Too tall to go out?

[Jenny22]

If you don't want to be seen out because of your height, check out this list of well known or famous tall females:

http://www.femulate.org/p/being-tall-i-am-over-six-feet-tall-so.html

[Lydianne]

Great... but irrelevant :straightface:.

I live in a university area, and when in male mode, I walk past multiple female students my height ( around 6' 1" ). The reason this is irrelevant is because many people, when they see such a woman, they would do a double take, study her other features, and conclude unequivocally that she is a woman. When they do the same process to me, I'd get read. Therein lies the difference.

There is no comfort to be drawn from knowing there are tall women. We just need to stare down the barrel :straightface:.

- Lydianne.

[Robertacd]

LOL, that's what flats were made for. :P

[Beverley Sims]

Tall just gets you a more lingering look.

Just accept it I feel.

[JaytoJillian]

Great... but irrelevant :straightface:.

I live in a university area, and when in male mode, I walk past multiple female students my height ( around 6' 1" ). The reason this is irrelevant is because many people, when they see such a woman, they would do a double take, study her other features, and conclude unequivocally that she is a woman. When they do the same process to me, I'd get read. Therein lies the difference.

There is no comfort to be drawn from knowing there are tall women. We just need to stare down the barrel :straightface:.

- Lydianne.

I agree 100%. Being out en femme as someone who is tall (6'-1") gets me a degree of added scrutiny that most can readily use to ascertain that I'm not a person who was FAB. I am always pleasantly surprised on those rare occasions in which I am assumed to be a GG, but I operate under the assumption that everyone knows the deal when I am out and about.

[JennykBailey]

I'm too tall to stay in sometimes. I often bang my head on the door frames especially in heels.

[JaytoJillian]

I'm too tall to stay in sometimes. I often bang my head on the door frames especially in heels.

ha ha good one!

[prene]

I'm to tall 5'-11.5"

For me it is finding clothes that fit.

[Teresa]

Jenny,
I count my blessings being shortish at 5' 7" . While you think tall ones may struggle maybe also spare a thought for the short ones . I spent a whole morning in an out of town store going through the racks . The store has specials for coach trips and I followed a group of them round, the converstion was hillarious at times . They started choosing things for me and I started picking out for some of them . I picked out a lovely dress out and remarked to a lady next to me , she said , " It's fine for you being tall , but where do you think it's going to end up on me at 4' 11" ? ". That poor lady picked out dress after dress and had a problem with most of them , even the petitte's section didn't help .

[susan54]

At just over 5 foot nine I am not unusually tall for a man or even a woman. However the women (FAB) that I socialise and shop with are all quite short and/or petite and I stand out as a giant next to them, which draws attention to me. I just assume that people realise I am male anyway, I wear heels, and just go for it. I as long as I am perceived as making a good job of my appearance and movements I am happy.

[KimberlyJean]

I think the way you move is more important than being short. The visual cues of the way you walk will make a much bigger tell than being over 6'. I am 6'1", wear heels, and go out without experiencing attack of the 50' woman. Remember keep those knees together (its not just for your chastity) and elbows in and walk like a woman. I will say that in South Mississippi 6' is pretty normal.

[Staci Roberts]

I am tall. I was out last week dressed in a pencil skirt, blouse and stylish winter jacket. I also had sensible 3" patent pumps w/sheer pantyhose.
I ran into someone on the street and I could see that see was definitely sizing me up...So I smiled. She smiled back and said "Wow! You are tall!!"
I said "Thank you, but more importantly, how do I look?"
She responded "You look cute, really cute"!
We both smiled and I wished her a great day!

[Chloe St Clair]

I think the way you move is more important than being short. The visual cues of the way you walk will make a much bigger tell than being over 6'. I am 6'1", wear heels, and go out without experiencing attack of the 50' woman. Remember keep those knees together (its not just for your chastity) and elbows in and walk like a woman. I will say that in South Mississippi 6' is pretty normal.

I agree 100% with you Kimberly Jean. I'm 5' 10" and I don't let my height dictate how high my heels are when I go out.

[MarinaTwelve200]

Peta Wilson or Lynda Carter never let being tall embarrass them--They embraced it, often wore clothing that emphasized it, and looked FANTASTIC. A good looking CD who is tall WILL attract attention, but often for the "Right" reasons. Your gender may not be under question as much as you might think.

[looking_good]

We just need to stare down the barrel.
- Lydianne.
Absolutely made my day. Thank you.

[Stephanie47]

And, how much do those women on the list weigh? Weight is not the only part of the equation. I'm six foot even and weight 195 lbs. Decades ago I was 6' 1 1/2" and as little as 138 pounds before I gained weight. My best weight for feeling toned was 175 lbs and a waist of 30-32 inches. Skin was smooth and unblemished. Now? Age has taken its toll. Taking strolls among the masses would be out of my comfort zone which is one of the reasons why I wear women's clothing to begin with. There are college coeds around here and when the women's visiting basketball team is out at the mall there is a group of very tall women. Yes, they do attract attention. For the most part there is no mistaking they are women. The mind's eye with years of recording information will "make" a tall cross dresser. Height is a lightning rod for attracting attention.

[Genifer Teal]

I'm tall myself. It can be extremely difficult when you don't want to draw additional attention to yourself yet everyone is noticing your height. You have to push past it because it gets better. You can't shrink away from it it looks worse. You have to own it kind of like a runway model and not care when people look. Not saying it's easy but it is manageable. Best of luck to you.

[suzanne]

Femulate? Where did that word come from? I can see the mash up, but when did it get started?

I worry not one whit about my height. I am 6ft2 in bare feet, but who goes out in bare feet? My heels are often in the 3 1/2 to 4 inch range, so I rise to height of almost 6ft6 when I'm dressed. I'm not the type who craves attention, so I don't do it to get noticed. But I'd be stupid to think I don't get noticed, maybe even closely scrutinized. So I must carry myself as well and as proudly as I can. Genifer is spot on when she says you have to own it. Walk with your head held high as if you belong where you are. Because YOU DO!

[AlyssaS]

I'm 6'3", and don't go out in my town, but I regularly go out when on trips out of town. I'm sure I get read, but it doesn't matter. None of their business what I choose to wear.

[Joni T]

What a bunch of shorties. I'm 6'6" in bare feet and wear 3" heels when I go out. I've ditched the skirts for leggings and skinny jeans to blend in a little and not draw quite as much attention to mineself.
Joni

[alwayshave]

I'm 6'2", and realize I'm taller than most women. Add two inch heels I'm 6'4". I have no issue going out. I know plenty of women my height. I have a daughter who is 5'11" My good friend's SO is 6'1". It's not going to keep me in.

[BrendaPDX]

I guess I should not be afraid of wearing pumps, I generally wear flats. At 5' 8" I always thought I was too tall to be seen in heals, maybe not...

[AngelaYVR]

I’m 6’ and slim, always in heels. Clothes hang beautifully on a tall frame, to me it’s a plus. Buying dresses that fit is trickier (no waist seam, “midi length” ends up as knee length). Long legs, long torso - what’s not to love?

Attention grabbing? Yes. But can’t fix it nor do I want to! My GG friend is a half inch taller than me, when we go out together we own the city!

[Jane G]

I"m from tall stock. My youngest sister is 5ft 12ins. Never 6 ft. My daughter is 5ft 10 and honestly I think she wishes she was a little shorter. Me I am 6ft 4ins, broad shoulders hands the size of shovels and size 14 extra wide feet. I stuggle to find male shoes that fit properly. Say what you like about tall celebrateties folk of my build get read in an instant. So I have returned to the closet and have zero plans to push myself on society again. Horses for courses, as they say. Except who you are and simply enjoy life.

[Jenn A116]

Femulate? Where did that word come from? I can see the mash up, but when did it get started?
I first ran across the term in Stana's Blog which I check daily. Fun/interesting read. If you do a google search I'm sure you'll find it.

[Jodie_Lynn]

Julie Newmar.

Julie Strain (80's B-screen actress). Her motto "6'1" and worth the climb"

Diana Rigg.

All tall women who rocked the look.

[darlaj]

Tall women catch my attention because I am attracted to tall women, I have a weakness for long legs. I am 5’9” btw.

[Tahoegurl]

Great thread ladies. I am 6'1" and I wear 4" heels...it has been said on here already, wear it like you own it. I weigh 175 with a 31 inch waist a dress to flatter my shape. I try to walk and move in a more feminine manner (which is a whole different stereotype conversation). Do I get made...i am sure I do but I am not dressing for anyone else. If my wife is good with how I look when we go out then all is well. Practice makes perfect...so I will keep practicing. Cheers.

[Bobbi46]

So far I think I am the tallest! topping out at 6'-7" add 2" heels and well, doors then become a problem for me! And by the way I do go out.

[Elizabeth1980]

I am 6 foot tall. I like wearing heels but they make me too tall and stand out in a crowd. But without the heels I find dressing less interesting. So I wear them anyway.

[Leslie Mary S]

I'll log in at the 6 foot mark. like to wear 4.5 inch heels when I can find them. I also like to wear hats, some tall and I do not remove my hat when inside but have to duck through doorways. The typical home doorway is 6'8" but they are starting to go to the 7' size. in the early 1900s it was 6' 3".

[ellbee]

5'9", here.

Still on the taller side for a typical GG. But I was happy/lucky to be in that range, I guess. :)


Back during my out-in-public totally-enfemme days, the highest heel I would go was a self-conscious 2.25", usually for a night on the town.

Felt like I was pushing it even at that. So, eventually just dropped down to 1/4" flats when out & about, which made me feel a bit better psychologically. And despite not the greatest arch support, still somewhat easier on the feet. ;)

Of course, at the same time, I did, on some level, miss strutting in those empowering heels. :(


Remember, even guys wearing typical guy-shoes have like a 1" to 1.5" "heel." So, they net out a bit more. Plenty of them seemed to tower over me! :confused3:

Still didn't matter, in my eyes. Even in flats I felt I was "too tall." And that was with GG's usually wearing some kind of heel.



Whatever. Height isn't everything.

Knew a CD'er who was like 5'4", no exaggeration. That little bitch! :roflmao:


Didn't make a lick of difference. Could read them a mile away. :straightface:

[JulieAmanda]

I'm nearly 6 ft and have been out to plenty of places in three or four inch heels. It's more about your overall look fitting in, and about common sense - I wouldn't wear heels and short skirts to the supermarket where most women are in trainers or flats but at a night club where everyone else is dressed up it's fine, or even out and about in the town. My legs look so much better in heels so ain't gonna give 'em up!

[Princess Chantal]

I am 6’ and wear heels out and about. I never had concerns of being taller than the average female, but then again I have absolutely no issues and shame with being noticed as someone belonging within the transgender umbrella (cd/trans/MIAD/whatever).

[ellbee]

You're right: At least in my case, I didn't want to be seen as part of the trans army. I wanted to be seen, accepted & treated as a GG!


And that was *really* important to me back then. Short of hormones & surgery, I did everything I possibly could to help tip the scales in my favor, whenever possible. No stone was left unturned.

Took a lot of time, effort, energy, knowledge, experience & money.


Ultimately, I learned the hard way that it was an impossible & never-ending quest for what turned out to be fool's gold. Became this sort of unhealthy obsession. Definitely wasn't cool nor fun, by the later stages.



These days, it's fortunately no longer important to me. I don't attempt to pass in any shape or form -- couldn't anymore even if I tried, LOL. I don't go out in public all dolled up. Heck, I don't even get *kinda* dolled up, save for once in a blue moon, behind closed doors! :confused3:

Took quite a while, but finally found my happy place, most typically as some variation of a MIAD, at best, whenever I feel the need. :)


But back then? Yeah, there was definitely some sort of gnawing psychological need that had to be fulfilled, as best as humanly possible.

Weird times, for sure. Not gonna try to stop anyone, but I don't really recommend it, either, if you can help it.

[KellyGCD]

As someone who is 6'3" this has certainly been something that has held me back from wanting to go out dressed en femme. I'm definitely nervous of how others will react to seeing such a tall girl. After reading some of these responses I guess it's just a feeling that I'll have to push past... definitely still scary though

[Mary Lawrence]

My "personal best" outing was a visit to the Metropolitan Museum by myself, dressed nicely, if I do say so myself. Now I am slightly above average male height, so about 6.5" above the average US female. Height is one feature about which I have worried when on excursions en femme. On this museum trip, as I walked up the many steps leading to the front entrance, I encountered a small group of women who towered over me. They were dressed nicely and probably were members of a women's basketball team. At that moment, I ceased worrying about my height.

[Jenny Elwood]

At 6'6" (barefooted) I don't have ANY shot at "passing", even in flats. So I reckon might as well go big and wear the heels! :cheer:

[JulesLynne]

I’m 6’1” 180 lbs and wore 4 inch heels when dressed in Vegas and went to use the ladies room in a casino. In stumbles a fairly drunk but equally tall GG who looked at me and said “wow give it up for tall girls - it sucks being a tall girl... damn you’re rocking those heels! I wish I had the balls to wear my heels... f*** it next time I’m wearing my heels!”

Moral of the story: it does kinda suck being a tall girl, but even tall girls get to wear their heels and look pretty.

[Amelie]

I don't wear heels and I am 5'5".

[DMichele]

IMO, no one should avoid going out because he or she is too tall. Wilt Chamberlain, a 7'-1" NBA player, observed that people are fascinated by tall people.

Many TG people would like to be in the 'average height' box, but we know issues from society's expectation about the gender box. Just be yourself, a statuesque TG individual, and go. BTW, I am 6'-7", occasionally wear wedges, and dress female casual and rarely receive any staring. Tall people are far more common today. So just enjoy the vertical enhancement.

[Tracii G]

It sucks being short and fat too.
I suppose we all have our times when we don't feel quite good enough to go out.

[Teresapantyhose]

I am 6'4 and a built more like linebacker than a runway model. Over 6'8 in heels. Have been to movies, shopping, en femme. Pretty scary as not passable but just tried to enjoy it. Always get "the look" but after awhile just dealt with it. Completely understand comment about hitting head in house as well. Area I live in is small so as wife knows but 100% against Teresa have to go over an hour away if want to dress.

[sometimes_miss]

It's not just the height. Like Teresa above, I'm six foot four, and big. I resemble Shrek more than Belle when it comes to Disney characters. I don't even come close to resembling a GG in any way at all; I couldn't pass during a solar eclipse, with a power blackout, in a coal mine. Sure, RuPaul may be as tall as I am, but even he can manage a decent figure. Not me. Years of weight lifting nixed any chance of that. And while Serena Williams and Dot Jones are well, quite muscular as well, they're still definitely female, and I'm still definitely not.

[Alice Torn]

I am six foot six, and single, and 65 years old now. Still would like to find a very tall single lady to befriend , date, and maybe marry, but, no success. I found the tall ladies marrying shorter men , or not interested in my. I dress up as the very tall, long legged lady i dream of, and am attracted with, though there are lovely women who are short, medium, and tall. i just wish there were more single tall ones in the small town region of the midwest, i live in!! NOT ONE! i am her, in the mirror. I have been out occasionally in the past, but not for a year and a half, not in these small towns!

[Leslie Mary S]

Side comment; If woman are getting bigger, why don't they start making more things we can get into, say size 12 or 14 shoes and extra long size 22 (or more) dresses? Maybe a new size chart for us, say 26WXT. that translates as size 26 Woman's eXtra Tall. Or shoe size 12W or even 12XW.

[Patience]

Because the more material they use, the lower their profit margins are, so overall it's just better to shame women into feeling fat.

In any event, it'll be a while before the average woman grows into a size that would also fit a man.

[OCCarly]

My younger sister is just a hair under six feet tall, and it looks like my 15 year old niece got her mom’s height, as she is already taller than me.

At 5’7”, I’m about average or slightly below for an American woman of European descent.

[AlixxBlonde]

I’m 6’1” and don’t see have an issue. Taller means longer legs to show off.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I had a completely different thought

According to femulate, Jessica Lange – model, actress – film, Tootsie, is 5'9

Lange plays a female friend of an actress (Tootsie), who was impersonated by an out-of-work male actor, played by Dustin Hoffman.

Dustin Hoffman is 5'6".

Did you even notice that in the movie?

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jenny :hugs:, It is really just Mind over Matter, If you don't Mind then it doesn't Matter!!

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Orchid ..0:daydreaming:0..

[Patience]

Being tall, I usually go out wearing flats. I’d wear high heels more often, but they’re still hard for me, so while I have some, I use them mostly for photos.

[Jodie_Lynn]

I love my heels, although I will wear flats or low heeled sandals when it calls for it.

Being 6' in bare feet, logic dictates I shouldn't wear heels, but I say frell logic! Wear what you like to wear and let the muggles flee in awe and terror! :devil:

[Vicky_Scot]

6'2" in my stocking soles but love my heels so a lot taller when I put them on. x

[tall sam]

I am 6.6 fit and slim and have been out occasionally. Finding clothes is an issue and sometimes you need to buy big size dresses and modify them.
Finding shoes is a huge problem with large feet and trying to find anything cute with a 1" heel is near impossible.
When I have been out I have got both weird and wonderous looks. Ignore the weird and flirt with the nice ones!!
Have fun

[Jean. Ann]

Tall Genetic Girls go out all the time
Wear heels if they want and look fabulous
doing it
So no problem

JAS

[Jodie_Lynn]

My next door neighbor, a GG, is like 5' 11" and although I haven't seen her in (sky) high heels, she has no problem wearing heeled boots or sandals.

[LauraWeb]

It can be tough being tall. I am 6-5 and only own one pair of flats. Generally I wear a 2 to 3 inch heel. (Ok, maybe 4.). I never think I can really pass at that height, but as long as I feel good and people treat me as I appear I am happy. You just have to do what you like and what you are comfortable with. This is all supposed to be fun right?

[Christy15]

I like what LauraWeb said - it’s all about what you like and what you’re comfortable with. I’m 6’2” and know I don’t pass - but that’s not going to stop my from going out in my heels if they look good with the dress! Haters are going to hate anyway, at least that way someone might appreciate the style/look ;)

[Cristy2]

If you are really looking for them, there is a lot of 6ft and taller gg women out there. A gg friend of mine is 5'11" without heels.