Passing while driving

[junetv]

So these days I've been able to go out often. Of course being in Texas I drive a car. One of the things I've started to notice is male drivers v. female driver mannerisms/positions.

En femme, I drive more upright with the seat closer to the steering wheel, rather than my en drab mode relaxed reclined position.

En femme, I try to keep both hands on the wheel vs, my left hand on the wheel and my right elbow on the arm rest.

En femme, I drive a little slower, en drab I'm zipping through traffic.

Does anyone else drive vastly different en femme vs en drab.

For the car I drive now, I have not personalized it with anything noticeable. I'm not out, so I don't want to be noticed by friends while on the road.

Just curious if anyone else changes their driving habit en-femme.

[Tracii G]

Not really I am a very careful driver in either mode.
I'm pretty much in girl mode all the time these days.

[Robertacd]

OMG, give me a break, now we think we are driving like a girl?

I can understand being a little more careful because you don't want to get in a accident or be pulled over while dressed. But I can't see it being any more than that.

[kimdl93]

Nope...I drive in the ?defensive driving? mode...no matter how I may be dressed. I don?t drive aggressively (its not a race), I maintain a generous interval between myself and the vehicle ahead of me and I keep my eyes looking well down the road for the next thing that might happen.

I honestly don?t care whether I?m wearing a skirt or jeans in the ER. I?d prefer to avoid the trip altogether.

[junetv]

well, i thought there was a difference in how females sit and position themselves while driving vs males. As well as driving attitude. Like how females walk vs males or how females sit vs males. I was wondering if anyone else took this into consideration while out and about. I did not expect the "OMG!" response. Which kinda hurts. If you disagree, simply state so politely. You never know how fragile the other person's feelings are in an online forum.

[Jean 103]

The only difference is the occasional like extra attention I get from male drivers. I'll be like what is up with that car or truck? It will be some guy trying to get a better look or my attention.

[AllieSF]

At the beginning I definitely drove slower and changed the music to something softer. I started then and still do keep both hand on the steering wheel and do watch how high my dress or skirt is. Depending on my mood and the temperature it can vary from at the knee up top above mid-thigh. It is fun to feel naughty every once in a while, especially for a 72 year old. Since the start, I have lost the softer music and try but fail most of the time to drive less aggressively. Oh, I never gave a poop about what other people thought about how I was dressed, especially when pulled over by the police, which unfortunately happened twice during the same summer, once in San Francisco for the full Monty 45 minute sobriety test and then for the quickie version of the same test back in Detroit, both times heading home after a fun night out. I came up clean both times and I didn't break anything!

So, I get what the OP means and felt it myself and loved the feeling.

[docrobbysherry]

Yes, June, I do drive different. With at least 2 waist cincher/girdles on I ride higher in the saddle. So I have to adjust the mirror. Sometimes I adjust the seat for my really hi heels.:battingeyelashes:

But, as far as anyone noticing "fem driving habits"? Wouldn't they have to be riding with u to notice? And, nearly anyone wearing a wig may be mistaken for a female when flying by. But, passing to someone sitting next to u as opposed to a split second zooming by is like apples and earthquakes!:heehee:

[Tracii G]

June its not something to get so offended over,sorry if you didn't like the answer you received..
You did ask the question after all so be ready for all kinds of answers thats just the way it goes around here.
Just because its something you do doesn't mean everybody that CDs does it.
Personally I think you are reading way too much in to the whole thing.

[AngelaYVR]

Weirdly, I find women more likely to tailgate and drive aggressively. Apart from that, I think we can file this one in the A for effort drawer.

[Helen_Highwater]

June,

We all like to think of ourselves as good drivers. It's everyone else who drives like an imbecile.

Those who drive carefully all the time could of course, be influenced by their femme side without really realising it. However it could have more to do with age and experience.

I have noticed that in addition to the boy racers who drive aggressively all the time there's a growing band of young girl racers joining them. Just as impatient, just as dangerous.

In the UK traffic is so heavy so much of the time trying to go quickly is just a waste of emotional energy. Those with any common sense go with the flow.

These days my driving is probably more influenced by trying to keep my carbon footprint to a minimum. There's a certain satisfaction in getting the car to go along doing 70 or more mpg.

Anyway, as for the sitting position adopted by GG's, that's more to do with them generally being shorter and needing to be closer to the pedals. That moves the body closer to the steering wheel and so alters the position of the arms and hands.

If you do dtive more carefully while enfemme then you've proved you're capable of it all the time which is a good thing.

[Maid_Marion]

I try to make eye contact when I want people to make left hand turns and merges into my lane. Especially on my daily commute. Which is quite often since it has little effect on my driving time.

[Davina Katherine]

June, your post really caught my attention. Every time I've gone driving en femme, I have wondered if my driving behavior was different.

My wife drives VERY cautiously compared to my "manly" driving (more risky).

So I've wondered if how I drive would clock me.

I know my driving is more cautious while en femme, partly to stay under the radar.

[junetv]

June its not something to get so offended over,sorry if you didn't like the answer you received..
You did ask the question after all so be ready for all kinds of answers thats just the way it goes around here.
Just because its something you do doesn't mean everybody that CDs does it.
Personally I think you are reading way too much in to the whole thing.

So I assume that would be a simple "NO" from your point of view to my original question. BTW, your first response didn't offend me.

[alwayshave]

Can't really say as I have only driven en-femme once. I live in the city, so uber is my goto mode of transportation.

[NancySue]

Interesting thread. I hadn?t given it much thought but on reflection, I do drive more carefully, two hands on steering wheel...ten and two, sit closer to the steering wheel, no eye contact with other drivers and while at a stop light will occasionally look in the vanity mirror and Primp, sometimes put on some fresh lipstick. So, I guess so.

[SherriePall]

My reply would be basically the same as Nancy Sue's. I try to drive more carefully (all the better to avoid any problems down the road -- so to speak), keep two hands on the wheel, and check the rear view mirror for my hair and make-up. I haven't graduated to putting on lipstick, etc., at stop lights. And I think I sit more erect and proper.

[Robertacd]

Sorry Honey, but your topic is kind of silly you really think GM's and GG's sit differently in a car?

[Patience]

I avoid being erect when I’m driving. It’s out of character when I’m en femme and a distraction otherwise.

As far as passing, I usually pass on the left, but never on a curve. Good luck.

[GemmaK]

I have noticed that in addition to the boy racers who drive aggressively all the time there's a growing band of young girl racers joining them. Just as impatient, just as dangerous.

THAT is an observation I have to agree with.

[Ressie]

I tend to text more while driving en femme and I can't parallel park worth a damn while wearing this blonde wig!

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[DanielleCD]

I sit and drive the same in either mode. Like a guy or like a girl is stereotyping a behavior imho.

[junetv]

Sorry Honey, but your topic is kind of silly you really think GM's and GG's sit differently in a car?

Roberta,
Yes, I do think GG's sit differently and hold the steering wheel differently from GM's.

Frankly, I find your comments quite loathsome across the board. Everyone has a different perspective. We do not all think alike (thank goodness for that) Expressing our differences of opinion can be done without the attitude of belittling people or their ideas, which I perceive that you are doing here.

[Teresa]

JuneTV,
I do take more care when driving as Teresa , I would be more impatient and take more risks in male mode , I don't really want to risk a difficult situation so I'm more considerate and careful .

I also think I do sit differently because I drive in heels so it does change the position slightly , sitting more upright because of the change in the leg angle .

I don't get the replies from some to a perfectly sensible question .

[Kelli_cd]

June, I drive 75 to and from work every day. Most of the distracted/aggressive drivers I see are female.

[Stephanie47]

When I drive en femme it is always on neighborhood streets with a speed limit of 25 mph. I stay off freeways because I really do not want to change a flat tire in a dress with head lights hitting me. On city streets I can just pull over and change out of my dress and heels without attracting attention. I know I do not cheat on light changes while en femme. I do have a tendency in guy mode to cheat on the last few moments of that yellow light. I don't hold the steering wheel differently. I have learned to drive in a flat or at least a wedge heel so I do not catch the spike of a narrow heel in the carpet or what's left of it after sixteen years.

I do get in and out of the car differently in femme mode. In guy mode I tend to stick my right foot in first and climb in. In femme mode I first sit on the seat, smoothing the dress over my butt, and then swivel my body into the driving position. Otherwise any dress with a large sweep will bunch up.

I do agree with Kelli. I observe more distracted driving by females. The latest incident was a young woman applying mascara while driving. She could have poked her eye out. It is so obvious when someone is trying to text or fool with their phones. I see more guys changing lanes too often and otherwise driving aggressively.

PS: I agree with Teresa. Usually the same people too.

[Helen_Highwater]

Sorry Honey, but your topic is kind of silly you really think GM's and GG's sit differently in a car?

Roberta,

My observations are that GG's do tend to sit differently. As I wrote above;

Anyway, as for the sitting position adopted by GG's, that's more to do with them generally being shorter and needing to be closer to the pedals. That moves the body closer to the steering wheel and so alters the position of the arms and hands.

If I get in my wife's car the first thing I have to do is adjust the seat backwards as I'm a few inches taller than her and she was tall for her generation. More petite women, those not much over 5' sit much closer to the steering wheel and due to the need to see over the said wheel they tend to sit more upright. Simple ergonomics really.


I tend to text more while driving en femme and I can't parallel park worth a damn while wearing this blonde wig!

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Ressie,

Texting while driving, really? It's been shown to be more dangerous than being over the drink drive limits, causing far more accidents. Please stop before you kill or injure someone.

[Karmen]

I'm not a bad or aggressive driver in general, but when I drive fully dressed, I drive slowly and obey traffic laws more to the letter, because I don't want to get in an accident or pulled over for traffic violation.

[Tracii G]

So I assume that would be a simple "NO" from your point of view to my original question. BTW, your first response didn't offend me.

1. No would be correct.
2. OK I'm glad its never my intention to offend anyone.

[KymG]

June, dont worry, we are not all grumpy on here.
Its a good question actually.
I sit the same, but drive with 2 hands on the wheel and no music.
No idea why, i do it automatically.
I also get in and out differently.
Yes, i drive in heels, although i didnt initially.

[Palaina Nocturnus]

Hello June,

Do not forget there is an ignore button as well as moderators, you can bring rude members to their attention. It won't stop you from seeing if someone else replies with their vile comments copied but it does ease the trash flow lol

I drive the same in or out of womens clothes, I drive defensively. Honestly I don't see a difference in the idiocy I see on the road being more from one gender than another. Jerks are jerks, as you've seen here in this forum.

The music I listen to is way more bouncy and sexy tho when I'm dolled up and I have more feminine hand gestures while driving en femme. Usually its cuz I'm happy to finally look the way I want lol

Have a fantabulous day!!!!!

[AngelaYVR]

Getting in an out differently is a function of wearing a skirt, especially tighter ones. The problem would have been compounded when suicide doors were more common, even before motorcars, getting out without flashing the footman necessitated keeping your knees and ankles together.

[Amelie]

I don't drive but when I take a train or bus I act like a woman. I try and get a window seat cause that makes me feel most feminine. If it's dark outside I can see my reflection in the bus window, sort like a mirror. Looking in the mirror means I am very feminine.

But men do sit on a bus and train different than a woman. The men spread their legs so it's difficult for others to sit next to them.

[Ericka_d]

The only thing I have ever noticed that is different between men and woman. Is the way they turn the wheel. Woman tend to underhand grip the top of the wheel when making a turning. While men lay their palm on the rim, and rotate the wheel.

[Genifer Teal]

Sometimes men sit in a very different way that could be obvious. It may depend on your particular area. I would also think that some women might be more likely to give other drivers a break.

[Peggie Lee]

Being TG with double D?s I?ve had to start sitting closer to the steering wheel because my breast get in the way if my arms.

[junetv]

To every who has responded, thank you for your personal insights and observations.

I guess driving aggressiveness is neither male or female (yes, I've encountered girl racers too). Changes in driving position can simply because of physical factors such as heels. Honestly as I observed drivers around me while driving back from work, it's hard to see if they were reclined more or not. I attribute that to the size of car doors on newer car being much larger than older cars as they try to protect the occupants more. We can all alter your body positions while driving, just like we sit, stand or walk differently to mask any masculine features we have.

For the most part, we are hidden in our cars. Most people won't glance and blurt out "that's crossdresser in that car!" Life is far too busy for them to even notice the world around them at times, especially while driving. But I tend to analyze what I do or how I might improve my presentation in all factors, even the ones that may barely matter.
To those who understood how I felt, thank you for reinforcing my feelings. I don't expect everyone to agree with me, but I do hope for a certain amount of compassion.

I drive a lot. Passing while driving was one of those things that popped into mind and I thought it might be worthy of a little discussion.

[JenniferMBlack]

Take it from someone who has driven professionally in a city for the last 7 years. There is no male or female driveing style. Both males and females drive good or like complete morons with no regard for anyone. Also there is no certain place a gender sits in regard to how close or far away they sit or how they hold the wheel. It is all about comfort to most people. If you are short you will be closer then a tall person.
All that being said I do tend to adjust my seat differently when driveing enfemm because of the bra and forms. Also I will use the lower portion of the steering wheel more for the same reason.

[Robertacd]

Well said Jennifer... I drive exactly the same DRAG or DRAB.

Except I do tend to check myself out in the mirror more often when wearing makeup.

[Majella St Gerard]

I drive the same no matter how I'm presenting.

[Ressie]

Ressie,

Texting while driving, really? It's been shown to be more dangerous than being over the drink drive limits, causing far more accidents. Please stop before you kill or injure someone.

Just joking Helen :). What I've found as a passenger of GG drivers is they don't sit any different than men do. But, the last two I rode with spent more time playing with their phones while driving (texting, talking, looking for music etc.).

And yes, it is dangerous unless it can be done while keeping both eyes on the road - Talk to text, hey Siri, bluetooth, phone mounted, not in hand, etc.

[CynthiaD]

I try to drive very carefully all the time. I realized some years ago that I?m not a very good driver and I have to take extra care to avoid problems. I still have an occasional near miss.

The first few times I went out en femme I would pull up to a stop light and hope that the drivers around me were staring at my chest. The thought still gives me a warm feeling.

[Jenny22]

Like many of you, I've driven well over a million miles. There is one difference that I've often noted. Women tend to drive with their hands in the 10 and 2 positions, and one or the other when one handed (very tiring positions on long trips). Some men do the same but most seem to drive with their hands in the 4 and 8 positions. That's my style, with my left are on the door rest and my right on an armrest.