Cliches (or truths??)

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Just for fun..

Post one cliche about us.

maybe this is stupid but
Im bored so whatever...


I'll start

"dont transition unless you have to".

[AllieSF]

I my experience`that is a partial truth. I am best of friends with an ex-Forum member here who transitioned because she had to. I know and have socialized with several others on this site some who had to transition and some others, you could say, who wanted to and maybe had to also in a milder way. Another good friend of mine just transitioned from a younger age because she wanted to. I transitioned because I wanted to.

Using the words "had to" has different flavors for some. I think it is more a need that gets frustrated and never satisfied due to social situations (family, work, tough parents, etc.), one's own fear and other factors to the point where that need to transition now becomes to "have to" or els!

my cliche:

"Oh your Trans, so you must be gay!"

Oh, I have another one from my early days here and the tough crowd of TS's:

"You have to suffer to transition"

[Bandile]

I remember being hospitalized years ago and they looked at my profile that I was TG, which the nurse talked to me about it. It basically comes down to this:

"Are you attracted to men or bisexual? It's either one or the other, so which one are you"?

I answered bisexual, but I usually get that alot from people.

[Lana Mae]

No surgery, no transition!
On HRT, must be going to transition!
Virtual hugs Lana Mae
This is sort of fun!

[Kaitlyn Michele]

All good ones!!!!!!!

[Jeri Ann]

The difference between a cross dresser and a transsexual - two years. B.S.

[Devi SM]

Are you pre or post op?

[AllieSF]

Another good one:

"Did you have THE surgery yet?"

[Nikki.]

“so you’re in to guys now?”

from a lesbian friend

[mbmeen12]

"I suppose you want men to open doors for you now"?

[Nadine Spirit]

How about:

"What's your real name?"

"Oh, you're trans, do you do drag? You should because you'd be great at it."

"Okay, but is it a functional penis?"

[Kaitlyn Michele]

All great ones...

when you start to add them up it kind of tell a story..

[Krisi]

The difference between a cross dresser and a transsexual - two years. B.S.

That's the one I was going to post. The vast majority of crossdressers do not transition. They are just that, "crossdressers".

[JeanTG]

Here's my cliche rebuttals just for fun :-)

"don't transition unless you have to": "I had to, I was tired of cross-dressing as a man, I couldn't afford all those Saville Row suits".

"Oh your Trans, so you must be gay!": "yes, indeed, I'm a lesbian!"

"I suppose you want men to open doors for you now"?: "you bet, it's payback time".

"Oh, you're trans, do you do drag? You should because you'd be great at it.": "yeah I used to have a dragster, me and my buds would race every Saturday morning".

"Okay, but is it a functional penis?" : "yeah I just took a leak 10 minutes ago".

"Are you attracted to men or bisexual? It's either one or the other, so which one are you"?: "Only women. I wanted to reduce my pool of available partners from 50% to 5%, too much choice, I couldn't decide!"

"Are you pre or post op?": "post-op. I had my appendix out 31 years ago".

"so you're in to guys now??" from a lesbian friend : "no, I'm still into women. Are you free tonight?"

"You have to suffer to transition": "you have to transition to end the suffering".

[Teresa]

Wife, " You're really just a man in a dress ! Darn it why do you have to look so good !"

Again wife , " I knew you'd dress like a tart ! Any chance I can borrow your outfit ? "

[Devi SM]

Jean, I love your rebuttals and as the title says "or truths?" I think you clarified that.

It's interesting that most of the people relate any of the LGBTQ+ variations as something sexual but everybody forgets about our feeling and why so many transition or get out of the closet.

With the many riders being an Uber driver I found that they don't even understand the concept of Gender Dysphoria or even dysphoria as well. After explaining my experience so many thanked me for being open and they said could be understand better trans people.

[GracieRose]

Here's my cliche rebuttals just for fun :-)


Great comebacks Jean.
Thanks for sharing.

[JeanTG]

I think that's a truth that most people do not understand trans people. Some folks are willing to listen and try to understand. These cliches do hit home. My wife, who has known I'm a crossdresser since before we married (and now knows I'm in transition) asked me shortly after our youngest child came out as a trans woman 2 years ago, if this meant she would be a drag queen.

I had to explain that drag is a separate thing and an art form. Trans is deep identity and we just want to be ordinary women.

[mbmeen12]

After taking time for dressing, with makeup and looking like a centerfold lingerie model. I made dinner, started a fire, wine and quality time (G rated for this post) with the ex. She said "You're still a guy" at the end of date night.

Truth hurts....

[Kaitlyn Michele]

I dont think cisgender people can "internalize" this. Its not anybody's fault. Intellectual understanding is important but even for some of us it can feel like it doesn't make any sense.

This makes communication very difficult. Words get said but they dont mean the same thing to us.

Im a man trapped in a woman body... that's trans people trying to express something to cis people...
Oh Kaitlyn check out this drag queen I bet you like her. thats cis people trying to connect with me


in the end, Im pretty sure that every thing that we call a cliche starts from some kernel of truth..

. but many of those "truths" are more like failed attempts at communication and truth gets lost in the translation..

[Eemz]

Interestingly, lesbian friends tend to assume I'm into women and straight women friends assume I'm into men. Actually they're both right, so that kind of works, but it's an interesting difference.

[Sarah Doepner]

What just happened to you, you were never like this before!

I always knew there was something different about you. - or - Oh THIS explains EVERYTHING!

Be careful, this will go away when the next fad comes in.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

yes... many people have this internal thought that it wont last or that it will go away..

Sometimes I think its because they want it to..its challenging for them..

and I got mostly "omg you??? no way!!!!"

[Cheyenne Skye]

Difference between a cross dresser and a trans woman:

A cross dresser can't wait to get home and put on a bra.

A trans woman can't wait to get home and take off her bra.

[Devi SM]

Be careful, this will go away when the next fad comes in.
He didn't tell me that but someone else repeated to me.
In that sense they have reasons to think in that way because in my case I'd been a person that has done so many things in life, different jobs, hobbies, sports, etc. Now I know that that was apart of a search for myself but I was confused and lost.
Devi

[Teresa]

Kaitlyn,
Sorry slightly off the cliche theme but a story that never fails to make me smile .

I was in the Salvation Army charity shop trying on a sequined dress , OK I had to wriggle into it a little and managed to get the zipper done up , it looked OK but possibly too tight and maybe a little short . We all know what happens on warmer days and trying on clothes they are far harder to take off , a great deal of wriggling went on before I finally stepped out of it . After at the pay desk I asked the female SA what happens when people really get stuck , she replied , " Oh that's easy we just call the fire brigade ! " Several customers heard this conversation and burst out laughing .

[Kaitlyn Michele]

OMGosh I can imagine that moment when you realized. Ive had similar moments where I felt like I was a contortionist to get a top off over my arms!

But never in public!!!

[Teresa]

Kaitlyn,
It can be just as bad when a SA offers to help . I was trying on several tops at a M&S store , the SA offered to stay with me to ease the tops off , one in particular was a little stubborn , I had my arms above my head with her giving a gentle tug when I felt my wig pulling off inside the top , nothing I could do to stop the it , she gently retrieved it from inside the top and handed it back , I gently popped it back on saying , " Oh well , now you know what the guy looks like !" She just. reasured me it wasn't a problem .

[LeaP]

Just ONE cliche? Select only one bloom from the field of wildflowers stretching to the horizon? Nope, can't do it without stirring the pot. PM sent.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Here's a sales associate story.

I was in AZ for my "blast electrolysis"... I was 6 months away from starting to live full time. Half my face was covered in a beard, half was swollen and red from the electrolysis...
I went to mall for McDonalds and as I walked by a NY and company I saw they had jeans on sale and they always carry tall sizes... 2 for 1 sale..

so i went in.... after some browsing a store mgr came to me from the front and a security guard from the back!!!! "can i help you sir????" gosh they hated me...

that was 12 yrs ago... i dont know which part of the story i hate more, that it happened or that it was 12 years ago


btw... my very first "en femme" trip to King of prussia mall which is super upscale mega mall started with me almost immediately slipping on the slick floor and crashing to the ground...my wig didnt come off but it did kind of twist around... luckily for me (kidding!!) there were some teenage girls coming they other way and they helped me up while gaping and giggling...

at 6'2 in 3" inch heels im sure i was a sight to behold for them

I dont know why somebody didnt tell me that walking in heels on slick marble floors was almost impossible..

[Sarah Doepner]

A couple more for the list of cliches.

From GG's to CD's at the grocery store "You always dress so nice even for a run to the store."

From CD's to TS at the grocery store "Why didn't you at least put on a skirt or maybe fresh lip color?"

[Jeri Ann]

A couple more for the list of cliches.

From GG's to CD's at the grocery store "You always dress so nice even for a run to the store."

From CD's to TS at the grocery store "Why didn't you at least put on a skirt or maybe fresh lip color?"

The second one cracked me up, Lol. I never "dress up" when going to the store, sometimes not even makeup. But I used to always apply something on my lips. Now a mask covers so what the heck.

[Teresa]

Kaitlyn,
I'm sure someone must have written a 1-10 scale advising the suitability of wearing heels . Soft grass , gravel , ice , marble floors , cobbles , decking , it begs the question why we risk it ? If they were part of workwear I'm sure they would come with a safety warning , I guess to some people they still are workwear .

I must admit on my last cruise we would sit having drinks in an open bar area waiting for the dining room to open . We faced the marble stair case which descended several deck levels . Everynight two GGs would appear on the top level in 4"-5" heels , their descent was more agonising then elegant , I'm sure most of the onlookers were waiting for the accident to happen . It never did but I take my hat off to those two for being so brave in attempting it . No denying I would have loved to been in their place but not in heels so high .

Also on that cruise lesson learned about wearing the right outfit when using glass bottomed lifts , I'll say no more but I'm sure someone can come with a cliche to make the point .

Jeri Ann,
I try not to be caught out by doing that but the reverse of that is being a little tarted up when dropping in at the builder's merchant . I don't wear heels often for everyday but I do like my heeled wedges , it does get an odd look and a smile when picking up a bag of cement to load in the car .

[amandagurl2014]

Here is a good one: Have you had the snip?