Loosing the want.

[rachel_rachel]

It’s the middle of a very cold winter here in Australia (Melbourne), I’m finding that while I’m still buying a few things here and there and swapping clothes with a friend in Queensland I just can’t be bothered at the moment. Feels like I’m loosing my mojo. I’ve even gone nearly 2 weeks without shaving, such is the slump I find myself in.
Im sure the pink fog will return in time.

[Jodi Yardley]

I get into that funk sometimes.....takes too much effort to shower, shave ,lotion, makeup & wig and gather my clothes (I keep everything in the attic and its very cramped area and my bags are heavy). But when I do go thru the process I LOVE and ENJOY the entire ordeal!


Sometimes I think its my age, or not being able to share the experience with someone else....but I FULLY want to be feminine as much as possible.

[Tracii G]

I dress as me 24/7 365 and the motivation is always there.
I'm trans so maybe there in lies the difference between a CD and a trans person.

[BTWimRobin]

The desire to dress ebbs and flows. There's nothing wrong with that.

[abbiedrake]

It happens. 🤷*♀️
Be who you are in that moment.

[Teresa]

Rachel,
Sounds like "Wintertime Blues !" maybe you should try and find a place to hibernate for a while !

I love the change of seasons, I'm wearing some items I didn't get the chance to wear last year but at the same time keeping an eye out for bargains to wear when the weather cools down later this year .

[Lana Mae]

Go with! The desire will return and probably even stronger! Get some winter clothes and go for it when you are ready! Hugs Lana Mae

[Stephanie47]

I ran into that funk many times. I've even got all dressed up, looked in the mirror, and, said to myself "Why am I doing this?" Sometimes it just does not do anything for me. Sometimes I let the facial hair grow until my wife mentions it. Sometimes I feel great barefooted, cut off shorts and graphic tee shirt with Bigfoot on it.

[Majella St Gerard]

So take a break, no big deal. Don't overthink it.

[MarinaTwelve200]

I find CD is like a Drug or a "Fix" . That helps me relax and unwind. I only have to Do it when the "URGE" comes. Sometimes the "FIX" will last longer than others.

[Aunt Kelly]

I can't tell if she's turning her mojo loose, if if she's losing her mojo.

[Tracii G]

If you don't feel like dressing don't its as easy as that.
The urge will come back I'm sure. Everybody says that so it must be true.

[rachel_rachel]

All's not lost..
The urges will return. I've been through this before but it's normally when the weather heats up, to have this happen at the moment could be a good thing.
I still sleep only in lingerie (baby dolls & short satin nighties are my favorite) wife doesn't complain about that either. It helps me sleep well to be honest.
I'm still haunting the op shops for bargains, in the last 3 weeks ive bought about 7 dresses, 5 skirts and a few other things.
It's just that there's still only 24 hours in the day.. no matter how you try and manage your time, it's just impossible to change that!!

As i type this, I think i'll be getting an opportunity to try a few things on later tonight when everyone is out.. fingers crossed.

[Thelise]

So many Melbournians I've known hit the antidepressants when winter comes around.

[alwayshave]

Rachel, I get your feeling. I'm more likely to dress in winter when its not hot though.

[GretchenM]

Here in Colorado we have those extremes in the weather. Frigid in the winter sometimes and boiling in the summer, like this week. People feel trapped in their homes. It gets you down either way. Called cabin fever here and I am sure elsewhere. It will pass. A bit of a mild depression caused by feeling kind of trapped and not being able to engage in your normal activities without a whole lot of effort. Kind of like Winter Blues or the more serious SAD (seasonal affective disorder) both of which tend to occur in the winter. Exposure to a lot of really bright light for awhile each day will release some hormone that tricks your brain into thinking it isn't the way it really is. Result - you have more energy and enthusiasm for doing things.

[Ressie]

I find it harder to dress in the summer myself. Too hot to wear a wig or anything much more than skimpy clothes.

[erinna]

I like the cool in the winter for dressing up either in guy clothes (looking sharp in a sport coat) or girl clothes. But what gets annoying is how dry the cold air becomes which wreaks havoc on my hands. Snags my nylons.

[abbiedrake]

Wifeling has a degree of SAD (amongst her catalogue of disorders 🤕) so I attest to it's effects.
Maybe see your GP if it persists.

[Tracii G]

Seems to be a disorder for even the simplest of things.
Summer is hot winter is cold it happens every year so people should be used to that.

[rhonda]

You can lose the want even deny the want , the bottom line is the want will eventually find you until until you submit .

[Angie G]

I've dressed for the most part of almost 60 years. really in to it for the past 13 years and never had the happen. I know It will return for you. :hugs:
Angie

[JocelynJames]

I’ve been the same like 2 years now. My brain goes “you should dress tonight “ . The same brain that night goes “ why? What for?”. I still enjoy it when I do... some dynamic changed somewhere. Do it if you want when you want I guess.

[Asew]

Just do what feels right for the moment. We are all have different needs and wants out of this.

[Palaina Nocturnus]

I'm currently in that funk but it's kinda forced. I can wear stuff under my "normie" clothes but it's not the same. I finally shaved after a month of growing fur but it's already growing back lol but I still gotta wear my toe ring and anklets and pretty sandals.

Don't worry luv you'll get your mojo back :)

[kimdl93]

Two weeks isn’t long. I’m sure Mo and Jo will be back in a short time.

[audreyinalbany]

I tend to take a break when the weather gets hot and humid

[Georgia Rose]

I come from Melbourne and generally only dress outside daylight saving time. I love dressing in winter. Lots of people here get the blues in winter so you are probably only experiencing the same as a lot of others. It should pass when the sun shines again.

[Dana3]

I wrote this loonnnng reply, ........

Short answer is you might want to check with your health care provider and discuss "Seasonal Light Depravation Depression" have your thyroid, glands, hormonal levels ( There's other than just estrogen and testosterone btw) checked

[Patience]

My dressing's been at a low ebb for months now, pretty much since I started working full time again. I bought two skirts in a thrift store a couple weeks ago. They’ve been washed and dried and I still haven’t tried them on. It’s weird, but I’m ok with it.

In the last year I had three makeovers and multiple outings. That took care of my frustration of being closeted for years. Now I can be more choosy and pick my moments. Definitely going full fem towork on Halloween. I think I’ve primed my co-workers well. It’ll be fun.

[Petra1]

Rachel,

Been there, done that. There are times when I feel the payoff isn’t worth the effort. Like doing the whole nine yards only to stay at home, by myself. Other times, I’d rather focus on what needs to be done that day without the distraction of being Petra.

[Kay J]

Been there done that but it always comes back and most the time more than ever!!

[Georgia Rose]

Yes it is a cold winter in Melbourne. The fact is you don't need to be buying stuff all the time. How many clothes do you need or are you just trying to be something you are not. A break from crossdressing is not unusual and lots of Melburnians get the winter blues. Personally I love winter because it is the time I can dress frequent,y and wear all those great winter things but my wife really gets the winter blues. Just make the effort to have a shave and you will be back on track.

[NancySue]

Your situation is not uncommon...ebbs and flows of our world.The pink fog will, I repeat..will return. Don’t purge during this lull.

[xEvelyn]

The cold and raining weather certainly can put a dampener on things, although I personally love to wear winter boots with warm tights! But as they say, if you don't like the weather in Melbourne, just wait an hour and it will soon change.

[AnnieMac]

Ok, so, since i'm a yank that loves all y'all Aussies, and I travel to OZ (Sydney) about every other month. I gotta know...
define "very cold in Melbourne" for me. How cold is that exactly?

[xEvelyn]

https://www.google.com.au/amp/s/amp.theage.com.au/national/victoria/winter-records-broken-as-melbourne-s-thick-fog-icy-temperatures-going-nowhere-20190623-p520jh.html

Looks like average minimum of 6 degrees C, which probably isn’t impressive for our Canadian sisters but is for people more used to dealing with 40 degree C heat waves!

[Melissa in SE Tn]

Dressing can be episodic. Stay tuned & don’t change the channel as another episode will be on its way

[rachel_rachel]

Ok, so, since i'm a yank that loves all y'all Aussies, and I travel to OZ (Sydney) about every other month. I gotta know...
define "very cold in Melbourne" for me. How cold is that exactly?

i start early in the mornings, we had a week of 2-3 degrees at 4am, it’s warming up of late, 7-8 degrees.. nearly t shirt and shorts weather!

[Paula_56]

I've lost my mojo also, back surgery and weight gain, I'm trying to loose weight and get back into it

Because even though I don't have the drive I need and miss it

BTW this Boston girl has been to Melbourne three times I love the town

I miss my favorite pub the Elephant and Wheelbarrow on Bourke and Exhibition

[Jane G]

Just be yourself and get on with life.

[Kendra Sue]

Yes it does

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Actually now that I am taking my antidepressants like I am supposed to the urge to dress has been rekindled

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Yep you so right

[Palaina Nocturnus]

Once a CD, always a CD lol for me, I had the urge to dress up way before I was taught anything to do with sex so I never understood the urges inside me. Once I did and liberated that part of me I've noticed that in general I just wear womens clothes. But to dress up fully is part time and I'm ok with that.

Yes, I too go thru that funk where I don't feel pretty nor do i feel like trying to make myself so. I imagine that is exactly how women feel at times, so just keep doing you and things will get back to normal.

Food for thought, check your BIORHYTHM and see if it's just a biological thing ;)

[sara66]

I usually lose the urge in the heat of the summer. I think for most things in life are cyclical. The worst thing is when the pink fog comes back like a tidal wave.
Sara