It pays to make forum friends

[Jenny22]

Yesterday, by arrangement, I personally met a new CD forum friend. We hooked up because she stated her location in her profile. We had a nice talk and shared some photos and Bio info. We will meet again, for sure.

I mention this as you gals who would like to make personal gal-friends in your area, they need to be aware of your location.

[LIKETODRESS2]

I would love to be able to met someone like me to just talk with , maybe we could give each other tips

[Jenny22]

I'm in SoCal and you are in Butte, Montana. BIG differences in population and feelings about CDing. You've been on the forum for 9 years and have 29 friends. How many of them are from your geographical area? Carefully watch postings to see if any are from sisters in your area. When you find one, reach out to her when you become friends, and ask to meet in person. This works well, but only if you actively do it. Good luck!

[Eemz]

Yep. I met Helen Highwater in person early on in my journey and it gave me a great boost. It was the first time I had ever spent time with someone like me.

[Elizabeth1980]

I would be interested in knowing/meeting CDs in my area (Queensland Australia). There are no support groups that I know of where I live. Is there a way of searching this forum for a list of members who live in a certain area?

[rachelatshop]

I live in Maine USA, and I'm always looking to meet a fellow cross dresser

[Tracii G]

I have met quite a few members from this forum.
Its always nice to meet new people.
Funny thing is the talk ends up being more everyday stuff than CDing or trans talk.

[Lana Mae]

I expressed interest in a Houston GNO and got invited to volunteer for the Texas Transgender Non-discrimination Summit in Houston by one of the Houston girls! Since I volunteered, I stayed at her apartment for a one week stay! I met a few others from here and a few girls who are not on here! All in all a marvelous time! Going to a conference like Keystone is another way to meet some of the girls! As well as what has already been mentioned! Hugs Lana Mae

[AllieSF]

I joined this site in 2007 with the specific intent to find someone to go out with as a friend/sidekick/partner in crime. I did that just a few short months after I joined. One of those members is still my friend and we recently played golf together on one of her business trips to the area. I know a lot of members here, most of the earlier ones have moved on with their lives, but several are very truly my dear close friends. It takes work and persistence. My first friends were people who traveled to the San Francisco bay area, what a great place to go out!. Many were novices in getting out and I would happily take them out and help them be themselves for s short fun time.

So, yes, you can meet friends here and on other sites too and you have to take the chance to meet up with someone new and maybe unknown. Take your usual precautions and get out there to find the sidekick and have some fun.

[docrobbysherry]

I joined about when Allie did. There were some girls I REALLY wanted to meet! Plus, back then I had never dressed outside my house.

When I heard over 30 cd.comers were going to the SCC in Atlanta? I booked a room, bought a ticket, and was scared s---less walking into the hotel in drab. OMG! T girls were everywhere!:eek:

I went to 3 more SCC's and there was always a large contingent of cd.comers there! Unfortunately, nearly all of the girls I met have left this site. :sad:

However, that's because so many r living their lives as women now!:thumbsup:

[Sometimes Steffi]

I've met one third (22 out of 66) of my friends FtF, plus some more in CD.com who I haven't friended. Some of the girls are local, some I've met when they came to town, some I met when I went out of town (in Denver, Philadelphia) and others at Keystone.

I've also met other girls from CD.com who I never got around to friending.

[Michelle Crossfire]

I would love to meet others from this forum. Being in Ohio, there seems to be quite a few, but outside of a GNO, no luck. Would enjoy talking to someone who I can relate to. I have been to Keystone in PA 3 times, which allows me to meet others from outside OH, but once that is over, everyone goes back home and waits til next year.

[Jean 103]

It's nice you met someone you can relate to.

At first wanted to met someone to do things with, but after a while I gave up.

I have made lots of friends , they just aren't TG, that is people I do things with.

I have met a few girls here and there. Like Allie, Sherry and a few others.

Once you are full time, being TG becomes less of a thing, or maybe it is just me.

[Helen_Highwater]

Some years ago I took the decision that I needed to meet up with others like me. I found 2 social groups and attended both that year.

Buoyed by the success, the following year I issued a general invitation to all here to join me and attend one of the groups in Manchester. Two responded and we were able to spend an enjoyable evening sharing our experiences.

As Eemz posted above we met last year following my similar open invitation. Sadly the social group had dwindled somewhat so there wasn't the same opportunity to meet other CD's from outside of the forum. That said, sitting in 3 different pubs, grabbing a bite to eat in one and finishing the evening chatting to a Gay man just putting the world to rights felt, well, normal.

And that's one thing I feel those who've yet to experience meeting others should know. Once over the initial nervousness, you find yourself being you. The clothes aren't the thing that defines you. You are you. Calm, relaxed. At peace with yourself and the world.

Everyone who CD's should know that feeling at least once in their lives.

[alwayshave]

Jenny, I have met some people from here were they also belong to a local group that I belong to.

[Stephanie47]

I will agree just having a friend with shared interests is always a good thing. Decades ago (1983) my wife and I had "The Talk." She told me it was alright with her if I found a support group. I looked. Back then anything transgender, gays or lesbian was not out in the open. There was no Internet. I felt very isolated. I did find a telephone number for a "support" group thirty plus miles away. I called and was completely shut down by the person. I've mentioned before I hope they did not volunteer on a suicide watch line.

I'm part of a support group (12-13 guys) with a shared common experience. We do not share details about our experiences. Just day to day personal stuff. Now? With aging came self confidence and diminished psychological need for a support group. If it was not for this forum I think I would have zero outlet for express myself.

[JoanneNY]

Yes Jenny, I have tried to PM others here but they have not responded... It must be something I have said?

[Jean. Ann]

If it works for you
That is great .
I have been trying for several years to meet
People or start a group with no success
Have never met anyone from this forum

JAS

[Michelle Crossfire]

I have met a few from this forum, mostly at Keystone, or even at the Detroit event hosted by Samantha Rogers. But other than a GNO in Warren, no luck in OH. I tried PM occasionally, but to no avail. There does not seem to be a lot of local groups in OH.

[Meghan4now]

Sorry Michelle, I haven't had a good opportunity to get up that way.

If you come down to Cincy, Crossport does something every week! Lots of gals down here, some of them are on this forum from time to time, but FB has been the biggest connector as of late.

[Krea]

I would really like to meetup with other forum members, but i am not aware of any in this part of the country. :sad:
It would be wonderful to get out of the closet for a while. :thumbsup:

[Ressie]

I've also met many CDs, TGs, etc over the last 7 years and it all started here. It's mostly been just like guys hanging out except we're all dressed like women! Going to a support meeting tomorrow night to see friends and possibly meeting more :)

[marika_jaye]

I've never met anyone from this site, but another CD site I browse frequently has introduced me to about a dozen new local friends over the past year.

I'm going out to a club with one of them tomorrow night, in fact.

[mykell]

i volunteer two days a week in asbury area, i have met some folks who water here and try to meet more, some are intimidated by the travel time, some just don't have the blind faith that it takes to go for it, some sit in the lot and psych themselves out of it, one has told me she had done that a few times.... i think half of my friends list is jersey girls but we cant get groups together like they do in Detroit, DC , and PA. and meghans area.

im not the barfly type when i go out and the groups that have admirers and frequent bars seem to do the best, but not for me,
when i meet folks who need help and i can lead them to a better destination or am their first contact putting in the time to volunteer becomes so fulfilling....

[sometimes_miss]

Unfortunately, I've been taken advantage of by so many other males in my life, that I no longer am able to completely trust men. Just been burned too many times. So I just feel like letting someone IRL know I'm a crossdresser is just a risk of disaster. So my crossdressing will remain locked away in the closet, probably forever.

[Meghan4now]

But Lexi,

Surely there is someone you've known long enough to trust?

So sad ��

[krissy]

I would love to meet someone like myself but I know I don't look as good as I used to im fat losing my teeth I don't look as good as most of you all do but it would be nice to meet another person who knows what it is we all love about dressing.im in a dadt relationship I hoped after 39 years we could meet half way but I quess it wont happen in this life time .but it would be nice top talk to others like me in person just once in my life.thats why I love this site I can write to others thank god for this site .just had to share that thanks for being there

[Teresa]

Jenny,
Meeting up with other members opened up my TG life , I don't have a single regret . The best night was when a group met up for a Xmas party , the special treat being when Shelly made it down from north of the border .

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[BTWimRobin]

I have met so many wonderful people here. I do sometimes wish we lived closer.

[EllieOPKS]

Well I would love to meet some CDs in the Kansas city area. Making friends that I can share cross dressing desires with would be a wonderful thing

[Sometimes Steffi]

I grew up in Boston, lived in St. Louis, San Francisco area and Central New Jersey and now live in DC.

New Jersey is small enough that if people wanted to meet up, the travel is not unreasonable. Boston is kind of the same, but when I was growing up in Boston, an hour car ride was a "daytrip". Since leaving New England, I've gotten used to longer trips. I've done DC to Jacksonville non-stop many times, switching off drivers. I've done DC to Boston many times, almost always non-stop, with multiple drivers.

We've got a pretty big group in DC, although it has been getting smaller lately. We've had as many as 90 girls at a Christmas Gala, with some girls coming from Virginia Beach, Richmond, West Virginia, Eastern Shore, Baltimore and Philadelphia. So if anyone from NJ wants to meet us, look up LGBT on meetup. You'll find us under DC Area Transgender Girls (DCAT). Stay over Saturday night, or stay the whole weekend. I'll meet you and introduce you to the girls.

If you remember Ilene (from the Denver Area), we spent a great Saturday here this spring when she came for other personal business. We had lunch and dinner out at vanilla restaurants, took the Metro (Rail) into DC to attend a public trans event, followed up with a trans event at a bar, and had a great time. It was my first time on the Metro.

[Rebekah_uk]

Living in Ottawa Canada, I would love to meet local ladies here. I would love to pluck up the courage to get out of the house. After a January health scare I’m trying to embrace all things life connected a lot more. Need to purchase some makeup now and work on the final part of my look.

[JuliaGirl]

I think that I'd love to be visited by another dresser in the Toronto area, just to chat and reveal myself dressed to at least one other like-minded soul. To help with my makeup, if nothing else! Or even better, visit someone then dress and just spend a few hours chatting (can I do laundry when I leave and come pick up later??). Trust and safety of course, being closeted, are the main issues with anything RL.

Maybe sharing in that way would alleviate the need to share this secret. Not sure.

And sometimes_miss/Lexi ... I love the honesty in your TG biography.