Guy asked me out

[Tracii G]

It happened about a week ago while browsing a local flea market.
I was in this guys booth looking at some antique items he had on display.
He walked past and said here ma'am let me move those chairs out of your way so you can go into the back of the display if you want to check out the antique glassware.
I said thanks and walked back to that area to browse.
After a few minutes browsing I moved on to the next booth.
I stopped by the concession area got a cup of coffee and sat down at a table.
The same guy came by and asked if he could join me I said sure.
We chatted for about 30 min and it was an awesome chat and he was a really nice down to earth man in his mid 50s.
He ended up asking me to dinner the following evening and I accepted.
I did tell him I wanted to be honest with him about my gender and he stopped to listen.
I told him if that freaks you out I understand.
He thought for a min and said wow I would have never guessed in a million years you weren't female.
He said to me you are a gorgeous woman because that is what I see. I kind of swooned at that comment LOL.
Our dinner date went off without a hitch and we enjoyed each others company.
He asked a ton of questions and was totally OK with being with a trans person.
Our evening ended with a nice hug and a kiss and I could tell it was something very new for him so I didn't kiss too long LOL
He invited me to his antique shop in a close by town to browse what he has there which I probably will in the future.
So you never know what life will bring so get out and experience life.
Don't stay couped up and afraid to go out.

[Nyla F]

Wow, what are the odds of a chance encounter like that working out? Congratulations.

[Kitty Sue]

Very nice story.

[countrygirl]

Congrats, if we can all be so lucky to find someone so understanding.

[Tracii G]

I have been asked out before several times and even a few nice relationships with guys.
This was more normal because he had no idea I was trans the others did know before hand.

[Davina Katherine]

Tracii, how fantastic. Just fantastic!

[Crissy 107]

Tracii, Very nice I am so happy for you!

[Angie G]

You go girl. Seems to be a gentleman. :hugs:
Angie

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Tracii :hugs:, That is just so awesome, Keep s posted. >Orchid ..O:daydreaming:O.

[Maria 60]

That sounds amazing and I'm impressed that your so honest and put your cards on the table, not leaving anything to hide. The best way to start anything is the way you did, tell it like it is because you just never know where somethings are going to lead. Your a great role model for all of us here and especially for the younger ones and if someone does want to indulge with others you handle it well and share to all how to be presentable and respectful. I always look forward to your positive comments on my threads and you have great advice and a lot of common sense. I hope there's more to this story he sounds like a great and respectful gentleman and thanks for sharing.

[Jean 103]

Sounds great, good for you.

Just goes to show that you never know what the future holds.

[Tracii G]

Just a random happening more than anything I really hadn't planned on even mentioning it here.
More of a just be yourself kind of thread and just by being out there good things do happen.
I was more surprised that he seemed interested enough to search me out and ask to sit down with me for coffee.
I understand some are straight and would never do something like that and thats OK too.

[Kaylin]

Tracii, I am sooo happy for you hon. (and you didn't bother to tell me, ugh). LoL jk You'll have to message me and fill me in on more soon. Rock it out babe! So awesome! Ttys

[Macey]

Romance has a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it, no? So glad to hear you had a wonderful experience!

[Rachelakld]

sounds so cute, hope you get many more dates out.

[Jean 103]

You never know where you might meet someone.

Currently I have a boyfriend that chased me down in the grocery store. I was dressed for a Christmas party we were throwing, being the lady of the house I was picking up some last minute items. That was like four years ago , how time flys.

[toering63]

So glad to hear you had good time.

[Lana Mae]

Tracii, sounds great! Best wishes! Hugs Lana Mae

[Vintage4sarah]

Traci, I want to jump on the bandwagon and share my joy for you. What a validation of how hard we all work to be the best we can become.

It might be a chance encounter that led to the date, but by having the confidence to be out wonderful magic can happen. Giggle, I think I am jealous !

[Kelli_cd]

Thank you for sharing, Tracii, sounds like you have a new friend.

[Ressie]

Hope it turns out good for you Tracii!

[michelleddg]

That is so lovely, thanks for sharing! Hugs, Michelle

Ps - Safety first

[alwayshave]

Traci, That's a great story. Good for you.

[kimdl93]

Thats cool. I hope it all works out

[BrendaPDX]

Hi Traci, Congratulations, and thank you for the great story.

[Krisi]

That's great and I hope it works out for you.

[MsEva]

So cool! Good on you! How exciting!

[Tracii G]

Thanks everyone.
We will just play it by ear and see what happens.

[Allisa]

Traci that's great about a lovely time and being up front about yourself. I believe you've mentioned that you were gay? if so it makes perfect sense for you accepting a dinner date. I have had a scant few spur of the moment "coffee invitations" and during the conversations I've opened up about my TGism and we continued on with our company maybe because we were curious about each other. Upon reflection later I realized it was quite pleasant being treated as a female but now I've found out that I am comfortable being the "softer" part of a duo even with the gender expression being out in the open and quite comfortable with a bit of male attention. But I still have to practice "safety first" as I know how the male mind works from first hand experience. So yes if your single do get out and do every day things, you might be surprised what can happen and who you might meet.

[Bruce64]

That's my fantasy, to go out on a date with a Trans, looks like it will happen one day, Glad for you soon we will hear all your beautiful stories.

[paulaprimo]

What a wonderful story Tracii. Congrats to you and I wish you the
very best. Keep us posted... :)

[April Rose]

:love::heehee:

[Bea_]

It's always nice to read stories like this one. I'm very much a straight, married, man-in-a-dress type, but I can definitely feel the sense of affirmation you must have carried away from the encounter and follow up night out.

[Kandi Robbins]

That was a beautiful story! Thanks so much for sharing Tracii.

[Tracii G]

Yes Lisa I am gay so there was no weird gross feeling like a straight person might get.
The gay question was asked and I said yes I was and he was not phased by it at all.
It was surreal in some ways because other people were sitting around the 8 or so tables in the area.
One 30 something couple with their 3 kids. Mostly husbands and wives close to my age.
One of the ladies just smiled as I sat down so I smiled back as I hung my purse over the post of the chair I sat in.
I was reading the front page of the local paper that someone left on the table when he asked to sit down.
As we chatted the lady that smiled at me previously was talking to another lady and looking over at us frequently.
I am sure they were gossiping about us but just what they were saying who knows.
He said those two were the catty types that talked about everybody. I said they aren't bothering me at all let them talk.
I do wonder what was said tho' and if the next week is all about that woman who was she? Or he was talking to a tranny LOL

[Krea]

Tracii, that's a wonderful post. It's always great to read about people here who have positive experiences. I hope it continues to work out well for you.
Wishing you all the best! :thumbsup:

[Bobbi46]

Tracii you are one lucky girl, what an amazing episode and how it turned out is just lovely. In years gone by in the uk the word Tranny also applied to a transistor radio LoL

[MissSixties]

Wonderful for you Tracii, all the best gong forward , he seems a one of the good guys

[AngelaYVR]

I’ve been asked out three times and it never made me feel gross; I admired their bravery and civility as I gently let them down. Those moments certainly contrast with the many more horribly crude pickup attempts. Good manners are in decline, this one sounds like a keeper and I hope it works out for you Tracii.

[Tracii G]

Angela I have had my share of the sleazy guys and their comments not to mention odd assorted fat jokes.
I just don't pay attention to those kind of guys.

[MeshelleCD]

Good for you Tracii! Hope things go well for you.

[DianaPrince]

That’s awesome Traci. So happy for you.

[Tracii G]

Thanks ladies I appreciate that.

[BTWimRobin]

Awesome news Tracii! I'm very happy for you.

[Rhonda Jean]

Good for you, Tracii! Let us know how it goes.

[alwayshave]

Traci, Good for you.

[JaytoJillian]

You got asked out by that guy because...






You are Awesome!

[Jenny22]

I love your story, Tracii, love it and your follow ups. Go visit him at his store. Maybe take a nighty along.

[Tracii G]

Thanks so much Jillian I really appreciate that.
Jenny I think I will wait a week or two before I go to his store but I do plan of making the trip.

[Sandi Beech]

Hey Tracii. It definitely feels good to be noticed and appreciated for who we are. Sounds like you will be having some dates. Go for it girl.

Sandi

[Devi SM]

Tracii, that's a beautiful experience. I believe that any of us would like to live it but I disagree with you when say "I want to be honest with you about my gender?
If you call yourself trans your gender is female and is right with your preaentation, what's the lie?

As I said, it's all of us dream to pass as a cis woman so when we achieve it, should we "clarify" we're no real? We're impostors or we're fake?

On Instagram, almost everyday I have guys that chat with me thinking I'm a cis woman, even thought I clearly stated in my profile I'm a trans married woman not into guys but guys don't read and just watch pictures. That's understandable with pics because sometimes are not clear and can trick anybody.
A couple of times I had had encounters with guys thinking I was a cis woman trying to invite me, once and Uber rider and another guy while waiting on LAX my wife from a fly, with the first I just thank him and told him be married and the second, when saw me hug and kiss my wife, excuse himself and say goodbye. I didn't tell any of them I'm trans because is my final goal be treated as any woman and I don't feel dishonest doing it.
Mho.

Devi

[Cheshire girl]

Good for you Tracii. It?s nice to be treated as a woman. I am a straight man in a happy relationship so don?t want dates with males or females but it is nice to realise you are attractive to men. You realise that you have got your ?look? right and for me that?s the ultimate achievement.

[Tracii G]

Devi I get what you are saying and I do feel as though I am a woman so thats why I present as one.
I don't think the whole living a lie thing makes much sense because I am 24/7.
Letting him know I have guy parts to me is being honest.He did thank me for being honest and letting him know I was a transgender woman.
He was fine with it albeit kind of shocked because he had never met a transgender person.
He had heard of them and didn't quite understand the scope of it all but through meeting me he had a better understanding of what transgenderism is.