Underdressing at an interview

[Nastasha]

Went for an interview today and was underdressed. Black bra, red panties and womens socks.
Had to go through a metal detector and when it triggered because of my belt was patted down and wanded. The guard was talking to me the whole time, about the weather, it being Monday ... slowed down when the bra (no underwire) was felt, said huh ... OooKayyy ... then started talking again and finished. Told me good luck. Saw them on the way out and got a smile and nod.

Will find out about the job later this week, be interesting to see the guard again if I do.

[LydiaL]

A secure workplace is a plus... but if you have to worry about just what you are "packing" to get in?

Hmm

[Beverley Sims]

For me finding a job would be more important than underdressing, especially in a security situation.

Then again do you really want the job?

Sorry Heather.

[Tracii G]

Seems like you were not serious about the job sort of.
Why do all that and possibly blow your chance for employment?

[Patience]

The security guard's word should not affect your chances one way or the other.

Of course, if this employer if serious about not discriminating against gender, race or sexual orientation, here's their chance to prove it, assuming you're the best candidate, of course. Good luck.

[Crissy 107]

I think wearing the red panties and women’s socks are absolutely ok as it is very possible it gave Heather some level of comfort and confidence. The bra I’m not so sure about.
I hope you get the job!

[Rhonda Darling]

Ok, you've got my curiosity going here. First, congratulations on not getting outed on your way to your interview. Pretty risky behavior.

Second, I work in DC and have been in and out of the White House complex, State Dept., Federal Courthouses, other Federal agencies, and have never heard of going from a metal detector to a pat down/hands on search without the intermediate step of being wanded with a handheld metal detector first. Gotta ask what type of facility in Florida does hands on searches of job interviewees? With that much security, are you sure you want to risk your secret day in and day out? The next guard my be a hard-ass who throws youmto the wolves.

Good luck.

[Patricia_Campi]

Well, I have been unemployed for 2,5 years and I have been in an interview three weeks ago. I knew in advance that the security there is hard so I would never risk this chance!!

The job is a lot more important for me!

By the way, I got it!! I am so, so happy!!!

More shoes soon!!

Kisses

Patricia

[alwayshave]

Heather, I would not have risked it, any negative, even from a security guard is enough to knock you out of the running.

Patricia, congratulations on the job.

[Crissy 107]

Patricia, Congrats on getting the job, now we need Heather to do the same.

[Bobbi46]

I am all for feeling and being what you see yourself as but I think I would baulk at red stockings for a job interview, sure gender equality and understanding in the work place should be a normal thing but there will always be some who cannot quite grasp what we are on about and I think ones appearance must be tempered with the situation at that time, thats just my opinion verybody is different.
By the way you must tell us if you get the job, good luck

[Krisi]

I'm with Tracii on this. If you were serious about getting this job, you wouldn't do anything to jeopardize your chances of getting it. And that includes underdressing and wearing a bra.

[Elizabeth G]

I wore panties to my last job interview as I don't gave any men's underwear. I wasn't worried because the was no chance that I would be discovered. A bra? Certainly not. Regardless of security procedures there's just too much risk involved and as others have pointed out the potential job was far too important to me (fwiw I got an offer).

[foxy bartender]

I’ve been job hunting for several weeks, and have been very careful about my presentation when I go. I don’t own a lot of male clothes, I ditched those over a year ago, but I still do my best to present as male as possible. Everything I wear with the exception of my button down shirt, are from the women’s side of the store. And I still wear makeup, but just my brows, and concealer and foundation. No mascara or eyeliner, no lipstick. For me, keeping those aspects of my femininity are the only thing keeping me calm so I can do well.

[Tracii G]

I did do a job interview in transwoman mode at a Cabela's sporting goods store.
They were great about it and accepting but I didn't get the job.
Could have been they didn't want a transwoman working there or they found a better match for the job.

[foxy bartender]

You’re braver than I Tracii!! What stinks is you’ll never know the reason they went with another candidate. That’s been causing me a ton of stress the past few weeks, trying to figure out what to do differently on my interviews.

[Krisi]

When hiring people for a job, there's always the fear that the (not normal) person will cause problems, either with the other employees or with clients or customers. There's also the fear of lawsuits. If the person doing the hiring finds an equally qualified candidate, that person is most likely to get the job.

In theory, there may be laws against this, but choosing an employee is pretty subjective and it would be very difficult to prove you didn't get a particular job because you were a crossdresser or transsexual.

[abbiedrake]

Been a long time since I went for an interview. My wife's various conditions have seen to that. However I would hope than any employer would look past my attire even if I went fully em femme, especially given the equality laws here in the UK. Although the rub there is the same as Tracii's predicament - you can't always know you've been a victim of prejudice and if you were sure you'd still have the burden of proof. Sigh.
Good luck, Heather

[Stephanie47]

There may be anti-discrimination laws in a particular state, county or city protecting gays and lesbians and transgender men and women. However, if a prospective employer does not hire such a person due to prejudice how will you know? You'd have to establish some sort of pattern in order to prevail in court. In the mean time you'll be pounding the streets looking for a job. Once hired you may be able to determine whether the work place is hostile towards a particular group.

I do concur with others wearing a bra to a job interview is risky behavior.

[Jenny22]

Unless you are living 24/7/365 as a woman and MUST do so for an interview, wearing anything femme, IMHO, is a no, no. Getting the job is far more important. Once hired you can determine the company's position on Trans people.

[Tracii G]

We have a fairness ordinance in my city so gays and trans do get treated equally along with regular folks so its not an issue.
I still shop there enfemme sometimes and always get treated with dignity.The girls in the ladies clothes section where I shop are always very nice and treat me like any other female.
I think the guy at the camping and prepping section may be dating a transgirl because he is always talking about his gurl friend/partner. When he talks to girls that work there its Gurl friend when its guys he is talking to its his partner.
I was looking at long term food storage he came up to help me and after a while I said you know I would love to meet your GF sometime does she shop here too?
He said yeah that would be cool I'll bet you and her would get along just fine.
I was OK with not getting the job because I really don't have to work to get by.
If the person they hired needed the job to feed his family then thats fine too.

[docrobbysherry]

Heather u really may not deserve all the flack. But, it's your fault for not providing enuff info!:straightface:

Do u underdress every day? So, u wanted to appear as u will if hired?:thumbsup:

Or, did u underdress this particular day just to push your/their boundaries? In which case u really didn't care if they hired u!?:heehee:

[Lexigurl]

Heather, please let us know if you get the job or not. If you didn't know about the extra security, I can see how wearing a bra would be comforting in an interview. Underdressing can relax me, but only if I'm aware of it. I can forget otherwise, but I almost always feel bra straps or cami straps, and that would do it for me.

[Sara1989]

I think it will be fine! I has a series of phone interviews for a work from home job and in the first I didn't dress in the second I fully dressed. The first went horribly the second I aced and ended up getting and offer. I know it's not the same situation but if underdressing makes you feel confident go for it!! I know when I go to work underdressed I am way more confident! :-)

[lingerieLiz]

No one is going to call the security guard and the guard is not going to go running up to management and telling them.

If it was a government contractor you probably could have worn a blouse and been hired. I did a project where I hired quite a few people some of which were openly gay or what ever. All I was looking for was the best that we could find.

[Kelli_cd]

I wore panties to my latest interview (I always wear panties). I always feel very confident is these stressful situations because I know not every man had the strength to wear panties to an interview. Wearing panties sets me apart, and my confidence sets me apart. I'm already ahead of my competition.

[Krea]

At a recent job interview i went discreetly underdressed (ie no bra!) as it is my standard "mode" these days anyway. It is highly unlikely that anyone could have noticed what i was wearing under a thick shirt and heavy winter suit and i felt more comfortable and confident than i would otherwise have done.:)

[Nastasha]

OK – so I GOT the job.
To those of you who questioned whether I was serious about it – Yes I was. I don’t like wasting people’s time and I sure don’t like having mine wasted. Will it have any impact on my job duties, nope.

Where was I? Well, I can’t claim anything as glamourous as the White House complex, but, I can say without pause that the folks that go in and out of this facility are more likely to be armed than not. I don’t live in DC, I live out toward the woods and the fine folks (no sarcasm, they really are) that live in them and again, they are more likely armed than not.

Why did I get wanded and patted after going through the metal detector? I don’t make their policy, but, the places she was patting/checking just happen to correspond with where you would have a belt or shoulder holster if you were carrying. Coincidence … no, I think not. To know for sure I think you’d have to ask her or her superiors, but I’d guess it’s because they’ve had some issues. See, not that difficult is it?
I have been underdressing for almost 30 years, the last 15 daily. It has become second nature and I don’t even think about it. I’ve gone out of my way to learn how to keep from showing my panties when I lean over or having bra straps print as well. Have I been seen or discovered? Yes I have. Have I been asked about it? Yes I have, even by a member of management. She had noticed what she thought was bra straps a few times and was coming through our area when I leaned over and saw some lace and flowers. She asked me to come and talk about an issue with her in her office so I did, and she asked me point blank. I told her yes, I did underdress and did so daily, had even been doing so when she interviewed me for that job. Let her know it wasn’t something new, I had been daily wearing for about 5 years at that point. Her response? Oh … OK. Did her attitude toward me change, not one bit. My reviews continued to be above average and nothing else was said about it.
I believe in practicing what I preach, and if I say I’m going to do something, I do it. Period. I don’t do anything to draw attention to myself, I keep my behavior and carriage the same at all times. I also do not care what someone thinks of me, if you don’t like me, I won’t lose sleep about it. What I choose to wear is my business.

I have no idea why so many of you decided to sharpen the knives and have at me over this. Nor do I really care, quite frankly it’s hilarious. You have your opinions and you do your thing, I’ll do mine.

[Lisa516]

Congratulations on the new Job and a job well done!

Sincerely;
Lisa :)

[JenniferLynn0370]

Congratulations, Heather; that's awesome!! Best wishes in your new job!

Jenny

[Tracii G]

If you really don't care what people think why get upset over what someone here says?
Just using logic here.
It does seem to have upset you or you wouldn't have become defensive about what some have said.
Personally you are free to wear whatever you want and its none of my business.
I am happy you got the job and are living your life the way you want to.

[Lexigurl]

OK – so I GOT the job.


Congrats on getting the job - and for you being you!

[Crissy 107]

Heather, Congrats on getting the job, I’m happy for you.

[Annajose]

Congratulations on your new job!

[Patience]

OK – so I GOT the job.Mazeltov!

I too had a job interview yesterday, for a different position in the company I worked for. I was underdressed in panties, the rest was drab. Not that it would have mattered - it was a phone interview.

[Nastasha]

If you really don't care what people think why get upset over what someone here says?
Just using logic here.
It does seem to have upset you or you wouldn't have become defensive about what some have said.
Personally you are free to wear whatever you want and its none of my business.
I am happy you got the job and are living your life the way you want to.

Frankly, because I am tired of watching people snipe at others from behind their keyboards.
Genetic Females can wear jeans, tshirts, shorts ... long list but things that are traditionally and historically considered mens clothes. We try to do the same, and, some people lose their minds.
When a person chooses to explore and express this side of themselves - WHY rain on their parade or snipe with your own insecurities or fears? If you don't like what they post ... scroll on by. Remember opinions are like belly buttons, everybody has one and they're all different.
Anonymity in my opinion is removing manners.