do you have many male friends?

[DawnLabelle]

Hey all,

Not sure where im going with this, but an easy question to answer I suppose. Do you girls have alot of male friends in your lives?, buds who you shoot pool with, or go out drinking with, or watch the game with?. People that you would associate with in drab (not neccesarily people who know about your femme side).

Do you feel these people are important parts of your lives?, do you discuss "heavy" topics with them? (relationships, feelings, etc).

Thanks to anyone who answers :)
Dawn.

[sky0629]

yes, i have a bud who i do all the things with. fishing every saturday, sunday's breakfast with him and his girl. and we talk about all kind's of thing we have a wide range except cding.

[Ms. Donna]

:violin: :violin: :violin: Cue the violin music...

I don't have any male friends with whom I 'hang out' - never really did. In general, I've wound up being pretty much a loner in the friend department.

I do have a 'best friend' I made in college and we did hang out alot then. We email now and then and we visited about two years ago when the family and I went to DC on vacation. It was like no time had passed for us.

He and his wife 'know' about me but we've never had a discussion - there was never a reason as it's never been an issue.


Love & Stuff,
Donna

[Danielle/Mo]

No--Not really. The two main other people that I ask for advice are both female.

[Robyn2006]

Funny, I have been thinking about this recently... the fact that I really no longer have guy friends. I have co-workers who I from time to time get together with, but no real guy friends. Just no longer can relate to them, not that I ever really did. I hate sports, haven't an aggressive/competitive bone in my body, and would far more spend the day shopping at Bullocks than an electronics store. Not that I hate men... far from it! But now the only relationship I can ever imagine with a man would involve a candlelit dinner and some soft music. :kissing:

Robyn

[Tina]

Dawn, no I don't and this is something that I am sorry about. After I got
married and had a family and both of us work we spend our time with our kids.

So that aspect of my life went by the wayside.

I have tried to make new male friends but it hasn't happened and it is not
because I haven't tried hard.

But that is just the way it goes sometimes.

I hope this answers your question.

Tina

[Sarah Smile]

I don't. I just don't tend to get along with masculine people very well... not much in common.

[Katrina]

...and would far more spend the day shopping at Bullocks than an electronics store...

But...but...but...you have a Fry's near you! How can you say that?!??!? Sorry, my male side was showing... ;)

I have a few good male friends but I think I'm beginning to be more comfortable around women.

[Sarah Smile]

But...but...but...you have a Fry's near you! How can you say that?!??!? Sorry, my male side was showing... ;)

I have a few good male friends but I think I'm beginning to be more comfortable around women.

Heeheehee. That's about my only male side, other than baseball. I love Fry's, too.

And speaking of which... I didn't know Bullocks was still around. There was one here when I was little, but it must've closed at least 20 years ago.

[sharifemme]

HMMMM! Male friends? I think that is an oxymoron for me. I just can't relate to men. I can't stand the way they talk about women, the way they are so insecure about who they are, how competitive they are and how they can only define themselves with their toys. I think every man should try on a bra and a dress and maybe the world would be a better place. LOL! I have male acquaintances but all my friends wear lingerie!

Sharifemme

[Janelle Young]

I have male friends from work and one from the neighborhood but they are not very close. I don't 'hang out' with them much and for the most part do not talk about 'heavy' topics with them. At family gatherings I tend to be in the kitchen with my sisters cooking as opposed to being with the guys watching sports. So I would say no I do not have a lot male friends.

[MaylinJane]

I have absolutely no male friends either. I can't do guy talk, you know sports, women, and whatever else they talk about. About the only thing I can hold a conversation with a guy with is cars and trucks, mostly because that's what I do for a living.

[Kimberley]

Only one good male friend who doesnt know about this part of my life. I dont see him as often as I would like but we both have busy lives.

Female friends; Other than my wife, I have a few, only one of whom knows Kimberley and she is half the world away. God I miss her!

[DawnLabelle]

Thanks for all your answers girls. I'm finding it hard to put to words why I was asking, its related to my therapy somewhat, as well as my own need to figure myself out. Hopefully others will chime in as well, and ill try to get back to what this is all about at one point or what I draw from it :)

hugs
Dawn

[michelle19845]

i have some male friends,but there's not really any to talk about feelings to.all the people for that talk are women that are open to that kind of talk over here.not too many males even come close to bringing up that kind of topic.



michelle19845

[ANA]

Hey all,

Not sure where im going with this, but an easy question to answer I suppose. Do you girls have alot of male friends in your lives?, buds who you shoot pool with, or go out drinking with, or watch the game with?. People that you would associate with in drab (not neccesarily people who know about your femme side).

Do you feel these people are important parts of your lives?, do you discuss "heavy" topics with them? (relationships, feelings, etc).

Thanks to anyone who answers :)
Dawn.
Have not had any male friends for years. after i got married i lost contact with most of my male friends i work 10 to 12 hours a day 6 days a week does not leave a lot of time to socialize.

[Alexandria]

I have a few male coworker friends, but a majority of the friends in my life are female.

Sad thing is, I've never been in a close relationship with another female other than just "friends".

[Rachel Morley]

Hi Dawn,

To answer your question.....I don't really have any male friends at all. I have people that I work with everyday that I quite like and it's obvious by our working relationship, that we are friends (sort of) we sometimes even sit next to each other in the lunch room, but as far as having male friends outside of work is concerned, it doesn't happen for me.

I don't miss it one little bit. In a general sense, I don't actually like guys at all really. Except golf, I hate all sports. I'm not interested in going to bars and drinking, or partying of any kind. I don't gamble or go hunting, fishing, or shooting of any kind. Most recreational activities that are concidered "regular male" type things don't interest me at all. I would much rather stay at home, read a book, watch a movie, or go to the mall shopping, and spend as much time in my wife's company as long as is humanly possible. :)

[alysonatl]

i have very few male friends these days, and it's beginning to bother me. My best friends are all over the map, and we rearely get to see one another.I've known my closest friends for over 30 yesrd, but very few guys I've met since moving to this city over 25 years ago have been valued and trusted friends.


I let three of my closest friends know about Alyson when they came here for a visit. Thedid not approve, but graciously allowed Aly to accompany them to a well-known strip club. I had a blast! I had to go to the ladies room, where I tried on some wonderful perfume, and got into a conversation with one of the dancers about her earringss. She and another girl sought me out later to tell me where to get those earrings, and honey, it was grand! I think my friends swere jealous of the rapport I had with the girls. The dancers accepted me as a woman, so we were just sharing some girl talk. My friends don't approve, but don't get on me as much as before.

I feel closer with the women I'e met here. Most of them have hung out with Aly and we were able to relate woman to woman. One gf says that Aly and my male persona are two different people. We do all sorts of girly things together, snd have woman to woman conversations about everything under the sun. A friendship between women is different from men's; and oveer the last few years, it's one I prefer.

[Cathy Anderson]

> Do you girls have alot of male friends in your lives?

No

> buds who you shoot pool with, or go out drinking with, or watch the game with?

Definitely not

> I'm finding it hard to put to words why I was asking, its related to my therapy somewhat

I know they say that boys should go through a phase of having male friends. I guess I had that and feel like I gained whatever social skills etc. are involved. I could be wrong, but I feel it's just not important now. Certainly not "drinking buddies."

To some extent, maybe I see internet, email etc. as meeting whatever current need I have. In other words, to the extent that I have things like male friends, the relationships are of a somewhat intellectual and abstract nature. Which makes sense to me since the "male principle" is more intellectual anyay, the "female principle" being more physical and material.

Maybe you can explain a little better why this is a concern for you.

Cathy

[Deborah]

I don't have any male or female friends at present. Long story, but once my life is settled i should have some again.

[Debbie Kong]

No male friends. I can have fun with my two brothers but they know about Debbie. My few friends include women and a couple of other TVs. I like it like that.

Debbie

[Jennaie]

I have a few male friends. They are married and I am not, so I see little of them when we are not involved in our sport. I do have one male friend who I talk to all the time. He and I are very close and we talk about everything, everything but my dressing of course. I honestly think that if I did confess it to him, it would not cost me our relationship. But that is a chance I am not willling to take. I like him too much to risk our friendship over my dressing.

[Gail Stauffer]

no not really, but I know I've got lot's of girlfriends here!!

[DawnRodgers]

I have had male friends off and on throughout my life. With moving around a lot, most of them have slipped by the wayside. Frankly, I have little use for most males. They have little appreciation for what their wives go through on a daily basis, treat them, at least publicly, in what I would consider a rotten way - wanting to be babied and waited on most of the time - and generally act immature and chauvanistic. Men, on the other hand are great to have around when you need some sex and reeally want to feel like a woman. Tough to replace in that instance. I say keep them around for that and lock them up most of the rest of the time.
Dawn

[Lissa Stevens]

I have had some and still do but all through my life most of my closest friends have been women. It has never been a concious decision it just seems I connect with women better.

[Lilith Moon]

Just checking in to say that, like most here, I have almost no male friends. I've had good friends in the past, mainly through working with them, and we do keep in touch. But I don't socialise with men at all. Like many here, I can't do the guy-talk.

[Toni Shelton]

No--Not really; I have always been a person who never had friends. If I go out to lunch, its with my So, or her friends or her co-workers. It has been a lot of years since I have been out doing anything with a male friend. I think they see I really cant get into all that male stuff.
I just cant get into that. My SO and I ride ATVs some weekends and once again, Its with her and friends of hers.
Guess I don't miss something I never had.
Thanks for asking
Toni

[Annaliese]

When I was younger I did all the male stuff to fit in and was unhappy, all the time. Had one male friend, who was all so my best friend next to my wife he died of a brian tumer.
I have some male friend I go riding with but that's it. I am not into sports except golf and riding horses. In my office it is mostly female and I get along with all of them, have more in comming with girls than the boys. My best friend is my wife. Even my two horse are female.

Anna

[MsEva]

Yes, a lot of them. I have a lot of guys friends. Lots of outdoors stuff, kayaking, hiking, fishing, golf. I get along great with them..but we and I mean all of us guys in my group never talk about anything really serious...certainly not crossdressing.:happy:

[Seven]

No not that many for me, I have always got on better with the girls , and it's so odd, to say not many, I must have hundreds of friends here, I have all of you Sisters, that I love so much. But trully it is the Fem side I get on with. Men I find hard work, and most of the time, some men never giving the mind time to talk. Girls we have no hang ups, we don't need to be top gun, just getting on with it. Man is always trying to be the hunter, top dog, and sometimes he is missing so much by being this way.

XXXX Seven

[Lindahexi]

I have no male friends at all, the few real friends that I have are all female, but that suits me fine, I prefer the company of women.

[connie rotten]

In my nearly 50 years I have known I dare say thousands of people due to my traveling and the types of jobs I have chosen for work. Friendship to me is the most trusted of relationships .I have friends even when we haven't spoke to each other for long periods of time when we do get to talk to each other it is as if we had coffee together just yesterday. At our best and at our worst we remane friends no matter what. They are treasures in my life as I am in theirs.
On the other hand I see people day in day out who will always only be an acquaintances.
Now that I have split hairs let me get to the topic. I have as many streight & gay male friends as I have breeder & lesbian female friends. I only wish I had more true t-girl friends still living.

[Joy Carter]

I had to say that because I just parted with one I had forover fourty years . he found out but didn't accept me at first and told alot of people now he want's me back and I refuse. Trust is a big thing with me and I lost that with him. In the past five years I lost two other friends because they passed away god I miss them we could talk about anything but CD. So I have always counted on my SO but she's death on this subject it's funny she always says I'm different than other men (Ya Think) I don't talk about others in a negative way. I'm open and carring and willing to listen. I just wish she would see the quality's I display are the real me CD and all. SOOOOOO I'm going to say this one time and one time only I'm open to anybody for one on one frendship through this forum please contact me any time. I'm a bit of a chatty Cathy but I have alot to offer in the way of a friend so take a chance on me.

With Much Love And Respect

Joy Carter

[Charlene Marie]

HMMMM! Male friends? I think that is an oxymoron for me. I just can't relate to men. I can't stand the way they talk about women, the way they are so insecure about who they are, how competitive they are and how they can only define themselves with their toys. I think every man should try on a bra and a dress and maybe the world would be a better place. LOL! I have male acquaintances but all my friends wear lingerie!

Sharifemme

Thankyou girlfriend, I feel exactly the same way.

[Sharon B.]

Male friends, not really most of the men I have are friends mainly because I am friends first with their spouses.
I have more female friends than male friends, but still can't get into to many conservations with the females. One or two of them, I think could handle if I told them I was a CD but their husbands couldn't handle it.
So that part of me I keep a secret as much as I hate to. would love to get into a deep conservation with a few of them.

[Petrina CD]

Yes! I have many male freinds . I am into astronomy , mototrcycles and I work in commercial contsruction .

I have two astronomy freinds that I go on expeditions to dark skies with taking our telescopes . we talk about a lot of stuff but not cd-ing . Odd thing though ,one time when we were heading out to the mountians and we knew it was going to be cold , he starts telling me about how great pantyhose are at keeping you warm. Tells me about how he found a pair in his wifes car and tried them on and liked how well they kept him warm........But we still do not talk about cd-ing nor does he know about me.

Motorcycles.... I ride with the Harley Davidson Owners Group. You can bet nobody in that group knows about my cd-ing. Many very close freinds in that group. ( doing the Laughlin River Run in a few weeks) If I had to chose between my dress collection and my bike, well sorry girls but for me the dresses would go. Love my bike. Love speeding across the desert southwest with my crew. BTW at least half of the riders in our crew are GG's. There is also somthing going on in the Harley world that relates to androgony. I am going to start a thred on that so more later.( it will be my second thread)

When I am at work I bond well with my work crew but rarley ever see them after work. I keep beer in my house for the rare time that a co-worker does come over for whatever reason. But I do not drink .

Constuction and motorcycles ,How macho can you get. I'm glad I was borne male so I can crossdress into womens clothing. I think men have a lot more fun wearing womens clothes than do girls who like to dress as men. I feel that I am in the minority here as so many of you said you have almost no male freinds. And yes I even do the poolhall thing. But I still love to wear dresses. French maid is my favorite ,I also have a sissy dress and lots of street wear. Not much into lingere except what I need under my dresses.

Petrina cd

[Joy Carter]

Your friend wears panty hose;

" He might be a crossdresser "

[DawnLabelle]

Hi girls, big thanks to all who replied here. I was going to try and explain where I was coming from with the question here, but it ended up so bloody long that I'm going to start a fresh thread with it. So if you're curious please stop by the one that will soon be listed, especially Cathy since she asked directly why I was asking this :).

thanks again, hugs
Dawn

[Adrienne Heels]

no really close guy friends..just some acquaintances

[AmandaM]

I have two male friends. One I haven't seen for years. And the other I don't understand. I prefer to hang out with my wife and her friends. But I don't like it when their husbands come around. They act all stiff and on-guard. I only do that when guys are around and I don't like feeling that way.

[DawnLabelle]

I have two male friends. One I haven't seen for years. And the other I don't understand. I prefer to hang out with my wife and her friends. But I don't like it when their husbands come around. They act all stiff and on-guard. I only do that when guys are around and I don't like feeling that way.

I've found that alot of guys have that reaction towards me actually, but mainly when their GF's are around. Guys that don't know me well seem to sense that I have this connection with their GFs, like I have a connection with many women, and they get jealous of it which is what makes them on-guard. I've been accused of causing a couple breakups by jealous boyfriends ;), and no, I never actually did anything dammit, thats my story and im sticking to it :D

Dawn

[ReginaK]

I don't have any male friends. Haven't had any since highshool (going on 6 years ago).

[jillinla]

many gay friends (they count)

some straight at work - none of these I am open to.
too dangerous
friend one minute
attacker another

please be careful

it just looks safe

[ChristineRenee]

I have a couple of really good friends that I have known since high school...they don't know about Chrissie though. While I like sports a lot, the male side of me definitely isn't "macho", and I don't care for those types and don't have any friends that are like that. The "male" friends I am closest to now are CD's and TG's...and just as good friends. I do tend to relate well to women, and tend to prefer their company over the typical male friends that I have.

[GypsyKaren]

In a word, no. I have one close male, but he's in Arizona, and I do miss him.

Karen

[Lisa Golightly]

The boys know me as Lisa, and I kind of get the 'You're a girl... well sort of... what do you think?' routine. None of them would ever ask me to go to a game, because they know I'd hate it or play pool, because I'd rip the table... but I'll match them drink for drink *hic*... but in spirits not beer :)

They do buy me some nice earrings and perfume for christmas and birthdays though so there are compensations :)

[jenny c]

not many male friends just work collegues really i have more female friends i find that they seam to understand me more.