More me time

[Helen_Highwater]

Just of late it's been the case that I've had more albeit short periods were I'm home alone. Hence I've more opportunities to slip on a skirt, forms and heels and enjoy a bit of me time. Okay, not full on dressing but I'll take what I can get and as a case in point I type this having been home alone for over 3 hours and still a little more to come. It's during these times I've realised just how much I enjoy having my forms on. It's comforting and I love the warm feeling they provide.

These little episodes aren't much in the great scheme of things but they keep me connected to my femme side. Oh it that the time, back to drab!

[Teresa]

Helen,
While you grab your moments when and where you can , which is great for you do you feel you could maintain full time ? I know you also get some weeks away but is it really enough ? I've reached the stage where I prefer not to return to male mode , personally I don't find any aspect I've grown tired of because it feels so natural , I'm more comfortable as Teresa .

[Beverley Sims]

Teresa raises an interesting question, I await your answer on this.

You do get a few opportunities and I wonder what the future might hold for you.

[Helen_Highwater]

Helen,
While you grab your moments when and where you can , which is great for you do you feel you could maintain full time ? I know you also get some weeks away but is it really enough ?


Teresa raises an interesting question, I await your answer on this.

You do get a few opportunities and I wonder what the future might hold for you.

So yes ladies, they're valid questions. So first one first. "Do I feel I could maintain full time?". I'm going to say yes to that, however as it stands I don't feel the need to go full time. Dressing has become natural for me. I feel very comfortable being dressed and going out holds no fears for me. Having spent seven days dressed a good few times basically living enfemme I know what it takes and I get a lot from it. That said overall I'm happy with the life I have. I certainly wouldn't say no to more out and about time but in truth that would need me to come out to one and all and I'm not yet at that stage.

On to number two, "What the future might hold?" Well short term I'll continue to dress as often as I can to a greater or lesser extent. As it stands it's rare for me not to spend at least a few hours each day in a skirt around the house. Some days it could be a few hours with wig, forms, skirt, top and heels. I'm already planning my next 7 day adventure for later in the year but if other opportunities come along then I'll endeavor to make the most of those.

All in all I count myself fortunate. I know I'm not as free as some but I also know there's many who would give their back teeth to have what I have. So I'll count my blessings and make the most of what I have. No use wishing your life away.

[Eemz]

That's great to hear Helen and you're right to take the "me time". I had got into a pattern of thinking that there's no point starting unless I have time to do "the full monty" but that's not true at all. More recently I have got back into just throwing on a dress after work for no reason except that I'm happier and will have a better evening just doing mundane things around the house. And it's been great.

Full time... you totally could if you wanted to. Having met you in person I can't picture you as a man, it doesn't compute. But I also like your perspective that life is a bigger story and we each have to consider the cost in other parts of our lives, and whether the need is strong enough that we have to do it anyway. Everyone's story is different.

[GretchenM]

The bits and pieces approach is almost all I use to produce comfort. Rarely is it the full expression. I have tried to maintain the full expression for 24 hours and it has always failed at around 16 to 20 hours and becomes uncomfortable. The flightiness of non-binary is that way - almost constant transition to something else with nothing lasting for very long. Not really an increase in gender dysphoria, but an increase in expression fit dysphoria. I spend most evenings in some sort of femme or partial femme outfit, but during the day I often also wear something that has a female cut and fit. So, most of the time I have on something; it is just very informal, casual, and mixed with some drab. It wasn't always that way. In the past it was one or the other and no blending. Then it changed. Might change again.

[Crissy 107]

Gretchen, Knowing you it may very well change again and I will be looking forward to your take on why.