Fetish dressers? Come out, come out, wherever u r!

[docrobbysherry]

They call me a "fetish dresser" here. Because seeing myself as a female in my mirror sometimes excites me. Actually, it nearly always excites me.:heehee:
But, sex is only occasionally involved these days.:)

Technically, a fetish is a certain item that turns u on. Since there's no particular item involved in my fetish, I don't believe anyone except another T would consider me a fetishist.:heehee:

When I came to this site many years ago, this was not something that could be openly discussed. But, I believe if posters r careful and DON'T discuss details of being turned on, I think we mite be ok?

So, what is it about dressing that excites u? Girdles? Nylons? Shoes? The whole package like me?:daydreaming:

Let me be clear: This is NOT a pantie and bra thread! If those r your fetishes? Please DON'T COMMENT!:Angry3:
There's a 1000 other threads for u to post on!:straightface:

[ronniegirl]

When I was much younger I was totally excited by wearing any female undergarment and that's where it ended..No thought to expand to outerwear or try and create a female persona. But as I grew older and more used to wearing underwear it became routine and no longer had the same effects..fast forward to today and I feel a rush when I am fully in CD mode and see a woman staring back at me...It excites, but also has a calming effect.. I wish I could explain all the psychological reasons for the dual effects so I don't even try..I just enjoy doing what I do and have fun with it...

[Alice Torn]

Pretty much what you said DRS. Silky long legs in pantyhose, and classic high heel pumps. girdles, bras, sleeveless knee length dresses. wig. Nyloned long legs were my first turn on, still are, and nylons and PH my first things I "borrowed".

[LilSissyStevie]

I think that all sexual arousal is fetishistic in the sense that everyone is aroused by some"thing" or things even if the "thing" is an intangible quality. But few people are aroused by only one thing including those with unusual sexual interests. For me, it's not a clothing fetish, it's an emasculation fetish (if we want to use that word). The clothing only has value to me if it can symbolically annihilate masculinity. The more extreme the better. Women's jeans and T shirts just won't do since they are not that different than what I wear everyday. But, with or without clothing, I rarely even imagine myself in the male role sexually. I'm attracted to women but not in the way that "real" men are. I think of it as a sexual orientation rather than a fetish or a paraphilia. Those other terms tend to either trivialize or stigmatize what's actually going on.

[Pumped]

This evening I sat and cuddled with my wife and watched a movie, I was and still am wearing a faux leather dress, black 40DDD bra with balloon forms, a black thong, black fishnet thigh highs and leopard pumps. Plus, my bright red, long fake nails. I would say it is a bit on the fetish side! She was tired and went to bed but the night is not over for me! ;-)

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Shoes,
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[Sandi Beech]

Sherry , for me it feels really complicated. I get a mixture of all kinds of emotions when I get dressed and I have pushed it to what I would consider fetish levels at times for sure. If you saw my first picture post where I was wearing all lingerie into a bar, you would see what I mean. It felt like a turn on to do that and yet there was also a component of the possibility of being humiliated that I craved. I can in no way begin to understand that. I was wearing a leather choker with wrist and ankle cuffs. It kind of surprised me when I had women complement me or in one case give me a pinch. Kind of funny looking back on it. That was in 2017 when I first started socializing in bars and clubs. I also was wearing some chains on my collar and cuffs for special occasions like Halloween. I do not know why but it gave me a thrill.

Oddly things have changed over time for me. I get much more rewarding feelings from social interaction with lovely young ladies than a sexual thrill. Of course all that is on hold now. As I think back on it, wearing that lingerie into a bar was probably the peak of my fetish outings. I did not go with them , but I was invited to go to a couples dungeon so that was kind of a thrill of sorts. I think part of the thrill is not knowing what is going to happen.

Sandi

[docrobbysherry]

I can relate to that, Sandi. The first 10 years I dressed in a complete vacuum. It was ALL about being turned on back then! When I came out here 12 years ago, it made me want to meet a number of the interesting folks here. After I did, I began going out regularly with T's and to T events.:drink::hugs:

However, I'm straight. And, I can't remember even once, in my countless forays out, where I was ever turned on by a guy, T, or even myself!:straightface:
Going out for me is like a completely different experience from dressing in private!:o

It can be exciting, but in a frightened, nervous, adrenaline rush, way. But, it's not arousing in any sense.:brolleyes:

[jacques]

hello Sherry,
I think many of us start dressing before puberty when it is not erotic; it was mainly out of curiosity. Then in our teens it became a fetish. Later in life it becomes relaxing. And it is also about exploring gender.
I started with tights (pantyhose) - I wanted to be Robin Hood! Now I would rather be Maid Marion!
luv J

[Tomi]

Contrary to many on this forum, my crossdressing started in my adult life three years ago when I was 27. I was going through a hard period in my life, my father passed away, my wife was carrying our first baby and I tried getting my drivers license despite the fact that my father died in a car accident. So it was very stressful, exhausting and emotionally overwhelming. I had to go through 2-3 "growing up and becoming a responsible man" phases which normally happen years apart in a man's life.

First it triggered a fetish which in some way was always a part of me just didn't surface. I won't go into details but it's basically a submassive thing which I loved when I it was done to me, and suddenly I wanted to try what it was like on the women side of it. I'm a straight guy who has never been attracted to men so it was a body part and sexual act fetish kind of thing. My theory is I'm probably 80-90% man and all of a sudden I had to be 100% and I had to balance it someway.
I came out to my wife almost immediately and luckily she accepted it. But maybe a year later a thought stuck into my mind that what would it be like to take this further and not just doing this sexual activity in female position but also dress like a girl to boost the experience. Once the thought kicked in it was no turning back, eventually I had to try it. First a bra, then panties, then a stocking, jewelry etc. Of course every time it went further I told my wife because I hate keeping things from her. We are in DADT but she understands and accepts it and that's enough for me and I'm grateful for that.

Today it's still a fetish thing but I like to dress up and be that way for a half an hour to an hour beforehand so it's not just a sexual thing. But it always turns me on so after certain events transpire I go back to male mode and happily stay that way. The clothes not too unusal, every day type, the ones that turns me on if I saw on a girl. Pencil skirt, heels, pearl necklace that sort of thing.

Tomi

[Paulie Birmingham]

Wow pumped. Nice dress and heels. I have bought some leather and vinyl wear and exotic lingerie. I do love wearing it. But it's not always a good look. I have the look of 240 lbs strongman. Belly included. I would probably buy more leather if I lost 20 or 30 lbs. That should be my motivation. But I like being strong

Basically I like to wear stuff I wish my wife would wear more of.

[Alice Torn]

LSS, You said it for me too. I am attracted to some GGs, but I do not have the macho normal male imagining sexually, so much. I have so much more imagining i am the opposite sex roll, but only when dolled up. Your post echoed me precisely on what some lady clothing does for me. An escape from a lifetime of being an unwanted lonely lower income man.

[DianeT]

As a child, I was surrounded by adult women frequently wearing pantyhose. So that was my main sexual attraction, even before puberty. But my ideal of femininity were Marvel superheroines (the Greek goddesses of the seventies' comics) and their sisters in countless sci-fi publications. They fascinated me and ignited my first desires. Pantyhose and swimming suits were my first experiences in dressing. I wanted to have a feeling of what it could be to look like such splendid creatures.

[Asew]

My dressing started as a teenager and with puberty in full effect most of my dressing ended with excitement. Now that I have embraced this side of me, I dress daily but it isn't about a happy ending, it is about wearing something cute and comfy. But I still have fun times with it, but it means a full outfit and stuff on the sexier side of the closet (sexy in more revealing or more sensual fabrics, things I don't wear normally like hoisery and heels). So for me it is about a deliberate sexy outfit.

I was concerned when I first starting going out with others (GNOs) that if I wore a sexy outfit I would be turned on or maybe even be turned on by others that typically dress sexier than me. But these events are more like just meeting friends and not really exciting though I can appreciate nice presentations. So it is definitely linked to the mindset going in.

[Pumped]

Wow pumped. Nice dress and heels. I have bought some leather and vinyl wear and exotic lingerie. I do love wearing it. But it's not always a good look. I have the look of 240 lbs strongman. Belly included. I would probably buy more leather if I lost 20 or 30 lbs. That should be my motivation. But I like being strong

Basically I like to wear stuff I wish my wife would wear more of.


I have lost a few pounds in the last few months, trying to lose maybe ten more and see how that goes, but I am at 5'10" and 180 pounds. I am shooting for 170 but I enjoy food!

[Lux]

I’m not quite sure where I fit on the spectrum. When I go out in public I tend to wear very form fitting clothes, high heels and full make up. More like Sofia Vergara from Modern Family. Same at home. Although when I was younger I would sometimes do the French maid, occasionally latex/leather look at home for pictures/playtime ..which is what I would consider more classic “fetish” wear.

Historically, I’ve always been very feminine despite my very high powered masculine job. I’m very thoughtful, extremely sensitive and love that I cry when I feel like it. I’ve always felt very female. So I’ve always believed that I was more trans/tg than a fetish dresser but a recent event made me actually reconsider. I wear a lot of peep toe shoes and it occurred to me that I was only painting my first 3 toes, the only ones that would be seen. Was I being lazy? I don’t think so, I think that I was satisfying my fetish dressing more than the need to feel more relaxed as a woman with a fully painted pedi. Does that make sense?

So to answer your question Doc, I am a proud fellow member of the fetish dresser club! I love the complete head to toe transformation from my big hair, seductive make up, corset, shiny nylons, platform heels (with my 3 painted toes) lol! I may not be as trans/tg as I thought I was but what I like about crossdressers.com is that it welcomes all comers. :battingeyelashes:

[RainbowDash]

Seeing myself as an attractive young woman in the mirror very much excites me every time. I get excited just thinking about my next opportunity to crossdress.
You said not to mention bras and panties so I'll do my best.... High heel shoes and boots are great. I love the way they look on a lady, especially when she walks. Dresses are fabulous to wear, although I don't have a favorite one, so I guess this might be my favorite.... Any kind of big dress like a prom dress is great. I love dressing up as a princess, and actually get excited just thinking about being my favorite video game character, Princess Peach.

[KatieTv]

The way I dress is what I’d be attracted to so I dress like a hot girl on a night out or a secretary in a nice see through blouse with lacy bra showing, garter belt, heels and stockings, then I have a naughty side where I dress like a hooker. That takes me to places I don’t go very often.

[Stephanie47]

Fetish, (noun) "a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing or part of a body, etc"

It seems there can be a part of another person's body or oneself or an article of clothing or anything else which will satisfy the definition.

For myself I have always viewed a woman, and, hence myself, as the total package. I have never been a fan of overly endowed women who are spilling out of a bra. Or, a woman with a extremely large butt. I've know guys who just go nuts at those sights. I have heard of women who are turned on by balding men, not necessarily shaved bald men, but, male pattern baldness. Each to his own I guess.

I have always had a fondness for slips. My mother's white nylon slips which she always hanged to dry in the bathroom or hallway to the bedrooms drew my attention. My wife told me I was crazy one time because I liked seeing a woman lacy hem of her slip peek below the hem of a dress. She said no woman wants to display her underwear. I love my collection of lacy vintage slips. And, if I have a desire to see a woman with anything on of my choice, it is going to be a slip. I have mentioned this attraction for a white slip before on this forum. When I was about four or five years old I started having images of myself as a young woman brutally beaten to death and laying in the dirt wearing only a white slips. I still see that image because it has been ingrained in my mind. However, as a four or five year old I have no idea how that imagine ever got into my mind. Some have suggest a past life experience. The image did disappear for awhile, but, that attraction to a white nylon slips still puzzles me.

I am way past the age of using any article or thing for sexual gratification. I can see something being used for self gratification as a teenager. Back then I did not need any feminine garment as an aid for self gratification.

[Gillian Gigs]

Knowing what I now know about fetishes, I wouldn't necessarily wish a fetish on anyone. Once someone starts down the fetish rabbit hole, it gets increasingly more difficult to get out of it.

Docrobbysherry, to say don't write about panties and bras, if this is your fetish is not considering the possiblity that it may have all started there, but where has it taken that person through the years. Everything starts somewhere, it just gets messier, or kinkier the further down the rabbit hole you go. I do believe that most do go way farther into the hole than they ever thought they would ever go. Mankind seems to have a thinking that goes, if one is good, then two must be better, and so on.

Doc, you asked the question, what excites you, for me it's the whole package that started with panties. I have reigned it back several times over the years, but the problem is that once you have gone deep, lesser doesn't seem to cover it anymore. So you go down a different branch of the rabbit hole. That yearning for more is just too tempting, and seeing what is just around the next corner is not necessarily a good thing. I have been in this rabbit hole for 56 years now, and it seems rather hollow now.

[docrobbysherry]

I would like to respond to each of u. Because I've been, or r, where u were or r!:eek:

I can only say, "Thank u all", for your open honesty. I've been on cd.com for 12+ years, but never realized until now there were so many here that have shared my bizarre, erotic, and very personal experiences, until now!:D

I'm truly shocked, amazed, and teary eyed as I type this. I love u all!:hugs:

[Rachelakld]

Like Jacques (well I am from Yorkshire, England as well), my life has followed a similar drive.
As a teen, I watched The Kenny Everett Video show, which had Hot Gossip dancers (Simon Cowell early attempts at talent hunting).
Living in New Zealand I also watched Aerobics Oz style (Australian).

Lets just say lycra bodysuits, leggings etc was mind blowing for me

40 years later I dress to relax, but on odd occasions I still find lycra enjoyable to wear.

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[Manna]

Woww.. Such an amazing reply, i am interested to reply because i love to wear the Lycra fabric dresses and i look fab in it. Perfect texture and comfy fit Love to show my inner fetish with these sexy dresses and every one should try.

[BTWimRobin]

I have a lot of mixed emotions when dressing. It there's one or two things that get my motor running has to be long eyelashes with lots of mascara and long painted nails :daydreaming:

[MonicaPVD]

Someone said it best earlier, there's a broad spectrum of motivators involved. Each experience is personal and special. Some of us are fetish dressers, what is sometimes referred to as autogynephilia. Others are transwomen who find ourselves in varying stages of self-acceptance. Others are somewhere in between. I think it's all wonderful.

[helenejo]

It's always been ruffles for me...I love a frilly blouse..they are just so feminine. I don't know what set me off..I vaguely remember a couple of girls when I was younger dressed in them..maybe I subconsciously wanted to be them.
I love it when frills are back in fashion..it seems to happen every five years or so..and the girls are dressed in my favourite look and the shops are full of lovely things.

I've just ordered this blouse on ebay in all 3 colors...I can hardly wait

[vallerie lacy]

So glad that I'm not the only one who loves false eyelashes with lots of mascara and shadow. I always compliment women on their nails when they are nicely painted. I hope they realize that I'm jealous, wishing they were mine.

[JoannaCD]

For me it's shoes, shoes and shoes. Or I should say any women's shoes, boots, sandals, clogs etc. The heels stay home but I've managed to find every other variety in a size 13 or 14 for everyday wear. It all started with my sister's and mother's boots and shoes pre puberty and only eased off a bit during my working years until I worked for myself. I do gravitate to higher heels such as the Clark's clogs I'm wearing right now

[Alexandra Collins]

Heels and hose for me.

[ShirleyN]

Long ankle length skirts and knickers are what do it for me.

[Laura28]

For me Bra and Forms I love the feel of having breast. Always have.

[Territx]

Thanks for starting this tread Doc, it is very interesting. I guess I have different emotional responses to different things, but it all starts with being fully dressed. I think Lux and others expressed most of this above - for me, if I can't get fully dressed with hair, makeup, nails done, etc. then I would just as soon not do it at all. So, I get one kind of emotional charge to just being dressed. On the rare occasions that I have tried on leather, latex, or other "racy" (not sure that is the right word) outfits and looks, then my emotions go up in a slightly different fashion or direction. Exploring different looks and approaches to my female presentation adds to the excitement of this part of me. Thanks again to everyone for sharing their thoughts.

[Jenny22]

ShirleyN...Where do you buy your ankle length Knickers? (Sorry. I couldn't resist)

[Heather2die4]

I agree Laura. Breast forms have come such a long way and are so much fun to wear!! As a teenager, I started with water balloons. I shudder at the thought of it but that was the resource at my disposal. Now, it's top of the line silicon forms and a pocket bra. I like to bra to be just slightly larger than my measurement as it adds to the giggle when I walk, especially in heels.

[Ericka_d]

What if its never been a fetish? I've been dressing, and some times working fully dressed. On and off for the last 25 years.

I recall around when I was 10 or so. I just wanted to wear makeup, and womans clothes. I can't really recall why, but I did.

In my teens the urge never went away. While most of my fellow male classmates. Dreamed of getting with some of the ladies. I dreamed I was the ladies. Not to be with men, but to be my self.

Around 2000 or so. I'm 16 years old. When I discover trans woman on the web. After many hours of reading stuff. Every thing made sense to me. That was when I figured out. That I was trans.

Fast foward 20 years or so. It's still not a fetish for me. Don't get me wrong. I dream of wearing certain items, but it dose nothing for me sexually.

I feel I view clothing, makeup, hair, nails, etc. As most woman do. There are just things you wear, or do.

[ShirleyN]

That's ok Jenny. I just realised that mistake. An oopsie on my part.

[docrobbysherry]

Ericka, I forgive u for not having any fetishes.:)
But, I'm sorry you're missing out on all the fun!:sad:

Shirley, did u know u can always reopen your comments and edit them?:)

[DianeT]

That's ok Jenny. I just realised that mistake. An oopsie on my part.
And there goes a disruptive and innovative fashion line down the drain :)

[ShirleyN]

Ericka, I forgive u for not having any fetishes.:)
But, I'm sorry you're missing out on all the fun!:sad:

Shirley, did u know u can always reopen your comments and edit them?:)

yes i do know thanks.

[Ericka_d]

I do have fetishes, but they really aren't related to my female side. Its more or less in the bed room were they come out.

[docrobbysherry]

Coincidently? That's where most of us dress, Ericka. Fetish dressers included!:D

[Pumped]

Doc, I might get dressed in the bedroom, but when dress in fetish wear it is more likely that I get undressed in the bedroom!

[Ressie]

Wherever I R? I r in the panty section!

[docrobbysherry]

So, that means u put it on where, Pumped? The bathroom, garage, car?:heehee:

[MarinaTwelve200]

I do "Costumes", sorta----or "Characters" rather than simply "a woman" and make photos to see how DIFFERENT I can make myself look.--I suppose those are "Fetish" in a way.

[docrobbysherry]

Technically, Marina? A fetish should have sex involved in it somewhere along the line.:D

I do quite a few different and diverse female characters. Strangely, while creating and filming my photo stories, I'm WAY too involved in the process and the pics to ever think about sex!:straightface:

However, I'm often stimulated by looking a particularly dramatic and sexy photo of Sherry!:heehee:

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[Pumped]

So, that means u put it on where, Pumped? The bathroom, garage, car?:heehee:

My stash in in our spare bedroom, but often I collect what I want to wear and dress in the family room or sometimes my office!

[JennasPanties]

I love that picture. So sexy

[DonnaJ]

For me, the cornerstone of the outfit are the hose and heels. I like strappy sandals, and it’s a good thing, because I can no longer wear pumps (I have developed pump bumps - those were some interesting visits to the podiatrist). I wear panties and a bra with forms (of course) and something pretty over it (mostly knee-length dresses these days). Once I am dressed, I am almost always aroused by the woman I see in the mirror.

I am definitely attracted to women. At this point, the only open questions in my mind are about women that aren’t GGs. I definitely find them attractive though.

[Simoneshamon]

Fetish for me!

For me its the, satin tops, skirts and dresses, leather skirts. Formal attire and office look, all the rest dont do anything for me.

Im also a lover of heels higher the better, pair that up with a sexy undies set or corset and smooth stockings thats a outfit

Sometimes i like to push limits and go outside dressed for a walk or drive, (I UNDERSTAND ALL RISKS INVOLVED SO NO THIRD DEGREE REQUIRED)

Sometimes i so some bondage. Its all fun.

I never wish to pass and never will just enjoy the clothing and the feel/look of it all!

[Leslie Mary S]

For me it has NEVER been a fetish, I just love the feel from bras (+forms) and panties to all the way out. I even have two white (different sizes) umbrella and a pair of red galoshes.

[Tanya silk stocking]

It's always been ruffles for me...I love a frilly blouse..they are just so feminine. I don't know what set me off..I vaguely remember a couple of girls when I was younger dressed in them..maybe I subconsciously wanted to be them.
I love it when frills are back in fashion..it seems to happen every five years or so..and the girls are dressed in my favourite look and the shops are full of lovely things.

I've just ordered this blouse on ebay in all 3 colors...I can hardly wait
Am the same as love frills especially the rockabilly style

[suzanne]

I will admit, there was initially a lot of arousal and self gratification when I first discovered the wonders inside mom's dresser and closet. I was in my teen years during the 70's and the taboo factor was incredible which heightened the excitement to fetish levels. I can't say I pursued the fetish aspects, but any stories or pictures of boys in dresses really caught my imagination and stayed with me.

Now, however, my dressing happens because it feels natural for me to express my femininity this way. I feel happier, healthier, and whole, as well as more confident when I'm in a skirt. The fetish like excitement has reduced to almost nothing.

[Kiwi Primrose]

I have never thought "fetish" in any of my activities. So if a life-long love of wearing pretty lingerie and an appreciation of the cut and flow of feminine outer clothing combined with the sexual excitement brought about by actually wearing it constitutes "fetish" then I have had it since I was very young. The excitement has lessened (I am 83yo) but the desire continues.

[BrendaPDX]

I tend to dress as the woman I want to see, not too over the top but very feminine, it can be skirts, jeans, or a dress, almost always heals, and always stockings or pantyhose. The turn on for me is seeing myself in the mirror when I am finished, and thinking I would love to meet her, that is if she would even give me the time of day.

[docrobbysherry]

I think u described how I dress, Brenda. There's not one item that excites me. It's the finished product in the mirror that winds me up!:daydreaming:

Only in my case? There is NO SUCH THING, "Over the top"!:devil:

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[Angie G]

For me it's the whole package. but it doesn't really get me turned on that way. it's more of feeling like a woman. maybe I'm more girly them some.:hugs:
Angie

[JennasPanties]

I?m with you Angie. Feeling sexy and feeling like a woman is my number goal. And there is def nothing wrong with being girly 💋

[MeMyselfI]

Suzanne - I started in a similar way. I found a panty girdle of my mum's in the laundry basket and for some reason, I felt the compulsion to try it on. I had my first erection - I think I was 12 years old. It felt amazing and kind of tingly. I found if I rubbed the outside front, it kept feeling better and better and before I knew what had happened, I had the most intense moment of bliss I had ever experienced in my young life so far. From that moment on, I was hooked. Nowadays I am much older and more mature and the sexual aspect is still there, but the wonderful feelings of femininity and relaxation are even better than those initial exciting times.:)



I will admit, there was initially a lot of arousal and self gratification when I first discovered the wonders inside mom's dresser and closet. I was in my teen years during the 70's and the taboo factor was incredible which heightened the excitement to fetish levels. I can't say I pursued the fetish aspects, but any stories or pictures of boys in dresses really caught my imagination and stayed with me.

Now, however, my dressing happens because it feels natural for me to express my femininity this way. I feel happier, healthier, and whole, as well as more confident when I'm in a skirt. The fetish like excitement has reduced to almost nothing.

[Marianne S]

Sherry, I hope you don't mind a long reply. At least I hope I'm not unpardonably boring anyone with my thoughts.

In some ways I'm like you in being attracted to "the whole package" of women's clothing. And for me it all started, not with panties, but with a skirt. Actually I did try on my mother's nightie one time when I was probably less than five years old, but I don't count that because lots of kids "experiment" with clothing, and it was a one-time incident, not a compulsion that continued in childhood. Not until my teens, that is.

I'd like to make a general comment about "fetishism." I'd say there's a distinction between a "pure fetishist" and a "fetish dresser," even if sexual arousal is a motivation for both. I hear there are fetishists who are turned on by all kinds of objects and scenarios, some of them strange indeed, but with women's clothing naturally forming a large number of these fetish objects.

Yet "pure fetishists" don't necessarily wear the items that arouse them. Or if they do, they do it only to enjoy tactile contact with their fetish; like garments of fur, leather, or rubber, say. Some fetish objects indeed are unwearable! (I once read of a guy with an erotic fetish for ballpoint pens, would you believe? Why ballpoint pens? Beats me!)

Anyway when it's items of women's wear, there are fetishists out there who are especially into things like shoes, women's gloves (more in the past I guess; how many women routinely wear gloves today?), but some of these guys don't actually wear the items--often because they're too small to fit! Even when it's panties, I've heard of guys who just sit there and fondle the items that arouse them.

So when it comes to "dressing," I think there's an additional significance to the act of "dressing" in itself; to being a "fetish dresser," even if it's still mostly sexual in nature. Arousal doesn't necessarily spring purely from the fetish object per se, but also from the fantasy of actually being a woman.

"Fetish dressing" to me is a "crossover" activity. Not "cross" in the hallowed sense of "cross"-dressing, but in the sense of a "crossover SUV," say" forming a bridge or hybrid between one kind of thing and another. On the one hand we have the "pure fetishist," who may have no desire to identify with the opposite sex. On the other hand we have T-people who dress in the clothes of the opposite sex, not for fetishistic purposes--they're not sexually aroused by the clothing--but only because it feels proper to their gender identity. Somewhere in between, we have the "fetish dresser," who is likely to fetishize and be aroused by some aspect of identification with womanhood more broadly than the "ordinary" fetishist, who is more focused on a single object.

And it goes without saying that this can also "shade over" into a desire to identify with the opposite sex in non-erotic ways. Though it may never erupt into a strong desire to "transition," it's no surprise to hear from members here who started off dressing for erotic purposes and later came to enjoy it for other reasons. That's true of me too. Often I just "feel good" wearing a skirt. And while I'm fortunately comfortable with being masculine (unlike some who struggle with it), I know I have a "feminine side" as well.

My point in mentioning all this is that what I personally label the "fetish dresser" is likely on that account to be attracted, not just to a single item, like panties, say, but ultimately like yourself--and like me--to "the whole package," because it's all wrapped up together in this erotic fantasy of "being a woman."

Now that doesn't mean we don't have specific "favorites" among our fetishes--like those here who are "into" women's shoes, say--in more senses than one! But often these specific fetishes form a "lead-in" that attracts the "fetish dresser" to the larger and more complete package pf women's clothing and accessories.

That's what happened to me, and it happened rather fast. What first got me into dressing was seeing my mother's skirt lying around one evening when I was twelve or possibly thirteen. It was a pretty, flowing light summer skirt with a blue floral pattern. I had an overwhelming urge to take off my pants, put her skirt on and zip it up around me. My parents were out on an errand, and I wasn't sure when they'd be coming back, so this was a scary, daring thing to do at that moment. Yet I couldn't resist it! After putting on my mother's skirt, "I did what little had to be done" (to borrow a delightfully euphemistic phrase from Agatha Christie's celebrated Roger Ackroyd) and fortunately managed to finish in time to avoid getting literally "caught with my pants down"--and a skirt on!

Now here's an interesting thing in my mind. All I can recall to memory was that the next thing after that, when I was around thirteen, I was into dressing fully in my mother's clothes when opportunities arose. (I was an only child, so she was my only source of women's clothing at the time.) What seems odd to me is that I can't remember any progression from wearing her skirt that first time to wearing "the whole package." I mean, there must have been an intermediate period when I was experimenting, exploring, putting on certain items of women's clothes for the first time. There must have been a "first time" I slipped into a bra and hooked it up around me, then put on a blouse, or slid into my mother's panties. There must have been a "first time" I pulled on a girdle (way back when women customarily wore girdles), and found out how to roll a pair of nylons up my legs to attach them to the garters. Thrilling as it must have been back then, for some reason I just don't remember all those details. In my mind it's as if I jumped instantly from putting on a skirt to putting on everything! Though I do remember my mother had a nice blue sheath dress that I enjoyed getting into, zipping it all the way up my back and feeling deliciously "closed in" by the dress. But I was certainly into "the whole package," and felt disappointed, incomplete, if I couldn't find some item--like nylons, say--that I "needed" to wear.

Although this was undoubtedly "fetish dressing," motivated by sexual arousal, it was to a large extent the notion of "being a woman, dressed as a woman" as a whole that was the source of this arousal. The skirt, a visibly outward symbol of femininity, merely acted as a "trigger" to prompt exploration of the whole.

Having said that, I have to admit some items are indeed "special" fetishes for me. To paraphrase Orwell in Animal Farm, for me "all fetishes are equal--but some are more equal than others!" At any rate I have a kind of "hierarchy" of fetishes. And in spite of being first seduced by my mother's skirt, I have to confess that as for many others, it's panties that edge out every other contender for the top of my list. I know you didn't want to talk about panties, but they're unavoidably erotic for reasons so obvious they don't need stating. When I dressed in my mother's clothes, I'd finish by pulling her deliciously cool, silky panties up under my skirt or dress: "saving the best until last," as it were.

However, it's not all about panties; not by any means! I especially love skirts, blouses, dresses, bras and slips. I sense there's a kind of "core fetish" here: that I'm focused on "basic" items that an ordinary woman might wear on her body, and panties just happen to be at the center of it.

Like many others here, I love what's delicate and feminine--a lacy slip, a frilly blouse, and silky smooth things especially, like a woman's skin: a silk blouse, a slip, and panties too of course. Yet that's not all. Again like many others here, I got turned on by wearing anything I found attractive when I saw another girl or woman wearing it. ("I've just got to get a dress, or a bra, or whatever, exactly like that!") Being an older guy myself, it took me a while to get really used to women in pants; but once I did, they became "sexy" to me too.

And things are "sexy" in different ways. I don't have to wear nylons today to "complete" an outfit--so many women don't!--but I have to admit that stroking my legs through nylons is a uniquely delectable sensation! (No wonder a woman gets turned on when the right man--not some creep--strokes her legs through nylons!) Further downrange in this hierarchy, what about shoes and things? Yes, they're nice too--though while I have a collection of them, I'm not intensely "into" shoes the way the "truly dedicated shoe fetishist" is. And even something like a purse is nice. It's not "erotic" the way panties are, but carrying a cute woman's purse brings a pleasantly warm feeling that affirms my feminine identity as Marianne.

Still, we're all different here, unique individuals. I know I'm not the same as you, Sherry. For one thing I'm not into anything exotic, outrageous, "over the top" as you put it. What attracted me was always the "ordinary" women and girls I saw around me, the ones I fell in love with--and the clothes they wore.

And something else. If what excites us as "fetish dressers" is the image of being a woman, what is it about that image that's so exciting? It doesn't have to be the same thing for everyone.

As you said, "seeing myself as a female in my mirror sometimes excites me. Actually, it nearly always excites me." OK, that's one reason. They tell me there's a theory about what's labeled "autogynephilia," proposing that "straight" (gynephilic) crossdressers are aroused by the image of themselves as women. That sounds like what you're describing, and it may be true for some. Who am I to say? Sure, I like the image of myself as a woman too. But it doesn't have to be the whole story, though some people will insist on propounding some reach-me-down theory that's supposed to apply to everyone, when it probably doesn't.

With me for instance, what I find especially exciting about the notion of being a woman is having sex in a "feminine role"--even though from the beginning that meant playing a "lesbian" role to a female lover. That was my "fetish" from my earliest teenage years of crossdressing. Skirt and blouse, bra and panties formed the necessary costume to facilitate this fantasy. So there ought to be a long jawbreaker term for that idea too!

All the best, Sherry!

[lingerieLiz]

I started before I knew about sex and continued throughout my life. I wanted to wear the clothes and look pretty, but I was never interested being with a guy. When I was young I did pass and enjoyed it. Over the years I changed as did the women my age. Today I prefer women's clothes and wear them full time. I wear nice clothes and and expected underwear. Friends assume it. I have nylons, but don't wear them. Heals hurt my feet but I do wear booties. I don't get excited putting on a night gown. I guess I've grown old with my wife and friends my age.

[docrobbysherry]

Sherry, I hope you don't mind a long reply. At least I hope I'm not unpardonably boring anyone with my thoughts.------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
As you said, "seeing myself as a female in my mirror sometimes excites me. Actually, it nearly always excites me." OK, that's one reason. They tell me there's a theory about what's labeled "autogynephilia," proposing that "straight" (gynephilic) crossdressers are aroused by the image of themselves as women. That sounds like what you're describing, and it may be true for some. Who am I to say? Sure, I like the image of myself as a woman too. But it doesn't have to be the whole story, though some people will insist on propounding some reach-me-down theory that's supposed to apply to everyone, when it probably doesn't.-------------------------------------------------------
All the best, Sherry!
I didn't find anything u wrote boring, Marianne! And, what I didn't relate to, I appreciated by the way u described your experiences.

And, I believe I fit the AGP profile quite well.

I especially like your description of being turned on seeing yourself, or imagining yourself, as a female!:daydreaming:

For me, the difference is looking a mirror and seeing a boring, old, man in a dress who turns me off!:doh:
Or, putting on a mask and seeing an exciting, young, woman there instead!:o

[Traceyjo]

I am very much like you Docrobby. When I first discovered the joys of CDing the sexual excitement was overwhelming. Although these days,30 years later, the intensity is not as great of course, the experience of fully transforming myself into a woman is still highly arousing. There are not single items that I have fetishes for, it is the whole look and feel of femininity. I look in the mirror and see an attractive, sexy woman and my hormones go wild. It's what makes me adore crossdressing now as much as I ever have. I also love the sensual relaxed sensation of being a woman just as CDers who don't have fetishes do but I am so grateful that I have the bonus of the excitement as well
:battingeyelashes:


Tracey

[JenniferR771]

Count me in, Sherry. I love to get all dressed up with wig, dress, heels, and makeup. It really gets my motor running. Mainly in my younger and middle years. Even thinking about being forced to wear women's clothes was a big turn-on.

[Lindseynrva]

I began my curiosity into thing feminine before I was 10 as well. My first curiosity adventure was my aunts longline bra. Soo many hooks luckily front closing oh what fun it was and from there I was literally hooked. From there it?s into moms slips and other things then puberty hit and the whole thing definitely became a more exciting experience for sure. I?ve covered the gamut of all things lingerie, stockings, pantyhose, corsets and then the dresses and skits and blouses to really go full effect. I love to workout in nice sports bras and attire and all the way it?s always been about the female form for me especially boobs. What began as socks became water filled baggies then foam cotton forms and later many various sizes of high quality silicone for,a that I still enjoy to this day 40 plus years on. The excitement factor is still there as I?ve found my time to dress relax and release. It?s a feeling I?ll always enjoy and covet especially now days since my opportunity to dress has been reduced due to work and family circumstances. Have fun, live life and enjoy is what I say.

[Ginni]

I enjoy looking at women's clothing and wondering what I would look like wearing it. Love a pair of 4 inch pumps with stockings. It gets me excited, but I don't think it is a fetish. It is me being who I am. When dressed I do get excited by the woman I am, but that diminishes shortly. Dressed I also get excited by men. It is like I am 2 people a male and female, separate ,but the same . .

[Amanda77]

I would and still get excited to get dressed up. For me the fetish part was when i would get everything wet in the shower. It started with getting some of my sisters old clothing dirty(from dirt that is) and took it into the tub to wash it out while having a bath. So for the fun of it I put them on and ended up getting very turned on by it. To this day i enjoy putting feminine outfits on and soaking in the tub. Nothing new or anything that can get wreaked just older clothing I don't wear much anymore. I especially love the feeling of wet nylon.

[Paulie Birmingham]

I loved cleaning pantyhose by wearing in shower. Now that wife washes them I haven't thought about that in a long time. Now I know what I am doing soon

[docrobbysherry]

I would and still get excited to get dressed up. For me the fetish part was when i would get everything wet in the shower. It started with getting some of my sisters old clothing dirty(from dirt that is) and took it into the tub to wash it out while having a bath. So for the fun of it I put them on and ended up getting very turned on by it. To this day i enjoy putting feminine outfits on and soaking in the tub. Nothing new or anything that can get wreaked just older clothing I don't wear much anymore. I especially love the feeling of wet nylon.
Amanda, you'll be happy to know u r NOT alone! There is a trans in Vegas who simply loves going into pools completely dressed! When I've seen her? She's been wearing below knee dresses best suited for going out to dinner at a nice restaurant!:battingeyelashes:

[Kitty Sue]

Started off with underwear, however the years it involved any kind of clothing or accessory that I believed made me more feminine. I absolutely have always found it arousing and used to really enjoy being with men when dressed. Also in the past had one particularly supportive gf who liked me to dress up. That was fun too.
Today, as I am married and faithful, my dressing has changed. Still, I do have the memories.
A couple of times my wife has suggested I put on a dress. However, I feel gross as I am in terrible shape at the moment and what I would see in the mirror is not what I looked like a decade ago lol.

[Leslie Mary S]

Started off with underwear, however the years it involved any kind of clothing or accessory that I believed made me more feminine. I absolutely have always found it arousing and used to really enjoy being with men when dressed. Also in the past had one particularly supportive gf who liked me to dress up. That was fun too.
Today, as I am married and faithful, my dressing has changed. Still, I do have the memories.
A couple of times my wife has suggested I put on a dress. However, I feel gross as I am in terrible shape at the moment and what I would see in the mirror is not what I looked like a decade ago lol.

Kitty Sue some of us have been on the heavy side for many years and we still dress.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Kitty Sue some of us have been on the heavy side for many years and we still dress.

If one had to be skinny to be able to dress, some of us would have never, ever dressed.

[Denice]

I don't think of my CDing as a fetish. It's an attempt to understand women better. Walking a mile in their shoes, so to speak.

[Leslie Mary S]

Vicki you are so right.

[caitlyn louisa]

I don'r think of my dressing up as being a fetish thing except when I get the urge to wear certain outfits. If i'm at an airport and see cabin crew in their smart uniforms with tight skirts, pantyhose and heels, the pink mist appears and all that I can think about is dressing up like that. I've dressed up like that for halloween twice. Once in Pan Am and once in British airways. Both times girls have remarked to me that they didnt think that my outfits were halloween outfits because the 'details' were too much. Nails, jewellry, perfume, lashes.

[Paulie Birmingham]

I don't think of my CDing as a fetish. It's an attempt to understand women better. Walking a mile in their shoes, so to speak.

I watched an episode of the Simpson's where the marriage counsel told them to literally put on each others shoes and instantly they understood each other. Your theory was validated on tv.

[LilSissyStevie]

Attempting to understand women by wearing their clothes is like trying to understand Italians by eating pizza.

[alexa_cd]

I would say I have a lingerie fetish, it really excites me to get all dressed up in sexy lingerie or sexy outfits but generally if im dressed casual in a comfy dress or what ever its not for a sexual fantasy or fetish but for comfort. However if I am dressed in stockings and suspenders and a nice babydoll then of course I am arroused lol that is there purpose!

[PattiL]

I started dressing when I was younger. I found my groove when I put on a cashmere sweater and was hooked. I absolutely love them. I still love a cute bra/panty set too.

[StevieTV]

Leather queen. I also collect bridal gowns...not to be confused with bridle gowns. :P

[darla_g]

Such a fun thread. I had a few latex garments but i think they have disappeared now. Nothing too fantastic as it was just a bra and panty set in a very blah color. I do have some liquid leather look stockings now, plus some faux leather dresses. So i know what i like just don't have the budget to get what i would like.

[Lindseynrva]

Leather queen. I also collect bridal gowns...not to be confused with bridle gowns. :P

Oh yea, that time after the wedding when I slipped on her bridal gown and she did me up! Wow what a feeling and night! On a side note wow I had no idea they were soo heavy, was very hot and exciting.

[gownman]

Silky nylon nighties. In fact my dressing consists entirely of nightgowns and slips.

[Gizmo, Debbie]

Slight fetish for leotards and swimsuits but I keep that totally private cause (1) I just don't have the figure for it (2) I doubt very much dad (or anybody else) would want to see me in such apparel. They can hardly cope with me as it goes.

[Susan_onmydayoff]

I don?t know if it counts as a fetish but I do have a ?thing? for vintage foundation wear. Totally uncomfortable but it feels so good and does a good job of achieving the ?right? shape too.
A week or 2 ago, me and SO were watching Mrs Maisel on catch-up and there was the slightest, blink-and-you?d-miss-it glimpse of a full length black girdle with stockings and before I knew it, BOOM!! Instant Pink Fog! I Didn?t know what to do with myself?
But I figured something out eventually!? 😆

[docrobbysherry]

Antique shape wear DEFINITELY qualifies as fetish gear, Susan!:o

I was always captivated by tiny waists and corsets 40 years before I thot of wearing one myself. Now, I have well over a dozen steel boned corsets and can't even wear them anymore!:heehee:

[susan54]

As I do not regard myself as a fetish dresser I have come late to this topic. I grew up surrounded by women, almost none of whom wore trousers of any kind. So a childhood in the late 50's and early 60's might explain that, but it doesn't explain why I am not remotely interested in shapewear from that or any other era. Apart from the skirts and dresses and heels, the only lingerie I like from that era is a slip, but that is to make the sensation of wearing a skirt or dress more enjoyable. Yes, I enjoy wearing these clothes - a lot - but that is not the same as being aroused by them and I am not. Nor do I imagine I am a woman when all dressed up. I do the whole make up and wig thing only when going out. Though I then (and only then) enjoy ACTING as a woman, it is just for fun, and when I am in a car with a GG friend who knows me as a male, I revert to my own voice and body language. So for some of us it might be compulsive but it is not sexual. I would probably be aroused if a woman I was already attracted to stroked my leg when I was wearing tights, it is so long since that happened that I can't remember it. At least I don't have to tuck (sounds dreadfully uncomfortable) and don't have to worry about the outline of my skirt/dress when I go out unless I get very close to a lady. I am glad I have this ability to get enjoyment from clothing and would not be without it. Do I miss out on arousal from wearing the clothes? Yes, probably, but it is the way it is. There is no need to feel sorry for me. I am a happy person who doesn't get stressed very much and being able to wear what I want most of the time is probably a significant part of that.

[ShirleyN]

ShirleyN...Where do you buy your ankle length Knickers? (Sorry. I couldn't resist)

not to worry jenny. My mistake.