Does Your SO Know About This Place?

[BTWimRobin]

Hi Ladies,

There was a thread in the "Clothing, Shopping and Beauty" section that got me thinking.

Does your SO know that you are active on the forum?

My wife knows I'm active on a CD forum or two. She really could care less. We don't talk much about my CDing and she understands the forums are a great place for like-minded people to share their experiences. She simply can't relate to any of my experiences.

[SaraLin]

No.
But - I gotta talk to SOMEone who understands.

[Jacke]

She is aware, but never been to the forum. She does not seem interested in any type of forum discussions on any subject.

[Robertacd]

My wife knows I visit CD/TG related forums but she doesn't visit them herself.

[Crissy 107]

My wife does know I am on here but she has no interest herself in checking it out as far as I know.

[Paulie Birmingham]

No. When she found out i CD she asked all the questions about do I want to be with guys or do I want to be a woman, get a sex change, etc. I don't want to do anything like that and she believes me. There are enough posts saying that what I am doing will eventually lead me to something more. Why would I want my wife to see that?

[Kay J]

My wife knows but does want to see me on for as long as i am sometimes. I try telling her i would like to talk to her about my cding but she want nothing to do with it this is the next best thing i think!

[Cheryl T]

Yes she does and when I first came out to her she became a member and learned a lot from the other GG's here as well.
It certainly helped her understand me more.

[JocelynJames]

Yes, as I often share tips I find here that really change the game. I asked her if she wanted to join as a GG but she declined.

[Vicky_Scot]

My wife knows about this site and we discuss the posts on here and I will ask her point of view. X

[Taylor186]

My wife knows I visit this site, and in the past another site, but she doesn't visit, as far as I know. I will, on rare occasion, discuss a post to get her perspective.

[Gillian Gigs]

Yes, my wife is aware that I have a couple of web sites that I use to share my feelings. She has expressed no interest in having anything to do with any CD'ing web sites. She does help me in others areas, like in doing some shopping. In fact one of her favourite stores is one that I suggested to her some time ago. We do talk about some of my CD issues, but she can tire of it rather quickly, maybe I ramble on a bit. Her words are accept it and move on, change what you can, and accept what you can't seem to change.

Like Taylor186 I do occasionally discuss some of the posts that I have read to get her opinion on it.

[Jolene Robertson]

Like many others, my wife knows that I visit a CD site and we "sometimes" discuss topics that come up. She has no interest in visiting (that I'm aware of). She is very supportive and even shops with me and sometimes for me. I dress at home whenever I want and she has no problem with that, we even go out while I'm dressed.

[Nic J]

Yes, i talked to my wife about this forum, emphasising that it was extremely respectable and constructive. I also told her that there is a welcome here for our partners and that she could also join if she wanted support/advice from others in a similar situation. As far as i know she has not done so, but it would be great if she did.

[sara66]

Yes my wife know I am active on here. She is the one that suggested that I j,oin. I don't think she visits this site. I do tell her about some of the post, mostly the ones I find amusing.
Sara

[banzini]

Yep, she knows.

[kayegirl]

Yes my wife is very aware of this site, and my use of it. I don't believe that she has looked at it herself. She did however suggest, or rather, instruct me to join a particular support organisation here in the UK.

[Stephanie47]

Yes, once when I was on this forum I was called away for a moment which turned into more than a moment. I forgot to come back to the computer and the forum page was still open. All she said later is that I should be more careful about leaving it open. Not so much because she saw it, but, because someone else may have seen it.

Since she had seen the screen when I had it open I guess, if she wanted to look, she would have seen "Stephanie47." Theoretically, she would be able to read whatever I post to the general open to the public category.

[alwayshave]

Robin, Yes she does. She has visited and sometimes I show her threads I think she would find interesting.

[TheHiddenMe]

I think she knows I'm on a forum but I have never said it to her.

She definitely doesn't know I'm doing guest posts on Kandi's blog.

[franlee]

Yes she helped me get signed in the very first time. I have no reason to hide my being here.

[Marcia Blue]

My wife knows and is a member. She is not active much this days.

[Maria 60]

Yes my wife knows and sometimes I will tell her of some of the stuff I'm reading or writing. She believes ever since I've been here she's seen a more confident me and more complete with my dressing. Ever since I have been here I have taking bigger steps and just more accepting of it all, don't get me wrong but my wife is the biggest part of it all. Without her acceptance there would be no Maria and she encourages that I come here and express myself.

[Kelli_cd]

I doubt that she knows. I don't even know if she did any research after she found out about me. She's never brought it up again, so I haven't either.

[Jean 103]

Yes and she hates it.

It was years ago, she read my posts at the time and then followed me for awhile.


We have been separated for over five years.

[Diane1950]

My wife knows I belong to several cd sites. They are posted as shortcuts on Google, and she knows my password. I have offered to show her, and have encouraged her to visit as a way of educating herself about this side of me. I doubt if she has ever done so.

A few years ago, I bought a copy of "My Husband Wears My Clothes" (I actually don't wear hers, I have my own) for her to read. I put a $50 bill at the end so I'd know when she finished. A year or so later, I took it back.

[Helena]

Yes Maureen, who couldn't be more supportive, knows because I discuss items I have read, our dear friend Teresa mentions it and I send her a copy of any threads I start. Although she finds them moving and says they give her a deeper insight of me, she chooses not to look at the forum mainly from a time point of view.

[mbmeen12]

Yes my GG knows and helps with some issues or clothing, makeup stuff I come across while reading. She has also met some of friends from here.

Thank you and have a great day!

[Suranne]

Yep, she knows, but she knows all about everything, but that'd be the case being wholly out as I am, she's not on here herself.

[Linda E. Woodworth]

Yes my wife knows about the site but never visits.

She has seen it open a few times on the computer when I was called away. I don't know if she read anything or not.

I'll occasionally mention threads that are on here but less than 1 per month.

[Teri Ray]

My wife does know about this site and is a member herself. She does not visit this forum as often as I do but we often discuss topics of discussion found here.

[Krisi]

Not that I know of and I would rather it stay that way.

[char GG]

I was a lurker before I joined. My SO didn't know that I looked at this site until I joined.

Edit:

I actually think it's a good place for couples to view posts of others to start a discussion.

[Vintage4sarah]

Yes she does know and accepts the fact that I need my time to share with others.

[MaryAnn1963]

Mine does not know, she does not know I CD either though.

[BillieAnneJean]

I have no secrets from my SO. I even told her before I dressed for the first time.

[luuv2dress]

Wife knows, I?m not sure if she?s visited or not .

[Kelly Pearson]

I do not have an so but if I did I certainly wouldn't mind......compared to a few other forums on sites I've been on in the past this one seems way less sexualised and a lot nicer

[DianaPrince]

She knows and has no interest.

[marlacd]

Mine knew (before we divorced) and didn't mind. On another site similar to this, they had a thread for significant others. After she approved of my dressing, I suggested she get onto that site, and she did. Then, we got kicked off the site. Why? Near as I can figure out, it was because we shared the same pc. I asked the mods, they wouldn't give me an answer. It doesn't matter anymore, that site went the way of the doo-doo bird. (As it should have)

Not every family has multiple pc's. I respected my then wife's privacy to her sites. We'd delete our search history each time we were on, not because we'd spy on one another, but to not clutter up the limited memory, and avoid having viruses destroy the pc.

I know mine cheated on me. But I still respected her privacy, and never looked at her emails, or phone calls. I just thought it was the honorable thing to do.

[dallasmann]

My ex wife knows that I am a part of certain online communities, but is not into the specifics. She's always mostly loved my "sissy" side, but my online exploration and activities are of no interest to her.

[Angela Marie]

She knows about my dressing and does not mind. But she has never been on this forum and has no interest.

[Michele14]

My wife knows about this website but she never goes on it. She has my login info. We do talk about some of the topics

[DianeT]

Since I came out to her, my wife knows I am on this forum and she joined as well at my suggestion. She is posting in the main forums, and recently joined the FAB section to also discuss between SOs. Both have been a great help.

[Bruce64]

My Wife from Wisconsin is a very understanding Woman, we live in Toronto and she knows all about the thing I do because I told her.

[Lux]

Wife knew about this site from day 1, joined and was on regularly for a bit. Although now years later she doesn’t really browse anymore but does asks me; “anything interesting today?” which opens up dialogue between us. She also knows a lot of the regulars here and will often ask ”How’s xyz doing?” :)

[Angie G]

My wife knows I come here but she doesn't participate in the forum. she does support me in my dressing. :hugs:
Angie

[Jennifer Slater]

My wife knows but does want to see me on for as long as i am sometimes. I try telling her i would like to talk to her about my cding but she want nothing to do with it this is the next best thing i think!

Same here

[DianeT]

Yes she does and when I first came out to her she became a member and learned a lot from the other GG's here as well.
It certainly helped her understand me more.
Same for me. Coming out was recent and she's actively learning. I am too.

[BrendaPDX]

No, not yet.

[April Rose]

My wife knew about and participated on a forum I was at previously, when I left there to come here I offered her the same participation, but she has no interest. She's seen me dressed on a daily basis for years now so it's kind of old hat to her.

[MsEva]

Yes, my SO does know, God bless her. She even told me to dress today rather than to cut the lawn today. She took our dog over to a friend's house for play time.

[jacques]

hello Robin,
I wish she did take an interest, but within limits my wife does not have a problem with my dressing and thinks it is perfectly normal behaviour for me.
luv J

[Meg West]

Nope, DW sees me and accepts me being dressed on a daily basis but has no interest expanding beyond that.

[Joni T]

Does she know? Yes.
Does she care? No.
Does she visit here? No.
Jon

[Karine]

Yes, my girlfriend know that I'm a member.
A few time after I told her about my crossdressing, she ask me if I connect with some other crossdressers on line to talk so I told her i was a member of this website. She was curious, so we take a look together once. She was alright.
She is not interested in participating. Situation is ok. We communicate well on my crossdressing so I think she doesn't want more information or have any questions.

[Joannie]

Robin, it might have been my post in the Clothing section that you saw. I did state that my wife does not know I visit this site, and I do not plan to tell her. First, I think this is for me and we all need some things to call our own. Second, some of the members, some of the advice, is a little militant and does not really fit in with my outlook as a crossdresser. I do not want her to have the wrong impression. Being a crossdresser is difficult to explain and, for her, difficult to understand. I don't want her having incorrect ideas about how/what I am feeling.