Do sinlgle/unattached CDers hold an advantage...

[Wildaboutheels]

over CDers who have partners is NOT the question.

The question is, IF you were to acquire a partner do you think you would dress any less?

Isn't dressing for at least some members a substitute for having a companion?

[Michelle1955]

No, No. Currently under dressing 24/7 manages my pink fog for the most part. 63 years old, first time to wear panties 57 years ago. Wife and oldest daughter knows and accepts.

[LaurenS]

It would depend on the partner, but the odds are against finding one that would like it that much.

and, to your last question, yes, and that is probably why finding a partner that can relish it that much would be rare indeed.

[Roxanne Lanyon]

Dressing is sharing with a partner. I am single, and do not want to live without a caring, understanding partner. No way! I am too sweet a girl for that!
Roxanne Lanyon

[Teresa]

Wild..,
The fact I had a partner/wife meant I couldn't dress as I wished , if I found a new partner she would be on board from the start . To be perfectly truthful I've alwasy wanted a female partner I could be a female companion to . To say anymore than that may upset some members .

Dressing to me was something I always wanted to share , my wife is now saying it was a substitute but only because she didn't want to be on board with me . Simple admission, I have AGP again it's not intended to sidetrack this thread , I know it's part of what makes me tick , I've accepted it and moved on , end of story .

To answer the question , " Do they have an advantage ? " That's a difficult one to answer as it depends on the partner /wife . In my case I have to say yes , being separated has allowed me to find myself , I'm happier and feel I'm a better person .

[Patience]

I think you’d be more likely to get more relevant answers if your thread title were more representative of your actual question.

I think it would really depend on the partner and their willingness to partake in the activity. Too many variables.

[susan54]

I have been single for about 8years. I simply would not contemplate being in a relationship again if I was not able to spend a lot of time in womenswear. Currently it is about 80% of my time. On the other hand people like to see their partners looking a particular way and if that involves male clothes I would be happy to compromise and reduce my dress time, perhaps significantly. Compromise is part of a relationship. In return I would like to see my partner in dresses and heels. Being single allows you to be self-centred in almost everything and it probably isn't good for you .... but it can be very enjoyable. I am not one of these people who needs to be in a relationship - if the right women comes along that is good but it is OK if she doesn't.

[Beverley Sims]

Dressing is no substitute and choosing the right partner is all important.

[Tracii G]

No I would still be me 100%.

[Teresa]

Susan,
I have to question do we become self-centered maybe long term we could be , it may depend on how many friends you have round you I'm out most days meeting up with someone , or just walking my dog , talking of which that is a good way of not becoming too self-centered , I have a lovely group of dog walkers .

[Alice Torn]

Single all my life, and 64yo. Never really had any real chance for an SO. No woman i met was ok with men CDing. I am not desperately looking anymore, as i see how most GGs are , and it would take a VERY RARE, odd GG, to win me over. If she liked to wear dresses, skirts, hose and heels, it would go a long way toward lessening my CDing. But, I don't see much of any possibility. Alone with cats here. If you have a girlfriend or wife who is ok with you dressing, you are EXTREMELY FORTUNATE.

[cdinmd206]

I think single CDers have more advantage since they don't have to worry about a disapproving spouse, however I have been single for about 3 years now and go out less than when I was married.

[ambigendrous]

Simple admission, I have AGP again it's not intended to sidetrack this thread ...

AGP? Accelerated Graphics Port?

Or 2-DEOXY-2-AMINO GLUCITOL-6-PHOSPHATE

Or is it something else?

[fun4metoo2004]

I just don't know how to answer that question. I have been without a partner since I got divorced almost 22 years ago. Sad I know. I would love to have someone to spend time with and share what I find that interest me.

[Teresa]

Ambi..,
Autogynephilia , If you need more info please PM me ,as I don't wish to start a heated debate on this subject again .

[sometimes_miss]

It's not that it's a substitute, but when in a stable relationship, apparently my mind is able to suppress the desire to crossdress much easier, as there's no stress related to lack of physical affection. I can also cut back by simply going to gogo bars and snuggling up with one of the dancers instead of getting lap dances, but it's extremely expensive ($20 for FOUR minutes). That's looking at $300 an hour. You want an evening 'girlfriend experience'? better stop at the cash machine and withdraw your last paycheck. That's for ONE evening. 'Happy endings' are, of course, a whole lot extra, but that's not what I'm looking for.

Just 'celebrated' divorce day last week. That's 20 years.

[Teresa]

Lexi,
Do we commiserate or offer congratulations ? I'm just about to set foot on that road but mine will be the end of 44 years , it may be sad but it has to happen .

[marlacd]

Good question. To answer that, you'd have to know my dating history. I've been unattached for more than half my life. My best memories, the good times, I have always been solo when that happens. The times I've had companions, they have hindered me in some way. Finding a female that would support me dressing, would be like finding a Van Gogh at a garage sale. Very remotely possible, but hardly likely. All of my other activities (other than dressing) are solo based. I like getting a bug on and dressing up. It's like climbing aboard my bike on a nice day, and heading out for parts unknown.

The only way I'll ever have another woman, will be one that's happily willing to let me dress the way I wish.

( I think I've got a better chance of vacationing on the moon)

[Jayne44C]

Can't speak for anyone else but, I started partially dressing in my mother's things at a young age. So the desire to do it is something I've never associated with not having a partner.

I've never been fortunate enough to have a partner who was tolerant, let alone accepting of my dressing. So in that respect being single allowed me to dress at will because I always maintained my own condo. I never lived with anyone until I married.

[Shirley Anne]

If you are totally closeted it must be easier to be single, in my own situation I would say Im closeted but my wife knows and is fully accepting so I can dress whenever I want.

[Robertacd]

I hated being single, even though it meant I could dress whenever I wanted to.

How is dressing a replacement for companionship?

[Nikki A.]

Being single means being able to dress whenever I want. However if I met or had a relationship with the right lady, would I be able to cut back a little when needed, yes I would as long as I did have the opportunity to dress when needed.

[KymG]

I am single and i actually think i may dress less.
Maybe.
Ideally, if she supported it then i would dress about the same as i do now.
According to my friends if i want to meet someone i have to give up dressing, as no woman will actually be ok with it.
I disagree, but i know the chances are slim. Tolerant maybe, if im lucky.

[kimdl93]

To the actual question... no, I would not dress less often simply because I had a partner. I would consider dressing less often...emphasis on “consider”...if it were an issue for my partner.

I do not dress as a substitute for the presence of a woman in my life. Now between relationships (perhaps) I am primarily concerned with being honest about myself in any future relationship. Hiding and various aspects of repression adversely affected my past relationships.

[GeorgeA]

No.
A partner would have to accept me as I am.

[Di]

The question is, IF you were to acquire a partner do you think you would dress any less?


I have been following the answers here and decided to put my 2 cents in.

In our case Sher dressed more and I told her she could live 24/7 as a woman. It was her choice to be in guy mode for work and the rare times she saw her daughters . ( they lived far away) Otherwise it was two girls living our life.

My advice to you is when you are dating do not settle find someone who loves you unconditionally.(. We both did)
To me life is too short and especially this apples not to the hobby dressers but ones like Sher it was who they are.
So all of you that are single do not settle

[marlacd]

^^^^ Then you are very fortunate to be in that situation. I'm sure a great many of us are green with envy over your good fortune.

Some of us will never see that happen. It's really too bad that a few women wouldn't accept this about us. I believe, that they would end up with a mate that would try to walk on water for them. But, they, like us, make decisions on what they really want, and never get.

We all have to settle for our lot in life, and make the best of it.

[Nikki A.]

I know that this is a second post here, but I need to second what some of the others have said. I would be honest and open, I can't go back into the closet. Either I'm accepted as I am or she would not be the right lady for me. Maybe hard to find, but I'm willing to look.

[Courtney_29]

yea I think it'd be worth trying to find someone who at least could tolerate it. I've never been in a relationship before though unfortunately so I have no perspective really. hopefully one day...

[Aaron Zwidling]

I do have a partner and I don't feel that has any real impact on how often I dress. For me I don't think of the two things as impacting one another.