridesmaids dresses make great costumes for GUYs ! Lots of bigger gals get a kick out of seeing guys wear what they were stuck in for a day !

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[char GG]

A few years back, a local radio station hosted a “Bridesmaid’s Ball”. Everyone was suppose to dress as a bridesmaid. My husband and I went and we had a blast. He wore a beautiful purple, satin gown and won some of the games, ( bouquet toss and something else involving throwing flowers in a bucket). There was music, dancing, fake bridal couple, & fake priest. It was all done as a comedy. All of the other ladies were very complementary to my husband and his presentation. So much fun, I hope they do it again someday.

[t-girlxsophie]

I may have posted this before somewhere apologys if so.I was lucky enough to be involved in a charity Transgender fashion show and there was a bridal section,I hadn't really given thought to wearing a wedding dress before,but it turned out to be an incredible experience,and I felt wonderful,my wife was in the audience too and that made it even better

Sophie
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[Judy-Somthing]

I still get a laugh when I go to a wedding and all the guys are basically wearing the same outfit with slight differences, mainly the tie!
Women hate it if someone else is wearing the same outfit.
I wear the same suite to most events but the wife would never!

[Cheshire girl]

It happens to me every time I go to a wedding or other event where ladies are all glammed up. I was at a christening a while ago and one gorgeous woman was wearing a Monsoon maxi dress exactly like one I own. How I envied her seeing her tottering in heels and having to lift her dress up a little to avoid tripping up. I always wish I were dolled up in impractical clothes and shoes. Seeing a glamorous lady having to be helped to totter down the gravel drive of the church made me very much want to be her. Fortunately I can switch at a later date into femme mode and go out dressed up to the nines. I often take inspiration for my clothing purchases from seeing ladies in clothes I find attractive.

[Krisi]

At my age, I spend more time at funerals than weddings!

I don't find myself being jealous of women's clothing. I can buy these things if I want to but I know I won't look the same as them if I do. With an older male body, I have to select my women's clothing to conceal the maleness. That's life and it's best to accept it and move on.

[MsEva]

Of course! I can't imagine any of us girls not checking out the bridal party. But like Krisi, too many funerals these days.

[susanmichelle]

One of my favorite memories almost 20 years ago now and am so glad I was able to experience it. One of my best friends wanted to get remarried to her husband they both know and accept me. Anyway I was asked and preformed as her brides maid. I had to wear flats as she’s 5’10 and wore 5” heels and I’m 6’ exact. But the experience was maybe as much or even better for me as her. We both went to David’s bridal for her wedding dress and mine and the other gals too but I was the brides maid some of the other gals were jealous

[Mickitv]

I have had the distinct opportunity to work with women most of my career. I have always admired the professional but yet sexy manner in which many of them dressed. Yes, I have in many situations wondered how I would look in their clothes and shoes. I have kept this concept in how I crossdress. I always love dressing professionally but always have on that sexy lingerie underneath.