Busted buying pantyhose at Target

[caitlyn louisa]

Last night I stopped off at Target to buy some pantyhose at Target using the self checkout. A middle aged lady at the adjacent checkout was paying attention to me. "Aren't those pantyhose just the best?" She asked. "My favorite" I replied. "How did you know that I was buying them for myself?" I asked. "Oh come on - don't all men secretly like to dress up in women's underwear?" She said ! She turned to leave then gave me a wink and said "Enjoy your dress up fun !". Even though I was enjoying our exchange my face turned bright red. Do you think a lot of ladies really believe that men like to secretly dress up in women's clothes?

[Macey]

I think a lot of ladies believe that most men will at least try it. Also, I believe that a lot of ladies believe this is only 'other' men and not theirs ;)

Anyway, sorry it may have caused you some embarrassment, but chalk this one up to a positive experience/exchange!

[Bobbi46]

Don't worry at all if you continue to buy from target, A you will get used to buying things and B, he staff will get to know you and will help you out this is the way with me, I remeber way back now wanting to buy a bra in my usual supermarket but I could not find my size so I asked an sa for help and just said outright it is for me, not intending to put her on the spot more of well saying I'm not buying for anybody else, nothing wa said no strange expressions or anything, life was normal.
it will be the same for you too.

[Tracii G]

Busted ? No not at all.
Thats was a nice encounter IMO

[LydiaL]

Loved to hear about this encounter. The good, she acknowledged you were buying "best" pantyhose and not garbage!

[Aunt Kelly]

As Tracii says, you weren't "busted" because you weren't doing anything wrong, dishonest or immoral.

[alwayshave]

Caitlyn, busted is when your mother catches you in her cocktail dress when you are thirteen, this was just friendly banter.

[Majella St Gerard]

ok, lets rephrase this, saying all men secretly like to dress like women is like saying all women have penis envy. is that relevant now?

[Robertacd]

That's far from busted... Just a GG that knows what's up, now if it was somebody you knew then sure.

I have had random GG's comment on things in my cart and hands, One GG even asking if I was in theater because the shoes I had in my cart. Then there's always the cashiers, they know what's going on after a while. I have had several over the years complement my purchases and say I going to look great in them. I always smile and thank them.

[Tracy Irving]

That makes me want to visit my neighborhood Target.

[SherriePall]

Methinks, she has first-hand knowledge.

[Tracii G]

A lot of women are "tuned in" to what we do and accept it just fine.
Its no big deal unless you make it one.
I have lost count on how many encounters with women I have had over the years when buying womens clothing items.
Most just smile and say have fun or thats a cute outfit you sure you have the right size ? or that will look great on you.
Had a few think they were outing me but I owned up to the item being for me which defused her ploy of outing me.
Its all up to you how you take these encounters but be sure they are going to happen.

[BTWimRobin]

Hi Caitlyn,
You weren't busted. You even owned up to the fact they were for you. If anything she shouldn't have been snooping in your cart.
Robin

[Happygirl!]

I think that's a cute story. She was just having some fun, and you owned it. One time when I was buying pantyhose, SA inquired what type? I mentioned control top, to which she asked "how much control", with a little giggle. Busted :) When ringing me up, she told me about a bra sale. I actually enjoyed the banter and her giggling.

[Jodie_Lynn]

I was in a Walmart to pick up 3 things. Saw some pretty bras, in my size and put them in my cart, along with a couple of mundane impulse purchases. When the cashier rang me up, the bill came to over $50 and I quipped "I came to buy 3 things! I can never get out of here without spending $50 dollars or more!"
The cashier smiled and said "Yeah, but those bras are cute, aren't they?" I had to agree.

I was in boy mode at the time.

[Shely]

part of the fun of wearing is the shopping for the fun things. It doesn't have to be in secret, no one cares much what we are doing, except us!

[Jodie_Lynn]

part of the fun of wearing is the shopping for the fun things. It doesn't have to be in secret, no one cares much what we are doing, except us!


What she said!

We worry more than is necessary about what others might think or say.
My philosophy is that as long as I don't hear anything negative while I'm present, then it doesn't really matter.

[JulesLynne]

Am I the only one who’s curious about what the best pantyhose are? :)

[Tracii G]

Which ever ones that don't run when you put them on.

[Teresa]

Caitlyn,
Some women do like to tease a little , she saw your reaction so she knew she had caught you out ! I use to get this sometimes when shopping in drab now I just buy what I want and if I can't find it I ask , there's no catching me out because I'm fully dressed .

[Ressie]

Methinks, she has first-hand knowledge.

That's what I was thinking. She probably had at least one spouse or BF that liked to dress up.

As far as getting "busted" while shopping, I like to be the one that does the busting. Cashier says something like, your wife will like this top. My response, "I'm not married anymore so I wear these things myself". Or if they make a joke about me wearing an item I'll say "yes I'll be wearing it this weekend"! It's fun!

[Patience]

Just one more reason to use the regular checkout.

Self checkout is just another way for Target to avoid hiring more people.

[Crissy 107]

I think you have asked if the woman was single and go from there! 😃

[lingerieLiz]

I collect bras along with most other things. On one occasion I had one of the security women at a Ross store ask, do you wear one every day. I was bent over and am sure she could easily see my bra band through my top. I stood up as I said, yes, Do you have a problem? I've seldom seen someone chocking worse on their words. She said, "no, I was just asking, I don't have any problems.

One other time I did have a security person come by and tell me the bras I was buying were not my color. I asked what color should I get.

I was checking out at TJMax and the cashier asked if the bras were for me. I said yes and she said they will go great with your eye colors. As we teased back and forth she and the other SA realized that they were for me. The other SA slid down the aisle whie my SA checked me out. She was actually friendly and I would have asked her out had she been sexxier. AND, I wasn't married.

[suzanne]

GGs are not fooled by most of the things a GM does. But they also don't think crossdressers have anything to be ashamed of or embarrassed by. They know womens clothes are nicer to wear, better to look at, more interesting and fun, so they're not surprised when a male wants to give it a try. I get nothing but compliments and supportive comments.from random GGs.

I concur with the others who say that you got into friendly banter, not "busted"

[TheHiddenMe]

Do you think a lot of ladies really believe that men like to secretly dress up in women's clothes?

No, I don't think they believe that.

OTOH, I'd like to think that if someone asked me that, I would cheekily reply that I have great legs, and offer to show her a picture with proof.

The last time I was at Target, using the self-checkout, I was dressed, wearing red tights.

[Gillian Gigs]

I think that someone went on a fishing expedition, and caught a CD fish! I have had SA's go fishing also, and my honesty has helped me get better service. So what's the big deal, it wasn't your next door neighbour, was it?

[docrobbysherry]

I wonder if you'd headed this thread:

"Spoke to a strange woman at Kmart", u would gotten so many comments!?:brolleyes:

[StephanieCLT]

I had a similar encounter once, and ironically, it was at Target! I was in male mode looking over the pantyhose, and a nice lady, probably about my age (customer, not employee), asked if I needed help with sizing. I was so caught off guard that I politely declined, but it was a missed opportunity in my book to have a good interaction.

[Angela Marie]

Most women are much more open minded and understanding than men. I get compliments from women all the time when I wear my leggings to the gym. As for pantyhose, I buy them all the time in male mode. When I first started years ago I pretended they were for my wife. Now I just own it. As someone here pointed out you aren't doing anything illegal or immoral.

[Charleene]

I am still afraid to buy in person, working on my courage. Seems to be in short supply with regards to dressing. Most of you seem so comfortable with CD. I'm working on it.

[deebra]

Suzanne you said "women don't think CD's have anything to be ashamed of or embarrassed by", Are you sure you are right on this? I thought they wanted men to dress in men's clothes, not women's and look manly. Definitely not my husband. What you said would make me think women accept and are just fine with men dressing in women's clothes including bras, panties and heels and presenting in public this way. Please Respond.

[Piora]

"Oh come on - don't all men secretly like to dress up in women's underwear?"
Yes, I don't believe that either. I believe it should be rephrased as "Don't all crossdressing men secretly like to dress up in women's underwear?" I don't believe that even half the men out there have a secret desire to wear women's panties. Sure, some might dress up at Hallowe'en, in a caricature humourous sort of way, with pantyhose over their hairy legs and jockey shorts....but that's it. As to whether women believe that of men, I seriously doubt that too.

[NancySue]

I, too, don’t think you were “busted”, but more a comment from someone who knew something about cding. Back when more women wore pantyhose, I got by with “they’re for my wife”, but with the decline of hose wearing women around here, I think it’s now more obvious who the hose are for. A SA at Macy’s once asked if I needed any help, but I knew exactly what I wanted...color, size, brand, etc. She just smiled. When I checked out, she again smiled and said, “enjoy”. I just smiled back. I didn’t consider myself “busted”, but acknowledged, maybe. Could it be that it’s us who are sustaining the hose industry? If women aren’t wearing hose...who is?

[Beverley Sims]

Some women treat it as a joke when they see a male buying female clothing, others are more suspicious and have fun by making searching statements that might embarass you. :-)

[jacques]

hello Caitlyn,
once when I was buying tights (as pantyhose are called in the UK) the sales assistant assumed that I was a walker and buying them to wear under my trousers to keep warm on country walks in the winter; I did not correct her.
luv J

[Crissy 107]

I am still afraid to buy in person, working on my courage. Seems to be in short supply with regards to dressing. Most of you seem so comfortable with CD. I'm working on it.
Charleene, We were all like that at one time but it really is a fun easy thing to do.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Caitlyn :hugs:, My thought is that her husband is a Crossdresser too. >Orchid ...:daydreaming:+..

[Stephanie47]

Makes you think there is something called "CD radar." I think some women will tease to get the guy all flustered whether or not they actually think the guy likes wearing women's clothing. The key to these adventures is to find a woman who would enjoy getting you to war women's clothing, and, then getting you out of them.

[BrendaPDX]

I honestly don't know but I think Macey got it right.
"I think a lot of ladies believe that most men will at least try it. Also, I believe that a lot of ladies believe this is only 'other' men and not theirs"
LOL
I think you should be happy, you had a pleasant exchange.

[Patience]

Some women treat it as a joke when they see a male buying female clothing, others are more suspicious and have fun by making searching statements that might embarass you. :-)...Especially when the man in question acts in a secretive way, as if he were doing something wrong. That can come through in one's body language and is a dead giveaway.

Just another reason to bring it out in the open. Act like you have nothing to hide, because you don’t. Men buy things for women all the time.

[Kimmie WJ]

I would love to own a pair of Wolford high sheen but they are too expensive. I have settled into L'eggs Sheer Energy Sheer panty. Great mild compression, silky feel and seem to last a long time.

[Gina_83]

Good question, it does seem that sometimes I notice women wearing hose that just looks far better quality than the norm. You get what you pay for I guess!

[suchacutie]

You were only "busted" because you wanted to be thus exposed. You only had to say,"I wouldn't know, I was just buying what is on my list". Sure you weren't getting just a little thrill from the encounter? And there is nothing wrong with that, for sure!

[Lara A]

I was at the checkout in Target in Burbank once many years ago, and I had a basket with a bunch of clothes, shoes, accessories and makeup since I wanted to dress but had nothing feminine with me. I was a little nervous back then, but picked a quiet time later in the evening. There was a lady who joined the line right behind me, and she watched as the clerk pulled all the items out one by one. After a little while, she said "wow, you're gonna have some good drag time with that lot" or words similar, and I replied it was all just to dress somewhat normally... she laughed and bade me a good time :) many women are just fine and feel unthreatened by us.

[Andrea Renea]

I had a lady comment on my purchase one time at Target in Hickory NC.

I bought some female tops off the discount rack for both wife and me.

As I was checking out she said that's a very feminine purchase for a guy do you think they will fit? I said sure hope so.

The clerk never missed a beat scanning the items and never said a word.

[Karmen]

Interesting experience. I had a few encounters in the past when shop personnel hinted at me with remarks about wearing female clothes or shoes when I was shopping in drab, but never had a conversation about that with random customers.

[Becky Blue]

Nice story, I have only been asked of something was for me once and ironically , I was buying eyeliner for my wife. I would say she was in the know, most women would presume you were buying for your SO

[Cheryllynn]

Target is perhaps the store where I feel most comfortable buying fem clothes in person...I'm always in male mode as I don't go out dressed so far. Have had the clerks help me find stuff on the rack as well as always politely asking if I needed any help. One time had the "area manager" or whatever you want to call it for the intimates/workout wear area assist me in finding the panties I was looking for. Generally if I can't find the item I am looking for I'll just flag down the nearest clerk and ask her, I figure better to get what I need and get out than fumble around looking for it. Normally I just wait until I have a list of other things I need and drop in the ladies department when I have a bunch of other items in the cart.
And I personally LOVE the "A New Day" hoisery line carried as a store brand. Lots of variety and the sizes fit me well.

[DMichele]

Caitlyn,
No reason to be embarrassed with your purchase(s), as it is simply clothing that you want. Take ownership of your items. If CD/TG individuals demonstrate it is no big deal - i.e. it is quite normal, the rest of the world will hopefully come around in time. I believe many responders to the OP have shared experiences that demonstrate this approach.

Although I wear ladies attire when shopping, sans wig, I strive to communicate with SAs. I have had some cold experiences and some very normal exchanges with SAs. About a month ago I went to a Spanx store, which was very busy. A SA asked if I needed help, and I told her I was looking for a garment that enhanced my butt. She responded, "yes, we have the booty booster" and took me to the rack. I asked for a medium, which she retrieved from the back room. At checkout she asked "if I had a special occasion that I needed it for?" I told her no, but I wanted to be prepared for one. She gave me a discount card for future purchase and all the sweet messages that GGs usually get. It was a very good experience.

[Alice Torn]

It all depends on the woman. Some don't mind men wearing clothes designed for women, a long as it is not their men.

[t-girlxsophie]

Sounds like a pretty cool encounter to me

Sophie

[Lovinhose]

It's really a lot more common than you might think. Statistics that I have seen put it about 25% of all men crossdress to some extent, some just wear panties or a pair of hosiery, some dress fully with all accessories, and everywhere in between. It's very well known than men love the feeling of nylon on their legs, and the added stimulation only afforded to a male due to obvious genitalia...a woman just cannot feel the same physical and sexual stimulation that a man can when wearing nylon and silk. Add to that the thrill of doing something 'wrong' and 'unacceptable', and you have a feeling that you can't get anywhere else, a most unique sensation. And more women than you could imagine are ok with this. Of course, many are not and many relationships have failed because of the woman's non-acceptance (most feel betrayed when it was kept 'hidden' from them).

At the end of the day, there is nothing, nor should there be anything wrong with wearing clothes that SOCIETY says are for women. I so badly wish we lived in a world where we could dress however we wanted without fear of ridicule or harm. Things are changing, but I won't see it come full circle in my lifetime. Sad we can't be ourselves.

[barbara f.]

just buy online

[greeneyes]

I could totally see myself saying that to a man going through the line. LOL!

[Jaylyn]

I'm like a lot on here I wouldn't think that was being busted, I'd take it as a compliment that you got a good pair of panty hose.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I am still afraid to buy in person, working on my courage. Seems to be in short supply with regards to dressing. Most of you seem so comfortable with CD. I'm working on it.


It's like jumping into the ocean when the water is cold. It's hard the first time, but afterwards becomes very routine.



Sure, some might dress up at Hallowe'en, in a caricature humourous sort of way, with pantyhose over their hairy legs and jockey shorts....but that's it.


I often wonder if the guy is making a caricature so no one will guess how much he loves it.



As I was checking out she said that's a very feminine purchase for a guy do you think they will fit? I said sure hope so.


I was once asked, "Do you think it will fit her? My answer was, "I'm sure it will fit her". In fact her had already tried it on to make sure it would fit


Interesting experience. I had a few encounters in the past when shop personnel hinted at me with remarks about wearing female clothes or shoes when I was shopping in drab, but never had a conversation about that with random customers.


I actually helped some random customer from making a terrible fashion faux pas.



I could totally see myself saying that to a man going through the line. LOL!

Sometimes I'll see a dude holding his wife's handbag while she's in the changing room. I've often walked by and said, "nice handbag".

I know it's mean, but ...

[Jenny22]

Once (and the only time) in a Kohl's store, I was en drab buying for me a dress I liked.The female cashier asked, "did you try it on"? I replied, "No, I know my sizes". She was embarrassed as she rung me up.

[MsJanessa]

She may have been flirting with you