Phone call from my wife

[Dani0948]

I have to go to work later today, but I was abe to dress this morning ofter my wife left for work. We are in a DADT relationship, so I was a little surprised when she called. She told me that our daughter wanted to stop by to check on something, but that she should wait till later. Her call to me was an unspoken warning to not be dressed if she came over early. She knows that I dress, but doesn't really want to talk about it.

[Kelly DeWinter]

That's funny, It's like having a secret code.

[Robertacd]

I have never been in a DADT but I did hide it from my son when he was young...

My wife would or text call me when she picked up our son from daycare just to give me notice they would be home soon. As she said "Just in case you are doing something weird"... :p

[Tracii G]

Must be awful to have to resort to things like that.

[WandaRae2009]

My wife and I have a similar communication method. She always calls before she comes home. She will also warn me if one of the kids is supposed to stop over. She doesn't ask what I am doing since she doesn't want to talk about it.

[Palaina Nocturnus]

I have to go to work later today, but I was abe to dress this morning ofter my wife left for work. We are in a DADT relationship, so I was a little surprised when she called. She told me that our daughter wanted to stop by to check on something, but that she should wait till later. Her call to me was an unspoken warning to not be dressed if she came over early. She knows that I dress, but doesn't really want to talk about it.

I respect that soooooo much. My girl is supportive but my exwife was along those lines of DADT. But my ex was a special kind of evil. She would not tell me there were visitors then get mad like I was supposed to know they were coming lol

[Robertacd]

Must be awful to have to resort to things like that.

Awful for whom? In my case it was more of a courtesy.

My wife was always accepting but since I was not out to anyone else I felt it was not fair to expect my child to keep my secret, so I hid it from him. My wife knew that whenever I was alone I was probably dressed and little warning saves me a lot of frantic changing. The "Just in case you are doing something weird" is actually my wife's dark sense of humor.

[Carolyn_Essex]

I would definitely like a warning if my in-laws were coming over. Just can't imagine the fall out.

[Rachelakld]

my wife is the same, "make sure your NOT Rachel".
My daughter just complimented how good I looked in HER dress on Sunday.

[Kay J]

My wife and i are in the same boat ! She understand but just don't want to see me and i understand that also!

[Stephanie47]

I'm in a DADT marriage. My wife does not utter a peep about my cross dressing. If she is out and about she will call and tell me when she is on the way home. I also choose not to rub it in her face by creeping in some body modifications.

[Tracii G]

I totally get the reasons Roberta but my point was just having to hide what you do in the first place.

[Bea_]

That is a bitter sweet situation. I'm in a fairly open situation myself so I'm not hiding from my wife, but I do appreciate her occasional warning calls. Neither of us is particularly interested in others knowing of my taste.

I'm thinking my adult daughter has seen some hints over the years, but nothing's been said. One day, if conditions line up, we may have the talk and I think she'd be at least partially understanding, at least as understanding as anyone can be. Knowing more of the story might even be a relief to the typical questions she may have. I may even be imagining her suspicions, but my wife was actually the one who first pointed out a couple of situations that have come up.

Either way, I appreciate the calls when we might have company. I'd rather not have my daughter (and her husband and 4 preadolescence sons) find out by pulling up the drive to find me enjoying a glass of wine on the patio wearing a sundress.

[Robertacd]

I totally get the reasons Roberta but my point was just having to hide what you do in the first place.

Well in my case it was self induced, as I have said before. I believe children should be innocent, and nothing robs children of their innocence more than having to keep family secrets. Frankly I don't see any difference in telling a child "We don't talk about how daddy dresses" and "We don't talk about how daddy hits mommy". It's not fair to the child and once you have a child their needs come first.

[Tracii G]

I agree kids don't need to be burdened with things like this.

[audreyinalbany]

My wife and I are in a IDWTSI (I don't want to see it) relationship and, whenever she is away she will text and let me know she's on the way n=home. That spares us both the embarrassment of her stumbling upon me in XX mode

[mbmeen12]

I finally realized and it took a while on how someone could be in a relationship with such a significant need to dress but the other person has no interest. It is as simple as; Not every SO goes fishing, car shows etc etc... But you would think the SO would /should ask, did you have a good time, catch any fish, see any cool cars? Did you have a good time dressing/alone time? I understand/get it beggars (DADT) cant be choosey....

Hey you got to dress, fantastic!

[Asew]

For most guests at our house my wife doesn't mind if I am dressed, but a few people she wants to keep in the dark so I have received similar phone calls or text as a heads up.

[GracieRose]

My wife and I are not in a DADT situation. She does not like the dressing but tolerates it. She is most concerned about anyone else discovering Gracie. As such, she often 'reminds' me if someone might be dropping in, or where our children might be when I'm going out. It's her way of helping to keep me from being discovered. I understand since she is much more concerned about that than I am.

[Jennifer2918]

Similar here to others, DADT. But, I do get the phone calls when she and the family are out letting me know she is on the way home where they are coming from. Very unspoken, if you are dressed, you have this much time to change.... Kinda funny when she says she doesn't want anything to do with my dressing, but knows what is going on.

[Paulie Birmingham]

Ita pretty cool that the wives call in advance. Even if not dressed, we could be in a comprising situation which happened to me once when wife and son came home much earlier than expected. Damn that on line porn

[Nyla F]

I’m also in DADT, and my wife usually calls or texts to let me know if she is heading home early, but I don’t know if I can count on that. She never wants to talk about my crossdressing, doesn’t even want to THINK about it, so I doubt she would want me to feel safe crossdressing. Probably prefers that I have few chances to do so.

Just yesterday it seemed to be a perfect opportunity to crossdress since I drove her to work and there was no way she could surprise me. But sadly, soon after completing some work on the house, I got a message from my son who was going to stop by, and then my wife called to ask me to pick her up early from work.

[Janis_en_femme]

Marriage is a very complex relationship that is fluid and fragile at times. Plus when you marry a woman, you marry her family. I don't envy those who has spouses that don't have a problem with cross-dressing. My wife and I love each other and enjoy each other. Cross-dressing is just one aspect of myself and doesn't completely define me.
So I'm very cool when my wife calls me in advance.

[susann_gardener]

Also in a DADT marriage. Wife will often call or text when someone is coming over or she is getting home earlier than expected.

[LeannS]

I do appreciate the phone call from her when she is on her way home. My wife knows that I do dress but wants nothing to do with it at all. It is good when I take her to work but it will end with the phone call that I need to pock something up from the store or pick up some medication. Yes I am a personal assistant or so it seems lol. but I am not complaining at all about it. what we have together works