About these maids outfits

[KatieGG]

What exactly is it that you get out of it? Is it just something fem to wear to make cleaning fun? Does it make you feel submissive? Or something else, both?

I showed my husband the thread about the maid outfits and he said it might be fun to have one, but we didnt really get the chance to talk about it. If he wants it to clean the house that's great. If its a submissive thing, I think I'd be ok with at least trying it, I could see some fun there.

When I google this kind of thing it's hard to tell what is real and what isn't, I'd assume a lot of it is just fantasy. His dressing has never been a sexual thing, but Friday night while he was completely dressed up I initiated some..fun time lol with me kind of taking charge and it was really great.

I'm going to talk to him about it tonight but wanted to get some insight before hand.

[Jenny22]

The outfits simply look adorably sexy to me .. black and white only.

[mykell]

if i ever had a chance to wear one, what the hey :thinking: something for the scrapbook maybe, but i wont be cleaning the house in one :devil: funtime with someone taking charge :D think i could adapt :o

[KatieGG]

I can understand that, since a girl in the French maid outfit is a typical male fantasy

[Heisthebride]

For me it siimilar to what I get out of dressing up in other women’s clothing, just a different look or style. I like dressing up and all it entails, the lingerie, makeup, hair nails, clothes. It can be formal wear, casual, business look, fantasy, whatever. The sexual side can be a part of dressing or not, its up to you and your husband to decide.

If you want to do dominant and submissive, go for it. There are no rules saying you can’t both dress up in maids outfits either. Discuss and try what sounds fun to both of you.

[Beverley Sims]

With me it is a party thing, something to clown about in, mine always makes a great conversation piece.

[Cynthia_0101]

They don't really thrill me. If I am cleaning it is in guy mode. Just my 2 cents.

[mykell]

katie would you try one if you had the chance, for me it would have to be a quality one not a cheezy costume type.

[Kelly DeWinter]

I would suppose the same thing that GG's get out of it, a chance to look sexy, a little risque, a bit of romance, some titillation, a bit of visual "hey look at me."

[biancabellelover]

Hi Katie, I think you’re on the money.

I don’t get it either, but it’s a typical male fantasy.

Michelle

[Lilith Moon]

To me they look sexy and are damn sexy to wear. I've only ever worn mine at home and in LGBTQ+ friendly environments. Never for real work. It is much too nice for that.

Why? Like a lot of things I enjoy, I haven't a clue and at my age I don't have enough time left to ponder.

[Patricia_Campi]

Katie, speaking for me only!

I don´t like french maid outfits. I am a submissive myself, but it is something that does not turn me on. When I dress, I want to be a different person, not just a fantasy (I know it is not possible, but that´s what I desire). And IMHO, the outfit is just a fantasy, sometimes used by dommes to humiliate the submissives.

My opinion! ;)

Kisses

Patricia

[Confucius]

I've never done the French Maid thing myself. I understand that anything feminine releases feel-good neurotransmitters in my brain. The more feminine, the better. Things like French Maid costumes, Brolita outfits, and Dirndl dresses all seem so very feminine and I can see how they would be fun. It's not so much a submissive thing as an ultra feminine thing.

[susan54]

I have more women's clothes than most women but there is not and will never be a maid outfit or a wedding dress. I don't wear stuff a real woman would not wear and I do not have gender ID issues - it is simply my taste. I like to look elegant not like someone dressing up. I confess I have a nurse's dress (which I have not worn in many years) but is a real one not a fancy dress one. And even real nurses don't wear them any more.

[Hell on Heels]

Hell-o Katie,
I’m thinkin’ you should each get one. If it works out the way I think it may, you’ll have the cleanest house ever. (except for the bedroom of course!)
Much Love,
Kristyn

[Macey]

Seems fetishy to me … and hey … whatever floats your boat ;) . I think of it as a 'sexy fantasy'. A little like "sl*t-o-ween" where a lot of the costumes advertised to GGs are 'sexy nurse' or 'sexy school girl' or 'sexy maid' or 'sexy pirate'. Everyone likes to feel sexy sometimes in a fantasy role play sort of way. But if YOU don't find him sexy when he wears it, he may be missing the mark.

[DeeDeeB]

Can't help it, just way too cute. I'd like one to wear on the days I don't want to wear my tutu, but I can't find one in my size.

DeeDee :o

[Rhonda Jean]

I had one. May still have it, but I have no idea where it is. I bought it because I found it at Goodwill. This one isn't like a halloween costume. More elaborate/better made. I suppose it is still by definition a costume. I'm not into costumes and almost never dress to stay in, and I wouldn't wear this thing ANYWHERE. I did wear it for a girlfriend. I'd talked about it for a long time before I actually did it. It's one of those things that we'd both have to be in the right mood for. It was fun and sexy to wear for a little while, along with heels I can't walk in far enough to wear them out for long either. It's really a nice break to not be as serious as we usually are about this stuff. I didn't clean house! Also, given that I've pretty much given up wearing the short/sexy stuff in public it was an extra fun break for me. There's nothing wrong with wearing something just for the sheer fun of it.

[JeanTG]

Not into it. I dress to express my gender identity, at least the feminine side of it. So I just want to look like an ordinary woman. If I'm cleaning the house in female mode it's in casual clothing, i.e. jeans, casual skirt, shorts or leggings, top, probably no makeup other than some lipstick.

[Brenda Freeman]

I bought my maid uniform because I thought it would be fun and look cute and with petticoats I think its both. When I was little I saw some french maid uniforms along with many dresses with petticoats in the movies and wanted to wear them. So now I have, satisfied that desire. Fun to wear for photos have been to a Halloween party or two. As for chores I think photos doing chores a little role playing is fun. But I know they will not increase productivity at least in my case! But they make me Happy.

[GeorgeA]

Kathie,

Wearing a maid outfit is simply a role playing. Check out the gallery and see how many people present as maids, nurses, school-girls, hookers and especially teenagers in very short skirts. There is nothing wrong with that. Some people are extroverts and exhibitionists, some are not.

I, like many others dress for comfort and personal satisfaction. As a MIAD I do not go out, so I prefer normal, more conservative clothes.

[giuseppina]

I might model one for a girlfriend, but I don't see much if any attraction to this sort of thing. As usual, whatever works for you is your decision.

[Diane Smith]

Like most, I have my fetishes and fantasies, but they don't include either maid's outfits or wedding dresses, which seem to be two common interests here.

- Diane

[Lux]

French maid outfit yes, wedding dress not so much. Something about 5” black heels, black seamed stockings and that short skirt..oh la la! Haven’t worn it in a while but I somehow gravitated to it early on when I was a teenager and have some pictures somewhere from the early days. Funny thing though, I would have been fired for not cleaning enough and doing my job. Too busy preening and looking in the mirror. :)

[Tracii G]

I don't get it either and it seems like a fetish thing like guys wanting to nail the live in maid on the side or something.
I really don't see the draw to it.
Dressing for me is about who I am and the presentation not the clothes or some sexual fetish fantasy.
I don't dress to fulfill some fantasy.

[KatieGG]

Thanks for all the replies, I get wanting to wear a costume because it is fun and sexy. I never wore the maid outfit but I do wear some costumes for him on occasion, hell I still like to put on my old cheer leading uniform from high school! Lol
My husband has never expressed intrest in this sort of dressing before so it kind of surprised me a little. We will have a chance to talk about it tonight and see what he would like to get out of it and I will do my best to accommodate him. Im always down to try new things, like I said I can for sure see the fun in it. He might look kinda cute in it :)

[Teresa]

Katie,
OK , so they are a little flirty , saucy , sexy , possibly submissive and just fun to wear , where's the harm ?

Girls like to play dress up sometimes why should we be any different ?

I have done charity fund raising in the past and would wear a maid dress or my Spice Girl union Jack dress if I could fill a bucket full of money for a worthy cause !

[KatieGG]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Its fun to put on a sexy little costume some times :)
I just wanted to have a little insight about things before we talk. If he wants to wear one to feel sexy while he cleans that's great and I will look into getting him a legit maids outfit.

If its a submissive thing, I think I can work with that too or at least try. I can try to find him more of a fun maids costume. I just worry I won't be very good at being the dominant one. I would love to be able to give him what he wants out of it so hopefully I can do it.

I have tried to do research about it, its hard to tell what is real and what isn't but I think I can handle of the more mild stuff. It might be really fun being the dominant partner depending on how far he would want to go. Just hope whatever he is looking for I will be able to give it to him.

[Georgina]

I don't like them at all. I would, however, wear a proper maid's uniform.

[sometimes_miss]

Girls like to play dress up sometimes why should we be any different ?
Because to most women, men aren't supposed to want to dress up and behave like we're tying to sexually attract men. It upsets the traditional binary sexual view of how the male-female relationship is supposed to work, which then can throw a wrench into the whole security issue: If men can suddenly abandon their roles as protectors, that can make women feel less secure in their own lives, knowing that should a predator come after her, even though another man is present, he might suddenly abandon his social responsibility as a protector of the women and children and she would then become more vulnerable to attack. Women grow up believing that the good men in our society will stand up to the bad ones and protect the women and children. Men who crossing the standard gender lines upsets that belief, and can result in a constant subconscious feeling if insecurity.


Generally,the maid's uniforms that we want are the ones that are 'over the top' with short skirts, lace, pretty bows, etc., which help us to assume a feeling of being a sexually attractive female for a while, while we're dressed in them.

You don't seen any of us wanting what current industrial housekeeping staff wears; plain tops with PANTS, socks and often sneakers. This is what I've seen plenty of hotel staff wearing. It's no longer the pretty things.

And make no mistake about it, we want to feel pretty just as much as you do. Perhaps it's a desire that somehow got screwed up instead of feeling handsome in a male outfit, but few crossdressers have a clue as to why we want to feel that way (I'm apparently one of the very few who is lucky enough to have figured it out, but knowing why you feel something, and being relieved of feeling it, are two very different things).
I can't say whether for other men if it's a case of feeling 'right' by adopting a submissive behavior; I tend to believe that is simply due to it being felt is a part of what is considered being connected to being the one who is RE-active during sex as opposed to being the one who is always having to decide when to to what. It's not always about feeling submissive, it's simply wanting to have the OTHER person make the decisions that we want them to make, and then just go along with them. This is related to women's desires to have a man 'just know' what she wants without her actually telling him, and have him just do that. As a woman, I think you understand what I'm writing. Sure, some women might prefer feeling like they're being told what to do, and in our western society where so many girls still grow up being told that that wanting sex is a bad thing, in that situation, I suppose it would be easy to feel better about it if it were something that you didn't initiate; the feeling of being 'taken' during sex play eliminates the responsibility for it, and let's you feel that it wasn't YOUR responsibility. This is the same mechanism which results in so many crossdressers desiring 'forced feminization'; it allows us the feeling of not being responsible for something that we really want to do, so we don't feel so bad about doing something so almost universally frowned upon.

I think that a lot of it is simply carried over from our religious upbringing (and even those who are not religious, but were brought up by those who WERE taught those old time principles of life).

Having a woman 'take charge' is a luxury that most men never get to experience. All too often, a lot of us are made to feel like having sex is an imposition we're making upon our mates.

[Krisi]

We had a cleaning service years ago. Two women would come and clean the house. They did not wear "maids uniforms" or high heels.

I would say the idea of a crossdresser wearing a maids uniform is a fetish and it's also demeaning to women. It's not for me.

[Sherrii]

Katie,
In the other maid thread I posted what I thought was the maid thing, (post no. 31). Please reread that, and I will take it a little further here. A good corset will enhance the experience for the maid and her "employers". Remember french maids are at least as much about looking good as they are about actually doing work. Mostly they are expected to do only light house work, maybe hand washing a few intimates, dusting, (with the traditional feather duster surfaces that probably don't need or have already been dusted), or providing "ladies maid service", and, most common-serving drinks and such in private or parties. As you mentioned "submissive thing", french maids can also be required to wear hobbles to train them to take small mincing steps, the length of the connecting chain adjusted as necessary. And cuffs and collar, the cuffs can be connected to the collar to keep hands from being lowered, requiring the maid to bend over to serve etc. not metal hand cuff types, but locking leather cuffs and hobbles for comfort. Also maids (if agreed to in the contract, written or verbal, between the maid and her Mistress and or Master) may be fondled or pinched, etc. and possibly provide "other services" as required. Being a french maid is all about looking good while mincing,and tottering about while serving as required and showing just a little more than would be considered decent. Some maids are punished (spanked or otherwise) for mistakes or poor service. All depends on what has been agreed to in the "contract". It's all about looking good, being submissive and ultra feminine while serving. You can take the whole french maid thing as far as you want, nothing is written in stone, it's what works for you. Not a position a bra burning feminist would take (unless acting out a secret fantasy), but a skilled "job" for those who are into it whether male or female. It isn't easy to totter about looking good for long periods of time possibly being fondled from time to time as you are trying to "maintain". As your husband said "it might be fun" probably he would be able to get into it. Of course the french maid for a dominant woman would probably be required to provide very intimate services that you especially would enjoy. I hope this has helped you with the fantasy a bit and that you can have fun with it. Sherrii

[KatieGG]

I can understand why having the other partner take charge is appealing. If that's what he wants while wearing a costume to enhance the submissive feeling, I think I can get into it a little.. I mean I enjoy the feeling of all the soft material on him so I think I will get something out of it.

Krisi I'm curious as to why you believe its demeaning to women? With the way society views us I think its really flattering that a man would want to dress and act like me every once in a while.

I never been into "manly" men. Bug muscles and the whole "I can beat up anyone" personality is a major turn off for me, maybe that's part of why I like that my husband has a fem side.

[Miss V]

I think fetishists like it a lot because of it's "Power play" nature. By wearing it, you are a "slave/worker" who must do as they are told. This is something that a lot of people get a kick out of. Both subs and doms.

They do look quite nice though, in spite of the fetish nature that surrounds them. It's a very visually appealing style.

[KatieGG]

That makes sense to me.
What other costumes are considered submissive besides French maid and school girl?

[Asew]

The appeal of the maid's outfit is the sexiness and the submissiveness. To me, this is fun dress up, and same thing with Halloween costumes too.

Other submissive outfits might be a nurse possibly, slave leia from star wars, slave jasmine, kitty/puppy (with collar), I dream of Jeannie type outfit, Oktoberfest dirndl possibly, and lolita/sissy outfits. And obviously latex fetish outfits (some of which include locks or restraints).

[Brenda Freeman]

In my case when I wear a maid uniform it is for fun, not to be submissive or demeaned. I think they are cute and with lace and petticoats feminine and I love the look. So you do not necessarily have to be dominanting to have fun. Though I am sure there are girls that want that. So good discussion to have. He may just enjoy wearing it to have fun and be cute or? My wife saw me only once in my uniform as I headed out to a Halloween party and she commented nice legs. She usually avoids seeing me dressed but otherwise is supportive. I loved hearing that so much. I love that you are so open to try fun things with your spouse. Have fun you too!

[Teresa]

I really feel some are overthinking the whole issue , what the heck is wrong with having some fun . We dress for so many reasons and I personally would prefer the male side gone , I've done over sixty years in that straightjacket , I'm going to have a few years enjoying what I have finally found , so what's the problem if I wear a fun outfit sometimes .

[Gillian Gigs]

I don't own a maids uniform, so I have to ask myself why would I want one, as I have said I would like one in another thread. Reasons vary from person to person and in my case I believe it has its' roots in escapism from the day to day life. My male life had a lot of decisions that had to be made, direction to be given, and stress that was the result of time crunches. To escape this I would use CD'ing to help me get away from the "rat race" of life. The maid uniform would put me into a mode of role playing someone else being in charge and control of those things that I would be escaping from. I see a submissive element within the dressing, but isn't that a result of getting away from the dominant role that many men have to play? Whether it is meant as a game, fetish, or submissive role, the point is it obviously does something within the psyche of the person doing it. The individual reason isn't important, the end result is, and if that is a way of deriving peace, pleasure, relaxation, then it is worth it to that person. If it isn't hurting anyone, then no big deal!

[Stephanie47]

I would say the idea of a crossdresser wearing a maids uniform is a fetish and it's also demeaning to women. It's not for me.

From comments I have read on other sites there are many women who feel a man emulating a woman in dress and action is demeaning to women. From what I have observed there is a different mindset when seeing a guy in drag on Halloween made into a ravishing beauty for the party than an everyday cross dressing male.

I wonder how many women are inclined to entice their boyfriends or husbands into donning feminine attire to act out their fantasies? How about those women who willingly play up to their men's fantasies because there is a mutual benefit?

[Kelly DeWinter]

I think it's great that couples like to keep the sizzle in their relationships through a bit of costume play. It certainly doesn't hurt (I take that back, after re reading some of the posts , it might hurt, i just hope not too much)

When we go together to Amanda's for a photo shoot.
. We have a few photos together in nice every day clothes
. Have a change or two for me (Hey what can I say !)
. Jeanie does a change and a photo shoot by herself (What woman doesn't want a nice set of photos ?)
. I do a photo set in what I call a fun outfit (The photo below is from a shoot we did a couple of years ago)

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[Rhonda Jean]

I think some of y'all are reading WAY too much into this! For me it wasn't a fetish thing or a sub/dom thing (even though I don't think there's anything wrong with that anyway) and not a deamining-to-women thing. It was just fun! And nothing heavier than simply playing dress up, which is a hell of a lot of fun with a partner who is also having fun with it! I know that "playing dress up" is supposed to be just totally beneath anybody whose transgender-ism is real, but if y'all are this serious all the time you'd be surprised how much fun you could have if you'd lighten up a little. Playing dress up is not a way of life to me, but it's awesome damn fun with the right partner in the right circumstances!

Take away the "maid uniform" part. It's super low cut, ridiculously short dress, typically worn with equally ridiculously high heels and makeup you wouldn't dare actually wear to the mall. What's not to like for a little stay-at-home fun?

[~Joanne~]

I think i would try one if i ever got the chance, just to see how well I could pull it off or what not but it's always been one of those "I got to try that" things where afterwards it gathers dust in a closet just like any other woman's maid outfits.

[marlacd]

Most of the better maid dresses look cute and fun, but hardly practical. Is makeup, nail polish, 4 inch plus heels, hosiery, frilly panties, jewellry, any more practical? Not really. If we all got practical, nobody would be dressing like we do, and this site would cease to exist.

Wouldn't it be interesting if we did see a woman or two out and about in one of those, once in a blue moon? For lack of a better term, it would be eye candy. Stuffy women are everywhere. They blend into the scenery nicely, and seem to be about as exciting as a trip to the dentist.

Say what you will about maid dresses. It's a costume. But, if I ever saw one wearing that sort of getup, out in public, anytime besides halloween, I'm sure she would be remembered. Fondly, and for a very long time after.

[Robbiegirl]

Katie,

You are a great addition to this board !

We all probably have different reasons, but as others have said FUN is the best reason.

Believe me an outfit that consists of Ruffle butt panties, petticoat, stockings, heels and frilly dress is going to make a guy feel about as UNMANLY as is possible.

It is such a Girly item that its difficult to get a Gal to wear one ! Its the ultimate challenge for some guys since we will be swishing about in it trying to clean without flashing are ruffled butt or running our stockings ! Fun and challenging !
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[Rhonda Jean]

Kelly,
That's the classiest French maid uniform I've ever seen! Can't say mine was on that level.

[kimdl93]

I’m not qualified to comment on maid or school girl outfits....just never was my thing. But I do know I rather enjoyed both the gender bending and submissive role in play.

[Ceera]

Long before I started dressing, I occasionally wrote erotic fiction as a freelance writer. I would write short stories or story series for others, for a small fee, either featuring characters they had devised, or creating my own original characters for their stories. Usually, part of my job was to flesh out the details and background and motivations of their characters, and then take a rough idea for what should happen in the story and make it a readable and entertaining piece of erotica.

The French Maid erotic fantasy genre predates the Victorian era, and the classic French Maid costume is a sexy variant of a historical French Domestic Servant’s attire. It was a popular and recurring fetish theme in my stories, where either as a form of bedroom play, or as a ‘lifestyle’, a woman or a cross dressed male takes on the role of ‘the French Maid’, while another person has the role of the Master or Mistress of the household. It tends to be a naughty/submissive roleplay, where the maid wears a provocatively sexy uniform, and behaves in a flirty or submissive way, leading to erotic encounters between them. Often there is a theme that the Master is married, and his wife doesn’t know he is banging the hired help. But sometimes the maid serves a male / female couple, submissive to both, in a threesome. In another variant, a male is ‘forced’ to act and dress in a very feminine and submissive manner, often for a female Mistress who is decidedly dominant.

After I started dressing, I did buy a Halloween costume type French Maid outfit, but it did not quite fit me. (I need to lose 10 pounds or so, despite it supposedly being a plus sized costume.) I honestly bought it just on a lark, to see myself in the mirror, in private, wearing what I had so often written about. I don’t have any romantic partners at this time, but if I had one who wanted to try that sort of roleplay in the bedroom, I would not object to taking either the maid or Mistress roles. Like any sort of bedroom roleplay, it should be consensual fun.

[KatieGG]

Thanks for the imput everyone, had a good talk with hubby last night. I'm going to surprise him with a French maid costume and see where it leads us :)

[Macey]

Oh no you didn't! Where will this lead you? To a bit of fun, I suspect ;)

[Crissy 107]

Katie, Your husband is a lucky guy on many levels! Enjoy!

[Maria in heels]

Hi Katie! I know that for me, dressing in my maids outfit and taking care of the house is the ultimate show to my wife that I am being submissive to her. In my alter ego, he is very dominate and an "A" personality, but as my true inner self, Maria, the warmth and comforting attention to others is always there. Yes, Maria has blended into the real world as part of my personality, and at times it has caused me sorrow. BUT being that sexy maid as they say is something that is fun, especially vacuuming in my heels. The added bonus is that I can reach higher when cleaning without any issue

[KatieGG]

He is interested in a little bit of the submissive games though he is unsure of how far he wants to go, I hope I can make it fun for him.
I been researching the subject a little and trying to pull some of the more mild stuff from what I'm reading.
I hope I can pull off being the dominant one without embarrassing myself. I might need him to annoy me first so I have some inspiration lol

[Brenda Freeman]

I am sure you will have fun. Compliments on How cute, how nice she looks can make a maid feel wonderful. I think I mentioned my wife mentioned how nice my legs looked they were in nylons and I will never forget that, it was her first comment about how I looked and she rarely sees me dressed! What a lucky maid. I hope we hear more.

[Cheryl T]

I had a chance to wear one once and wish I had my own to wear to clean the house.
Why?
Well I think it's all of those reasons.
It's super sexy, it's ultra feminine, it's a bit risque, it's a bit submissive. It's something that is diametrically opposed to the typical male machismo and that in itself is somewhat freeing.
It's a fantasy icon in most men's minds and it's just fun to BE that icon rather than fantasize about being With that icon.

Some women dream of a pair of Louboutin heels, I dream of my maid's uniform. Whatever floats your boat.

[Wildaboutheels]

Well for me they do nothing. Same as wedding dresses. Or dresses of any kind or forms or makeup .......

ALL CDers are Human and all Humans are unique.

A good thing.

[Sherrii]

Katie,
I have been reading the posts and I want to add my 2 cents worth again. The talk about submission and maids being demeaning to women. Only if it is a situation where the woman, or man, doesn't want it or on some level enjoy it, is it really demeaning. In your situation you are playing adult "games". (adult cops and robbers, cowboys and indians, etc.) As long as you know what you are doing and agree generally what will happen it is OK and what others think isn't important. As for your "man" seeming to be a wimp because or while he is "dressed" well it works like this. He may be a submissive maid in the "bedroom" but out in the world he is still a man and will "escort" you and take care of you. This is how it works for many dominant women. They may still be dominant while out and about and the man submissive to them but he will still be strong as the situation may require. As for you being dominant, make sure you have fun! It's not only for your husband, it's for you to, to take on a different role, get into it. It's OK to be a bit of a B*&ch if you are both playing a role and having fun! Go for it. Sherrii

[Robbiegirl]

Katie, I don't think you have to be dominant just have fun with it. The role play fantasy I always had was that I bought the outfit for her but she said it was demeaning but would wear it only If she could doll me up in it first. So it kind of involved her teasing me as she kind of made me slip into all the frilly items. I of course then had to clean while wearing it. In the fantasy she ends up sneaking in some pictures and lets me know their is no way she will ever wear the silly outfit but that I will be wearing it again if I cross her or the pics will be sent out for all of our friends to enjoy.

[KatieGG]

Katie, I don't think you have to be dominant just have fun with it. The role play fantasy I always had was that I bought the outfit for her but she said it was demeaning but would wear it only If she could doll me up in it first. So it kind of involved her teasing me as she kind of made me slip into all the frilly items. I of course then had to clean while wearing it. In the fantasy she ends up sneaking in some pictures and lets me know their is no way she will ever wear the silly outfit but that I will be wearing it again if I cross her or the pics will be sent out for all of our friends to enjoy.

That's actually sounds kind of fun and totally doable. Might be an easy way to test the waters

[Robbiegirl]

Katie, Trust me I dated many fun girls and since they knew I had a great sense of humor there were several times i bought them Girly nighties like Babydolls in which they said " If you like it so much than you can wear it " It was always fun and led to great sex ! Unfortunately no French Maids outfits.

The other fantasy was the Girlfriend shows me the French Maid outfit saying she bought it since she knew i liked them but unfortunately it needs a few adjustments and could i put it on so she could fix the hem and other things. Of course before I knew it turned out i need to wear EVERYTHING ! Even a Bra, stockings and heels. To add to the fun the Girlfriend would always tell me once dressed how much better I looked in it that her and i should just keep it. Also since she was doing adjustments she would constantly be touching me and my outfit and asking how liked wearing certain items. Also she would pretend to excuse herself because she thought she heard the door bell and would pretend to let someone in making me try and run and hide in heels. LOL Sorry trying to live vicariously through you guys !

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Just a reminder that many of us deal with lots of shame about this activity. The more you can make it seem fun for you and that you are happy the easier it will be for him to relax and enjoy your time together.

Best of Luck

[Lacy PJs]

A lot of respondents have used the word submissive but I like to think of it more in terms of passive. While I don't have a French maid's outfit (I'd really like ot find a nice one that fit me properly), I think it's like my wearing babydoll PJs from time to time. When I do, I don't want to feel submissive but do enjoy the feeling of being passive...

The traditional male role is one of being aggressive but I feel that there are times when we want to shed that and just relax, be laid back and let whatever happens happen. I would think that if I were to don such an outfit, it would put me more on equal terms with my better half. But it would also be nice to hear her tell me I had hot looking legs too! :)

Lacy PJs

[Carla Bell]

I enjoy the submissive role play--grateful my SO does as well

[ellbee]

I've never owned or worn one. But never say never! :D

I wouldn't mind, actually.


Years ago this was suggested by an openly-gay male friend of mine at the time... He wanted me to dress up like that, totally en-femme, and have me serve guests at a party at his home. Unfortunately we never got around to actually doing it. But I definitely would have if he would have bought me the outfit & I got to keep it! :heehee:


Yeah, the French maid costume is fun & cute & sexy, blah blah blah. Aesthetically-pleasing, and all that. But as others have mentioned, there's also a social & psychological thing to it, as well.

It evokes certain thoughts & feelings & emotions... Not only by the wearer, but also those around them, as well. Kinda cool, really. :thumbsup:



As an aside, it's not just a CD'er thing, either...

There's a young & attractive GG who's into cosplay who once dressed up as a French maid (during August, mind you... not a Halloween thing!), complete with a long blonde wig, and walked around a very busy Costco, doing goofy things, allowing the costume to tap into another aspect of her personality. She was just having fun with it all. :)

Oh, the looks & reactions she got, LOL!

Her friend videotaped it, and they put it on YouTube. I suppose a quick & easy search would find it, if you really want to see it. ;)


Ah, the French maid outfit... Not only for men! :p

[Sherrii]

Lacy, yes "passive" is also a a good description for a french maid, and possibly maids in general. Sherrii

[AmandaM]

That makes sense to me.
What other costumes are considered submissive besides French maid and school girl?

Really you can use any costume if role-playing that places this "girl" under your authority. I think the point may be, not only being submissive, but role-playing "as a sexy girl". I think there's a little bit of male-fantasy there, except, the guy wants to do it, not have a girl do it for him, though some guys are either/or. He dresses up and role-plays as your maid, schoolgirl, beer wench, whatever. And it's titillating if you include some teasing, sexual innuendo, heck even swat his rear. Of course, if there's a sexual component to this, ravishing "her" would be the coup de grace. Let's face it, some CDers fantasize about being a hot girl being submissive to her dominate man/woman and then having sex "as that girl". Some make a lifestyle of it, some only want to play.

[marlacd]

That's actually sounds kind of fun and totally doable. Might be an easy way to test the waters

Oh do it! It sounds like fun! Too many women I know have a bad case of "Wetblanket-itis" Be different, be fun. Make us all jealous as all get-out.

Excuse me while I turn green.

[Leslie Mary S]

Never had a French Maid outfit. Don't have a need for one. Now a Drindel is another thing. Maybe a Real Nurse's outfit. I looked into an USAF WAF outfit. If you get caught in one and you aren't a WAF the fine is steep.

[Connie D50]

Ok this was funny I can't spell at all (I'm sure I have made many mistakes on this site) so I now try to goggle my response to help with correct spelling.
It's the ultimate expression of femininity and what came up was a women in a French maid outfit. :battingeyelashes:

[Crissy 107]

Connie, Pretty funny!

[KatieGG]

Hubby loved the maid costume I bought him, and we had a lot of fun playing some grown folks games lol

As others have said, its not just a cd thing, I love to dress up and look really girly, there is a reason why the "sexy" versions of things are ppopular for Halloween. I personally never wore a maids outfit although I might try on his lol but I was a "sexy Jason Voorhees " for a party this passed year.

[Robbiegirl]

Katie - You are the Best !

Hey where are the pics ?

If you try on his maids outfit will you even put on the Girly Rhumba Panties ? LOL

[RebeccaV]

I got my first maid uniform in maybe October. I got it for more sexual reasons but it's become something I love to wear around the house/apartment. It feels so empowering.
School girl outfits can go either way always been a fan of a little flirty but modest.

[MaidMarguerite]

I have several, originally it was for purely sexual reasons, but as my fiancee and I have started our life living together it has evolved for me. Generally when I am dressed and we are cleaning, I will wear it.

I'd have to say for me it's part of living out a fantasy, where I lose my larger anxieties and responsibilities and the only thing that concerns me is making the house as clean as possible. It gives me a good break from the outside world, and in that is quite cathartic.

[Aaron Zwidling]

Katie
As you can see from the range of answer you received it certainly seems to mean different things to different people. I have made myself a french maid outfit several years back that I wear once a month or so, and am definitely in the 'makes me feel really girly' camp on this, not the submissive camp or any of the other camps. It's really nice to hear you and your nubby are having so much fun with this.

[Sherrii]

Well I guess there is really some interest in french maids! This will be the 75th post about them. I think that's great! Sherrii

[Barbara Jo]

The classic sexy "French maid" costume has even become sort of popular with some GGs as a Halloween costume.

IMO, the attraction is that when weaning it, you become a sex object and that is enjoyable for some CDs as well as some GG's. :)

[Veronica Lacey]

I have a couple of different maid uniforms both with a few extras. An occasional opportunity to wear something generally impractical of whatever unsual colours to have fun in for a bit. If any cleaning actually occurs it's a bonus but mostly for the feel and for fun and to not take it too seriously.

[Ronnie38]

I have always wanted a maids costume. I love sexy ligerie. More so if I'm wearing it for someone else. Even more if they get realy into it too.

[BostonBrenda]

Its on my bucket list to own and wear (privately) a french maids outfit. For me it says I can shiw off and maybe even act sexy in front of someone, explore over the top femine behaviour

[Sometimes Steffi]

First time I was ever, ever out, I went to a Halloween party in a French maid's outfit. I couldn't go too far because I didn't want my wife to know how much I enjoyed it. So, I was a man in a dress, with a strapless bra I borrowed from my wife, filled with socks. Not a fetish, but a fun fantasy. There was also a GG at the party wearing a French maid's costume.

[sometimes_miss]

That makes sense to me.
What other costumes are considered submissive besides French maid and school girl?
Waitress, nurse, secretary, most early Disney or in fact, all 'princess' role costumes.
Witness one little boy's fascination with his sister's clothes in Lucy Caldwell's 'Through the wardrobe': https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YRjhts_p1H8

Never had a French Maid outfit. Don't have a need for one. Now a Drindel is another thing. Maybe a Real Nurse's outfit. I looked into an USAF WAF outfit. If you get caught in one and you aren't a WAF the fine is steep.
Well, none of us have an actual NEED for any of the female clothing we like.

OH, and get your feminine nurses outfits while they're still available; 40 years ago, you could pick up a nursing uniform magazine and have your choice of 50 or so different attractive, form fitting lovely white uniform dresses, and each nursing school had it's own specific designed cap. Today, there are about three, and virtually all female nurses wear loose fitting unisex scrubsuits.....which are not sexy or sex/gender specific at all, and wearing a nurses cap or white pantyhose or stockings, is pretty much a practice of a bygone era, at least in the U.S..

[RADER]

My Wife got one for me and Dressed me up as a French Maid on Halloween some time ago.
I Handed out candy to all the Kids, I was a little embarrassed at first, but many of the parents
got a big kick out of it.
I still have it, wear it for fun once in a while, but would never clean the house wearing it.I would not want to get it dirty.
Rader

[RainbowDash]

I have recently bought my very first French Maid outfit, and I love it! I'm aware that it is typically associated with sissy crossdressers, particularly those who want to be in a submissive relationship with a Mistress. While I have no interest in this sort of thing, I would say there are quite a few things I like to wear that sissies wear. I bought the French Maid outfit simply because I thought I would look cute and sexy in it. And I do indeed love it. As for cleaning while wearing it, that's not my thing.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Katie :hugs:, Visual Stimulation is everything in crossdressing. >Orchid ..O:daydreaming:O..

[BostonBrenda]

The more I think about it, Id love to own one of those ultra sissy maids outfits, pink and loads of ruffles and lace. It’s a safe way to explore the ultimate anti masculine look

[Micki_Finn]

Personal theory: its chauvinism and pigeonholeing of traditional gender roles. I find “costumes” that reflect women’s strength far sexier than those that play on submissiveness and subservience. I’ll take sexy executive over French maid any day.

[LilSissyStevie]

The more I think about it, Id love to own one of those ultra sissy maids outfits, pink and loads of ruffles and lace. It’s a safe way to explore the ultimate anti masculine look

I'm glad that someone else sees it as anti masculinity rather than "being a woman." My dressing has nothing to do with my attitudes toward women and everything to do with my relationship to masculinity. It just so happens that ultra feminine stereotypes (like French Maids, etc.) are the furthest you can get from masculinity. Therein lies their appeal - at least for me.

[JenniferR771]

Katie, do not forget the dominant woman must be hot for the fantasy to work. Heavy on eye makeup and dark red lipstick. A cross between a hardened prison guard and Wonder Woman. And to be sure you feel annoyed with him. Spend about 15 minutes scrubbing the floor around the toilet. Try threats, if it will improve his accuracy.

Sigh! I had a maid dress years ago--bought it the day after Halloween--on sale.
Gone now. Probably Ms threw it out when I was out of town, when she purged some of my Jennifer stuff.

I am thinking of buying a black dress and decorating it with lace abound the hem and sleeves. Naturally, it needs a lacy apron and cap. I think I can cut the lace of an old slip or cami.

[SamanthaToday]

I cant comment because I can honestly say I have never worn one.