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CharlaineCadence
03-23-2006, 10:11 PM
I've been running rampart in the cd forum but afraid to post hear knowing all to well this is where I belong. Forginve me if i ramble because well honestly i am scared to post this. not becaues others will se it but because I am accepting who I am.

Most who know me close call me Char. short for Charlaine I have for as long as i can remember wanted to be a female. I have wanted to do the things women do live the way they do and most of all I have and still yern for the one gift I know i shall never have. That magical feeling of a blessed being growing inside me.
I dont know if it was the for sisters i grew up with, the way my mother coveted my sisters or just how they got the express their feelings. When i was never allowed. i dont know but I have always known that I am a woman at heart.
At 30 years old I have been widdowed twice, Raped twice (yes men get raped to), fought in a war and seen more things then most men of the age of 50. To the point the thouse who cannot comprehend this call me a lier. proof or no proof.
I started crossdressing as a child steeling my sisters dresses and bathing suits. Untill I was caught and chastised. Causeing me to feel guilty and evil to the point of attempted susicide. As I grew into adulthood I secretly hid my desires fawning over my feelings and trying to hold them back. When I joined the army I met my first wife. I told her my deep dark secret and she helped me to embrace it partly at home. Then like a gust of wind she was gone taken from me by the hands of another man killed while carrying my only child. I was devistated, lost I was so angry and hurt i tried to remove the life we had built togeather.
I distroid everything my wife and I had built thinking it would supress and hide everything for ever. Two years later I met another woman whom i married she never knew my secret. Everything was fine except my feelings got stronger. I thought maybe her clothes would help me so i started dresssing again. I steeling her clothes and enjoying letting the women in me out but the guilt grew. After i came home from Iraq she passed away from an terminal illness. I hid my feelings again.
Then in november on 2005 I broke; everything hit me like a train hitting a deer. Every feeling, vision, you name it it all came back. The only thing stoping me from taking my own life this time was the fact that I have friends that I can talk to now something as a child i did not.
After seeking help from the medical community I have been diagnosed with gender dysforia an now takeing the baby steps into the possability of a full transformation. Only thouse close to me know at this point where I stand. The rest who know me just think I love to crossdress. Then their are others who have no clue. For years I have fought this and now i am tired of hideing who i really am. I am sick of the masks i have worn and the pain that the masks have caused.

Casey Morgan
03-24-2006, 09:50 AM
It takes courage to post something like this. Saying out loud all those things you've said inside for so long is a big step. I admire you for doing it.

Sam-antha
03-24-2006, 10:11 AM
You really have said a lot in that post. so very much that you have kept down inside and I imagine, hidden from yourself. Now it is out and there are others around to help you.
Just ask and advice/help is here.
Please do not rush, even if you are fifty odd, there is plenty of time to consider if at your age you really want transgender..
Be happier
Sam

gennee
03-24-2006, 03:20 PM
Thank you for your post, Char. It's best you get it all out f you. Since discovering my transgenderism, I have shared mre of myself than I have at any time in my life. You are welcome here and now you can truly be yourself.




GENNEE

CharlaineCadence
03-24-2006, 06:13 PM
sorry i want to thank every one but i'm so emotional i cant think of anything to say.

MsEva
03-24-2006, 06:36 PM
Charlene, I am devestated reading your post. It makes me want to cry. I am so sorry for you losses. I pray that you find some inner peace, no matter where that might take you. You certainly have a lot of inner strength. God be with you in your journey.

Jennaie
03-25-2006, 03:28 AM
Char:

Sounds like you are on the right track today. Perhaps this will be a beginning to a new life for you. I hope you continue to be strong and think these things through before taking steps that many who got in a rush regret. Take things slow and really think about the pros and cons of each step as it comes.

I wish you all the best and hope that you find the right path without having to go through more turmoil.

Kimberley
03-25-2006, 10:34 AM
I cant imagine losing a child let alone a partner with whom you are in love.

You have a new life, one you can live the way you want. Coming to terms with the past is always difficult but in your case it shouldnt prevent you from moving forward. Maybe this could be the start of a real life test?

Just a thought.

Kimberley

joanlynn28
04-02-2006, 01:39 AM
Charlaine, I can only feel for you and your pain. I stuggle too with my feelings of wanting and needing to change. I too lost a infant daughter to a congenical birth defect (trisomine 18) at 3 months of age. Some may say that I am acting out because of this lost, but as I told my therapist, I had my current condition long before my daughter came into being.so I can relate with you on hat aspect. I can only wish for the best for you in the future, just like my close friends and loved ones canre for me. My prayers are with you sister.