Does anyone ever meet up?

[Lindseynrva]

Just curious of the number of us who have met other like minded dressers? Also how do you feel about it? I’ve met with other cross dressers and a few curious folks and always had good experiences. Normal or is this an exception? It’s hard, even scary to do but I have to say it was worth it.

[Cheryl T]

For about 10 years I was active in a support group and it was very fun and rewarding.
At first it was scary. Meeting someone else who dressed, the unknown aspects, the self-imposed doubts and fears were a double edged sword. I both wanted and needed to meet others yet was almost petrified to do so.

I'm just so glad I took that step and did. It freed me in ways I can't even express.

[krissy]

Hi, I have met a few who like to dress but a lot of them want sex I just want to dress up and enjoy being me not the sex thing.but most of the ones I have met want the sex thing it scares me.i got raped once so I don't trust it so I don't meet others like me I want to but om scared be careful .Have a great day

[Maria_mtf]

Not yet but plan to. Thanks for the words of caution Krissy I will keep that in mind. I imagine you dont get much of that at support groups, well hopefully not anyway.

[Nikki A.]

I've met with members on the forum and in a couple of groups that I have joined. Every experience has been fine, as far as looking for sex. I've only had 2 experiences where someone was looking, but I diverted the attempt and that was that. Of course in both cases it was in a club and alcohol was involved and they were both CDs.

[Shelly Preston]

Moderator Note

There are meeting guidelines in the "places to go places to meet" section of the forum.

I would suggest reading them before you meet someone.

[docrobbysherry]

I have been out to countless T events and met maybe 500 T's over the years? In the few times I was "hit on" by T's it was a polite question if, "I were interested". Then, dropped forever after that!:thumbsup:

T's r so much fun to be with because they know EXACTLY what u have gone thru!:hugs:

On the other hand, the loudest, rudest comment about Sherry came from a T that could never pass!:Angry3:

[Jolene Robertson]

I have met a few ladies from here and we've always had a good time talking and sharing thoughts and experiences. Never had a problem, but as Shelly said "There are meeting guidelines in the "places to go places to meet" section of the forum,
I would suggest reading them before you meet someone.". I've never been hit on by any of them, we always met at a public place and it is great to know that we share so much. Like with any group there will be some that you have more in common with than others. Just be safe.

[Diane Taylor]

I've met up with many other crossdressers and the results are the same as meeting up with non crossdressers.....some are good and others not so good. Nowadays I just go solo whenever I go out.

[Tracii G]

I have met 10 or so members from here and each time it was very nice.
When I went to support group meetings it was fun and going out to dinner after the meetings was a blast.
Too many in the group started to get too social justice warrior/ trans activist for me and quite hateful and it ruined the group for me so I don't go anymore.

[JocelynJames]

I’ve met up with Elizabeth G a bunch of times for lunch in drab when work would bring her closer my way. I would like to meet with more possibly dressed. This could be the year! 363 more days to do something new, right?

[Jenny22]

Jocelyn, Your profile shows you have friended 179 forum ladies. That's wonderful, but how many actually live in your area? You might try reaching out to those sisters who are close to where you live. Worked for me.

[RADER]

Yes, I belong to a "TG" group, we meet once a month, it is great to talk with some one like yourself.
Rader

[t-girlxsophie]

Started out by attending a support group, befriending many and made one really good friend,fast forward to the last few years and have made wonderful friends we visit each others places,go out on the town or shopping together and attend Manchester Sparkle weekend, they are my dearest friends

Sophie

[GeorgeA]

I have been to a couple of CDs meetings and was well accepted as a MIAD even though others were female emulators.

[Lana Mae]

I met a very diverse group at Keystone conference! Had a helicopter ride from a member here-my first!!! Had a member in the past try to PM me for sexual reasons but I reported them for unwanted advances! Thanks to the mods for taking care of that one! Just be safe! Best wishes! Hugs Lana Mae

[alwayshave]

Yes, I belong to a meetup group that meets every six weeks or so. I thoroughly enjoy the meet ups.

[Georgia K]

There aren't any meetings in my area sadly as I think it could be a lot of fun . Although a friend of the wife's new partner is CDer and will be meeting him later in the month at a party .I'm not sure if I'll raise the subject with him though

[Rochal Tukque]

Hi Lindseynrva, meeting up I came out in trans support group. Out of the sixty some odd girls I have met 80% of us are what they call part timers. The TG girls do seem to have their own circles but have never been condescending. Speaking in general I have found none of these girls to be overt about sexual encounters. They seem pretty much devoted to presenting the best side of there feminine selves. I all so have a drab lunch group that the wife and go to once a month. My point most of these girls are not Craig's list people and contrary to Society we are not all hanging out to molest little girls in bathrooms. So if get the chance pick safe place and go. Even a drab lunch can be a lot of fun.

[Beverley Sims]

I have met other like minded people, usually on my travels, there have been a couple from here as well.

[NitaCD]

Never had the opportunity to meet anyone personally, or one on one, but I did have a chance to meet up with others while I was a member of a support group a few years ago. That was a great experience that I wouldn't mind repeating someday. As for a personal, or one on one meet up....maybe someday! It would be nice to have a friend or two who also enjoy dressing and would like to share some of the same interests from time to time.

[Stacy Darling]

I wish I could meet up with other Girls and give my support, It's quite difficult when we are so far apart though! It's a shame we can't all get together and hang out! SHAME!
Love you all!
Stacy!

[Teresa]

Lindsey,
I'm out full time so anyone who wants to meet me is quite welcome .

I attend three social groups and meet up most Thursday evenings for coffee and late night shopping in an outlet centre . We are hoping to get some GNOs together . It can be hard and possibly scary at first , the way to look at it is we are TG PEOPLE not that differnt from most other's once you get use to the differnt dress style .

[Helen_Highwater]

Lindsey.


It’s hard, even scary to do but I have to say it was worth it.

Couldn't agree more. The first time was attending a social group before I started going freely out and about. Walking into the room where the meeting was taking place I felt like everyone was going to be looking at solely at me. Of course this wasn't the case and within minutes I was sat down chatting as if it was the most normal thing in the world. Over the years I've attended other groups while on my travels and met up with a few folks from here in the process.

Never felt threatened, never been hit on, always a very civil, social and enjoyable encounter.

I've written many times about how that first meeting changed my life. I gained the confidence from talking to others to go out and hit the shops (which I did the very next day). As pointed out you need to do your homework as to where and when you meet people. Follow those rules and you should be safe. If something feels wrong, then trust your senses and bow out.

[Tamsin Secret]

There is a very good chance I will have my first meet up in Feb and may get the chance to meet with another member who attends the same event. Nervous/excited would be the first two words I can think of.

[BrendaPDX]

I have met up with two from this site. Both went very well.

[Jean 103]

When I started going out a few years ago. I had this desire to meet others, and I did meet a few.

I’ve been to DVL twice now.

I attended a support group that meets once a week for a while.

You see I had a mission. That was to meet with others, see how they are, to better understand myself.

I actually prefer to be the only TG in a room. I’ve come to enjoy being different.

[Allison Chaynes]

I have met 10 or so members from here and each time it was very nice.
When I went to support group meetings it was fun and going out to dinner after the meetings was a blast.
Too many in the group started to get too social justice warrior/ trans activist for me and quite hateful and it ruined the group for me so I don't go anymore.

Sadly, I experienced some of this also when I thought I'd try the T support group in Memphis. One just wouldn't stop bashing religious types even though another T sitting next to me was a minister. The others were very nice, though.

I have met two other CDs- one was great, we ate dinner and drab and just talked about our experiences. The other wanted sex and I shut down communication. Hey, that's what you get for trying to make a friend on Craigslist.

[Hell on Heels]

Hell-o Lindsey,
I ran outa fingers counting the number of people that I’ve met.
The first couple were the most nerve racking. I think that was mostly due to the fact that I’d never interacted with anyone. Not knowing exactly what to expect is a pretty difficult fear to overcome when you’re in such a vulnerable position. Getting to know a little about the person before the meet-up seems all too obvious of a first step.
I have to say each and every one of the people I’ve met has been awesome, and I’m so glad I’ve had the chance to do so.
Much Love,
Kristyn

[Tracii G]

Yes this ^^^^^^^^^.
If you don't make the move it will never happen.

[Brenda Freeman]

I have met some girls from here and at some conferences that have become good friends. I enjoy going out to dinner and for a drink and just catching up when it works out. It is so nice to be able to share with someone that knows and can share the joys and burdens of being a Tgirl. I have really enjoyed getting to know other girls and their stories.

[grace7777]

I have met 7 people from this forum in person, and it has been great meeting all of them. The most recent one I met happened at the end of December, and I am hoping to see her again this summer. Hopefully in the future I will be able to meet more people from here.

[Micki_Finn]

I’ve met a handful of ladies from this site. Definitely good times. I’ve become rather close with one in particular.

[Emily Occasionally]

I'd be willing to meet up with folks....but I'm not quite ready to go out dressed yet...Someday maybe...

[Asew]

A CDer from this site pointed me in the direction of a local CD group and eventually I made it out to one of their monthly Girls Night Out (GNO). I have been to every GNO since :)

[Ressie]

My first time to meet other CDs was also my first time being dressed in a public place (gay bar). That was October 2012 after being invited by a member of this forum, and I've met many TGs/CDs since!

Words of encouragement from rocketscientist:


Saugatuck doesn't care how you walk, talk or present yourself. You will be among many others just like you. This is THE best opportunity to go out for your first time in public you will EVER have.

[Wiccle]

Finally braved it & went to my first local LGBT meet last night in my new patent ballets & bow headband. Really enjoyed it - <10 there & no CDs though. Didn't want to stop talking! Had to leave early & felt guilty! Still buzzing. Do it.

[CD Tammy]

I have met up with someone from this site, at a CD support meeting. As a group we went out to eat.

[t-girlxsophie]

Have met a couple of ladies from here,but that was before we knew that we were on CD.com.But hopefully in future I can meet up with others from here

Sophie

[Lindseynrva]

Thanks for all the great input and insight! I know I always feel anxious at the thought of meeting and sharing in person. We all seem to love living behind the veil with some exceptions of the ladies who are full time living. I hope to find a few new friends to share with now that I’m back on the forum. Today I’m house cleaning enfemme of course, T-shirt dress and sporting some new larger forms. Feels great!

[Meghan4now]

I would like love to see an affinity map of members from this site. It could be degrees of freedom from Kristyn instead of Kevin Bacon.

As to meeting up with others, I've done it in both enfem and enhom. The chance to really talk and share experiences can be important in your self discovery. So don't let that stop you either. And yes, you will find that not everyone who shares one of your related interests will be a friend. Don't let that stop you either.

[mykell]

funny....kristyn was my first contact, first e-mail.....then phone, and of coarse some drunk texting, still waiting for her to come out the jersey to meet in person.....also have met many from here and in the wild, may not hit it off with eveyone but it was a pleasure to meet each and everyone.

they had a pushpin map at keystone conference, pretty interesting, folks from all over the world

[Devi SM]

Birds of the same feather fly together?
It's no weird that we look for our pairs for many reasons.
In my case, at the beginning was something sexual but it was always hard to match schedules because most of them married guys so it should be in weekdays, daytime.
I attended three times to a transgurls party they used to do every one Wednesday but the same, to meet guys and have sex.
Now I still looking people out that enviroment and I'd like to create a group in socal but it's hard. I'm not longer crossdresser but trasgender and interests are different.
To end, sadly when we match they live far far away as lydianne, stephanie, etc...

[Samantha2015]

I have met a few gals from this site and another site I belong to, all have been great.
The very first meeting I was a little anxious but I think it's normal to feel that way.
Finally found a local meetup group here back in Sept. and it has been a fun group
to hang out with. No real issues with getting hit on, there was one guy fishing for
how I like to get freaky but I shut that conversation down real quick.
I'd definitely say it's worth trying to expand your circle of CD friends, you just have to
make sure of your surroundings and going with a trusted friend also helps.
Best wishes & stay safe
Hugs...

[Shayla]

I have reached out to a couple here but the timing hasn't worked out yet. I am determined this year to get into a social circle here in the Bay Area, preferably meeting people that could be friends away from CDing as well. So far, I have found polite straightforwardness eliminates ("thanks, but that's not my thing") any issues of being hit on, by men or other CD's.

[Jean. Ann]

Not yet ! I have tried many times .
Have even tred to start a Crossdresser
Group in the Amarillo or Wichita Falls
Areas .
No luck yet

Jean Ann

[Sallee]

I love to meet like minded others unfortunately it seldom happens all though it has happened a few times. When I lived in Denver I was in a suport group and we met pretty regularly and we would go out after for drinks. It was great fun and never had a problem. Here in San Diego its been a little harder I was in a support group for awhile and occasionally we would get out but not often. I have met others from this site but we never be to be able to connect. Everyone has busy schedules. Also many have different agendas. I have been in bars and met other girls and again never had a problem but usually desires were laid out up front. I have met others in drab several times.
Having friends with the same interests is wonderful and good for us. There are so many of us that are so scared to meet others or that's how it seems

[Hell on Heels]

Wait! What? Freedom from Kristyn? What? Huh?
I swear! I am NOT Kevin Bacon, I don’t even know the guy!

[JaytoJillian]

Yes, indeed. I have even hostessed a few meetups back when craigslist still allowed personal ads. I would use CL to announce the gathering and through email, texts and phone calls, screen the heck out of the people who responded until I developed a suitable guest list. Never had an issue.

Best event was situated in a large, two-room suite where the girls could dress and get made up on site.I included a male admirer who volunteered his bar tending skills, booze and a significant share of the expense for the room. When it was said and done,---thanks to people randomly chipping in, I almost made a profit, LoL

After spending much of the afternoon getting bombed out of skulls on experimental drinks made by Mr. Bar Tender, someone broached the idea of going out. No problem--my bar tending admirer ordered up an Uber SUV that transported us into the city, where we danced all night, with the bar-tending admirer functioning as de facto security by remaining sober and watching our backs. He even Ubered us back to the hotel, where a few collected their belongings and left. two of my new friends laid claims to places to crash and spent what was left of the night. And the bar tender? He stayed over as well, remaining the perfect gentleman--says he was just happy being in our company--I kept waiting for the "other shoe to drop," but it never did. So, if you are out there, Russell the bar tender, thanks again for helping me have an epic party!

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Yes, indeed. I have even hostessed a few meetups back when craigslist still allowed personal ads. I would use CL to announce the gathering and through email, texts and phone calls, screen the heck out of the people who responded until I developed a suitable guest list. Never had an issue.

Best event was situated in a large, two-room suite where the girls could dress and get made up on site.I included a male admirer who volunteered his bar tending skills, booze and a significant share of the expense for the room. When it was said and done,---thanks to people randomly chipping in, I almost made a profit, LoL

After spending much of the afternoon getting bombed out of skulls on experimental drinks made by Mr. Bar Tender, someone broached the idea of going out. No problem--my bar tending admirer ordered up an Uber SUV that transported us into the city, where we danced all night, with the bar-tending admirer functioning as de facto security by remaining sober and watching our backs. He even Ubered us back to the hotel, where a few collected their belongings and left. two of my new friends laid claims to places to crash and spent what was left of the night. And the bar tender? He stayed over as well, remaining the perfect gentleman--says he was just happy being in our company--I kept waiting for the "other shoe to drop," but it never did. So, if you are out there, Russell the bar tender, thanks again for helping me have an epic party!

[BostonBrenda]

I used to go to a support group it was an overwhelmingly positive experience the ladies made me feel welcome, and as a result my desire to be like them became so important

[Jean. Ann]

I would love to meet up with some area girls
But so far no response

JAS

[Stephanie D]

I'd love to meet up, but heeding the cautions of others, that's maybe NOT a good thing.
I'm on Cape Cod.
Not sure if that means "anything" in the big picture.
I'm open to meet for friendly discrete conversation and chit-chat, but also, being realistic, I'm cautious as hell, as well.
Caution and discreteness are 100% paramount!!!!
But open...if that makes sense??

[Tracii G]

I have met up with many from this site and all have been awesome people.

[Stephanie D]

Great to hear that Tracii!
Thank you!!
Good to know, and would love to meet and talk with others of sound mind!

[Samm]

Stephanie D, I'm meeting with a group from another site this week. Coincidentally on Cape Cod.
Being cautious is a good thing. But sometimes just going for it, and pushing your boundaries a little isn't a bad thing either.
The few groups I've met with are reputable, and I always make sure to research them first. As well as message the organizers if I have any questions. Those I've met from this site are all great people, and I consider friends.

[Michellebej]

I was in a support group and it was very nice. Then it got taken over by some new members who were very activist in thier desires. Nothing wrong with wanting to further our rights, but they actively alienated anyone who was in the least conservative. In the end our 200 member group was down to less than two dozen with the rest of us wondering what in the heck happened! I still went to the local lesbian bar for a while and had some amazing friends. Then work took me away for a long time and I just never recovered. It is now a priority.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Lindsey

We have a very nice social group here in DC, with a lot of girls in the Fredericksburg area. We usually have some girls that come from Virginia Beach, richmond, West Virginia, Baltimore and the Eastern Shore.

I always get dinged for advertising here, so I'll give you a hint. Go to meetup.com and search for LGBT in the DC area. When you find the one for trans girls in Northern Virginia, you found us.

There were over 40 girls plus a couple of SOs at out last big meetup right around Valentine's day.

[mbmeen12]

I have met 2 people from this forum in person and both came to my place.

[Sallee]

I hAve met a few one or two from this forum. I have also been to support groups where I met many but we seldom did anything other than support group occasionally a bar after the meeting. I found most in the group were transition bound and I have no desire to go there.I have certainly met others in bars many were probably interested in sex which never happened. I have tried to reach out many times but never seem to get a responses. I would love to get together with others for a chat over coffee or a light lunch or even a drink. It seems many here and other places have trouble doing that and I am not sure why. Even a meet up in drap would be great. Just a girl chat in drab is fun. I have had several t friends over the years but they all seem to disperse after a while. It just seems to be the nature or our gam

[BostonBrenda]

Im always looking to meet other crossdressers, Im in Boston. Feel free to message me

[Jean. Ann]

It was suggested I add my location to
my profile . I did , still no response ?

JAS

[Ceera]

When I first started going out en-femme in public, my preferred hangout was an LGBTQ nightclub in my neighborhood, which also had about six other CD/Trans ladies as regulars. One habitually sat at the end of the bar farthest from the dance floor. She would drink and socialize with those who approached her, but she did not ever dance, or even move around very much, due to medical issues she had with her legs. At the end of the bar closest to the dance floor, three other CD or Trans ladies usually gathered, and sat there and drank while socializing with each other. None of the four could pass very well, and none tried to do a female voice. But they were all happy and friendly enough. A few others came and went, but acted much the same.

I would join them occasionally for a drink and to chat, but I was more into dancing and socializing with a wider range of people. My goal from day one was to be seen, appreciated and accepted as a woman. Unlike the others, I did attempt to keep my voice and manerisms female. And while I did not yet pass all that well, I got a stronger degree of acceptance from the cisgender guys and gals there than the others seemed to get. And I got very strong acceptance from the lesbian ladies, who drew me into their social circles, accepting me as “one of them”. I did not see that acceptance by the lesbians happening with any of the other CD/Trans ladies.

Once, and only once, someone from these forums did encounter me there, at that club. She recognized me from my avatar and profile pics, and knew from my posts that I was likely to be there on a Friday or Saturday night. She made a point of looking for me. We chatted for a bit, but she was there with a friend that night, and I did not want to be a ‘third wheel’ to their evening out together. So I drifted back to my general socializing, and they danced solely with each other. Never saw either her or her friend there again.

I would usually chat with any of the other CD/Trans ladies that I encountered, there or elsewhere. Again, there was usually friendly banter. But I never really felt a connection with them. Not something like preferring their company over the general group of people there. I tended instead to hang out with the lesbian crowd, and made quite a few friends among them. I wasn’t adverse to attention from males, but if there was a lesbian lady interested in me, she tended to hook my attention.

When I moved from Texas to Oregon, much the same pattern evolved. I have met with and socialized with quite a few CD/Trans ladies, as well as several non-binary people. The majority of them seemed to socialize only with each other, while I was all over the place. I did take one non binary person out on a date, but that was a one-off event. I go to quite a few dances, and there are several other CD/Trans ladies who I count as friends, and who I socialize with if I happen to encounter them. Butvthe only one I ever coordinate with to go out and do things with is a trans woman who is, like me, an organizer in a Queer ladies social meetup group.

I have tried attending CD/Trans support groups, but again, I just did not feel much connection with them. I can pass quite well now, and I am much more interested in general socializing than in smaller groups of other CD/Trans people.