Dressing hyperfeminine

[Mariabella]

When I first started dressing fully at fourteen I only had access to mothers work outfits. 1970?s miniskirts and tall boots. And that seventies makeup style. I would go all out and nearly drag makeup myself in her huge stuffed bra and hose and in a short skirt and sweater. Very over the top.
Later when my first marriage ended I amassed a wardrobe and makeup collection but noted that I leaned to more long dresses and a classier look.
Fast forward to today and I love skirts and blouses that are not flashy and a age appropriate face pallete I no longer have any desire to dress provacativly but rather much more like a librarian 💁🏽*♀️ I wonder if others went through stages of hyper feminized makeup and dress only to settle on a more conservative permanent look?
I have found the more I look and dress my age the better I feel and I do get many more positive reactions

[Alice Torn]

I would say most get more conservative with age. I did.

[Vicky_Scot]

My wife and female friends are around the same age as myself so I get a good gauge from what they wear of what is acceptable. X

[Cheryl T]

I most certainly went through that ultra feminine stage.
When I was a teenager the image of choice was from Playboy. I wanted so to be one of the models (pre-nudity this was). All the garter belts, hose and heels were my mainstays.
Makeup? OMG I looked like a cheap imitation of a hooker I was so bad.
Later in my 20's I learned to have a lighter hand with makeup and my style became more mainstream. I had an outfit I still miss today. It was a chocolate brown bra/panty/garter belt set with a full slip under a chocolate brown, cowl neck dress with long sleeves. It was just above the knee and I wore this outfit with what they called buffalo sandals. They were 3" wedges with a 1" sole something like the platform pumps so popular the last 10 years. The shoes had wide straps across the toe, instep and around the ankle. I had my first wig which was shoulder length brunette and I felt fabulous dressed this way.
Ah youth....
Now I'm more casual, more average, more age appropriate (sort of) and more often than not dressed and loving life.

[Robertacd]

Well it's common for the new or occasional dresser to gravitate towards hyperftminine styles.

It's that "teenage girl" thing we all go through. But as we age and become more comfortable with ourselves. Most of us tend to settle into styles that allow us to blend in with GG's of our age group.

Don't get me wrong, I still have my share of sexy outfits. But I don't dress like a street walker.

[Sandi Beech]

Hey there Mariabella,

I suppose I have toned it down a bit, but it depends on where I am going. The picture in my profile is what I wore at the mall the other day. I would NEVER wear what I have worn to bar/dance clubs to the mall. (My slip was just above the knee, it's not see-through) Like others have said, it?s best to dress for the occasion.
Still, I like both and my main concern is to look classy, and people DO notice even when conservative. I was in the grocery store yesterday (man mode), and the woman in the line in front of me had a conservative women's business type suit on with black boots just under her knee, and I couldn't help but think I would look good in it. I said to her "I like your outfit, it's very attractive", and said nothing else after she said "thank you." I did not want her to think I was hitting on her. On the way out, she turned back and said thank you again and smiled. I love the positive feedback myself, so I am much more aware of giving the same feedback to well-dressed women. It has always been well taken. So my focus is to look as good as I am able, conservative or otherwise. You won't see me going out in women's jeans and a t shirt.

Sandi

[Elizabeth G]

I didn't necessarily go ultra feminine but my preferred style continually evolves and is becoming somewhat more conservative as I get older.

[LilSissyStevie]

My journey has been in the opposite direction. When I was younger and more confused about what motivated me to CD I tried to emulate what I found attractive in women. But, I found much more satisfaction when I dressed in a "hyper feminine" style that I didn't find all that attractive when women did it. At some point, I realized that I dressed to escape the confines of masculinity (real or imagined) rather than dressing to be or emulate a female. So calling my style "hyper feminine" kind of misses the point. Rather, I think of it as hyper anti-masculine or hyper emasculation. As I get older, rather than becoming more conservative, I just do it less often.

[Stephanie47]

I still have the vast majority of dresses I have purchased over the decades. The only ones that have been culled from my wardrobe did not fit. Remember those early years of not knowing sizes and styles. In my early years my interests were limited to lingerie; nightgowns, slips, bras, panties and hosiery. When it comes to undergarments it has always been colors...lots of colors. My dresses have always been age appropriate. My dress buying started when I was in my mid thirties. I worked in a professional office environment. I'd say a woman in her thirties through her fifties would definitely wear what I wore. Now? It is still pretty patterns and colors, but, not on the side of looking like a neon sign. A long time ago I gave up wearing a lot of makeup. Today, if I wear any makeup other than lip color it is to cover up the aging imperfections on the face. I'm in my early seventies. There is no way I would wear a mini or micro mini skirt or dress.

[Helen_Highwater]

I'm not sure I'd describe it as hyper feminine. many of the images were hyper sexualised and not something GG's tended to emulate. They would favour more Vogue or Cosmopolitan than Playboy. I do suspect though for many of us who are straight males that draw towards the very sexy would be there. Possibly because it was easier to feel sexy in a pair of heels than it was to actually look it. That said, guilty as charged and it's only with time and a long learning curve that I've moved to dressing to emulate the tastefully well dressed woman as opposed to looking like a lady of the night.

[docrobbysherry]

Wait'll your my age, 76. THEN, post about dressing your age!:straightface:

If I did? I could either dress like granny on the Beverly Hillbillies or in a coffin. I like to see an attractive, young woman in my mirror.:daydreaming:

And, intend to continue that look until I'm done!:devil:

[jacques]

hello Mariabella,
I dress in private so can choose to wear what ever clothes I choose - they are not always age appropriate!
luv J

[Mariabella]

The responses really highlight how individual each ones experience is. I have always wished to dress ?pretty? but in my youth sexualized and/or hyper emasculated my dressing as it eased dysphoria. Now after many years of secrets and finally letting them go I find I am most at ease when dressed as a conservative-ish older gal. I get more positive reinforcement when out now also and I do conflate the two.
For myself fully owning that I AM MariaBella not that guy anymore really took the intensity of dressing into a more natural and comfortable place and really made my transition a natural evolution opposed to a reactionary expression to my dysphoria

[Micki_Finn]

I don’t know that I’d call what you described as “hyper feminine”. Maybe hyper sexual. To me the height of femininity is gowns and jewels and glamor. To me hyper feminine is pageant winner, not porn star. To that end I’d say I’m still in the area of “hyper feminine”, but what I do is essentially drag.

[sometimes_miss]

I don’t know that I’d call what you described as “hyper feminine”. Maybe hyper sexual. To me the height of femininity is gowns and jewels and glamor. To me hyper feminine is pageant winner, not porn star. To that end I’d say I’m still in the area of “hyper feminine”, but what I do is essentially drag.
Says it all. There's nothing more feminine, than clothing that would simply never be worn by a male, and firmly identifies the wearer as female minded, and who behaves as such.
Are my clothes from Forever 21 very feminine? Absolutely. Are they overly sexual? Of course not.
Hyper feminine? Well, that would be maternity clothes. Nothing more distinctly feminine than having a baby, now, is there?

[Robertacd]

I love how these threads always seem to disintegrate into arguing semantics.

crossdresser or transvestite?

hyper-feminine or hyper-sexual?

Does it really matter?

[Mariabella]

🤷🏽*♂️ I do not know much except no matter how you word a thing on an Internet forum it will not please someone. I accept this and sometimes make my case and others not. I used the term I thought up to describe a thing I have seen again and again of fetish dressing more or less ( yes I know some will not like ?fetish dressing? either) in the trans and CD communities.
No judgments attached just semantics I chose to describe an observation.
I still am trying to see where I fit into a community of like needs. So am asking questions about things I encounter and am curious about to gauge the communities consensus and determine if I hold similar.

[Jenny22]

As with possibly most of us here, my early dressing was fetish oriented. Today at 85, I dress modestly as a 50 tear old woman might do, because that's my age when dressed and confirmed by the mirrors.

[Micki_Finn]

I love how these threads always seem to disintegrate into arguing semantics.

crossdresser or transvestite?

hyper-feminine or hyper-sexual?

Does it really matter?

Yes. If we don’t know what each other means with the words they use, then we can’t really understand what they’re telling us can we?

[Robertacd]

My point is that it doesn't matter because in this context they both mean the same thing.

[CynthiaD]

I usually dress conservatively like most women my age. But every once in a while I’ll see a gold miniskirt or red metallic hot pants or a fishnet and lace top. And I’ll think, “oh that’s too young and daring for you.” Then I’ll think, “oh to heck with it,” and buy it anyway. Never been sorry.

[Patience]

I dunno. To me, "hyperfeminine" would be sort of what drag queens do. It's an exaggeration, a caricature. It's the kind of thing even GGs only wear occasionally.

As I've only started dressing again recently, I usually go for the kind of attire I see being worn by the average GG. Being tall, I don't need more things to make me stand out.

[Maid_Marion]

I was quite comfortable wearing a crop top and short shorts in the hot summer weather. With all summer exercise my waist is 9 inches narrower than my hips!

[Ressie]

Stages I went thru: I used to just wear whatever my girlfriend had in her closet and drawers. After we broke up I married the wrong person. A few years later (2005) I was single with my own home and really started building up my wardrobe.

I love a feminine look; blonde wigs, gartered stockings, heels, makeup - even pink clothes! I have some clothes that are conservative, and some that are very fem (or sexy?). How I dress depends on the occasion and I'd love to have lots of -time and money- to shop for higher quality items.

[Rhonda Jean]

I have been dressing in public since I was a teenager (a long time ago). I was absolutely confident that I passed 100% of the time, until someone called me out. For a while after that I tried to camouflage whatever male was showing through by going over the top. A shiny electric blue spandex mini dress, sky high heels, big boobs, big hair, big jewelry, extremely long nails, more makeup. Instead of making me pass better, it made things worse, and I didn't do it for long.

Although my miniskirt and mini dress days are pretty much behind me, until a few years ago I'd allow myself a couple of times a year to throw caution to the wind and wear something extreme for the pure exhilaration and fun of it. More tasteful that my spandex days, but not by much. Even as someone for whom dressing to blend was routine and rather mundane, it was scary and fun at the same time, and always an adrenaline high! I remember the last time I did it like it was yesterday, and I miss that exhilaration. It was a good reminder that we don't always have to be so serious, and sometimes you need to do it for the pure joy of it! Kim's pic has inspired me to get out in short skirts and tights, but for some reason the tights have a mitigating effect on the whole look and it doesn't seem nearly as daring, which is a good thing. I'll miss the primal joy of going out in certain things, the attention, the exhilaration, the part fear, part excitement. But, there comes a point where you run the risk of becoming a caricature, and there's no joy in that for me. Everything runs it's course. It takes a whole lot less to be inappropriate now!

[docrobbysherry]

Sometimes going over the top is blending at it's best. Because no one can imagine you're a man!:devil:

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[Pumped]

Years ago I dressed in what ever I could find. Today I buy my own clothing, but I wear about anything. I have ****ty, way too short mini skirts, school girl skirts, 50's dresses with full skirts that June Cleaver would have worn and also some long formal dresses but generally with a slit up the leg to show off my garters and stockings.

Right now I am wearing a tight white tank to with 40DDD breasts, stockings and garter belt with white jean shorts that are SHORT, plus a pair of Pleaser white platform high heels sandals. Extremely trashy! My all white, innocent, but trashy outfit!

[SHINY-J]

My dressing style has always been ?hyper feminine? ... to be perfectly honest, the idea of me CDing was inspired early on by a combo of female comic book characters, playboy magazine models, Elvira Mistress of the dark, and a plethora of random buxom babes on late night skinemax. Basically, bombshell women with huge hair, massive boobs, tiny waists that lead down to curvy hips and long shapely legs with high heels. Women with gravity defying body’s that have impossible curves.

Of course, When I was younger, I just took whatever I could get... a few pairs of satin panties, a single satin opera glove, a black satin slip... that?s all I really had when I was in my teens... as I got older, I snuck a few pairs of panties from girls that I dated, but that was about it as I was in college and had guy roommates and nowhere to hide a femme wardrobe...

But when I got my own place, the explosion began. It’s been over a decade now, but my wardrobe is still outrageous and wild. Because my CDing is really a closet fetish I don?t think I’ll ever change my dressing tastes. If I ever decide to try passing in public, of course I’ll dial it back.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Maria :hugs:, I have three closets full of all kinds of feminine clothes and 160+ pairs of shoes & boots ,


I still like the options of dressing very conservative or to the hyper feme extreme.>Orchid .oO:daydreaming:Oo.

[mykell]

i just wrote a post about that and described it as tarty when i first got here, now i try to blend but 6' 200#s not happening but i own it.

cheryl was writing a memoir and wore my friends sisters buffalo sandles, they still make them:
https://www.korkease.com/product.aspx?ProductID=55&refURL=GoogleBase&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cse&utm_term=813753031906&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI0Jqpsqre5QIVc4NaBR0s-gPvEAQYASABEgJE6vD_BwE

funny no....

[Jean 103]

I do cute and girly. I wear what I like and look good in.

I prefer dresses to pants.

My style is young and cute. I live in the real world, I know what works and what doesn't. If I dress my age I get criticized by my friends (GGs).

[Jodie_Lynn]

I have to admit that when I read the title of this thread, I expected a ton of posts & pics of frilly maids dresses and acres of fluffy petticoats.

I am happy to have been wrong. :)

And no, I'm not demeaning those that present that way ( hell, I once donned a Anime-style Lolita maids dress for an event! ). Just pointing out my reaction to the phrase "hyperfeminine".

My own, day-to-day style is to blend in with the general population, stylish but age appropriate, and I have no issues wearing women's jeans or slacks. In fact, they highlight a couple of my best assets. ;)

[MarinaTwelve200]

I think there is a fine line between "Hyperfeminine" and DRAG. Drag sort of "Freaks me out" also and seems to scream "MALE" to me. I admit I do go a bit "overboard" with my makeup a bit, simply because it's the most fun part for me, but I try to keep it below the "drag" levels.------Actually I feel I do look better and more realistic with less makeup. Compare my photo to my avatar.

[wearingtanpantyhose]

I still love my short skirts with sheer tights, but it's 10 degrees this morning and I'm wearing granny panties, sweater tights and a well-over-the-knee heavy skirt.

[CarlaWestin]

At 64, dressing age appropriate is just another page in the style book.

[Kimberly A.]

Mariabella, I believe I can relate. When I went out dressed for the first time this past Saturday night, I now feel like my attire was over-the-top and I was over-dressed..... My avatar picture is what I was wearing when I went out. The women in my town don't normally dress like, but all I really wanted to do was just drive around in my car, but I did get out to get gas, then to a park for a few minutes. But anyway, I do feel that dressing more casual is the best way to go.

[Diedre]

OK, I will date myself here. When I first started dressing in the mid-late sixties at around age 13, the clothes were about as feminine as you could get. I always wore a panty girdle with six garters, long line bra, nylon stockings and a full slip underneath my rayon dress or skirt.

The around 1969-70 it was pantyhose, regular bra, and a 1/2 slip swishing over my nylon clad butt while wearing a mini skirt with a polyester blouse or Marcia Brady type mini dress . With the help of a female cousin, I could easily pass until full puberty set in. Those to me were the days of hyperfeminine fashion. And maybe to some extent into the 1980's recalling Dallas and Dynasty ladies for those who remember, but past my dressing prime.

After puberty hit, I couldn't pass in a dark room on a moonless night so for me it's all a mute point to do any serious dressing these days.

[candykowal]

I suppose I dress a little bit more feminine than I should, I just cannot accept I turned 60 this year!
ULTRA FEMININE....sound so nice, I like being in that mind set most times while out in public.
If I looked at my Grandma or Mother at 60...am I suppose to dress like that?
And today's 60 somethings have short hair for comfort and hardly wear a skirt! Or dress!
So I try to blend...but I am sure I am a "trollop" or "Hussy" to most women my age.
I do wear a mid length dress to go grocery shopping...with nice shoes... and jewelry.
Maybe they think I am a working professional? I could hope.
I also go to a piano bar where I have seen red hat society girls frequent too...makes me feel better about my style.
I suppose I try a bit to ...not to look my age...for me, I dress to reminisce of when I lived as a girl and had many wonderful memories.
Reliving those day may be part of my mid life crisis...but it is heaven for me!
So if outed because I am ultra femme, oh well!

[Lux]

I definitely don’t dress my age. As a matter of fact, my wife likes to kid me that I’m a man dressing as a woman half my age! I’m a very sexual person and dress fairly provocatively but I only do that when I’m out with my wife.

[Sabrina133]

Great topic actually...

I am full time so i dress for the occasion - If my wife and I are out clubbing, i dress for the clubs which means i dress to impress. When at work, i dress for work. If out casually, i tend to dress accordingly.

[Lucy Long Legs]

I'm afraid I'm not as sensible as Mariabella. I like the feeling of danger and vulnerability that wearing very feminine clothes gives me, so it's all short dresses and skirts, revealing necklines and heels for me!

[Amelie]

I am sort of going in the opposite direction. I started out as a punk. Then became a dark goth. Now I am adding color to my look and becoming a pastel goth.

I don't know if people consider what I wrote as hyper feminine or even feminine. But it was never conservative and never will be.

[Nadia Wren]

After puberty hit, I couldn't pass in a dark room on a moonless night


I'm sorry Diedre, but that is a hilarious way of putting it. Sometimes that is how I feel, and the dark room evokes a time when I experimented with photography.

[lingerieLiz]

I started dressing in the 50s and wore clothes that my sisters wore (with their permission). Pretty much wore everything that girls did growing up. When I moved away from home I continued buying and wearing things that were in the main stream. Today I wear what most of our women friends wear which happens to be jeans and tops. Some of my tops are silk shirts. Summers are golf shorts and tees. Yes, there are times the women wear gowns for weddings and special events which I attend as a husband, but sometimes wear women's shirts. I've never thought about hyper-dressing, feminine was what I wanted.

[Gillian Gigs]

I wouldn't use the word hyper, but I do like my cami's to have some lacy. My lingerie has a feminine flair, but then again it is lingerie. How could a bra not be feminine? As I have gotten older the skirts have gotten longer, but I still prefer them just above the knee, with just below the knee in second place. I consider skirts to be feminine, then add hosiery to that, and heels, it's feminine how ever you look at it. Everything is now more conservative than in my youth, much more age appropriate now.

[susan54]

It depends on your perspective about what is hyper-feminine. I always wear dresses and very occasionally skirts but never trousers of any type. My clothes are classy and elegant which can translate into feminine, but my objective is just classy and elegant. No skirts (or skirt parts of dress) shorter than 21". Most of my underwear is plain and my shoes can be high but not silly high or too spindly. All accessories are carefully chosen and everything 'goes' together including the make-up (worn only when I go out). I own stuff like corsets and suspender belts and big frothy petticoats but never wear them. I have 38D breast forms that I got by accident with an order but only wear my 38B ones. So I like to think of myself as hyper elegant rather than hyper feminine.

[Patience]

I do cute and girly. [...] If I dress my age I get criticized by my friends (GGs).

That's odd. What do they say?

[Star01]

I dress in private and due to limited opportunities my wardrobe is whatever I can gather at an adult gifts shop, makeup at the dollar store and a few items at a costume store to date. My look is trashy for indoor eyes only at this point but I'm in the process of getting more age appropriate clothes and a better quality wig. Thoughts of going out into the world will have to stay on the back burner until I make those upgrades but I am working in that direction.

[Ceera]

When I first started going out, my immediate aim was to be perceived as a cisgender woman. I always wore skirts, and often short ones that showed off my nice legs. And always wore high heels, to make my legs look even better. Pants were strictly part of my ?male uniform?, and never a part of my female presentation. Very much a ?girly girl?.

It was nearly two years before I bought some cute feminine jeans and slacks, and some feminine sneakers and low sandals. And started bringing ?plan b? low heeled sandals or sneakers in the car, so if the heels got to be too much, I could switch to more sensible shoes. And I was aware by then that most women, straight or lesbian, only wore heels for special occasions, like a wedding, graduation, formal party or posh charity event. Very few cisgender ladies wore anything but sneakers or low sandals, and most were amazed at how well I walk and even dance in heels.

I am full time female now, and my wardrobe includes almost as many feminine slacks/pants, shorts and jeans as it does skirts. A fair mix of heels, boots, shoes, and sandals, with me tending less and less to wear the dramatic high heels. Much more like the mix of clothes I see other ladies wear from day to day. I still have a reputation among my lesbian friends of being hyper-feminine, to the extent that if I don?t wear a skirt to a dance, they ask if I am feeling unwell... LoL...

Over the last year I have gotten much more comfortable presenting fully female, but in casual jeans and a t-shirt and sandals or sneakers or low boots. Friends have even commented on my being more comfortable with ?simply being myself?.

[Yinlingyen]

I guess I fit the category of hyper feminine or overly girly.
I only own dresses and high heel sandals.
My dresses are either very short , with deep v or dresses that are rather see through.
Right or wrong..... it?s just how I feel like that be myself

[susann_gardener]

I still dress in a quite sexual style. I am able to pull this off as I keep in good shape (well, I find a corset to be helpful these days). Going to try a more conservative outfit this week.

[Felicia M]

When I was younger I loved stockings and lingerie and gravitated toward more sexually provocative outfits and presentations. I still do love those things however now I am gravitating toward being stylish and polished in my clothing and shoe choices as well as polishing my makeup skills. I find the evolution fascinating and incredibly pleasurable.

[Francesca Marie]

I always dressed hyperfemine but soon realized that if i wanted to go out into the world dressed then I picked clothing that blended in with others. That being said, I had to get better at the details, a good wig, flawless makeup, jewelry, etc. Just because you may tone down the clothes, you always keep it classy!

[BettyMorgan]

It's that "teenage girl" thing we all go through. But as we age and become more comfortable with ourselves. Most of us tend to settle into styles that allow us to blend in with GG's of our age group.



I wonder if many of us went through the teenager phase but smartened up as we aged out lol.
Do some of us dress like the girls we wanted to date when we were younger?
Just questions for internal thought.

[BlueTempest]

I wonder if many of us went through the teenager phase but smartened up as we aged out lol.
Do some of us dress like the girls we wanted to date when we were younger?
Just questions for internal thought.

Certain outfits trigger memories of past girlfriends definitely, I wouldn't say its a bad thing per se as I'm completely over the relationships and they had good style!
As for dressing like girls we wanted to date, well I always remember being at school during that muddled up stage of puberty and there were girls obviously way ahead of the curve that would wear the most ridiculously tight trousers with a well chosen thong that made an appearance when they sat down. Just to be clear, I am NOT fantasising about school girls here, rather the fact I longed to have the ability, and the freedom to show femininity like they could.

[Micki_Finn]

I wonder if many of us went through the teenager phase but smartened up as we aged out lol.
Do some of us dress like the girls we wanted to date when we were younger?
Just questions for internal thought.

I think it just takes some a while to figure out the difference between sexy and ****ty.

[junetv]

When I was younger (in my 30's) I would dress in skirt suits, nylons and heels - like Ally McBeal.
Now, I'm in my 50's and dress in longer length dresses with heels and hose. Miniskirts are out of place for someone like me in public - private is a different story ;) These days I mainly just get dressed to run errands like grocery shopping and filling the car with gas. Shopping en-femme
I don't really like pants or leggings for outside wear. I do wear women's slacks end drab.

The yellow outfit is about the length I wear now. The miniskirt suit with the slit is what I wore in the 90's. The lbd with "adjustable" hem is a fun dress I try every now and then.

[Lacy PJs]

After reading the posts here, I believe that when we first start to dress, we tend to be more "ultra-feminine" as a way of expressing our female side. Think about it... if you started out with jeans & a woman's flannel shirt (that tends to look like a guy shirt anyway), there's not much of an expression of femininity. So I think most of us go overboard at first so as to leave no doubt. Then later, we kind of realize our style and migrate in that direction. Just my thoughts... yours may vary...

Lacy PJs

[Stevie Allyn]

I agree with you there, Lacy PJs.

When I first started buying my own femme clothes I did the high heels, short skirts, stockings and suspender (garter) belt, fishnets etc. Nowadays I like a nice ankle length skirt or dress when dressing for an occasion, more often jeans and a sweater. Oh yes, and I now always go for flat shoes or ankle boots - I'm six foot tall and really don't need to be wearing heels!

[Angela Marie]

I think all of us went through the same issues. Now at 65 my skirts are a bit longer. However I do love my leggings; and given their prevalence in todays fashion scene I think they are acceptable for all ages.

[Bobbi46]

Fashions come and go like the wind, and starting out dressing its a bit if trial and error, more error for some and then a status quo is found, what works in public without causing a stir but what does not work ourside can be just right for inside and in the garden.