Finally, some funds to go to therapy!

[Pixie_94]

Hello everyone! This is an update after my last thread a while ago.

Things have been almost uneventful these days for me, except the work I have been doing and I realised I could spend some of that money in psychological therapy sessions. Before anyone asks about any in the university I went to, I don't have any classes left there, so I would be a bit out of place and I don't really trust them. I have an image to maintain there for my graduation.

Getting back to the point, I don't really know what to expect from the therapy, I just want to do the experiment and to see if the specialist may give me any information or something I can relay at home, so I'm not as concerning as I have been told before.

I hope everyone has had or will have a nice day.

[Alice Torn]

Pixie, I can relate. I am to start seeing a new therapist soon. Not sure how it will go, but willing to go. I have seen one before, and for the most part, it was just her listening. She seemed to push that i might be trans gender, and maybe consider SRS, but i do not want to transition, and am content being an occasional Cd.

[docrobbysherry]

What Kim said, Pixie.:thumbsup:

Plus, if u don't think u need help, u won't get any from a counselor! They r there to help u solve problems. If u don't think u have any? An experienced therapist will send u home straight away! If u think someone at home needs help? Take them to the appointment with u!:)

[Alice Torn]

I am mainly going just because i am so isolated form women. I just am a lonesome tortured soul, who needs to be heard, and actually have a woman to listen to me, rather than just cashiers or librarians and talking about the weather!!

[Kendra Sue]

I went to a nuerotherapist. The initial session went well. He did not see any big red flags. I go back furst wek of December too be evaluated fo Alzheimer's and Dementia. This was at my reqest. My wife is terminally ill and I am her care giver. I may have some anger issues. From there I go to another psychologist to have regular sessions

[GretchenM]

Great to see you back, Pixie. Sounds like your life is moving forward in spite of an environment that is not exactly accepting or supportive as it could be. Go girl but be careful.

As for any advice on how to approach therapy, I have been a few times for various issues and I have a daughter who is a therapist. First, keep in mind that a therapist, if they are any good, will not judge you. They are there, in part, to help you arrange your thoughts and make sense of them and the emotional impacts of those thoughts. Second, be open and totally honest. It is confidential and here anyway a therapist that shares information about you with your name or identifier can get into a heap of trouble. Don't hold back anything that is of concern just because you might be ashamed to reveal it. Anything that is held back the therapist cannot know about and therefore can't include it in their way of helping you find the solutions you need. Reluctant to say something? Take a deep breath and just say it.

I wish you the best of luck in this new experience. It is scary at first, but you will likely settle right in. Hopefully, the therapist is good. But if you are made to feel like they are attacking you just because of who you are and their personal opinion of people like you, don't be afraid to end it and go elsewhere. There are bad therapists, but they are not common as they often don't last long in the business of helping others.

[Pixie_94]

She seemed to push that i might be trans gender, and maybe consider SRS, but i do not want to transition, and am content being an occasional Cd.

I honestly hope none of the things the specialist might say go that way, that was already a bit too much years ago. Someone even suggested so to see if I would dye my hair or do something drastic.

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I am going to suggest a mind-set for counseling: Be there to share openly bout how you feel, what you think and what you want from life. And try to be open to possibilities.

No idea of how it will be, but I'm more mystyfied than scared this time.

[Aunt Kelly]

Honesty and openness are absolute requirements for effective therapy. The more your caregiver knows about, the more he she can help
Know that this can be frightening. No, not necessarily sharing things with someone else, but admitting certain things to yourself in the process.

[Pumped]

We had a couple meetings at work the other day for a local "help" organization, mental heath to money problems. I mentioned it to my wife when she asked about my day, and told her about the organization, and that I didn't bother to go as I feel I am in a pretty good place mentally. I also told her, "I'm just a crazy, messed up guy that likes wearing women's clothes and I am ok with it". It helps that she is ok with it too. Some days she says "enough!" and I understand she wants her man back fir a while. I have no idea what I would gain getting therapy, maybe I am missing something, maybe not. I also don't feel any stress about dressing. It is great when I can toss my feminine clothing in the wash and find it hung up to dry along side my wife's and not mention of it from her.

The other day, it was funny. She held up my 40G bra over her chest, (she is 32B) and laughing, looked at me and said "what the heck, your boobs are huge!" i told her it depends on the day!

[Pixie_94]

Know that this can be frightening. No, not necessarily sharing things with someone else, but admitting certain things to yourself in the process.

What do you mean with that last part?

[Aunt Kelly]

Therapy involves helping the subject discover and understand things about his/her self that, for whatever reason, they can't work out on their own. Many times, that barrier is complex, often erected over a long period of time. Childhood trauma, for example, can be the root of many complaints, and still be completely repressed.
I was in therapy for months before I was able to say the word "transsexual" in relation to myself. I'm sure there's some classical clinical term for how I managed to live so long without realizing that fact, but all I can tell you is that it took a combination of a skilled caregiver and a determination to get to the bottom of my issues. It was not easy.