are there any females that like crossdressers

[nylon45]

I was wondering - as I do....lol

I am a straight guy - always have been - always will be but I luv luv luv to xdress and dress up , in general especially hosiery and heels

My question is simple - are there any females around that actually like and are happy to date xdressers
I have never ever in my entire life found one you see awww - hence my question

Cheers

[Tracy Irving]

Lots of people on this rock. There are probably one or two, maybe more.

[Patience]

Takes all kinds to make a world.

[t-girlxsophie]

Well my wife married me full in the knowledge I was a Crossdresser,so there's one

Sophie

[RADER]

Same with ME. My Wife knew that I liked to wear Female clothes while we where dating.
And we did get Married, One rule was, Do not go out of the house dressed; As to not to
embarrass her. So I could live with that.
Rader

[Jodi Yardley]

yes there are...I had a ex co-worked that loved me dressed and I also have a long distance girlfriend that can't wait to see me in person

[Krea]

Yes, there are some, but they seem to be very rare....

[Tanya silk stocking]

My wife knows and fully encourages it more than me some times

[Crissy 107]

Not all that many that I know of. My wife used to be much more accepting but then not so much. She is more tolerant then anything unfortunately.

[Jenny22]

Hey, Nylon .. where have you been the past 6 years? Your question has been explored many times! (grin)

[Pumped]

My wife was unaccepting at first, but she encourages me from time to time. The other day she told me me I need a new skirt for my birthday.

She has come a long way in a short few years.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Nylon45 :hugs:, I am sure that there out there but I haven't found one yet. >Orchid.oO:daydreaming:Oo.

[ashleymasters]

Don’t be discouraged. I’ve had mixed results with women. Actually I met more women interested in a guy who cross dresses than a trans woman. But I’m early in transition so I imagine my body would still be challenging for a lesbian to be attracted to.

[docrobbysherry]

If u believe in unicorns? Then, yes!:heehee:

But, yesterday reinforced to me how many women r intrigued with us! As I was approached by a number of women, young and old, when I put on my mermaid tail at the pool at a Vegas hotel/casino!:battingeyelashes:

And, later that nite at a hotel club. One woman was quite taken with me after seeing photos of Sherry. But, I don't think to the extent of dating!:straightface:

[Micki_Finn]

Simple answer. Any? Definitely. Many? No. Also, the subset of women who actually find it “sexy”, “erotic”, or “attractive” is even smaller than that of women who tolerate it, or like it on a platonic level.

[Majella St Gerard]

few and far between.

[Becoming Brianna]

Well my experience with my ex and now my (one day so admittedly short) foray into online dating seems to indicate that dating life sucks for CDs\early stage transitioners who are attracted to women... It's done wonders for my self-esteem...

[alwayshave]

My wife is accepting, but I'm sure she would prefer I didn't cross dress.

[Lydianne]

I'd imagine that some would-be accepting females are in relationships with cis-guys.

- Lydianne.

[Robin777]

My wife married me knowing that I dressed. We go clothing shopping together,and she has put up with me going on 40 years.

[Beverley Sims]

They are out there but few and far between.

Strike up a friendship with some girls, they may like to dress you up and when they do one may become attracted to you.

It is more likely that way once they get to know you you become a friend of the group for starters.

[DAVIDA]

Short answer, yes.
My wife really doesn't care one way or the other. She just wants me to be me and happy.:)
She knew before we were married too.
I have been told that I need to go put something on, dress or skirt wise.
My daughter doesn't care either. Before she got married and moved, we used to go shopping all the time.:daydreaming:
I really miss those times together. She still sends me things she has bought for me.:D

[sometimes_miss]

I'd imagine that some would-be accepting females are in relationships with cis-guys.
Accepting, vs actually interested in, are two entirely different things. Women are 'accepting' of gay men, too. But that doesn't make them potential romantic mates.

Simple answer. Any? Definitely. Many? No. Also, the subset of women who actually find it “sexy”, “erotic”, or “attractive” is even smaller than that of women who tolerate it, or like it on a platonic level.
Feminine sexuality in men is generally not a turn on for heterosexual women; It's more like a turn off for most.

They are out there but few and far between. Strike up a friendship with some girls, they may like to dress you up and when they do one may become attracted to you. It is more likely that way once they get to know you you become a friend of the group for starters.
There aren't a whole lot of women who yearn to dress up their male friends as girls, and are then sexually attracted to them. Playful dressing you up might occur, same as women play around with adorning a gay male friend with a feather boa, some lipstick, a frilly jacket, or fooling around asking if he thinks a particular purse goes with his shoes (I've personally seen this behavior by straight women with a gay male coworker).
Winding up in a permanent 'friend zone' is more likely.

There ARE some women that are attracted to crossdressers. However, finding them is almost impossible. Why? Well, having an openly crossdressing husband is hardly something to be proud of among women. It's sort of an exact opposite of a status symbol. Women show off their successful, high status male mates to other women, not the opposite. To admit that they are turned on by a fem guy, would even invite the questions from other women about whether they might be harboring lesbian feelings; much the same as if, say, a man proudly admitted that he liked the idea of his wife wearing a man style haircut, wearing a fake mustache, and wearing a men's suit, shoes, and behaved as a man.

I've run personal ads for decades, with virtually zero responses when I've mentioned crossdressing (other than from prostitutes, doms and men).

Good luck, Nylon45, you're going to need it. May as well buy some lottery tickets while you're at it, the odds are about the same.

The best advice I've gotten, was to go out of your way to befriend gay women, and get them to take you along to female gay bars. There you just might find a woman that will find you intriguing enough to approach you. But you'll have to be dressed in your girl clothes, and, perhaps just as importantly, probably have to look good that way in order to be considered socially acceptable there. For example: I, all six foot four and 280 pounds of me, wearing any sort of female outfit & wig, would probably be considered sarcastically poking fun at how women look, not appreciatively emulating them out of admiration. So if you're a cute feminine crossdresser, at least you have that going for you.

[Nikki A.]

There are some but it is rare. Many more females may be friends but not want to be in a relationship

[ClosetED]

I do recall a few on this site who truly like a man who crossdresses. But most don’t stay here long. There are other sites devoted to date a crossdresser
Hugs, Ellen

[Ressie]

Yes! If you dress fully and go out to a club there's bound to be a few women that will dance with you. As far as dating them, good luck. Didn't someone mention unicorns?

[Jean. Ann]

Maybe we are tending to lump all
women together. .
I have found levels of acceptance vary widely even within groups
It totally depends on the individual .
And your effort in getting to know the individual
To me the best relationships start with being friends

JAS

[sometimes_miss]

I do recall a few on this site who truly like a man who crossdresses. But most don’t stay here long. There are other sites devoted to date a crossdresser
Hugs, Ellen

There is one called dateacrossdresser.com, but it's inhabited almost entirely by men. As all of the men list themselves as female, there's no way to search for GG women. And since you have to pay to send a message, they have shills or bots that send out random messages, enticing you to get a paid membership, at which point the 'women' that initially sent me a message either say they never sent it, or simply never respond back at all. The very few women that I searched out (there is probably only one GG per thousand crossdressers who list themselves as females) never even respond to my messages. At least that was my experience. So if you have any bi or gay tendencies, that would be a good site for you if you want to date men.

[char GG]

Hi Nylon45,

If you find a woman who wants to get to know the person before making a decision on the CDing, it would be beneficial. My opinion is the behavior of someone is more important than clothes. Common interests, chemistry, and attraction to each other, would be ideal. If a CDer becomes self involved when dressed or wants conversations to center around dressing (not just random conversations but I mean excessive conversations) then it become more than casual dressing. (Only you know where you are on the CD spectrum). If a CDer indicates dressing is more important than a relationship, it would be a turn off to many women. This goes both ways. If a woman is self involved and wants the focus on her, that would most likely be a turn off to most men.

Just an example of being excessive; my husband's social group had a CDer who said the same thing as you. She wanted a girlfriend but no one - not even the other CDers liked to be around her. She was constantly looking in the mirror (or for a mirror), asking anyone within hearing distance to take pictures of her (without reciprocating), and all conversation HAD to revolve around her or she wasn't interested in talking. She even cornered me while I was working a table at a Pride event and wanted me to stop what I was doing and take her picture(s). Excessive!:bonk:

Obviously you should not hide but be up front about your interests, - but most likely, you have other interests than just hosiery and heels. Don't give up, the ladies are out there. If you are only searching on line, you may want to try to meet people in person.

[Lydianne]

Accepting, vs actually interested in, are two entirely different things. Women are 'accepting' of gay men, too. But that doesn't make them potential romantic mates.

I fail to see what you are disqualifying :idontknow:. When I wrote 'accepting', I meant accepting within their own relationship - also derivable from context. Then you likened that unto accepting of gay men :raisedeyebrow:, which, obviously, would not be accepted within their own relationship. A totally unequal comparison. I stand by what I wrote, the way I wrote it.

- Lydianne.

[Jean 103]

I guess the simple answer is yes.

My life is just so surreal sometimes, and I just can't handle it. About three years ago a friend of mine hit on me. I just wasn't ready, I had only been separated from my wife for a short time. That and she has enough drama in her life. Yes we are still friends and yes I could still date her, but I still think I made the right decision for everyone.

A year ago last New Year’s I was dating a women and she asked me to marry her. It didn’t work.

No worries I have a boyfriend.

So the real question is how do you get someone to look past the packaging and see the person within?

Then you have to be ready for what follows, a relationship.

[MiniRock]

There are two women in my life who don't care (but my children's mother went berserk, so my record is patchy). Last week, my fiancée helped me buy makeup, a couple of skirts and a blouse. And she told me I was courageous when I wore one of them on the street. There is another woman who would love to be my girlfriend because I think she finds me much more interesting and full of life than most men around her age (I'm 56; she's about 49). The cross dressing she just sees as another facet of my "all man" personality. And let's be honest, cross dressing is for many of us, certainly for me, a man thing. We don't want to be women, we just love dressing up from time to time. So yes, I think there do exist women smart enough to understand it or at least open minded enough to accept it. But they have to find you attractive as a man. Don't forget that.

[ellbee]

You know what's kinda "funny"?


There are some GG's out there who like to claim that they have no issue with their husband who, say, 25 years into their marriage, finally gets caught CD'ing... That's it's not the CD'ing, itself, that they have a problem with -- but the sneaking around, this new lack of trust, etc. You know, the usual spiel.


Of course, that's said *after* the fact, after 25 years or whatever of building a life together, which otherwise has probably been pretty darn good, overall.



But $20 says that had the guy instead disclosed his CD'ing, upfront? He probably wouldn't have gotten a 2nd date with this same woman.


Hmmm... :thinking:

[Ressie]

I think we could all agree that CDing is a strike against any potential mate for most women. All my life I only had one GF that was really into it. She was also bi and liked gay men.

[Crissy 107]

But $20 says that had the guy instead disclosed his CD'ing, upfront? He probably wouldn't have gotten a 2nd date with this same woman.
:

I have to say I agree with this and even wonder about it in my own situation.

[Happygirl!]

Wife knew about my pantyhose fetish when we married. She has fully accepted my other side, and encourages my dressing up. For now, it stays in the house. But we have talked about going to one of the TG conferences, and dressing up in another place. We have talked about gender and sexuality a lot and both realize there is a huge non binary spectrum, and society has forced upon us a very narrow view.
But she is concerned with preserving our privacy and how society views my cding.

[Micki_Finn]

You know what's kinda "funny"?


There are some GG's out there who like to claim that they have no issue with their husband who, say, 25 years into their marriage, finally gets caught CD'ing... That's it's not the CD'ing, itself, that they have a problem with -- but the sneaking around, this new lack of trust, etc. You know, the usual spiel.


Of course, that's said *after* the fact, after 25 years or whatever of building a life together, which otherwise has probably been pretty darn good, overall.



But $20 says that had the guy instead disclosed his CD'ing, upfront? He probably wouldn't have gotten a 2nd date with this same woman.


Hmmm... :thinking:

You do know that there are more options than “first date” or “never” right? How’s about you wait until the relationship starts getting serious? That seems the optimal time for me. But I’m sure it’s just the women doing everything wrong.

[Sabrina133]

I met my now wife when i was in girl mode. We've been married for going on 5 years.

[leotard fan]

My girlfriend support me. the girlfriends i had before, only 3 knows i crossdress, and only one didn´t like it (the others 2 was very supportive, buying clothes, do my make up, dress me, etc). i only told them after they live with me.

[ellbee]

You do know that there are more options than “first date” or “never” right? How’s about you wait until the relationship starts getting serious? That seems the optimal time for me. But I’m sure it’s just the women doing everything wrong.

So, it's always the *men* doing something wrong, eh? Or is it that only men can be sexist? :brolleyes:


Besides, I never said it was anyone's "fault." Maybe the GG would be actually be fine with it earlier on & I just lost $20 -- or not. Don't you agree that sometimes some people say one thing, but when it comes down to it, they actually end up doing another? This happens all over the place, all the time, regardless of what "it" is.


Part of this is that people (including yours truly) oftentimes don't give other people a fair shake. All these GG's who are initially turned off by it early on, not even giving the guy a chance because of it? Well, they could have possibly passed up on an awesome life-long relationship. Because of what, exactly, again?

And some wonder why the guy doesn't spill the beans, either earlier on, or even never? Because they already *know* how many GG's already truly feel about it, quite possibly via personal past experience.


Anyway, please don't take what I said so literally. No, of course disclosure doesn't have to come on a first date (or even before that). But even further along, take your pick... 3 months, 6 months, a year? Before getting engaged? While odds are, the GG would likely be "more okay" with it, since she's been able to "see" a lot more of her mate & the good qualities he has, there's still a decent chance that she may still bolt, either immediately, or a bit later on (perhaps using something else as an excuse)... Could be the sole reason, or just the straw that broke the camel's back (or anywhere in-between).

CD'ers in this situation tend to be fully aware of this risk, as well. They realize they may have a pretty good thing going, and really don't want to screw it up (in *any* kind of way). Only natural, and certainly understandable. Besides, maybe their urge to dress has simply waned during this time, and they think it's now gone away for good -- only for it to eventually resurface, years down the road. Heck, I've gone long stretches without it... Longest was something like 4 or 5 years? And that's nothing... There are others who have gone 10 years, or even 20 years!

And suppose a CD'er in this scenario meets someone during this time? What then? "Honey, I *used* to crossdress, but I haven't done so in years. I think I may have finally licked it. But, I suppose it could suddenly pop up at anytime somewhere down the road. I really have no idea. And who knows how intense it may get, and where it may lead. There was even a time where I felt I might want to get a sex change, but I'm over that now... I think? Not gonna lie, the future can be pretty uncertain with all this sometimes, from what I understand. So... Do you want to see the 9:15 show tonight, or try to make the 8:40 one?"


Oh, and another thing: Some GG's who finally catch their CD'ing hubby, say, 25 years into the marriage? "He deceived me for 25 years! Broke our trust!!"

Take that same CD'er, but he disclosed it much earlier on in the relationship? Decent chance of, you guessed it: "He deceived me for over a year! Broke our trust!!"

Get what I'm saying? ;)


Seriously, it doesn't really matter. If a GG ain't totally cool with it, she ain't totally cool with it.

And I don't particularly blame them. Because to be honest? I'm personally not attracted to masculine women. So, it works both ways. I get it.

And I suppose I may be even more open to this, than others. GF wants to get completely "dolled up" as a dude for Halloween? Sure, go for it. *Every* Halloween? Sure, whatever. Cosplay/crossplay conventions? I don't care, sounds like fun. Even some sort of psychological/social experiment, where she goes out to a club or something presenting as a guy... Just to see what it's like? Have at it. :)

"Wait- Just realized that you've been doing this all day, *every* day, for the past 8 months? Now you're seriously contemplating taking testosterone & transitioning? Are you sure you really want to do this? Well, if that's what you really need, I'm out. Not for me. Good luck with all that. Maybe we can still be friends? :strugglin "

Everyone has some sort of limit. And everyone has that right & prerogative.



Anyway, of course there will always be exceptions, or even a small minority, when it comes to GG's & what they say (and actually do!) re: CD'ing.

But when we're talking about a large percentage of GG's? Oh, they may be completely cool with it, and even absolutely *love* it -- as long as it's a friend of a friend, or a someone at a club, or an entertainer on YouTube/TV, or something, that is. Their own hubby/BF, or potential mate? Yeah, odds are, a different story. Everything else being equal? They'll go for the non-CD'er, thanks.


Oh, and keep it mind: Just because a wife or GF is very cool & supportive with it all now, and has been for a few years? That can potentially change someday, too. ;)

[Lux]

I’ve definitely seen the whole spectrum.

Ex wife was hardly tolerant and did not want to see it at home. Former girlfriend was bi and was turned on equally by me in both male and female modes. Current wife extremely accepting and when we go out dressed up, she introduces me as her wife.

As I’ve said multiple times before (and for me post divorce), honesty and world class communication is the key... once you find an open minded significant other. Life is too short to keep all of this hidden or suppressed.

[Karmen]

I guess women who would like to have crossdresser as her life partner or at least get turned on by that are very rare. As much as I heard from women I know, usually women are tolerant about crossdressing or just don't care about it in general, but certainly don't want their men to crossdress, especially not on daily basis in public. At least I never met a woman who would like to be with a men who crossdress or even wear female lingerie under their male clothes.

[Amelie]

I think age might play a part in finding someone. Most on this site are older and tend to meet someone the same age. This means not finding someone with a more accepting frame of mind.

If one is younger, you have to go to where the women are, artsy type places could be good. Where women who would find you interesting would be at.

When I was younger I had mo problems meeting girls, but I wasn't into them sexually. They didn't know that at the time. But they wanted to be with me, they didn't run away in fear of who I was.

This forum has a section for gg's so they must exist.

[Micki_Finn]

Ellbee, most relationships have a natural flow. Crossdressing isn’t so different from any other embarrassing secret that one would normally keep from a date until you know them better. And yes, waiting for the right moment to reveal something like this absolutely increases the chance of the person being accepting. Blurting out “I caught crabs once!” On a first (or early) date is a great way to send them running for the hills. Mentioning it when you’re having a discussion about sexual histories further into the relationship is far less likely to inspire a negative reaction. If you’re not revealing your secret in a tactful way, then you can’t really expect a positive reaction.

[Michellebej]

Sure, there are. I have been in relationships with several.

However; I think there are several factors involved. The most important is your social circle.

What I mean is this; In my young drab life I was ( well, still am in the reserves) a Soldier. Don't get me wrong, I wasn't Rambo or an operator. However; I was in SOCOM. And that SOCOM patch got me lots of drinks and lots of attention from women. Let's look at that. Those women were looking for a macho guy. Do you think they would be interested in a CD or TG? Very unlikely, but possible statistically.

When I got out of active duty I went into law enforcement. Women love uniforms. Now women that date cops are a whole nother story. Some are just "crazy" enough to love dating a cd. I know a couple of dom/sub couples that fit this question. Still....most women in that social circle probably are not the sort date CDs

College, and an Engineering degree...and you bet a few more show up in our social circle.

The huge take away is that most women you meet are going to be initially interested in you through your social circle and/or who you present yourself to be. What your "uniform" was when they met you. Older women are more likely to be interested than younger women seeking a bad boy to start a family with; so to speak.

My bff is a lesbian that I deployed with many years ago. Her and her wife have set me up many times. As in all dating sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. However; in that social circle and that world where the women are informed as to who and what I am, who many times have known me for years, in some cases, it is not that hard to get a date. Mind you that these are not lesbians. Just that the Lesbians I know are part of...the diversity culture...I guess you could call it. I've dated bi women; "loose" women; dominate woman; curious women; women who just want to try something different. Heck I have even dated a woman who was a saleswoman at Lane Bryants who was just fascinated by the whole "transformation" thing.

I also think it is a product of who you are inside. I identify as a woman, most of my circle of friends identify me as a woman, and I can't tell you how many times I've been told I "think like a woman" by woman. That includes in drab life when I have worked with a woman long enough that they get passed the masque. I think, and it's just my opinion, that the subset of women that enjoy dating people like me, like feminine women,and not necessarily "men in a dress".

That might be the critical difference. If you are a woman that likes men, you might have trouble getting passed the lingerie. If you are a woman who likes to occasionally play with women, or who want to feminize a guy, then they might have trouble getting past the guy who just keeps acting like a guy even when dressed up. Most sex occurs in the mind. Well...lets leave that there.

Hope this helps.

[Jacqueline1965]

Well, my wife new about it long before we got married and is 100% ok with it and I get hit on all the time by women when cross dressed so I think it's a matter of attitude and how they perceive you. I cant believe how much female attention I get since I've been out.

[KymG]

From reading up on this, it seems to me that a lot of women are ok with it as long as its not their husband/boyfriend/son etc.
Some people know about me, and the reactions vary but only one has been supportive and told me to be myself.

[faltenrock]

I tend to meet quite some beautiful mostly very young women who start chatting with me when out and about. The give me very many and nice compliments. However it is a very different story when it comes to love and intimate relationships. I think there are women who are actually attracted to crossdressers, but the number is very small. Try to make a good friendship first and see if and how it could develop.

[traciethetg]

I know many women that like CD's that are attractive when dressed and they love pretty transsexuals but that's it.they don't like the no shaving masculine burly transvestites .

- - - Updated - - -

I know many women that like CD's that are attractive when dressed and they love pretty transsexuals but that's it.they don't like the no shaving masculine burly transvestites .

[JenniferR771]

Men like attractive women.
Women like wealthy men.
Carry lots of money in your purse. Tip generously to impress her.
Get your man friends to pretend they work for you at your impressive office downtown.

[Ressie]

Carry lots of money in your purse.

Good idea Jennifer. If that doesn't work I don't know what will :)

[nylon45]

Thanks for all your advice and experiences - It was refreshing in some ways and sad in other's to read all your replies
I have pretty much accepted now - that if I continue to dress up (which is 99.9% likely....lol) I am not going to be in what I would call a loving , normal relationship with a straight lady

I may have to try to hide it and hope that in the future , I do , actually , meet a woman who could possibly accept it

Failing that , maybe , I could say , I only want to wear Pantyhose/Stockings/Nylon and hope that works instead !

[ellbee]

I don't believe all hope is lost. :)


While the deck may be stacked against you, that's not to say that you're destined to be alone for the rest of your life, either.

It is certainly possible to find a GG who *is* cool with it all, or at least to some degree.


But it's not entirely on her, of course. How the CD'ing plays a role in your life is also a factor.

For example, if you have this frequent need to get completely dolled-up (and I'm talking like *everything*) & head out into the world on a regular basis? Your chances will probably go way down.


However... If you're genuinely content with omitting a lot of things in a certain vein, it may not be so bad.

Do you *truly* need the make-up? The wig? The fake boobs & hips? The fake nails? The perfume? All that kind of stuff?

Or, are you able to incorporate the dressing, perhaps as GG's do with men's clothes? (And yes, despite what some may claim, that happens quite often with them, especially with the younger crowd.)


If you can "guy-mode" it, and still have it look pretty good/natural? Then you're probably opening up that door that much wider.


Personally, these days I look like I do in my avatar, only once in a blue moon. While I do own a wig & some make-up, very rarely are they worn. And even then, it's nothing else... Just the clothing from the GG-side that I wear in guy-mode. None of the other extra frills mentioned above. And I do keep it behind closed doors these days (the past is a different story ;) ).

I don't know how "deep" you go with the CD'ing, but have you tried experimenting with your presentation? For example, if you tend to stick with short femmy dresses, hose & heels, why not mix it up a bit? How about leggings, a hoodie & running shoes, instead? Or, even mix & match from your women's & men's wardrobes? Heck, there are times when I'll simply wear all men's clothes, except for some no-show socks & a pair of GG running shoes with a good amount of hot-pink in them. :heehee:


Am I presenting as a woman when I do this? Nope. I look like a guy. (Some may say perhaps a bit of a "swishy" one, but whatever.) But the fact remains: I'm looking like a guy, no mistake about that.

And I do believe more GG's may be more receptive to that, relatively speaking. You're basically casting a wider net, than you would if you were going "full out."


Anyway, you mention that you enjoy wearing hose/tights (hopefully with shaved legs?). I know of guys out there who do wear these, in public, at that -- yet everything else is from the men's department. Does it work for them? Yep. They just happen to really like them -- just as some GG's do. So, they wear 'em! Oftentimes with shorts. If that's their thing, then all is good.

Like I said, there's nothing wrong with experimenting with one's presentation. The possibilities are almost endless. It doesn't have to be either full-blown guy, or full-blown female. A GG may be genuinely fine with you wearing women's leggings, for example (even if it's just around the house). A bit out of the ordinary, sure... But perhaps much more acceptable & understandable, than, say, going the whole 9 yards in the full female get-up.


Hope that helps a bit! :)

[Maid_Marion]

There is the line of thought that if your workplace presentation breaks the norm it shows you have the power and confidence to do that. Both elements that attract women.
The guy in the next office said my (women's XS) red/pink pattern shirt looks good on me. Of course it does, it is nicely fitted and just the right size for me.

[KymG]

Ellbee, you raise a valid point.
For me personally, if i dress, i dress. The whole thing to the max.
I agree that gg's will go for the non cder, and i dont blame them, but i cant do partial dressing.
I am single and if im honest, i dont chase women for the dressing reason, and i think the majority will run a mile.
Its the way it goes.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I personally know several GGs who married CDs with full knowledge of what they were getting into.

I also know several GGs who probably didn't know before getting married, but were very, very accepting after they found out.

My wife is in neither category.

[sometimes_miss]

Failing that , maybe , I could say , I only want to wear Pantyhose/Stockings/Nylon and hope that works instead !

I think perhaps the best option to take, would be to introduce the topic gradually, such as by eventually introducing a crossdresser movie, or watching Rupaul's 'Drag race' TV show or something like it. Then mention something along the lines of, 'You know, I USED to crossdress too', and see how she takes that, the key words being 'USED TO', getting you off the hook if it's a completely negative response, you can always backtrack and deny that you do it anymore, and then decide if you wish to keep seeing her and remain in the closet to see if she changes her attitude over time, or if you need to jettison her from your life if she seems completely horrified at the idea. Or maybe somewhere in the middle, she may be okay with it but then say she wouldn't want to pursue anything romantic, but would still be interested in being your friend.

[Ally 2112]

I told my wife before we married tried to make compromises .Did not work in the end 15 years of marriage down the drain .She told my daughter last summer and my daughter told me she was very cool with it but we did not talk about it.It is still awkward because we have not spoken about this hopefully we can sooner than later

[binair10]

I am coming up to 78 y/o and very passable. My wife cannot stand seeing me dressed. I do not see her for months on end as she is away looking after her 90+ year old parents. I normally go out at night, but have wanted to go out during daylight. So I have a female neighbour who is always out and about browsing around charity shops. About 3 months age I went round for coffee (as you do) and said that I would like to come with her on her trips. But I said that I would be coming as a woman. Yes, so, I do not have a problem with that. If any of you are thinking about it and you know someone that you can trust with your secret then go for it. And you will not regret it, especially mixing with other females in the shops.

Julie.

[LIKETODRESS2]

My gf is cool wiht it she steels stuff from me and we gone and had pedicures done together

[Palaina Nocturnus]

I found one lol I explained I am a full CD and she accepted me. She's bought me outfits, a bra, thongs and really pretty sandals. She encourages me to be me. Just be up front and I'm sure you'll find someone.

[marika_jaye]

I know a lady who absolutely adores CDs. I've told her on many occasions that she is a unicorn in our world. Were I not already engaged to a truly wonderful woman, I would most certainly date her.

[Maid_Marion]

I know one that is married to a drag queen! She has posted photos!

[Robertacd]

Don't lose all hope they are in the minority but I am married and have an accepting wife. Granted I was already married before I told her, but I also had a girlfriend in the past that I told while we were dating and she was accepting of it too.

[Micki_Finn]

I know one that is married to a drag queen! She has posted photos!

What a coincidence! My wife is married to a drag queen too! :P

[Kaylin]

My wife accepts my CDing. Even though right away it was uneasy for her. Now she doesn't care. She basically shares makeup, does tutorials together, and goes clothes and makeup shopping with me now. I keep CDing at a time and place for it. Even though she doesn't care now, I still don't wanna overwhelm her in anyway. Kaylin gets her days on certain days of the week. And my Male self gets his days. So it all works out. I agree with the comment of honesty and world class communication is key. Cause it really is!!