Actually bought some "regular" clothing!

[DawnLabelle]

Hi all,

Well, I finally did it, after wandering around the women's section three times today at Walmart, I picked out a nice soft pink ribbed ladies tank top and soft earthy brown skirt :). As soon as I had those in my cart I started to look everywhere wondering if people were looking at me, but at the same time I wanted to keep browing and filling up that cart!, but im a bit of a shopaholic so I cooled my jets and headed for the cash. I always get nervous when I want to go look at the cosmetics section or ladies wear of any store, I feel like I shouldn't be there and that are eyes on me everywhere and generally a deep sense of paranoia sets in, but today I said screw it, I took a day off work cause I wasn't feelin too great (and I haven't had a sick day in a while), was out running errands and decided to just do it. Prior to this the only stuff I had bought in stores was lingerie (its for the GF of course!) and that was generally in sex shops. Next step, some proper good quality foundation and eyeshadow.

I'm dressed in my new outfit now and it looks great!, feels wonderful as well :).

just wanted to share :).....

Dawn

[Wendy me]

veary cool see we get to feel like everyone is watching us because we are tought from a early age this is for boys and this is for girls .. and we sometimes feel like it's wrong to buy girl things when thats so far from the truth it is silly ... see i shop and you just might call a shopaholic too... at one time i was like omg i can't do this but now i just go get what i want the hell with anyone who has a problme with it.... think abought it like this there will come a day when the need to buy the things you want will be far greater than any fear you might have that someone is watching ....shop on girlfreind....

[Julie Avery]

That's a great account, Dawn, I know exactly how you feel, it's neat to see it expressed so well.

[DawnLabelle]

thanks for the kudos :D.

I think what im going to try doing, to kind of work myself up to actually going out and shopping for only femme stuff, is if I'm in any big department store for any given reason, I'll make it a point to pick up one or two femme items as well..... just to get used to it :).

and I just bought 2 wigs off of ebay, uh oh, I feel a binge coming on!!!

teehee
Dawn

[Janelle Young]

Hi Dawn

Congratulations on doing what I have always wanted to do. I know just how you feel when you think everyone is looking at you. In reality I bet no one is looking but it scares the heck out of me in any event.

[randi_789]

I think the more you shop in the women's department the easier it gets. The first time I experienced the same "is anyone looking at me" feelings. But now for the most part I can shop and not really care what people are thinking. In fact my last time I was going through a rack with a woman who didn't seem to care I was there at all. Oh, and I am referring to times I have shopped in drab.

[Seven]

veary cool see we get to feel like everyone is watching us because we are tought from a early age this is for boys and this is for girls .. and we sometimes feel like it's wrong to buy girl things when thats so far from the truth it is silly ... see i shop and you just might call a shopaholic too... at one time i was like omg i can't do this but now i just go get what i want the hell with anyone who has a problme with it.... think abought it like this there will come a day when the need to buy the things you want will be far greater than any fear you might have that someone is watching ....shop on girlfreind....

because we are tought from a early age this is for boys and this is for girls ..
so, so true Sister, I am so happy for you that you have been free to shop, and we hope to see you in some of your outfits you buy.

Sister 7

[Nastasha]

I've done that as well. But the ultimate thrill is to try it on in the store, most stores are very casual about it and I've only had 1 refuse to let me try something on.

I was at Wal-mart the other day when they put the swimsuits out, so I grabbed 2 swim suits, a skirt and a blouse and walked to the changing room. The clerk looked at the clothes, then looked at me and said .."Really?". When I told her yes she asked me if I knew I had to leave my panties .. uh, underwear on while I tried the swimsuits on for sanitary reasons. It was an interesting moment to say the least.

When I came out she asked if everything fit ok, took the suit that didn't fit and said she would put it back and told me to have a nice day.

[Julie Avery]

On the "trying on in the store" issue, I usually mix some femme things I'm very interested in buying with some guy things in which I have absolutely no interest whatsoever, and take them to a dressing room in the men's clothing area (I shop in drab). This is not a store where there's an attendant who goes through what you've got, so it's quite painless.

I don't mind checking out a batch of "only femme" things at the register. I get anything from "no visible reaction" from the clerk, to a quick surprised and very curious look, to a friendly smile when doing so. I can't see what the person behind me in line thinks and I certainly don't turn around for a peek :)

[Megan_Renee]

I have noticed, for some unclear reason, I have no difficulty shopping for fem-clothes if I am buying other things. I got some wood-chips for my cavies, yarn for knitting and a pair of nice opaque stockings. No one even looked at me, and I felt fine... I've noticed that if I just go to the women's section (even shopping for my wife) I get a little freaked out. But if I pick up other stuff first, it's ok.

Megan

[HaleyPink2000]

Your on your way. It's great to hear your story of shopping and having such fun doing it. Thanks for sharing it with us. I love Walmart and the people are great. I try on dresses there and everything. They are trained to be open to Gender " People like you and I". If they are not, they get canned.

[Denise01]

Conratulations Dawn, on your first purchase of femme clothing.

I can understand your concerns, that every one is looking at you, as I had the same feelings the first time I was out and bought my first skirt. I can still remember it to this day.
Small steps, will eventually become big steps, and you will find that it is quite normal for you to shop for femme clothes.

The first time i tried on a skirt in drab, was in a Layne Bryant store, and asked the sales girl about the sizing, did they fit large or small. She said it could be returned, then I got the courage to tell her it was for me. She said really, then try on anything you like. At that time the store was not busy. Good thing I tried it on, as I needed the next smaller size.
As time progressed, I got the courage to go out femme. Again I was nervous at first, until I realized no one was staring at me.
I now go shopping fully femme. Just last night, i was shopping, fully femme, and wearing a skirt, as it has finally warmed up here to the point where it is comfortable.
Was in a ladies wear store, looking at skirts, the sales person asked if she could help. The first skirt was too large, but finally found one that fit, and i got it on a great sale.
It was the first time I was in this store, the staff was great, and I was treated just like any other lady.
Big thing I found is to have the courage to shop, act like it is the most normal thing you do, and above all, dress as the other girls are, so as to not stand out.

Good Luck in the future.

Denise:)

[Breanne]

I think the more you shop in the women's department the easier it gets. The first time I experienced the same "is anyone looking at me" feelings. But now for the most part I can shop and not really care what people are thinking. In fact my last time I was going through a rack with a woman who didn't seem to care I was there at all. Oh, and I am referring to times I have shopped in drab.
For many years I have bought womens items, and yes, at first it was a bit un-nerving, but I've never had any problems, and I've never shopped en-femme. I have never tried things on (except shoes) but after reading these threads I will do it in the future. The clerks at the registers? I don't care what they think, in fact they don't seem to care either. Enjoy!

[Deborah]

Title says "regular clothing" so i thought you bought some male clothes lol.
It's amusing to me because i hardly ever buy anything nice for "him" just jeans and t-shirts etc.
The only nice clothes i buy are for me lol.

[DawnLabelle]

Hehehe, no, I do buy pretty nice stuff for my guy side, I am in it 99.9% of the time after all and I try to look decent ;). Regular clothes as in from a store and not kinky outfits or gothy dresses off of ebay which I'm kind of growing out of, more interested in a nice outfit as opposed to a pvc dress these days, kinda nice ;)

I use too many smileys, heheheh :D

Dawn

[livy_m_b]

Walmarts are great, as are targets, etc. I suspect Penney's would be fine too, but haven't put them to the test although even back in the 60's they seemed relaxed about seeing me in the dress stacks and checking out. Some of the upper end stores like Famous Barr, etc. also seem fine. Frankly, for my personal style which is "everyday", walmart works fine in a lot of ways. Congratulations - life does get easier!

[HaleyPink2000]

I'm Bad! Oh yeah. I haven't bought any Male clothing in about two years. Have bought loads of femme clothing though. My Roamans, Walmart and Lane Bryant people are so happy with me. At these stores I buy most everything. Either online or in the actual store. Girl stuff my Wife calls it.

But My Wife did bring this up to me the other night. " You need new jeans and you know all you buy any more is girl stuff. I wish you would spend as much time on your boy clothes". Hmmm? Ok, spending time with my Boy clothes is not near as fun. But after 25 years of marriage, She should now know the rest of my life is going to be spent the way I want also. Not just Her way. I have a vote in this also. LOLOL:)

Hmm? Jeans. Ok I can buy womens jeans and I know they will fit ok. I wore Hers to work last week. LOLOL:) She did not even know till I told Her.