Well this is going to be scary!

[Macey]

So, you may remember that my wife started a new job over the summer.

Naturally, she told them all about me and showed a few photos. She's told me that everyone she works with reaction was 'awwwww'! And that they're super supportive.

Well, she just came home and said that their Christmas party is on the 7th and that I should feel free to attend in any way I want.

I told her that I'd have to think about it, but that I'd probably lime to go as 'me'! Naturally, I'll be a nervous wreck, but I think it's time for a 'proper' outing, not just amongst strangers serving at a restaurant. Plus, all of these people would then meet me as 'me' first and primarily.

My wife responded that she thinks I should and I'm inclined to agree. This is gonna get weird.

Love her so much!

[Sandi Beech]

Wow that?s awesome to have that kind of support. Let us know how it goes.

Sandi

[Samm]

I would make myself sick with the stress of choosing which way to present. Then, I would make myself sick with the stress of what to wear! Lol

[Robertacd]

Scary? They already know and are welcoming you. So what's to be scared of?

Scary would be showing up dressed when nobody knows about you before hand.

[Elizabeth G]

I hope you have a great time and we'll want to hear all about it afterwards of course!

[paulaprimo]

Sounds awesome Macey. Congrats to you and I wish you the very best!
Even thou it's scary, I'm sure it will all work out for you. Enjoy! :)

[Harriet Staar]

Have an amazing time. Relax have fun.

[Across]

Enjoy the party. Its not gonna be scary but a merry time dear. All the best.

[docrobbysherry]

Dress to my SO's office Xmas party!?:eek:
Not in million years!:devil:

But, u go and have fun, Macey! Just promise to tell us how it went?:daydreaming:

[Jean 103]

I would go and represent the way you want to be seen all the time, the picture you want them to carry in their mind.

There is only one first impression, you want it to count. These are your wife's coworkers.

Go , relax, have a good time.

[Patience]

I’m glad you didn’t mind being outed by your wife at her work. I’m not sure I’d characterize her sharing of such a personal thing as natural, but I expect you’ve discussed the matter between yourselves.

Have fun. Hope it all goes according to plan.

[Crissy 107]

Macey, I know you and you be absolutely fine. No doubt you will Wow them all and we will all be waiting for your post ASAP.

[Angie G]

WOW! I can see that being a bit scary. :hugs:
Angie

[Rhonda Darling]

photos, if you please. otherwiswe it never really happened.

I hope you have an amazing time.

[AngelaYVR]

I have found that having people first meet my female side and then the male can be problematic. That beautiful woman has become...you? Nope. I would only do it if I was to continue to meet them dressed in my finery.

[Helena]

Macey, what a wonderful opportunity. I know what you mean about scary. When I recently came out at work, only because they had let my SO know they had worked it out, I was still super nervous.

[Helen_Highwater]

Easy to see why you'd find this scary. I do feel also that's it incumbent upon you to present as well as you can. It seems there's no better time to go get your makeup done by a pro!

There's a BBC documentary available on YouTube about an openly gay 16 year old who wanted to do drag and eventually go to the school prom dressed. The school tried to ban him but when he turned up dressed his fellow students said he comes in or we don't.

The only problem I saw was that he looked better than many of the girls.

So yes get your makeup done, don't be the diva, the glamorous centre of attention. Outshining your SO isn't a good idea.

[~Renee~]

Yeah it should be kind of scary since you aren't fully in control of your public persona now. As Angela said it may cause you problems for future events if you decide too show up dressed. I'd add reading this thread made me think of "be careful what you wish you might just get it". Good luck at her party.

[JaclynL61]

Good luck and have fun Macey.

[alwayshave]

Macey, I keep my dressing and work completely separated. But that is up to your wife. If she is good with it, have fun.

[Bobbi46]

Macey it's not weird it's exciting! nervous about going maybe? but once you get there bearing in mind so many know about you it should not be such a big hurdle to jump over, unless you have not been to something like this before in any case your loved one will be with you so all I can say is go enjoy, have a good time with all our best wishes

[Star01]

So, you may remember that my wife started a new job over the summer.

Naturally, she told them all about me and showed a few photos. She's told me that everyone she works with reaction was 'awwwww'! And that they're super supportive.

Well, she just came home and said that their Christmas party is on the 7th and that I should feel free to attend in any way I want.

I told her that I'd have to think about it, but that I'd probably lime to go as 'me'! Naturally, I'll be a nervous wreck, but I think it's time for a 'proper' outing, not just amongst strangers serving at a restaurant. Plus, all of these people would then meet me as 'me' first and primarily.

My wife responded that she thinks I should and I'm inclined to agree. This is gonna get weird.

Love her so much!

It sounds to me like your wife is an awesome lady. I would presume that her new job is not working for a farm implement dealer in the middle of Kansas. Some of us are a tiny bit jealous as you must live in a very progressive place so that her workplace is so accepting.

[Stephanie47]

I went back and looked at several of your picture postings. You always look terrific. I think you'll do fine. If there is any blow back for appearing en femme I think it will be on your wife. After all it's her work environment. Encouraging you to go to a holiday party en femme suggests to me she will be able to handle herself. Please post pictures of the outfit when you get it. Hopefully it will be a sexy dress. You definitely have the figure for a dress.

[Allisa]

Hmmm, what to do, what to do? They've already seen pics of "yourself" en-femme but in person is so much more. I'm sure there's going to a barrage of questions but don't forget who brought you to the dance and focus on "herself" as much as you can, after all you'll be the trophy husband. Don't forget alcohol and office parties can be a bad thing if not careful. Relax, be yourself, and enjoy. Small bites, small sips and tap never wipe your mouth. I'm sure you'll be fine, now go and be the best you you can be.

[CayleeMarie]

Wow... you've been granted a wish that many us here are still waiting for our fairy godmothers to fulfill! In my case too many of my wife's coworkers already know man me. So, it would not best situation for us.

I say, embrace the moment and live the dream. Opportunities like this don't present themselves every day. I would echo what several others here have said that this is her party and is more about her. If it were me, I would wear something that wouldn't upstage her. I would also suggest that which ever way you choose to present, you are establishing a precedent. The average person generally does better with consistency.

Have fun and take lots of pictures!

[SHINY-J]

That’s a good kind of “scary”.., like many have said already, I can’t imagine having that kind of support and encouragement... I haven’t even had the tiniest fraction of understand or acceptance.

Good luck and have fun!

[Majella St Gerard]

I say go for it, I would.

[WandaRae2009]

I would love to go out with my wife as Wanda. I think it would be a fund time and I am jealous.

[Dani0948]

Ask your wife to let everyone know you will be coming enfemme (if you decide to go that way). That way there will be no surprises (just expectations). Also if anyone at her work has a problem, they will be warned in advance.
Your wife is fantastic
Good luck and have an awsome time.

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Ask your wife to let everyone know you will be coming enfemme (if you decide to go that way). That way there will be no surprises (just expectations). Also if anyone at her work has a problem, they will be warned in advance.
Your wife is fantastic
Good luck and have an awsome time.

[Macey]

She told me that the plan is going to an Axe throwing place and then to a restaurant. No dress for this, I think. But will go as 'blendably' fem as possible. And NO to outshining my wonderful wife! She's the star of this show!

[CrossKimmy]

I say its time to go dress shopping!

[fun4metoo2004]

Hey, go for it! you will have a blast either way!

[carhill2mn]

What a wife you have! Now the next question is what will you wear?

[CynthiaD]

I think you'll be surprised at how un-weird it ends up being.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Macey :hugs:, I can't wait for the Eighth to find out how it went, I will be standing by waiting.

>>>>>>>>>>>>>Orchid .oO:daydreaming:Oo.

[Eemz]

At the ax throwing place, just remember not to stand between any homophobes and the target LOL.

Sounds awesome Macey. Have a great time don?t overthink it remember you?re meeting your wife?s new work colleagues it?s not all about the clothes you?ll probably forget about that to be honest fairly quickly once you?re there.

[Helen_Highwater]

She told me that the plan is going to an Axe throwing place

And if they ask for a volunteer to be on the revolving wheel target while the blindfolded expert throws.......?

[BTWimRobin]

You and your wife have an amazing relationship. If she says go dressed then be yourself and go dressed. I hope you have a wonderful time. Can't wait to hear all about it.

[Teresa]

Macey,
If your wife and her work colleagues support you why not go for it !

Look at it this way you will more than likely regret not doing it than actually doing it . You may surprise yourself and not be that nervous , may I suggest you don't go OTT , aim to blend rather than stand out , you never know if you handle this in the right way you could be free to be out more after .

I know that first few minutes of walking through the door and meeting people is scary but give them a few minutes and you'll be joining in and chatting away . Go Girl and do it !!

No dress for this , shame on you ! Plenty of time ! Maybe find something wth red on it if there's some axe throwing !!

[Robertacd]

So I was talking to my wife the other night about the local Drag Awards this month noting that it's semi-formal so we get to wear our really nice dresses. That brought up the subject of the holidays and our respective company parties... So my wife says "Do you want to dress up at the parties this year?" I tell her that I am not ready to go to mine dressed but if she us okay with it I will go to her office party dressed. She works for a small law firm with one GG lawyer (But not "Single Female Lawyer (https://theinfosphere.org/Single_Female_Lawyer)"), her and another staff member.

So at the most there will be six or eight people present at this time none of them know about me. I don't know if my wife is going to tell them ahead of time or not... But either way I am committed.

Back to our dresses, my wife's new dress is so beautiful and she knows how much I like it, when we were talking about what we were probably going to wear she said "I will wear my new dress to your party and you can wear it to mine".

I can't wait...

[Macey]

Thank you all!

Roberta, that's amazing! We'll have to swap photos after this.

Since axe throwing will be involved, AND it's a public place, AND we're going to a public restaurant after, no dress and of course going for a 'blend' look!

Side note: I told me wife that I do NOT intend to throw any axes. She said "Oh yes you are!" I said that no, I'm not, and here's why:

I am not an activist. And since I am SO GOOD at throwing axes, I'll easily beat every woman in the place. Then, they'll all say 'why did we let this trans athlete in here? She should have her own category!' and I'll be all embarrassed.

My wife laughed and said I need to tell everyone there this ;)

P.S. I have no idea how to throw any axes, and it's been a few years since I even swung one at a wood pile.

[Teresa]

Macey ,
This old girl can still swing ..........................................an axe !!! You should see the size of mine !!

I can still swing on the dance floor and I know which I prefer .

[Eemz]

When is it? Your public demands photographic evidence Macey I hope you realise that!

Live broadcast on Facebook would be fine for example :straightface:
:rofl:

[Macey]

Thought the eight, but it's the 7th. Patience, Eemz, patience!

[Genifer Teal]

These types of situations are invaluable to your overall growth. It will help you feel more comfortable with who you are and want to be. Make the most of it and also keep a close watch on your wife and consider her feelings throughout the event. She sounds OK with it but that can change after you get one too many compliments or whatever. Enjoy, just don't leave her behind if the pink fog hits.

[Eemz]

Are we there yet?
Are we there yet?
Are we there yet?

[Davina Katherine]

Thank you all!

Roberta, that's amazing! We'll have to swap photos after this.

Since axe throwing will be involved, AND it's a public place, AND we're going to a public restaurant after, no dress and of course going for a 'blend' look!

Side note: I told me wife that I do NOT intend to throw any axes. She said "Oh yes you are!" I said that no, I'm not, and here's why:

I am not an activist. And since I am SO GOOD at throwing axes, I'll easily beat every woman in the place. Then, they'll all say 'why did we let this trans athlete in here? She should have her own category!' and I'll be all embarrassed.

My wife laughed and said I need to tell everyone there this ;)

P.S. I have no idea how to throw any axes, and it's been a few years since I even swung one at a wood pile.

Macey, I've thrown axes at medieval events while wearing long robes. So unless this is a Lumber Jack themed axe throwing, a dress would not be a problem. Wear a dress (if your wife is also) and throw baby, throw!!

[JenniferMBlack]

Sounds like an excuse to me. Dress like all the other girls and go throw axes. If they can do it so can you. You will not say dang I regret going there doing that but will most likely regret not doing it.

[jacques]

hello Macey,
If your wife has invited you then of course you should go with her to her work colleagues party, but remember that it is their party (not yours); I would be a bit nervous about meeting a whole set of new people what ever I was wearing.
luv J