Marlena Dahlstrom
03-23-2006, 03:27 AM
My acquaintance Diane has a harsh, but evocative term for folks like John, who became BlondeJohn and contemplated feminization (http://p072.ezboard.com/flonghairloversdiscussionfrm8.showMessageRange?top icID=122.topic&start=1&stop=20) only to become John again once the "pink haze" wore off (http://longhairlovers.com/phpBB/viewtopic.php?p=2786&highlight=#2786) -- "fantasy gendered."
Today I heard a quote attributed to Philip K. Dick that's worth keeping in mind:
Reality is that which, when we choose to ignore it, doesn't go away.
John is an extreme example, but I've seen "fan-gendered" folks all too often go over the cliff like Wiley E. Coyote still running as if there was ground under their feet until they look down and sudden realize there's the long fall ahead. Unfortunately, unlike the cartoons, it's a lot harder for them to rise up out of the resulting crater.
Today I heard a quote attributed to Philip K. Dick that's worth keeping in mind:
Reality is that which, when we choose to ignore it, doesn't go away.
John is an extreme example, but I've seen "fan-gendered" folks all too often go over the cliff like Wiley E. Coyote still running as if there was ground under their feet until they look down and sudden realize there's the long fall ahead. Unfortunately, unlike the cartoons, it's a lot harder for them to rise up out of the resulting crater.