Why boobs?

[Ronnie38]

My wife asked me this question a while ago and the only answer I can still think of is "they make me feel pretty". A little back story. My wife has known of my dressing for about ten years now. I told her a month after we started becoming serious. We have had our ups and downs since then. About five months ago, I lost my dad to a heart attack. It hurt a lot, but caused a lot of inward thinking, self reflection, and what ever else you choose to call it. It also caused me to reflect on my crossdressing hobby a lot more as he was the biggest reason for my guilt, shame, and hiding who and what I am. When I came out to my wife I answered a lot of questions with the typical "I dont know". I have recently replaced a lot of those answers. Why do I like girls\womens clothes? Variety. Fit. Feel. Fabrics, Colors. Girls clothes are more fun. I like to feel pretty. I see so many girls daily in so many different outfits and envy and jealousy come into play. Why can't I wear that? Why shouldnt I enjoy the frills and color and glamour? Hair. So many styles and colors and its all so pretty. I like pretty hair and I like to feel pretty so why not? Makeup? well, as frustrating as it is to put it on and get it to match and look right, I still think its fun and wonderful. I see so many girls out in the real world with just gorgeous makeup and get jealous. I want my eyes and face to look that pretty too. Shaving my legs? Leg hair is gross. I love the look of smooth legs and love my own legs when they are shaved and lotioned. Am I gay? Well thats a bit confusing, I am bisexual but at this point in life it dosnt matter as I am married and have found the person I want to spend my life with. No, Im not gay. Im Married. So, why the boobs? Well, I have come to realise that a lot of my crossdressing desires and preferences come from what I find attractive on females. I think well proportioned breasts are very attractive and very pretty, especially with the right top or outfit. For me, I dress for myself, what makes me feel pretty. I feel much more pretty with my modest breasts than I do without them. My tops feel better. My bras feel sexier. My dresses feel cuter. Over all, I just desire to feel pretty like the pretty girls I see around me in the world. And why shouldnt I? Why should girls have all the fun? Maybe Im wrong to think like this but I do. I have my whole life. No matter what I do or how much I try to run away and hide from it, I still want to look and feel pretty.

[bridget thronton]

Feeling pretty is as good as reason as any - keep talking to your wife sounds like she is quite special

[Kiwi Primrose]

My excuse, not that I need one, is that the female clothing is cut and made to accommodate breasts. An essential part of this is making allowance for the extra room and shaping required for comfort and look of breasts, waist and hips, all of which are in different proportions to male garments. Personally, I have never been worried about "pretty", but I love the softer feel and variety of my hobby wardrobe.

[prene]

I agree with Kiwi.
"female clothing is cut to accommodate breast" I love the feel of a softer body and I hate hair YUCK.
For me it is just how I want to feel "feminine".

When out still under dress, love the feel of having hips and breasts that pull on my body as I move.
You are correct feminine clothes are so much fun, I wish they were not so expensive.

Prene

[Crissy 107]

Ronnie, That was a very well written and thoughtful post and I enjoyed reading it.

[sometimes_miss]

Sounds like she didn't want to accept that you have some female self identification going on. That's more than being bisexual, and she probably wasn't prepared for it.

[GretchenM]

Such an eloquent statement and description. Very interesting and revealing. You are definitely into feminine. However, by your description I also think you might be one of the many forms of transgender people, especially those of us who don't really want 24/7 but still need a good deal of that expression. Maybe bigender or gender fluid; more masculine sometimes and more feminine other times but with the two being expressed fairly separately and not much blending of the gender expressions as with non-binary. But you could also be non-binary.

The point is that this is a significant part of your life. Nothing wrong with that at all. Dig down deep and I think you may find "crossdressing hobby" isn't quite the nature of it. You may find that "hobby" is maybe not the right word? To me, it appears to perhaps be more of an identity thing than a hobby. Thus I have to agree with Lexi (Sometimes-Miss) that there may be more to this than you think there is.

That said, as long as you are happy that is what is important. But don't be surprised if this "hobby" becomes more of a kind of lifestyle choice. That is OK, but it will change the equation if that happens.

[alwayshave]

Ronnie, Feeling pretty is a good enough reason for me.

[deebra]

Ronnie, wonderful post; so nice of you to open up so much about personal feelings but that is one of the wonderful things about this site, you have others like you to talk to.. I identify with your post word for word except I feel full breasts are more feminine than your ample breasts. Having stated you are bisexual must mean you have had sex with another male, being pretty and feminine as you describe I can see where to be with a male would make you feel more womanly. Hope your wife can adjust and handle this steep mountain for her to climb. You have also probaly thought if you weren't married you would have the freedom to take this as far as you wanted. My advise, baby steps and don't tell her you want to be with a man.

[BrendaPDX]

"I still want to look and feel pretty." Good enough for me! Yes, most of the women's clothes I like are cut to best accent the assets.

[Robertacd]

Because women's clothes do not look or fit properly without them.

[Asew]

I asked myself this question too. And I got rid of my boobs. For me, it feels fake and I would rather accept I have a male body and cover it with a mix of female and male clothes. This question was part of me realizing I was non-binary and didn't need to go full femme anymore. It is great to occasionally question these things and figure out the most honest answer :)

[Micki_Finn]

Well for me it’s mostly because having boobs balances out my shape and makes my waist look smaller.

[Stephanie47]

Decades ago when my wife and I had "The Talk" she asked with some hint of frustration with me, "Why would a man wear a bra when he has nothing to pack into it?" During this conversation I mumbled a lot of gibberish. I said something about connecting with my inner woman. She shot back with "When you can have a baby talk to me about your inner woman." That conversation was the low point of dealing with my cross dressing. When we were first married we did dabble with nylon night gowns and hosiery in the bedroom. I suspect she thought it was just a fetish which brought her some benefits. When my interests went further it all fell apart. Any I digressed.

As to "Why the bra?" I suppose I have to go back to the real question. "Why do I want to emulate a woman?" I've always said on this forum I can express how I feel when wearing the clothes or why I like the clothes. However, after decades of searching I cannot come up with some concrete reason for me to wear women's clothing. All this psychological trauma was before the internet. If my wife and I were to have a discussion today I'd tell her I suspect there is some degree of dna of the opposite sex within my dna chain. I do see a counselor for war related PTSD. No, I have not brought up my cross dressing with the counselor. She has expressed her professional opinion that each man or woman has some dna of the opposite sex. In some it is more than others. Perhaps, that answers some questions as to why one person is satisfied with an occasional wearing of women's clothing, and, the next person is beating his head against the wall expressing the fact the mind set is that of a woman. As to the war related PTSD I found in the past wearing woman's clothing brings out another mindset and brings some degree of peace and transquility.

As to "Why the bra?" As others have stated it completes my mental image of an attractive woman. As a male I always thought in terms of proportion. A petite woman with overly huge breasts is not physically attractive. Out of proportion. A woman with excessively small breast is not physically attractive. Out of proportion. Don't get me wrong. I know some very nice women in both categories. It's just not my self image. I do not think man boobs are attractive either, although that may justify the need of a bra.

When I was a young child and before any interest in women's clothing I like to draw. I won an elementary school contest for a picture I made which was rather detailed. I love colors. I love things with color. I love growing flowers and maintain our flower garden. My woman's wardrobe tends toward color. I have many colorful slips. Once a sales woman told me women view a slip as "just an undergarment not to be seen." Me? I like the thought of the color hiding underneath a pretty color dress with designs. Even en drab over my professional career I expressed color through my shirts. Very rarely did I wear a white shirt with a red tie as most politicians or powerful men seem to graduate to. I wore pastels. My guy side of the closet is loaded with many many different colors. I also expressed myself with colorful ties with bold designs. There is something within me expressing some feelings which society does not hold in esteem for men. To me it is a lot more than to "make the clothes fit better."

[NancySue]

Because....just because...for all reasons mentioned. Putting on my bra is almost a ritual...hooking clasps, adjustment of shoulder straps, bending over to center and scoop..a must to complete the dressing process. I fill an a cup nicely which is mostly my daily bra, but I have several c cups with forms for variety.

[MsEva]

I guess I would add that the "boobs" sort of fill out the dress. It feels more fem to have them.

[Cheryl T]

I feel that there is no more feminine aspect than breasts.
They make me feel more like a woman than anything else. They balance my figure and make my clothes fit as designed.
Yes, they are not real, but then many women who have survived breast cancer wear them and that is actually their designed purpose. My mother was such a woman.

When I wear them, the movement, contact and weight reinforce that feeling of femininity that I love and desire. Nothing felt right until I purchased my first set of forms. From that point on everything fell into place and I was able to achieve the wholeness as a woman that I longed for for so long in my life.

[Majella St Gerard]

Women have breasts and as we dress like women, we use breast forms or whatever to achieve a womanly shape, I wear butt pads too. What does "Gay" have to do with it?

[Danielle_cder]

Exactly what Cheryl T said!

[Tracii G]

The clothes are made with boobs in the equation so why not have boobs where they are given space for?
I wish people would not equate dressing with being bisexual or gay.
Dressing and sexual preference have nothing to do with each other so please just stop it.
If you had no interest in dressing or ladies clothes then would you still be bisexual?
Answer that honestly when you get the chance please.
What I am getting at is are you claiming to be bisexual just because you dress and think it somehow validates your dressing?
I talk with a lot of CDers, young CD/trans people and some think they have to be bi or gay to be authentic.
Authentic is another thing that bothers me about some trans people. Just be who you are and don't worry about authentic because if you are you then you are authentic.

[Robertacd]

I do too Tracii... But you can't fix stupid.

To the simple minded, everything a woman does is for the sole purpose of attracting a man. Therefore the only reason a man would dress like a woman is to attract a man.

[Tracii G]

Yes simple minds think that way.

[Michaelasfun]

I feel the same way as you do on many fronts. Women’s wear just seems “happier” to me and I enjoy the variety; breasts are just a natural part of the whole look. And it’s ok to not know all the whys.

[Michellebej]

For me it is my self image. When I close my eyes I don't see a man, I see a woman.

That woman shares commonality with her four genetic sisters. All of whom are big breasted. The irony is that while some see "DD" as large, when compared to my sisters it is quite modest. Two of my sisters are in the Dolly Parton range while the other two wear an "E" cup.

My one and only sibling who knows about me, when she came to visit; one of the first things out of her mouth was "Why are your boobs so small?" ( 42DD).

So for me it's not a sex thing, or a clothing thing, it is a matter of self image.

IN other words "What would I look like if I had been born with 4 "X"s?"

[RainbowDash]

The boobs are very important to me when trying to identify as female, as is a wig. Without it I just don't feel right.
When I first started crossdressing, I bought my very first dress from a crossdressing store. I anxiously put it on and loved the look and feel of it. But the feminine experience was not complete, because I did not have breast forms and looked like a flat-chested woman. I made up my mind that I needed to have the appearance of breasts, and very shortly after, I was wearing the same dress with breast forms. I loved the look 10 times better and felt a lot more feminine too.
I loved having the appearance of boobs so much, that it wasn't too long that I thought about purchasing what is probably considered the most important piece of clothing when one thinks about their breasts.... bras. I also especially love off the shoulder dresses where the boobs peak out over the top of the dress. Having the look and feeling of boobs helps me feel more feminine, and makes the experience a whole lot more enjoyable.

[Lindseynrva]

My dressing has involved partners back when I was younger. Women I dated some really got into it we would even buy lingerie together and the little chicken cutlets were next to give me some boobies. They were just the beginning. My dressing was sexual with both sexes and even some other cross dressers.

Boobs are one of the most feminine things we can have as cross dressers and sharing that experience with others has only served to enhance the good experiences in my dressing life.

[Ronnie38]

Just for the sake of clarity, these were multiple questions my wife asked me over 10 years ago which, at the time, I had no clear answers for.

[Teresa]

Ronnie,
Boobs are the one thing I thought women would be touchy about , they know most of what fills our bras isn't real but it doesn't appear to bother them . Most appear to dislike their own shape, either they are too big or not big enough or gravity is taking hold more than they like . I have also been surprised how helpful SAs are in discussing the right bra without considering what is used to fill them .

No question of needing boobs , they balance my shape up , I love my figure , it's something I would never give a second thought to in male mode . I also thought I would feel uneasy wearing a tight Tshirt in the summer as they do make a bust far more obvious but now it just feels right .

I do sympathise with members who yearn to be able to openly wear makeup and clothes as they choose , to be able to shave their bodies without a second thought but now I'm free to do it, it just feels normal . No I doubt you are gay , I know I'm not just because I can be Teresa .

Tracii,
I agree with you but the connection is often part of the first question wives/partners usually ask , somehow it appears to be a logical or should I say illogical conclusion .

[Ronnie38]

Tracii, I almost took offence to your comment but it is a valid point. Dressing and sexuality are 2 different things. That was just my answer to my wifes question of "are you gay". I am not bisexual because I dress, but because i have had, and enjoyed intimate relationships with both men and women.

[Lexigurl]

I still want to look and feel pretty.

Well said, Ronnie. Me, too.

I'm too lazy to wear boobs all the time while dressed, but I do wear them when trying to project a higher-level of femininity in clothing that looks better with them, or with my SO.

[Tracii G]

I sent you a PM so we are clear I hope.
I was not trying to be offensive and I'm sorry if you felt that way because it was not my intention at all.
PM should have cleared that up LOL

[Macey]

The other way around on it … why NOT boobs?

[Lana Mae]

Macey, you stole my line! Why not? LOL Hugs Lana Mae

[Macey]

Lana Mae, just so long as no one steals your boobs! :P

[Miss V]

It's all part of the package for me (Unless doing MIAD).

[Lana Mae]

No one steals my boobs and lives to tell the tale! LOL Hugs Lana Mae

[CrossKimmy]

For me, wearing my forms is sort of confirmation of the transformation. To feel their weight, the bounce, the idea that they’re there is important.

[Devi SM]

For me boobs and hips are fundamental elements of a woman shape. Since a year on HRT my boobs are very evident but working on hips that take longer to get some because the skeleton anatomy is different from men and women but HRT make fat relocation and specific exercise helps...

[Macey]

Vanessa, what exercises are you doing?

[kimberly c]

Boobs are needed to fill out the feminine form. Clothes will not fit correctly without your boobs.

[Devi SM]

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Vanessa, what exercises are you doing?
It's basically squads. For.teo reasons, I don't want to get old and not be able at least to walk in a normal way. Buttocks are very important and powerful muscles .

This is a link for YouTube 5 minutes effective routine.

https://youtu.be/afghBre8NlI.

There are tons but this is just 5 minutes and helps hips too.

[Kiwi Primrose]

Hi prene, I have mentioned before that if you are OK with going to op. shops there is a variety of very good second hand clothing available at bargain prices. Plus designer war at a fraction of the new price. In our small town there is a Vinnie's (St Vincent de Paul) and Salvation Army. The larger town a few kilometres up the road has several to choose from including a large "Dress Smart".

[Shely]

I couldn't have said it better. Great explanation, I agree entirely!

[EmilyJade]

I've come to look at it like this. As we become more aware of our bodies as cds we want to fill out the clothes and look pretty and feminine. I started with bigger, like c and d now I feel better with a or b... But I love boobs on a women 😍 the bigger the better! Lol 😍 great post

EJ

[Beverley Sims]

I am not a flat chested girl although when I was fourteen I had not reached puberty and I looked like a very pretty flat chested girl.

I was often encouraged to wear a bra and fill them out a bit.

[Michelle1955]

It is part of the package, with that said I consider myself transgender. A bra in A or B cup makes me at peace. My wife was C/D when we got married 40 years ago, now a DD/DDD and she say that large is a royal pain. She would prefer to be a C cup. And is one that takes her bra off when at home to get bra off.

[AllieBellema]

For me it's when I dress up, I want to look the part so I have to have my breasts on when I do wear anything!

[erinna]

As a man who is attracted to women, I like boobs. Probably something deep in my male psyche.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Ronnie :hugs:, Looking pretty and feeling Feminine is what this program is all about. >Orchid ..O:daydreaming:O..

[MsEva]

Boobs are needed to fill out the feminine form. Clothes will not fit correctly without your boobs.

Love my size 5 Feminique forms!

[abbiedrake]

I love my B cup forms. I might go slightly larger, maybe just a C cup. But no bigger.
Which is hilarious as both my practice wife and the keeper are very large chested. The keeper's 36GG. Colour me happy with both sets of boobs in my life. 😀
As to why, well they're pretty handy if you're aiming for full femme presentation. But me, I simply like the way they fill out my clothes. Nuff said.

[valerie anne]

I just need a bra for support now.

My pumping regime has taken me to a wobbly 38 C cup with large nipples. I need to wear nipple shields inside my bra.

[Angie G]

I don't think your not wrong for feeling this way. I think we all here do. I wear forms to make a C cup under my dresses, blouse's, Sweaters PJ's what ever I wear. Some times 24 hours a day. I for one won't go without my boobs. :hugs:
Angie

[Sara1989]

Well put! I feel the same way as you. For me I think breasts are one of the main things that make me feel feminine. The feel and bounce of them, the way they soften the shoulders and fill out a top. We all define femininity in different ways.

[GeorgeA]

It's all part of the package for me (Unless doing MIAD).

As a MIAD I have no desire for either breasts or bras. Looking like a woman is not what I want to achieve.

[faltenrock]

Didn't think about it really. I bought them to feel more natural when dressed and it fits my clothes so much better. I try to present as best as possible and forms are a part of it.

[Vikky]

I want emulate the lifestyle, the shape, the experience of womanhood, to be as much like them as I can so wearing a bra and using forms needs to be a part of dressing.

Putting on a bra is usually the first step in the transformation and as Cross Kimmy says I want to feel the weight in the bra, the pull, and in addition the tightness around the chest. Its what a woman feels all the time.

I also agree with so many other comments about the fit and cut of female clothes, they just wouldn’t be right without a bust.

Another aspect for me is to look down my body, maybe though a stray hair or two, over my bust, down the line of the dress, the tights and shoes – just feels so good.

So boobs definitely get my vote.

Vikky

[deebra]

Many have said boobs are necessary for female clothing to fit right, isn't a tight tuck also just as necessary for pants, skirts to fit right and show that flat feminine look??? I love both.


I might add I saw a video with a man and woman and the man had very hairy legs, GROSS!!! How different than hairless, smooth, toned, tanned feminine legs.

[Michellebrown]

I also agree boobs are everything i want mine to grow

[Felicia M]

:<3: this Ronnie!

Variety. Fit. Feel. Fabrics, Colors. Girls clothes are more fun. I like to feel pretty.

I see so many girls out in the real world with just gorgeous makeup and get jealous. I want my eyes and face to look that pretty too.

I feel much more pretty with my modest breasts than I do without them. My tops feel better. My bras feel sexier. My dresses feel cuter.

No matter what I do or how much I try to run away and hide from it, I still want to look and feel pretty.
YES YES YES and YES.

Just love :<3: the way you put it so TY

[kinky_caitlin]

Wow, those are really great answers to those questions. I hope you don't mind me borrowing a few of them when I get the same questions asked of me over and over again.

[Robertacd]

I have to reiterate my answer, (Because women's clothes do not look or fit properly without them.) because just last weekend I was wearing a camp shirt from Torrid that I never liked the fit of with my natural breasts. It acually felt too small in the bust, and gapped kind of wierd

But wearing my D cup forms it fit perfectly!

[Emileen]

I really miss wearing breast forms, they felt so natural abd sexy!
My boyfreind is FTM and has had top surgery. He says they make him uncomfortable so i got rid of them out of respect.
Now adays its just a B cup padded bra under my top. Not quite the same but it feels nice. Plus i dont go out or try to present complete femm😶

[Nastasha]

Because I have them. I have had B cup breasts since I was 16/17 years old, part of who I am.

I'm used to them.

[Maid_Marion]

My natural boobs are only 32A, but I've occasionally noticed people staring at them. They match my hips. :)

[Laura28]

Pretty simple answer but it me.

They just feel right.

[Micki_Finn]

just want to add one thing that struck me about your post. Don’t try to chase the beauty you see in women around you. That’s a trap and a losing game. Just worry about being your prettiest you.

[Andrea2656]

For me crossdressing is a transformative experience. For me to feel fully transformed involved breast. As other have stated, women's clothing is designed to accommodate breasts. But it is more than the fit of the clothes it is also about the shape. I have been trying thigh and hip pads to further the transformation. My goal is to look like what my minds eye sees as the woman inside.

[mbmeen12]

To me, its helps the assigned sex and gender do not match my persona.

[Raychel]

I will chime in here.

Why Boobs?
I do like the feel of them, and dresses just don't look right without them in my opinion
I have tried wearing dresses without them, and for me the look is just not complete.

So for the look and the feel that makes me feel like me.
Make me feel the look is correct for me.

[Shayla]

We can talk about fit and style etc but I think the main reason we want boobs is because inside many of us are trying to emulate/feel like/present as women. And women have boobs.

[Aaron Zwidling]

Over the years I have come up with various theories as to why, and I'm sure some of my theories are at least partially correct. What I always come back to though is I really like wearing a bra and feeling like I have boobs, and as it doesn't hurt anyone I may as well do what I enjoy.

[StevieTV]

I found a pair of breast forms at the Sally Anne for $50. I'm wearing them as it completes the look and most importantly, I like the look!

[Sallee]

lots of answers. Boobs make our cloths fit better. I love looking at boobs. They make women look prettier But what I don't understand especially in the TG community is why so many have an infatuation with huge boobs. I understand well propotioned buts and a nice sze boob, I love the bounce , but I see so many opting for super large double GG boobs and it just seems ridiculous at least to me. But what ever you like is fine and I'll keep my opinion quiet

[Maid_Marion]

Being TG normally means you are taller and have broader shoulders than a GG, so they do need bigger implants for their proportions.

[Barbara Jo]

The questions that beg to be asked are these...
Why do females want Boobs? Would they want to be flat chested?

[Maid_Marion]

There are a few women who do want to be flat, rather than risk breast cancer. Sadly, there are doctors who assume otherwise, and don't do the surgery according to their wishes.

[BTWimRobin]

While I can't speak about how wearing a bra with forms feels as I still need to experience that, I can talk about it from an artistic perspective. The female body is a true work of art with it's pleasing curves. The curves are nice to look at. We as crossdressers recreate those curves in the outfits we choose to wear. Having boobs and hips help create a pleasing, curvaceous look.

Robin

[IleneD]

(sigh)
Perhaps this draws the distinction between CD and TG (as debated in another thread).

I dream of breasts. I yearn for boobs. Not only can I imagine it and see it in my mind's eye, I can almost "feel" them like a lost phantom limb.
It's the dysphoria and the lifelong sense that I missed out on something.

Soon to see the doctor/endocrinologist in May. Going to discuss HRT seriously and how it might decrease the anxious, out-of-body experience when GD descends.
Can hardly wait.

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What I always come back to though is I really like wearing a bra and feeling like I have boobs, and as it doesn't hurt anyone I may as well do what I enjoy.

Good one, Aaron. I share that sentiment.
I love wearing my bra. While I'm only in social transition now and not dressing entirely femme 24/7, I do mix my femme and drab often. I always wear a bra, even if it's only a sports bra.
First off, they make great t-shirts. I always hated male t-shirts with tails that required tucking-in. Too much. My bra is like a streamlined undershirt. In the winter, especially, I find that a bra is a great way to keep warm. A lot of heat loss happens in the chest and head area. As a slightly warming undergarment, a bra is great.

I also find that my bra slims and trims my bust line (chest line) quite well. I am not plagued by Male Boobs (I wish), and can go shirtless without shame. [Boy, that will certainly end upon HRT]. It just makes me look better, even in drab.

[shellybme]

I agree with a lot of the responses on this post. I do also want to feel pretty. The clothes that attracts me have ample room for breasts and as I tend to be broad shouldered, the bigger the breasts the better. I do love having tig ol bitties. Makes me feel sexy and attractive. That is plenty enough for me.

[DanielleCD]

Why boobs? Why not boobs? It's part of being feminine.. shape, curves and clothes that fit those curves.

[Sophia DK]

Can you share the website address for Sally Anne?

[never liked karen]

Because my B and C cup unpadded would not look so good with AA cup boobs

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I meant my B and C cup bras which I love so much and want more but my SO said I already have too many.

[Bobbi46]

I would feel a right tit without mine!! LoL!!

[susan54]

I am one of a number of people on this site who do not identify as a woman at all - even when fully dressed with wig and make-up. I remain a man presenting as a woman but not identifying as one. The question "why boobs?" is even more difficult for us. As I wear a bra and very expensive forms every time I wake up and every evening, I have asked myself this question often. As others have said the clothes do not look good without them. Even clothes that are not pre-shaped look better with boobs in them. I have a good figure when these are added as my waist is narrow and in a dress I find this aesthetically pleasing. I have never thought of hip padding and have no desire to go there as I get the effect I want without hip enhancement. My bras are designed for comfort and to make my forms look good - they are much more about function than appearance. I tried out a range of forms but thought that even C was too big and am a 38B. It is the most pleasing size for my physique. The capital cost of a pair of Amoena forms is huge and they have to be replaced every two years or so but it works out at around 40-50p a day - much less than a cup of coffee. I would not want the real thing - as I get older I can feel a bit of a jiggle when I run and I have no objection to this, and would not mind if they got a bit bigger but I do not DESIRE real ones. My objective in dressing is to attain the appearance of an elegant women - not a pretty or feminine one. Most of this is down to poise and the rest to a quality wardrobe. I have had my colour and style analysed to be as good at this as I can be. It would not work without the boobs but it does work without hip padding - this applies to my own perception and the perception of others. When it comes to my own feelings for the appearance of women, I am a leg man. I am very fortunate in having shapely legs and I think they look great in sheer tights and in opaque tights and even opaque ones need hairless legs to be aesthetically pleasing. My legs are concealed in male mode (I don't wear shorts or go swimming) and my arms remain hairy as I will not compromise perception of me as masculine when I am presenting as the real me. The real me is a man - 100% of the time, even with added boobs. I have tried the MIAD approach. It is better than Man in Trousers but is way less fun than man in dress with boobs - simply because it looks odd. I would assume MIAD attracts more attention because you are making no attempt to conceal your gender, but in reality no one seems to care, so the boobs are added purely for my own enjoyment. Still not sure I have convinced myself that my boobs are justified but it is useful to ponder the question.