Twenty Questions

[Di]

Twenty questions

Thought we might get to know each other. No comments on anyone?s answer please just your answers . If there is something you do not want to answer or it does not pertain to you just put N/A


1) When did you start dressing?

2) At what age did you pick your name?

3) why did you pick that name ?

4) Are you married, single ect?

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?

6) When did you tell them?

7) How did that work out ( the telling)

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop?

12)Have you purged?

13) If so did you regret it?

14) Any advice to new cders?

15) Do you do your own makeup?

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?

17) Anyone you would like to tell?

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?

[Laura28]

1) When did you start dressing? Not sure around 7 or 8 I guess.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 23

3) why did you pick that name ? My first GF name

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? When we were still dating.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) no issue she is supportive just doesn?t want to see me fully dressed pictures are ok though.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have accepted it at a much younger. Age.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Not really.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? NA

11) Favorite place to shop? Pennys, Macy?s, Kohl?s.

12)Have you purged? Over the years yes a few times.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes especially older pics

14) Any advice to new cders? Embrace it

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) better at make up, go out and interact with others.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Yes some friends but wouldn?t end well.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? NA

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Recently had my first make over wonderful experience. Will do it a lot more.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? How important it is to me and how it makes me feel.

[Robertacd]

1) When did you start dressing?
Age 10
2) At what age did you pick your name?
Age 54
3) why did you pick that name ?
Always thought it was a pretty name (it's not Roberta)
4) Are you married, single ect?
Married
5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes
6) When did you tell them?
20 years ago
7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Fully accepting
8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have come out sooner.
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Modern trends
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
N/A
11) Favorite place to shop?
Torrid
12)Have you purged?
Yes
13) If so did you regret it?
Yes
14) Any advice to new cders?
Come out right now!
15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes
16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To blend
17) Anyone you would like to tell?
My Mom, I will be once we can travel again
18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
No
19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
25th Aniversary
20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
They all seem to understand and accept it.

[Micki_Finn]

1) In college
2) 40s (long story unto itself)
3) see 2
4) Married
5) Yes
6) a few years ago
7) Swimmingly
8) I would have taken dance lessons
9) haute couture of course. Ok more like punk couture.
10) I seem to be the representative Drag Queen of the forums
11) Fashion district L.A. Amazing fabric to make my own, or Santee Alley when I want something fabulous but premade.
12) Yes but not in the way you mean
13) No
14) oh my gosh, so much... first and foremost I’d say learn to do your own makeup
15) yes
16) just constant improvement
17) I’m not exactly hiding from anyone! Lol
18) not really
19) every time is a good time
20) N/A

[Dressing up]

1) When did you start dressing?
Hmm, age 8? I can't remember not desiring to be more feminine.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
When I signed up here, I was 40 something at that time.

3) why did you pick that name ?
I was scared about anonymity when I joined here.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Currently single.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
All, 2 wives, and every girl friend was told early in relationship about my CD. Almost universal acceptance although the unspoken communication gave me varying levels of comfort.

6) When did you tell them?
Early in relationship when I felt we both were committed to staying together.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Only on GF had negative reaction, we broke up a month later.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I do feel I never was honest to myself about where I see this going, therefore, I could not be totally honest with my SO.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I like to fit in, that means casual style most of the time.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
This site has given me confidence to be myself and get on with life.

11) Favorite place to shop?
JCPenny.com, they have good prices and large selection of woman's tall. I fear they will go bankrupt soon.

12)Have you purged?
Yes, during my last divorce, really was no need to. But in retrospect, much of my stuff was old and not my style, so it does not bother me.

13) If so did you regret it?
No, I learned to adopt a style and find places to shop, wardrobe is better than ever.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Read this forum, understand that the regrets of older CDers will be yours as well some day. The good news is, you can avoid those regrets today.
Also, get out of any relationship that is non-accepting if you can.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes, I know it is a personal item and I am reluctant to borrow.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
A more feminine look either if I am in drab of en-femme.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
My family does not know, we are geographically spread, but I think my sisters would be fine with my gender expression.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Only on GF was disgusted. I was quite surprised since she espoused a ultra-liberal social view on all things LGBQT. You

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
A vacation with a GF where we strolled a big city dressed, tourist sites, dinner and conversation with locals. Then out of the blue, she pulled me into a MAC store to get me a better foundation. So much fun.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I wish everyone could separate gender and sexuality. I am more sexually conservative than most people I know, but revealing CD often evokes thoughts of sexual deviance in folks.

[Raychel]

1) When did you start dressing?
I was probably around 10 years old

2) At what age did you pick your name?
I was 45 when I joined the forum. I had played with a few names, but settled on
Raychel an extension of my guy name just like Raychel is an extension of me.

3) why did you pick that name ?
Needed a name for the forum

4) Are you married, single ect?
Separated for 3 years

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes

6) When did you tell them?
about 13 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
She did not handle it very well at the time.
But she did accept it fine afterwards

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Oh Yes, I would have told alot more people when I was young

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Fancier dress, Mother of the Bride,
Business, Formal

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
60 years old, Had a struggle my whole life.
Was not very well accepted in school,
Had a very hard marriage for 23 years.
Now living by myself and feel incredibly lonely most of the time
Sure hoping to meet someone that can accept me for who I am and
enjoy walking thru the rest of life as happy as possible

11) Favorite place to shop?
My Favorite place over the years has been Dress Barn or JC Penneys. With Dress Barn gone now
I will have to check out some other places

12)Have you purged?
Yes, several times when I was younger, Never again

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes so much. Lots of wasted money

14) Any advice to new cders?
Accept yourself and enjoy life

15) Do you do your own makeup?
No makeup at all here, Just a guy in a dress

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To make everyday happy and better then yesterday

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I have told everyone that needs to know
I was afraid of telling my father.
But my wife put me on the spot about 6 months ago, I came out and told him
He was fine

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Only my wife for a short while.
No one else cared at all, They know me for the person I am

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Went to Spring Fling in Massachusetts one time

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I just wish they understood that being dressed is really how I feel most comfortable

[Asew]

Started dressing in 8th grade.
Made my name in 8th grade, though at the time I only used it for video game characters.
The name was based on the name of a girl I liked.
I am married.
My wife knows.
I told my wife a little over 2 years ago.
My wife has accepted it.
Probably wouldn't change anything as I am in a good enough place now.
For myself, I love skirts (and pair them with anything) and some dresses. Though some styles I like on women I don't like to wear personally, took a bit of trying to figure this out.
I would like you to know we are always here for you.
I love to shop at thrift stores, tons of variety and great prices. Torrid is my favorite first hand retailer.
I purged a couple times in my teens and 20s.
I regret the purges a little bit.
Accept this side of you. Though most that are on these forums are most likely already there.
I have tried makeup and I don't like it so I don't ever wear makeup.
I strive to be able to dress as I wish always. Mostly there.
I have no one left to tell.
No bad reactions coming out.
Going out with my family and always being treated as normal.
I think my loved ones understand it pretty well. Initially my mom thought it was more like wearing kilts when it was more than that as she now knows.

[kimdl93]

1) When did you start dressing? Around 4-5 years of age

2) At what age did you pick your name? NA

3) why did you pick that name ? Didn?t have to. Kimberly is my given name.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married twice, divorced twice. Total married time was 35 years

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Both did

6) When did you tell them? First time it just revealed itself in sex play. Second, before we were engaged.

7) How did that work out ( the telling). Initially, well, but I grew toward full time and that didnt work

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? More attention to my ex wife?s real feelings.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Everyday, business casual

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Not really. Nothing special

11) Favorite place to shop? Used to be cold water creek

12)Have you purged? Several times

13) If so did you regret it? Deeply

14) Any advice to new cders? Practice, practice, practice

15) Do you do your own makeup? Of course.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? I try to look as feminine as possible

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Not really.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not really

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? A night out with a group of lesbian and bi women. Nothing erotic. I was just so welcomed and included.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That it doesn?t change me...I have always been the same person.

[Teresa]

Di,
Nice idea :-

1) It chose me at the age of 8-9.
2) I chose my name because I needed one for the forum , so glad I did as it's made things a whole lot easier.
3) Purely by accident as the forum accepted it , now I use Terri instead of Terry .
4) Married for 45 years now half way through the divorce .
5) Everyone knows now .
6) I came out twenty years ago in my forties.
7) OK for about two weeks then the DADT wall went up .
8) Tough question , looking back the damage was obvioulsy done when I came out so maybe we should have agreed to separate then .
9) I guess I try to be the girl next door , being full time to me means integrating into society , I also feel we need to consider age , to a certain extent .
10) I've probably worn my heart on my sleeve for too long , there isn't much left to tell .
11) I just love to shop face to face in retail stores , online does nothing for me , I'd miss the fun with the SAs .
12) Never purged , when the need is 24/7 there isn't much point .
13) N/A
14) Is there really a new Cder ? It's about accepting yourself which for many goes right back to being born ,for a man it's the hardest part admitting it .
15) I now do my makeup everyday , I don't mind as it's part of my identity now .
16) I assume it's goals and not a bucket list but my goal would be acceptance from my son as he's now one of the few who's never seen me along with my mother . Bucket list would be a cruise as Teresa .
17) No one left to tell , which feels good .
18) Coming out back in my forties lead to almost ending my life . Now I'm free to be Teresa over the last two years not a single bad reaction .
19) The best time must be rejoing my painting group as Teresa last September , that's when I really found normality .
20) Because I prefer not to appear male anymore , I wish they could understand I'm still a good person in fact I feel I'm a better person which they could be missing out on .

Thanks Di .

[DianeT]

1) When did you start dressing?
10 or 11
2) At what age did you pick your name?
Never did (except for this forum in 2017 but that's utilitarian).
3) why did you pick that name ?
Forum name was I think a reference to Diana Rigg.
4) Are you married, single ect?
Married
5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes
6) When did you tell them?
In 2019, after 36 years together (met in high school)
7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Very hard for my wife, she can't understand it (but tries very hard) and is turned off by the news. We are struggling, but there's love.
8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Would have told earlier
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Straight/tight office or evening attire
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
The way I dress has no bearing over my view of women and femininity. I dress my way and women dress theirs, everyone is free and I couldn't care less!
11) Favorite place to shop?
Online. I don't go out so no brick and mortar for me!
12)Have you purged?
Never had much to purge, so, no.
13) If so did you regret it?
Not applicable
14) Any advice to new cders?
Don't be ashamed, it's just you. Tell your SO.
15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes
16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Nothing special, try to be myself, which includes infrequent venturing in female presentation.
17) Anyone you would like to tell?
My close relatives so my wife could vent. No need to bother friends with it.
18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Only came out to my wife.
19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Every time is special. First time standing up with heels was a shock (something to do with utter transgression or the fact I could not pass doors anymore).
20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
My crossdressing doesn't change my love for my wife. When I don't I am (and enjoy being) 100% her man. And she's the only real thing as far as femininity goes!

[DanielleLee]

1) When did you start dressing? 12

2) At what age did you pick your name? 36

3) Why did you pick that name? Not sure. It just felt right. (although Lee is my real middle name)

4) Are you married, single, etc.? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? 2003-2004 (After I came to terms it wasn't just only a Halloween thing any longer; reflected on my youth & realized it wasn't going away)

7) How did that work out (the telling) At first she was okay with it 1-2 times / week. Then... out of nowhere, it wasn't. It was a "perverted" & "disgusting" thing I was doing. Enter DADT, although she does see when/if I dress on Halloween. (which she I know she hates)

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Buy stock in Amazon :D. See #17. Following through on the challenge a girlfriend laid out about coming out to my best friend/neighbor Halloween 2012... and seeing if she was right. :daydreaming:

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? A lot... but I'm a sucker for a retro style dress with a full skirt. :)

10) What is something that you would like us to know about you? I identify as gender-fluid and pansexual

11) Favorite place to shop? Online, Express, Macy's or Penny's. If I were younger.. A&F, Hollister, Pac Sun

12) Have you purged? Unfortunately... pics, clothing and shoes

13) If so, do you regret it? Yep, Yep, Yep

14) Any advice to new CDrs? Don't purge, don't use cheap make-up, and just buy the good breast forms.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for (goals) Learning to contour and blend, develop a softer voice so that I can pass & hang out with friends outside my house.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? :whistling:Y Maybe.....

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not yet.

19)The best time (so far) you have had dressed? Having a girls night with my sister. Spending the evening talking, drinking wine, and modeling clothes & sharing clothes.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? This is part of my make-up/being. I can't change. Any attempt to do so only puts my mental health at risk.

[Rayleen]

1- age 15
2- n/a
3-love the name
4-married
5-yes sure
6-when I dressed in her presence
7-worked just fine, she approved
8-no
9-no. not really. I like skirts
10- Thinking I should be born different gender.
11- web and malls.
12- no
13- n/a
14- be yourself, you'll be happier.
15- yes
16- enjoy being me, dressing when I please
17- nobody elses business.
18- n/a
19- relaxing dressed daily.
20- wish everyone would accept us like we are.

[Meghan4now]

1) When did you start dressing?
Earliest 11-12, seriously, 49-50

2) At what age did you pick your name?
49 although I mulled it over for about 20 years

3) why did you pick that name ?
Needed a name for a makeover. Meghan just popped out. First letter in boy name

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married 30 years

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes

6) When did you tell them?
Hmm, a few times over the years, but not as completely as 50

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Challenging. She is NOT a fan.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Probably. The most important thing is to fully disclose before marriage.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
More than one, but classy and well dressed. Professional, pencil skirt etc. Clean lines

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
Love is important?

11) Favorite place to shop?
Lowe's hardware? No... Jungle Jim's international grocery

12)Have you purged?
Yes. But not in a while.

13) If so did you regret it?
Maybe a little. I did what I thought was right.

14) Any advice to new cders?
See number 8. And relax.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Of course! Unless it's a very special occasion.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To appear as much like an attractive lady as possible. To spread love and acceptance.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I've told most people that I would want to. There might be a few others, but it really depends on the reason for sharing.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Mostly my wife. I've not had another bad reactions that I can remember.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Vegas Transformation. Look it up. Million years.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I feel very complete and happy as Meghan. And Meghan still loves my wife.

[Pixie_94]

I'm just doing this because I'm bored and happened to check the forum.

1) When did you start dressing?
I guess I was ten, unfortunately.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
N/A

3) why did you pick that name ?
I only use "Pixie" as a nickname on the forum, I like anonymity to an extent.

4) Are you married, single etc?
Single, and I have no plans to change that.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
None at the moment, but I would prefer to get rid of it if I were to be in a relationship like that.

6) When did you tell them?
N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Maybe not even trying to shop.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I have no idea anymore.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
My social enviroment tends to be not the best one for most of people's sanity.

11) Favorite place to shop?
None, I can't shop anymore.

12)Have you purged?
Many times, to be honest, and I'm considering it for the last of my "stash".

13) If so did you regret it?
I did, but I can't do anything about it.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Try to keep a low profile.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
I don't wear makeup, nor plan to do it.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Getting a job once I graduate.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Not at the moment.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
There were and that's why I looked for a "cure" for years.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
I'd say when I got some high heels, but that was an awful year.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I don't know anymore, I simply don't want any trouble.

[2B Natasha]

1) When did you start dressing? Around 7 or 8 I think. It was a long time ago and really sporadic.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 45

3) why did you pick that name ? I’ve always loved Eastern European names

4) Are you married, single ect? Married. 2nd wife one kid

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? The day we reconnected. I knew her in high school, lost track, reconnected.

7) How did that work out ( the telling). First she thought I was gay. So far it’s worked out ok after that I guess.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have been more honest with myself at a younger age. But hindsight is 20/20.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Yes. I would classify it as modern chic

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I’m an introverted extrovert. I love people. I believe we as a species are capable of amazing things when we allow ourselves to.

11) Favorite place to shop? Nordstrom

12)Have you purged? Yes. Several times

13) If so did you regret it? Not a bit. My style has changed over time and I would have gotten rid of those items anyway. Some, not all where bought in haste, some where bought when I first started out and where gawdawful. What I regret is the wasted money.

14) Any advice to new cders? Live YOUR best life not someone else’s

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes. Not much. Once you figure out what you want to present it’s pretty simple to have a trimmed down supply.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be the best version of me I can be.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No. Not really. All the important people know already. Running around telling be now would seem pointless and self serving.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Only to the pocket book

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Every time I go shopping with my wife.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Not that I can think of. Nobody has ever really asked me anything really out there or not been accepting that I know of.

[Kimberly A.]

1) When did you start dressing? The very first time that I fully dressed, was actually quite a few years ago, back in 2005, I think..... I was married at the time and really only did it that once because my now ex-wife did not like that at all.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 36

3) why did you pick that name ? In my honest opinion, Kimberly is a very beautiful name, (all female names are LOL), plus it also has a lot to do with my crush on the actress, Amy Jo Johnson, who portrayed the first Pink Power Ranger, and her character's name was Kimberly.

4) Are you married, single ect? Single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? N/A

6) When did you tell them? N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I only wish I could've started dressing a lot sooner.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Not particularly..... I like to experiment with different styles.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? N/A

11) Favorite place to shop? Walmart

12)Have you purged? Yes..... A couple of years ago, I was fully dressing but only at home and I did not get out dressed at all. Due to religious reasons, I purged EVERY bit of my feminine things, (wigs, clothes, shoes, makeup, etc.) except for my hosiery. I felt miserable after I did that and around Halloween last year, I decided to go back to dressing because it feels like it's who I'm supposed to be.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes

14) Any advice to new cders? Be true to yourself.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Coming out as a CD'er to a few friends; I haven't done that yet.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Yes, a close friend who lives in California.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I went to see a movie before the pandemic, because that was the longest that I've stayed at one place at a time while dressed and a lot of people saw me.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? N/A

[Genni]

This could be enlightening. Thank you for the opportunity to share and to learn more of others here, Di!


1) When did you start dressing?
The first time I remember was trying on my mother's panties. I'm not certain of the age, but I'd guess around 5 or 6.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
That came much later. I'd guess around age 40.

3) why did you pick that name ?
I wanted a female name for an online presence. Having such a female name has not been terribly important to me otherwise. I don't have much of a female persona - I simply feel compelled to express some femininity in my dress.

4) Are you married, single etc.?
I've been married since I was a teenager 40-odd years ago.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes.

6) When did you tell them?
I told her while we were dating in high school.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)?
At the time she said it "didn't matter," but some months after we married she decided that it did. She would no longer accept or tolerate my dressing. She has said that my wearing women's clothing was/is just "not right." We are currently in a type of don't ask, don't tell. Our relationship has undoubtedly suffered as a result. Admittedly, I have made some bad choices in seeking such acceptance outside of my marriage.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would not have married so young and would have asked her to work together with me to honor the "didn't matter" sentiment or to end the relationship. My own guilt and limited self-acceptance kept (and perhaps still keeps) me from doing this.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I am interested in 3 styles: clothing on the feminine side of androgynous that I can wear every day (almost all of the jeans, shoes, and underwear that I wear daily are women's), everyday dresses or skirt outfits for (exceptionally rare) trips out in public, and bedroom lingerie of silky / satiny fabrics. I have breast forms and a wig that I seldom wear.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
Several things: Like many here, my desire or need to crossdress has progressed over the years from primarily fetish as a teenager to something more - although the fetish aspect remains even as I enter into my 60s. I don't feel I was born in the wrong body and certainly don't hate my male anatomy, but it is obvious that I am not solidly of the male gender. I sometimes wonder if I would have been happier had I been born female, but perhaps I would have been equally comfortable (or uncomfortable) with my gender had I been. I'm somewhere in between on the gender spectrum. I identify as "straight." That is, I am attracted to women regardless of how I'm dressed, and am much less comfortable around men than women when dressed. Despite all of this, I consider my gender (such as it is) an important part of me and would not change it if I could.

11) Favorite place to shop?
I love shopping in person - especially in the company (and with the support of) of a f.a.b. friend, but by far the majority of my wardrobe has been bought online. Nordstrom Rack, Macys, and Dillards have great bargains on quality clothing during clearance events. I never pay full price for anything.

12)Have you purged?
I purged several times during my younger years - before I was married and around the time that my wife decided she could not tolerate my dressing.

13) If so did you regret it?
Absolutely!

14) Any advice to new cders?
Love yourself first, and find a partner and friends that value you and your happiness regardless of what gender you wish to present. Do not accept tolerance - it is important to find those who embrace every aspect of you. They exist! I have a few in my life without whom I would be lost.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
I don't do my makeup or nails enough to do them well. They are skills that I would like to improve.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
I want to be accepted - and embraced - for who I am in all significant interpersonal relationships.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I've hinted to my grown daughters, and I suspect that they know... something. I would like to get that out in the open.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
The only significant bad reaction was the delayed rejection by my wife.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
My best times dressed were going out with accepting / encouraging friends - a female-at-birth friend and a couple. One was a shopping trip and the other was a Halloween party.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I wish my wife knew how important this aspect of my personality is to me, and how much her rejection hurts me and our relationship.

These are very insightful questions. I have learned something of myself by answering them!

[Vicky_Scot]

1) When did you start dressing? - 12

2) At what age did you pick your name? - Do not remember.

3) why did you pick that name ? - I just loved the name.

4) Are you married, single ect? - Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? = Yes

6) When did you tell them? - 22 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling) - Good after a few questions and tears.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? - Would have come out to my wife before I did.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? - Casual look

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? - I love my family.

11) Favorite place to shop? - Primark

12)Have you purged? - Nope, I am too tight to throw out things :daydreaming:

13) If so did you regret it? - N/A

14) Any advice to new cders? - Be who you are

15) Do you do your own makeup? - Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? - To be happy

17) Anyone you would like to tell? - Nope

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No to the two people that know.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? - Girly weekends away with the wife.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? - If they knew just to accept I am the same person before you knew I dressed.

[Jennifer Slater]

1) When did you start dressing? 12 or 13

2) At what age did you pick your name? 22

3) why did you pick that name ? Name of my first girlfriend in 6th grade...also t's a pretty name

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? yes

6) When did you tell them? about a year after we were married

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Started out ok, but she believes it's an addiction that needs to be overcome

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? not really

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? no

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm kind

11) Favorite place to shop? on-line

12)Have you purged? yes

13) If so did you regret it? yes

14) Any advice to new cders? be yourself and be honest in your relationships

15) Do you do your own makeup? no

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? accepting me without lapsing

17) Anyone you would like to tell? no

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? yes..girlfriend used cross dressing to exploit me

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? 1988

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I love my wife and I value her more than crossdressing

[cosmolovesph]

1) When did you start dressing? - Started with Pantyhose back in Elementary School

2) At what age did you pick your name? Last year, it was just known as my "Alter Ego" previously.

3) why did you pick that name ? Closish to my name - yet far enough away to protect.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yep and fully supports

6) When did you tell them? Shortly into our relationship.

7) How did that work out (the telling) - Acceptance, started with my fondness of Pantyhose.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? - Gone out more fully dressed sooner!

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Dresses, followed by skirts.

10) What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop? Online, Lane Bryant, Just My Size, Amazon, Long Tall Sally.

12) Have you purged? - NOPE

13) If so did you regret it? N/A

14) Any advice to new cders? Be yourself, be careful and take your time.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes - but Wife will help and has taught me along the way.

16) What things do you strive for (goals)?

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Some friends but not sure I want to risk that.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No

19) The best time (so far) you have had dressed? Several - both with and without Wife.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? N/A

[JuliaGirl]

1) When did you start dressing? 12? 13?

2) At what age did you pick your name? Hmm. In the last decade? Wavered between Kathy and Julia all my life.

3) why did you pick that name ? It's pretty.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? No.

6) When did you tell them? N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have told my wife about my CDing 28 years ago when we met.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Very feminine and classy.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I don't want to be closeted but have fear of rejection/humiliation. I'm a genuinely kind and curious person. I play in an online game where I can be Julia and have found a lot of acceptance there.

11) Favorite place to shop? Online.

12)Have you purged? Oh, yes. But not in the past 10 years or so.

13) If so did you regret it? Every. Single. Time.

14) Any advice to new cders? Own it with your spouse/SO/partner.

15) Do you do your own makeup? If you can call it that, yes.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be happy. Calm. Dressed. Sexy. To once go out with a friend, safely, dressed.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? My wife. My transgendered daughter. My son. Wife most of all.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? All of them. Spending hours in a hotel or AirBnB dressed and happy and content just hanging out. The ones with a pro makeup session most of all.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I'm not weird. That it's okay. To please not mock me. That I need acceptance, not just tolerance.

[Sallee]

1) When did you start dressing? first recollection 3 rd grade 1st experience probably 16

2) At what age did you pick your name? I would say late 20's early 30s

3) why did you pick that name ? After a line in a Lou Reed tune"Sallee's got eyes on her knees". I have know idea why or what it means

4) Are you married, single ect? yes

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? yes

6) When did you tell them? probably 37 yrs ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Okay she took an interest whe went out together to support group and other outings

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? NO I don't think so

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Casual trying to look real but classy

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I don't get out as much as some may think once a month I use the term in the "In the closet but the door is open and light is on"

11) Favorite place to shop? Any mall or large department store

12)Have you purged? yes many years ago

13) If so did you regret it? Its to long ago to look back on

14) Any advice to new cders? There is tons of information out there. No one really cares so go out have fun, enjoy

15) Do you do your own makeup? yes but I enjoy makeovers they are lots of fun

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To accept myself more

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No just to be more open about it

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not really

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I was mistaken for a GG at a support meeting. The speaker thought I was some ones SO

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I wish she was more accepting

[fun4metoo2004]

Here is my input.

1) When did you start dressing? 8 or 9. My mother used me as a dressing dummy for some of the costumes for Dance Recitals. I liked it then and have done it since.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 15 or so I guess. I was dressing when I could. Not full, just what i could get away with.

3) why did you pick that name ? It is the feminine version of my name.

4) Are you married, single ect? Divorced, and she passed away about 15 years ago.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? No.

6) When did you tell them? N/A.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Yeah, I would have done better with my weight and toned up better.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Skirt/Blouses. Girdles with Suspenders. No pantyhose. Skinny jeans or Faux Leather pants. At least 3 inch heels. I have some 4/5 inch, but only for certain occasions.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? single for so long it does not matter any longer.

11) Favorite place to shop? Amazon. Never been dressed and shopped out. May try that after the new house is built.

12)Have you purged? Oh yeah! too many times to count.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes. Not purging anymore. I am comfortable with myself and where I am in life.

14) Any advice to new cders? Take a chance. Don't be afraid of what others think. Tell your significant other you like to do it. if they don't want to understand then they are not the right person for you.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes, horrible at it.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Makeup perfection.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No, I came out dressed at Halloween and was accepted by the peer group I am most respected in.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not at all. Lucky I guess.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? I did a Pinup Photo shoot that was supposed to be part of a calendar. Photo shoot was blast. No Calendar.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? No. My son does not care, thinks it is funny. All the rest of the family in my home state, are very cool with it.

In closing, I think the only people that would not be cool/understanding with my dressing is my work colleagues. It is a male dominated environment. even with the huge number of people in the company, there were two people that I know of that transitioned and it was a big joke in some circles. I have no plans to transition. I love my male parts. I just wish I had bigger breasts!

[Elizabeth Marie]

1) When did you start dressing?
I have known from a very young age, probably 4 or 5 that there was something "different" about me, and I was experimenting with my mother's, aunt's and cousin's clothes starting at about 6. I was in my mid- to late-teens when I started dressing fully, and started to play with make-up.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
About 14 or 15, when I started to dress fully

3) why did you pick that name ?
When I was 10 or so, I asked my mother what my name would have been if I had been born a girl.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Divorced

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
My ex wife knew

6) When did you tell them?
About 18 months after we got married, in 1986. She found my stash of lingerie I started to accumulate after about a year of marriage.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Short term not well, lots of tears and yelling. She insisted I see a psychologist to be "cured." Long story short, after he met with her, he convinced her it was harmless, and I could not be "cured."

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Not get married, so I could have been free to explore my gender more in my twenties and thirties.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Professional, classic

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
N/A

11) Favorite place to shop?
Lane Bryant

12)Have you purged?
Yes, before I got married.

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes. I had some lovely clothes.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Don't feel shame, own it.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes, and I get compliments.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Exploring my gender identity. I stopped identifying as a crossdresser about 10 years ago, I now identify as being transgender, and trying to decide whether or not I'll transition.


17) Anyone you would like to tell?
My daughter and my 2 best male friends. I'm not sure my ex knows how far I've come in exploring my gender, so I need to talk to her about it.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Only my ex-wife when I told her. Everyone else I've come out to has been incredibly supportive. Even my ex came around and was supportive after she had a chance to digest it.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
A week spent in Duluth, MN fully as Elizabeth.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
That I am happier as a woman than I ever have been as a man.

[Phoebe Reece]

1) When did you start dressing? Around 4 years old

2) At what age did you pick your name? My current name at age 50. I used another name from around age 23 to that time.

3) Why did you pick that name ? My current name is a fictional character in a stage play. I performed that part in several plays and the fictional character?s personality reflected my own quite well.

4) Are you married, single etc? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? Before we were married

7) How did that work out (the telling) Worked out very well. We have had our ups and downs over it throughout our 50+ years together, but overall she is very accepting.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would not have told my parents. I did that when my wife and I had our first child. It did not go well with my parents and became a DADT subject. We were not living with my parents, so there was no real need for them to know.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Classic and professional (skirts and tops, dresses, hosiery and pumps)

10) What is something that you would like us to know about you? I accepted my desire to crossdress at an early age and have never regretted it.

11) Favorite place to shop? Department stores, thrift stores, eBay, other online stores

12) Have you purged? Never

13) If so did you regret it? N/A

14) Any advice to new cders? Come to terms with your need to crossdress and own it. You do not need to transition to be able to go out and be accepted in today?s world.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for (goals) ? Help others who are struggling with their crossdressing to find a way to incorporate it into their lives without destroying relationships or jeopardizing careers.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I would like to tell some of my wife?s friends, but my wife does not agree. I honor my wife?s wishes in this.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Only with my late parents

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? There have been so many, it?s hard to narrow it down to one. The most memorable was over 20 years ago when I was in a community theatre group and first played the character Phoebe Reece in a comedy play. I was onstage fully dressed performing as a female character in front of friends, family, and co-workers - who mostly did not know I crossdressed off stage.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I would like my wife to understand that I would appreciate it a lot if she would participate more in my outings as Phoebe. I prefer her company over others. She will go out with me, if we are out of town and I have brought my femme things along. But that doesn?t happen very often.

[Natalie5004]

[QUOTE=Di;4441398]Twenty questions

Thought we might get to know each other. No comments on anyone?s answer please just your answers . If there is something you do not want to answer or it does not pertain to you just put N/A


1) When did you start dressing? First time was about 13. Only my older sisters underwear.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 64

3) why did you pick that name ? I always liked that name

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? There were hints 20 years ago. She has seen me in my girly undies before. I told her for real about 2 months ago, that I wanted to dress for dinner at home.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She told me that she married a man and does not want to have that picture in her head. And she said she was afraid I would be better looking than her. (Not even close).

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Started sooner?

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Dressing? Not really. I like to look passable but it would not be the case. I am too squared in the shoulders.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? My exwife (Not due to this issue) anyway she called me Mr. Fun. She was sarcastic. But I am Mr. Fun.

11) Favorite place to shop? I do not have one. Bicycle shop? Motorcycle dealership? See, I am Mr. Fun.

12)Have you purged? Once.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes, I had a couple of nice nightgowns.

14) Any advice to new cders? Enjoy it and embrace it.

15) Do you do your own makeup? If you call it that.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Better at make up.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? My sisters (all 5)

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not out yet

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I realized I could do my hair too.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? How much of a kick I get out of it.

[Samm]

This is a great idea!

1) When did you start dressing?
15-ish

2) At what age did you pick your name?
42

3) why did you pick that name ?
I wanted something that could be used in either girl, or boy mode. Because that's how I fell.... a mixture of both. S, A, and M are my initials, but jumbled. I added the extra "M" for more of a feminine feel. (Like Jenn). Sammara came later.

4) Are you married, single etc?
Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes 100% supportive

6) When did you tell them?
A few months after we became serious. Before we married.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
She knew I was holding something from her. After a month of back and forth, we went for a long walk. She asked me (again) what I was hiding. All I could manage to say was "I like girl clothes". She paused, then laughed, and said "that's all?" She had the usual questions, but that was it. She wasn't even curious. She told me I was my thing. If I wanted to keep it to myself, I could. If I wanted to share it with her, that was fine, too. I was blown away.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
No
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I love my favorite boot cut jeans, boots, and a form fitting top.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
Besides the obvious? Not sure. But ask me anything.

11) Favorite place to shop?
Savers lol

12)Have you purged?
Twice, years before I met my wife

13) If so did you regret it?
Both times.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Yeah, don't purge.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
The "perfect balance". Easier said, than done.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I think about telling my daughter all the time. There's really no reason to at this point in time. Maybe never.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
It's a tie lol... The first time my wife saw me dressed (no forms, makeup, or wig at that time)
And that first "there you are" moment, fully dressed with forms, makeup, wig. With those favorite boot cut jeans, boots, and fitted top. Lol

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I don't expect anyone to understand this part of me. Sometimes it's hard enough to understand all of this, myself. I'd rather go for acceptance. Understanding can come later, I think.

[kayegirl]

1. Very young, but 12 was the first time that it was something more than playing dress up.
2. 52 when I joined this forum.
3. It's the initial letter of my given name, so appears on bank cards in that form.
4. Married, twice, lost fist wife to cancer in 2008.
5. & 6. Both first and second wife were full aware before we married.
7. With my first wife, it was always a part of our life together, may have helped that her father was an occasional cd.
With my second wife, she actually sussed me out early in our relationship, and to all intents and purposes told me.
8. Started ballet classes much much earlier in life, rather than at the age of 68 years.
9. Blendable, smart casual, with dressed to the nines when the occasion is right.
10. I also enjoy knitting.
11. Leeds City Centre.
12. Yes
13. Absolutely
14. Just be yourself and enjoy.
15. Yes
16. Just to be happy and to make those around me happy too.
17. Not really, most of the people that are important to me already know.
18. Just the one, and I dont miss them .
19. After that first time at age 12 when I saw the girl that was me, probably my second full makeover and photo shoot.
20. Everything that I wish that I could understand myself. But most of all, just how comfortable Kaye is.

Phew that was a marathon, took 4 attempts because I kept hitting a wrong button!!!!

[GaleWarning]

1) When did you start dressing?
Mmm ? very young.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
In my 60s, specifically for this forum

3) why did you pick that name ?
Wanted a name which reflected the fact that I do not need or want a female name. A gale is a very strong and destructive breeze. Seems appropriate.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married for 32 years. Three subsequent relationships. Currently not involved.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Every person I was involved with knew. My wife was/still is very anti! All the others were accepting. Other issues got in the way.

6) When did you tell them?
How could I tell me wife? I had no idea why I felt the way I did or has the need to do what I did. Ignorance! Once I joined this forum and started to understand, I could explain the situation to the others.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
I?m divorced. To be fair, CDing was not the only issue. But it is the only issue preventing us from getting back together. The other relationships fell apart for reasons not related to CDing.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have remained single all my life.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Stockings and high heels are my thing. The other items, I can take or leave.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
No.

11) Favorite place to shop?
SHQ.

12)Have you purged?
Many times. Self-loathing and ignorance.

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes. Lovely lingerie and heels which I threw away and simply cannot replace.

14) Any advice to new cders?
There is nothing wrong with you. Learn and live. Don?t purge. Tell your SO.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
N/A

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
When Covid-19 is over, I need to find a job and a place of my own.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
No.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
My wife could never understand or accept. My reactions only made things worse. Repenting at leisure now.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Going to a themed event in London quite a few years ago. Underdressed as I had always wanted to.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I wish that society could simply accept that clothes do not make a man or a woman. I hate the hypocrisy too many people hold about the LGBTQ community

[AngelaYVR]

1) When did you start dressing? 4

2) At what age did you pick your name? 41

3) why did you pick that name ? Just seemed right

4) Are you married, single etc? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? 6 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling) good then bad then good then so-so and now great

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Laser your beard while it is still dark!

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Vintage 40s 50s - classic and elegant

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I met our prime minister while dressed

11) Favorite place to shop? Consignment & thrift

12)Have you purged? Many years ago

13) If so did you regret it? No, it was rather cheap lingerie

14) Any advice to new cders? Enjoy the ride!

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To sew my own clothes

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Not at the moment. People who need to know already do

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Initially from my mum but we just do not speak of it

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Front row seats at a Dita von Teese show and met her afterwards, then chatted with cast at a bar after

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I think we have exhausted all the permutations

[Kandi Robbins]

1) When did you start dressing? 5, behind the garage with Denise and Lisa and I remember the look, feel and color of the dress

2) At what age did you pick your name? 55

3) why did you pick that name ? As stupid as it sounds, it matches my actual initials

4) Are you married, single ect? Very happily married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Absolutely

6) When did you tell them? December 2, 2014

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Well

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Yes, I would have done it much sooner

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Yes, classy and stylish, always dressed as a lady

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm just trying to help a sister

11) Favorite place to shop? Thrifts

12)Have you purged? Duh!

13) If so did you regret it? Sure

14) Any advice to new cders? Don't believe the myth that the world is not accepting, it is quite accepting

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yep!

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? As much interactions with others as possible (which is currently no longer possible), the more people that see me, the better

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No, I'm good

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not yet

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Way too numerous to go into here

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? My wife is good, that's all that matters

[Lana Mae]

1. My teens!
2. about 64
3. A little girl who threw her dress over her head started it all and my mother's middle name!
4.widowed
5.N/A
6. Before we got married!
7. I repressed it for 34 years and 5 months of marriage!
8. As I have two loving children and if things were changed they would not exist-NO!
9. Casual comfort!
10. I am in the process of changing my name legally!
11. Cato-local and Woman Within-internet
12. When I was a teen and when married!
13. Yes some really nice black panties!
14. As most CD's are married, communication is essential with your SO!
15. Yes, I do maybe not well but I do it!
16. I am TS so to be the woman I really am! To be me!
17. I freely tell anybody as my family already knows!
18. I had none and am out to my family and everyone at work!
19. There are so many! I think one of the greatest times was at a GNO in Houston, Texas!
20. My children are fully accepting and understand and my SIL accepts but is a little shaky at times! She has not met Lana Mae in person yet! She wants us to visit her when this is all over! It will be Lana Mae and not Harry this time! LOL
There you are! I am an open book and will answer any questions!

[Maria 60]

1) When did you start dressing? I think about 10yrs old

2) At what age did you pick your name? My wife picked it and I believe I was 50

3) why did you pick that name ? When we would be shopping my wife found it better if I thought Maria would like a item. Instead of asking if I wanted it.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married 34yrs

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? 1 week back from our honeymoon

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She asked the normal question and then she wanted to give it a chance and see where it was going.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Im still a 80s/90s girl.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop? Winners/Suzy Sheer

12)Have you purged? Yes a few times.

13) If so did you regret it? Definitely on one purge I threw away a vintage slip

14) Any advice to new cders? Months after I told my wife, she couldn't get over the fact that I enjoyed it so much but yet I would beat myself up with guilt and trying to figure it out. Her best advice to me was not to look to much into it and stop trying to figure it out and enjoy it because I was not hurting anyone but myself.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?

17) Anyone you would like to tell?

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I go out with my wife dressed and we just spend the day with no plans and just doing things with the flow.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? My family is very opinionated and most believe it's a mental sickness and very wrong. I would love to tell them just so they can see that we are normal people and we were given this we didn't choose this. I'm a handy man and I help a lot of family members with many projects and most of the time I do it for nothing to help people out. It's sad because that would all be forgotten if it ever came out, nobody would remember the nice person I am. That's the sad part.

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1) When did you start dressing? I think about 10yrs old

2) At what age did you pick your name? My wife picked it and I believe I was 50

3) why did you pick that name ? When we would be shopping my wife found it better if I thought Maria would like a item. Instead of asking if I wanted it.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married 34yrs

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? 1 week back from our honeymoon

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She asked the normal question and then she wanted to give it a chance and see where it was going.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Im still a 80s/90s girl.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop? Winners/Suzy Sheer

12)Have you purged? Yes a few times.

13) If so did you regret it? Definitely on one purge I threw away a vintage slip

14) Any advice to new cders?

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?

17) Anyone you would like to tell?

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I go out with my wife dressed and we just spend the day with no plans and just doing things with the flow.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? My family is very opinionated and most believe it's a mental sickness and very wrong. I would love to tell them just so they can see that we are normal people and we were given this we didn't choose this. I'm a handy man and I help a lot of family members with many projects and most of the time I do it for nothing to help people out. It's sad because that would all be forgotten if it ever came out, nobody would remember the nice person I am. That's the sad part.

[GeorgeA]

Thank you, Di, It's a very well presented survey.

1) When did you start dressing? About 5 but seriously at 10-12

2) At what age did you pick your name? Long ago but changed it recently to my masculine one

3) why did you pick that name ? Needed for the forum

4) Are you married, single ect? single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? n/a

6) When did you tell them? n/a

7) How did that work out ( the telling) n/a

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I thought that there are rules for transvestites: you have to present as a woman as much as possible. It took me many years to discover that I’m a MIAD and have no desire to look and behave like a woman. I should have done it long ago

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Normal business attire, pencil skirts preferably. Discarded business shirts work well. No women’s shoes for me.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I.m a MIAD and am the same person whether I wear trousers, skirt or nothing. My personality stays the same.

11) Favorite place to shop? n/a

12)Have you purged? Not in the usual meaning.

13) If so did you regret it? no

14) Any advice to new cders? Be yourself and pay no attention to being put down by other CDs who think you should emulate what they think is right.

15) Do you do your own makeup? No makeup for me

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To live openly as a MIAD

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Everybody

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? n/a

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Just about every day

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Too late now, they are all gone.

[alwayshave]

1) When did you start dressing? 4 or 5 years.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 16

3) why did you pick that name ? The feminine of my birth name.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Absolutely.

6) When did you tell them? While dating prior to moving in together.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)? She did some research and after that was OK with it.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have been more open to who I was earlier in my life.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Cocktail dresses.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm happy I found this forum.

11) Favorite place to shop? Macy's.

12)Have you purged? Yes

13) If so did you regret it? Yes

14) Any advice to new cders? Don't feel guilt for who you are.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Dropping two dress sizes.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? None so far.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? The first time I went to a bar. Just felt so liberating.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Yes.

[Connie D50]

1) When did you start dressing? 7 or 8 years old
2) At what age did you pick your name? 20
3) why did you pick that name ? A Connie that I knew I loved the full name (Constance is so feminine) and the short version is cute.
4) Are you married, single ect? Married (40 plus years)
5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes
6) When did you tell them? After we were married (mistake should have been before)
7) How did that work out ( the telling) 40 plus years so ok
8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I wish we had the internet 50 years ago.
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?I love a classy look (weather a night out or casual shopping)
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I have 7 grandchildren.
11) Favorite place to shop? Anywhere that has women?s cloths
12)Have you purged? No
13) If so did you regret it? NA
14) Any advice to new cders? If you want to go out in the real world (just do it) Get a makeover at least once in your life.
15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes (always wish I could do better)
16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Passing better much harder at my age (64)
17) Anyone you would like to tell? It?s too late the sister I wanted to pass away.
18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Haven?t
19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Shopping with my wife we don?t do it a lot but I love it. Wait we went to the play Hamilton by far the best weekend ever.
20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? After 40 plus years together, It?s a big part of me and it?s never going to go away.

[Cacique82]

1) When did you start dressing? Middle school

2) At what age did you pick your name?
Don?t have name
3) why did you pick that name ? NA

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? She knows.

6) When did you tell them? 3 yrs ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling) very well

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Should have told her sooner, missed out time

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Casual dress-blouse, jeans, panties

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Not sure yet

11) Favorite place to shop? LANE BRYANT

12)Have you purged? Yes

13) If so did you regret it? YES!!!!

14) Any advice to new cders? Don?t purge and when you tell your SO don?t go all in at once. Start w panties probably.

15) Do you do your own makeup? NA

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To be as open w my wife as I can be, if I decide to go further (wigs, makeup)

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No, just between wife/I

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No, She fully accepted everything

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? The first time after telling my wife.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your. No

[Janica]

1) When did you start dressing? Early teens

2) At what age did you pick your name? 51

3) why did you pick that name ? Wanted something different...and it is linked to my birthday and ancestry

4) Are you married, single ect? Living together

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? The full extent last year

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Great at first, not good anymore

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Stayed single

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Skirt suits, peignoir nightgown sets, 60's housewife

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I can write a thousand words but speak barely one

11) Favorite place to shop? Online

12)Have you purged? Yes

13) If so did you regret it? Yes, can feel the regret now! : )

14) Any advice to new cders? Enjoy it!

15) Do you do your own makeup? I rarely do full makeup, wish I could

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Enlightenment, be loving and forgiving, and be able to change chords on the guitar!

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? I've only told 3 people...it has been or turned bad every time

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Putting heels on for the first time :lovestruck:

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? It's not about you

[Nadine Spirit]

Oh.....okay.......

1) When did you start dressing? 1st item when I was about 13 or 14. Fully dressed as me the first time at 17. Then not again until I was about 34.

2) At what age did you pick your name? I've gone through many names over the years. The one I am now legally (not my username here btw) I chose when I was probably about 42 or so.

3) why did you pick that name ? Okay, so..... I would go in to stores and try on clothes, when asked my name for them to write it on the dressing room door for me, I would say Nadine. They would never get it right. Never. I didn't know if they didn't understand me or the name or if I just didn't own it. I was preparing to go shopping once and I told my wife, I'm just going to use a super common name, like Kelly. I did. They understood me. And I felt like it was truly me, so I stuck with it.

4) Are you married, single etc? Yes

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? She has known every bit of my trans journey as I have discovered it. We met when we were 8, and began dating at 15.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) - Not always pretty, but we have always continued to talk, to learn, and to grow as a couple. I have fully transitioned, have GCS planned for a few years from now, and we are more happy together now then we have ever been

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Essentially no, as I like who I am now and I would not be this person without experiencing what I have. However, when I was real young, prior to puberty, if somehow I knew I was trans and was going to transition, and I knew that doing so prior to having massive amounts of T dumped into my system that I would never have lost my hair, then I for sure would have transitioned as soon as I could have, ideally taken puberty blockers and then changed my hormones. Then I could still have my natural hair, ooohhh, that would be fabu!

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Classic, timeless, clean lines, black and white, patterns

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? There is not much the online world does not know about me, if you have actually taken the time to read the drivel that spews forth from my fingertips........ how about, do you know that I have 8 cats? Yup, 8!

11) Favorite place to shop? White House Black Market

12)Have you purged? Yup, when I was about 30

13) If so did you regret it? Yes and no. It made me much more aware that this is a part of me that I can't just toss into a trash can and walk away from.

14) Any advice to new cders? You do you boo!

15) Do you do your own makeup? Hahahahahahahaha, well I am full time, so yes. At first my wife showed me how to apply it. Then I began going to get makeovers at Macy's and such. I would watch, listen, ask questions, practice, and I learned.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be happy in being the authentic me wherever I may roam.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Everyone knows.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? I've lost a few friends along the way, but far less than I would have thought. Like maybe 2 couples that my wife and I no longer hang out with.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Going in to work, in front of my 7th and 8th graders, as the real me.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Nope as we still all discuss various aspects all the time. It is a learning process and we are all learning as we grow.

[JennyMay]

1) When did you start dressing? I'm not sure. Somewhere around 10.

2) At what age did you pick your name? only a couple of years ago and I'm not really settled on it.

3) why did you pick that name ? For some reason this forum wouldn't let me use the name I liked (chosen because of an advert I remembered) so I picked a name out of the blue.

4) Are you married, single etc? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? over 20 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She wanted to make me happy but didn't quite understand why I needed this.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I wis my younger self had understood more about this. i wouldn't have been so ashamed.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I love denim skirts & I like 50's style

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm really tired of being afraid all the time.

11) Favorite place to shop? Ebay. Marks & Spencers

12)Have you purged? Yes but not recently

13) If so did you regret it? I didn't have much then so not really.

14) Any advice to new cders? Be gentle with yourself. Try to be open with your SO if possible. It's OK to be you.

15) Do you do your own makeup? I've never worn makeup, but I'd like to.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? i'm close to retirement. I want to explore more.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I wonder about telling my daughter. I know she is fine about trans people but her dad?

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? only my own anxiety.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? when my wife bought me some shoes.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? There are things I'd lkike to understand about my dressing. it started out being primarily sexual but now it's much more than that. i wish so much I had been born a girl but I there is so much about my life that is good that wouldn't have happened I had been. I am really confused.

[Nic J]

1) When did you start dressing? When i was about 41.

2) At what age did you pick your name? I didn't. I use my given name with a unisex spelling.

3) why did you pick that name ? My forum name, Krea, is merely a whimsical choice for anonymity.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? Approx one year after i started CDing.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Initial surprise, but generally supportive and has progressed slowly.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? No

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Casual. Denim skirts with black tights. Vest tops.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I now identify as non-binary.

11) Favorite place to shop? Not ashamed to say Primark, coz it's cheap and therefore great for trying new ideas without ruining my small budget.

12)Have you purged? Once. A few items, very early on.

13) If so did you regret it? Not especially. It was a small purge, never repeated.

14) Any advice to new cders? Don't be ashamed of who you are!

15) Do you do your own makeup? I never use makeup.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Try to dress tastefully so my wife will be comfortable with how i look.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? The whole world! (except perhaps my in-laws:straightface:) However, that could be some time away yet.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No, my wife was kind about it.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Going out (in mixed-mode) to get my ears pierced.:c9:

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That there's nothing wrong with being Transgender.

[Stephanie D]

Hello all!! It's been a long time for me posting. Has been a rough year!
I know, I think it's been rough one for all of us, but more so with me personally, I'm recently separated from my wife and family.
Divorce seems imminent.
My dressing does not seem to be THE reason, but I'm sure it did NOT help my marriage.
But anyway, it just may be that life got in the way but we still LOVE each other and have come to the realization that we have grown apart.
And our awesome children are now old enough to understand that we will always...ALWAYS be much better Mom & Dad, than we have grown to be Husband & Wife.
It's a very sad coming to be, but we know we have both tried to make certain changes and promises many times over and over, but it just doesn't work enough to get where it works for both.
But the good news is we both hope for happiness in each-other's "new" life that will come on the other side of divorce.
No more fighting, daily frustration with each other, and no regrets with our children.
And thankfully, the silver lining is, that we are not looking to hurt each other any more, even though we never meant to, it just always seemed to happen, and we now want to offer each other support, without wanting to "kill" each other for stupid little things. :hugs:







1) When did you start dressing?
Very early on, probably 8-9 yrs old. Wearing my Mom's underthings whenever nobody was home.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
Just recently when developing an on-line profile.

3) why did you pick that name ?
Just liked the name, and it was available :happy:

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married 24+ years. Recently separated.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes, very early on, I told her I liked feminine underwear. I tried to build off that, but she never really understood. Many years later, I told her I liked more than just underwear. She was "ok" with it, but didnt want to share or enable it. So it became another "secret" thing I did alone.

6) When did you tell them?
Very early in our relationship, and years later, a little more over time.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Harder for me to muster up talking about it, but she was really understanding and not hurtful or judgmental about it.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have been more honest to the level of what I liked and what I wanted to have happen with us.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Various from sexy to romantic to semi-elegant.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
That I'm not a bad person, that I know that I do have a very strong imagination, I try to expand my understanding of people's diversity, and that I like to learn about other people's mindset about what they like and what makes them happy.
Also, as I have learned from this site, that I need to better understand that my own dressing desires are probably more fetish-like right now as compared to many that dress for non-sexual related reasons.

11) Favorite place to shop?
Anyplace I can without fear of being caught or embarrassed. IE, thank you Amazon :battingeyelashes:

12)Have you purged?
Yes, several times over the years.

13) If so did you regret it?
Thought is was the "right thing to do" at the time, but later realized that I totally regretted it and was angered by the feeling that I "had to" purge to get it out of my life.
Total regret!!

14) Any advice to new cders?
Be VERY true to yourself, but also, need to be aware of other's concerns and feeling too, especially those that you care about too. Situational awareness is key. You can't beat someone over the head to "prove" something you like. Be open, but be smart.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes. But only wear it on very select times when I know I have a window of opportunity. And I had to build it up over time. Mostly all cheap stuff and I tend to look like a circus clown if I dont have the time to try to do it properly.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To get a better understand of why I like it, and figure out a balance where it is not so hot/cold or obsessional.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Yes. I'd like to tell everyone!!! :dance: But my circle of friends (and never my family) would really not understand it. So I am REALLY thankful for being able to "share" online and in relative privacy without much fear of being shamed or judged.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
No bad reaction to my online-family, but my actual family, they don't know, and I don't want them to.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Not one particular "event", but love the feeling of being dressed and stepping outside the house, feeling the outside air, or sun, come over you and feel so much more "free".

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
Yes, everything!! I wish that it did not have to be hidden, or, something that must be guarded about. Obviously, I mean that for age-specific family members. Would never want to "share" that with anyone who is not an adult with a better understanding of human dynamics.

[Stephanie47]

1) When did you start dressing? I do not believe just trying on my mother's slip because I liked the fabric constitutes dressing. I first wore all her clothes in my early teens.

2) At what age did you pick your name? When I joined this forum (2010). That would be age 63

3) Why did you pcik that name? According to my mother I was suppose to be a girl since the first born child was a boy. I would have been name Stephanie after my grandmother, Stefi.

4) Are you married, sing, etc? Married

5) Does your wife/girl friend know? Yes, although she has not said anything about it since the 1980's.

6) When did you tell her? If I remember correctly it would have been maybe 1983 or so.

7) How did it work out, the telling? Poorly. "If I had known I would not have married you!" "If I wanted to be married to a woman I would have married a woman."

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have taken her up on her suggestion to find a support group.

9) Do you have a certain type of style you are drawn to? Yes, I only wear dresses. My preference is floral prints. Would never wear anything resembling pants.

10) What is something you would like us to know about you? No, I lived a fairly dull life other than being an infantryman in Nam.

11) Favorite place to shop? Ebay. JCPenny for dresses. Herroom for panties.

12) Have you purged? Never

13) N/A

14) Any advice to new CDers? If you're only a place vanilla crossdresser just tell you wife you do not know why you do what you do. Don't tell a woman you're getting in touch with your feminine side.

15) Do you own your own makeup? Yes, put hardly ever use it. Takes too long for such a short period of time.

16) What things do you strive for (goals)? No goals now other than it would be nice to have an appreciative wife.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Nope

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Only discussed my crossdressing with my wife. It did not go well. DADT since the 1980's.

19) The best time (s0 far) you have had dressed? When my wife went to visit out of state; daughter in Chicago and cousin in Arizona. Dressed 24/7 for 7-10 days. Able to hang dresses in the closet. Put undergarment in armoire draw. Shoes lined up

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? It was a hurdle to convince my wife (1) my dressing had nothing to do with any inadequacy about her (Why am I not enough for you?), (2) "I do not know why I do what I do!" (3) If we ever were to have any open and frank conversation about my dressing I would tell her as a young child (4? or so) I had thoughts/dreams I had been a young woman who was murdered. That image was of me laying in the dirt attired in only a white slip which is the women's garment which drew me into crossdressing. Prior life experience? And, dressing was a form of escape for me from the horrors of war, PTSD. Crossdressing is a refuge from those thoughts.

[CrossKimmy]

1) When did you start dressing? Probably like 6 or 7

2) At what age did you pick your name? I was in my 20s when I signed up here. It never occurred to me to have a name but once I did it all made sense.

3) why did you pick that name ? It matched my name

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Nope

6) When did you tell them? Didn?t

7) How did that work out ( the telling) NA

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? To experience more when I was as younger.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I like professional chic looks. Like the office girl.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? That is a broad question but as it relates to my dressing, that I?m struggling with this daily

11) Favorite place to shop? Victoria?s Secret

12)Have you purged? Once and thought it was a big mistake

13) If so did you regret it? See above

14) Any advice to new cders? Have fun with it!

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? As it relates to dressing? Lose weight and look better in more styles

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Not particularly

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? NA

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Multiple times in my 20s when I would make videos and chat with my girls

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That it makes me feel good.

[Jenny22]

I'm going to add age: 85

1) When did you start dressing? about age 8

2) At what age did you pick your name? 80.. I wanted one for this forum

3) why did you pick that name ? It's close to my given name, and is almost exactly what the foreign callers say.

4) Are you married, single ect? Widowed

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Wife did but hated it. Sister knows and is 1000% supportive.

6) When did you tell them? wife: 1990; sister 2018

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Wife threatened divorce if I continued. Sister, see above

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? No

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Whatever I think looks good on me. I do not dress my age!

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm TG, and wish to have experience as a woman with a man.

11) Favorite place to shop? On line and Dress for less stores.

12)Have you purged? Yes, once, 1990

13) If so did you regret it? No. It was necessary to save our marriage,

14) Any advice to new cders? Use the web as much as you can, you lucky people!

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Being the best woman I can be when out.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? My sons. Never happen.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Yes, with wife, not with sister.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Nail salon for red mani/pedi and then shopping for the rest of the morning.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I'm still the same guy.

[Lea]

1) When did you start dressing?
My mother dressed me as a girl from a very young age. She stopped when I reached school age.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
I originally picked a name when I was 25. My current wife asked if I would mine changing it. I did around 35 years of age.

3) why did you pick that name ?
My wife picked it. It is her initials.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes

6) When did you tell them?
About a year before we got married.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
We did a lot of talking and it was hard on her. But things worked out and for the first Christmas that she knew she bought me several outfits.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Accepted myself without feeling the guilt that I had. Also moisturize every day.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Business attire.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
How much this forum has helped me.

11) Favorite place to shop?
J.C. Penny tall sections and Hanes one place

12)Have you purged?
No

13) If so did you regret it?

14) Any advice to new cders?
Embrace this side of you. Explore it and enjoy it.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
I want to be as accurate as I can and experience what women experience.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I would like to tell my daughter and brother.


18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
It was hard on my wife but she got through the initial shock of it.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Halloween when my wife, my mother and myself all dressed the same and went out. We were all in black dresses and similar make up.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
That the person they like and love is does not change because of the clothing I wear.

[GracieRose]

1) When did you start dressing? Knew that I wanted to at 5 years old but didn't have access to my size clothing then (or any privacy). Did some simplistic dressing in high school. Wore a few things here and there now and then for most of my life. Really started dressing at 60, after I retired.

2) At what age did you pick your name? About 60. Had adopted the name Suzy before that

3) why did you pick that name ? Needed one for this forum

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes. She is the only one that I've told

6) When did you tell them? About 30 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling). She didn't understand (but to be honest, neither do I)

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Would have told my wife before we were married, kept my long hair from teenage years and styled it. Dressed and gone out in my 20s

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Casual

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop? Discount clothing departments

12)Have you purged? Of course

13) If so did you regret it? Of course

14) Any advice to new cders? You be you

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I would like to be honest and share this side of me with more family. However, my wife does not want anyone else to know this.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not bad. just difficult.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? I love to shop and be treated as a woman. I love to be referred to as ma'am or her etc. Hearing that puts me on cloud 9.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I'm the same person dressed or in drab and that part of me probably drives some of the behaviors that they like about me.

[NicoleRenee]

1) When did you start dressing? About age 8

2) At what age did you pick your name? 53

3) why did you pick that name ? Liked other names more but wife didn't want me to use them, they were school crushes.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? I didn't, she found out

7) How did that work out ( the telling) I paid the consequences at first. Now she is accepting and even helps

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Be upfront and honest

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Anything feminine although needs to be stylish

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I came out to the world last October

11) Favorite place to shop? Thrift stores, can find some unique things there

12)Have you purged? Many times

13) If so did you regret it?I regret it alot

14) Any advice to new cders? Communication with wife/gf. Be honest with yourself and others. Own it while dressed

15) Do you do your own makeup? Just learned enough to be out

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? acceptance as a dresser

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Came out to everyone in October

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? So far none, just a lot of looks and 1 compliment other than from wife

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Walking into Old Navy and returning something...I know pretty lame

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I am human. I have 2 personalities in my body. Both are special. Just because I am dressed as Nicole doesn't mean I want it 24/7

[JocelynJames]

I?m in I guess
1) When did you start dressing?
Around 13 yrs old
2) At what age did you pick your name?
43
3) why did you pick that name ?
Back in 7th grade, the prettiest girl in class, miles ahead of everyone. I?ve shortened it to Joss
4) Are you married, single ect?
Married
5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes
6) When did you tell them?
43
7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Good, then not so good, then better
8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I might have charged in a bit fast after I told her. I would not do that
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I enjoy a bit on the glamorous side but don?t like to be rushed
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I fear losing the desire to dress as much as I used to fight it before out to my so
11) Favorite place to shop?
Venus online, TJMaxx in store
12)Have you purged?
Never
13) If so did you regret it?
N/a
14) Any advice to new cders?
Try it all and find you....and learn what size you really are, not what you want to fit into
15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes
16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Perfect eyeliner and hourglass shape
17) Anyone you would like to tell?
No
18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
No
19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Any time the makeup, hair and outfit all clicked and I got a picture
20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
No

[Nastasha]

1) When did you start dressing? 10 or so.

2) At what age did you pick your name? Had a different name for awhile, just started using this one recently.

3) why did you pick that name ? It's a name I've always thought of as a great name.

4) Are you married, single etc? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? Right after we got engaged.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Awesome, she was glad I was confident enough about us to tell her.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? About ...?

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Love vintage, 40's, 50's 60's and 80's

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Hi, I'm just me being me.

11) Favorite place to shop? Soma and a small business I found years ago.

12)Have you purged? Yes

13) If so did you regret it? Oh yes

14) Any advice to new cders? Don't purge lol.

15) Do you do your own makeup? I don't wear much but yes, with occasional help from my wife

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To enjoy life

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No, not that I can think of.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? None worth mentioning so far.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Had a few, the best/funniest was when I was at the doctor and she had a few interns with her, spending some time with my mother in law going through clothes for donation and going swimming with my wife in a one piece.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Again, I'm just me being me. Clothes are just clothes, doesn't change me as a person.

[MonicaGirly]

1) When did you start dressing?
Throughout childhood, but I would say thirteen was when it really fabricated in a real way.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
Sixteen, but I think that was too young to pick. I have since chosen another name, but unfortunately I didnt find it until after I had already made this profile.

3) why did you pick that name ?
Monica was my favorite character on Friends! However, a few years ago my mom told me that during her pregnancy she didnt know my gender until birth and if I had been born a girl my name would have been Mariana. So from then on, thats what my CD name has been.

4) Are you married, single ect? Happily Married to the love of my life! <3

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes, but we are DADD (do), but we are working on it

6) When did you tell them?
After one year of dating. Actually 6 years two days ago.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Not Great. My Dude. Not Great.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Yes, I would tell her in a better more gentle way, and a lot sooner. As it was I told her drunk on a Monday night while we were long distance in college (Celebrating best friends 21st). Let me tell you- that is most definitely not the way to do it.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Not particularly. Nice daily looks. I like to put together realistic outfits. Other than that I love floral prints especially on sundresses

10)What is something that you would like us about you?
I love watching sailing blogs and reading

11) Favorite place to shop?
Platos closet, Target, and Forever 21

12)Have you purged?
Yes :(

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes :(

14) Any advice to new cders?
Be confident and dont be so afraid. Believe me, you care 1000x more than anybody else does. So chill and just do you.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes, I have never had anyone else to do it for me. I would love that though

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Although I know Im not successful, I try as hard as I can to pass. Its a challenge I love pursuing.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Only my wife. I love her so much and I wish I could be more open with her about it.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Just one.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
The first time I did full makeup and wig. I had a blast working on my make up and then did a little photo shoot with all of my new clothes ( I had gone shopping that day). I remember how much fun it felt to just go all out. Then I binge watched Vikings for a few hours and went to bed.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I just wish it was understood that its just something fun I love to do as an escape and to have fun and relax. It really helps me relieve stress and get into flow state. Like someone who loves getting lost in art. In the end Its just clothes and usually just for a few hours. Nothing about me is changed, Im still 100% me. I wish they knew how important it was to me, and that I miss it. And that if I could do it again, Id still be me.

[lynn.crossdresser]

[QUOTE=Di;4441398]Twenty questions

Thought we might get to know each other. No comments on anyone?s answer please just your answers . If there is something you do not want to answer or it does not pertain to you just put N/A


1) When did you start dressing?
I was about 18 years old when I discovered the wonders of female undies and luckily for me my girlfriend now wife soon pick up on my liking for them, with her encouragement they have always played an important part in our sex life. Unlike many others I never thought about fully femming up until I was about 40 years old, 20 years later I am very comfortable swapping from one to the other personas.[/I][/B]

2) At what age did you pick your name?
I picked Lynn but my Wife calls me Felicity or Flick so Flick it is, I was about 45 years old.

3) Why did you pick that name?
See above

4) Are you married, single ect?
Happily married.

5) Does your wife/girlfriend know?
Yes

6) When did you tell them?
I never had too; it was with her encouragement that Felicity naturally grew, if anything it took me longer to except my feminine wants/needs than it did her, in truth she never really had a problem with it.

7) How did that work out (the telling)
As above, working out better with each passing day.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I wished I fully dressed earlier like in my 20s but coming from a family with a very Victorian father (men go to work and the woman stay at home) I couldn?t even think about it or even admit to myself having such thoughts.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I love the smart office look, tight pencil skirts, frilly blouses and heels.

10) What is something that you would like us to know about you?
Don?t let the panties fool you; I?m only submissive to my wife.

11) Favourite place to shop?
Roman?s, ASDA or any female clothing store.

12) Have you purged?
No, I never felt the need to.

13) If so did you regret it?
N/A

14) Any advice to new cders?
There is nothing abnormal or unusual in cross-dressing, remember that you are unique just like the rest of us.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Only when I want to look like a clown, so the answer is no I don?t, I don?t really use it at all.

16) What things do you strive for (goals)?
To stay fit or even get fitter.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
No, it?s not really anyone else?s business, yes it would be good just to pop out to the shops as my fem self but it?s not going to happen without repercussions, plus I am quite content being a stay at home CD.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Not out as far as I am aware and if anyone does know it is up to them to deal with it, my family are far more important than me coming out.

19) The best time (so far) you have had dressed?
I?ve shared so many with my wife, the first time she took me away for a weekend and she had me fully femmed up, the full works for the first time in a hotel room or when I was fully made up whilst staying on a caravan site for the weekend and with her encouragement we went out for an late night stroll around the site, oh I can still feel the breeze on my stocking covered legs.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I couldn?t wish for a more understanding wife, if anything I wish that I understood more as with the why?s and why nots with it all.

[ellbee]

This seems like it may be fun & helpful... Thanks, Di! :yippee:



1) When did you start dressing?

Age 6 -- Though if I had a sister, it probably would have been much earlier. :p


2) At what age did you pick your name?

There have been a few along the way, LOL


3) why did you pick that name ?

The original one & all its derivatives? Name of an amazing (and hawt!) GG-friend/crush back in 6th grade. Loved her in all kinds of ways! Eventually realized her name just seemed to best fit my own personal "brand" of femininity, if that makes sense.


4) Are you married, single etc?

Single -- mostly by choice. Though not gonna lie: All this does sometimes hold me back a bit in various ways. :(


5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?

Some past GF's did.


6) When did you tell them?

Eventually. Voluntarily.


7) How did that work out ( the telling)

They weren't exactly thrilled, to say the least. GG-friends, on the other hand, actually *preferred* hanging out with me all dolled-up! :battingeyelashes:


8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?

Generally-speaking, to learn to accept myself better/sooner. And realistically? Probably truly takes a lifetime to master.


9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?

Have run the gamut over the decades. Mostly athleisure, these days. Though I still enjoy glamming it up sometimes, too!


10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

That I've spent waaaay too much time, money, energy & focus on all this, throughout my life. However, this is also the hand I was dealt. I didn't choose this. I suppose it could be better -- or worse. Such is life. Fortunately, it does bring me spiritual contentment & enlightenment, as weird as that may sound... So, it isn't all for naught.


11) Favorite place to shop?

Since the late '90s? The internet! :thumbsup:


12) Have you purged?

Too many times to count. :lol:


13) If so did you regret it?

On quite a few levels, not so much. Whatever, can just be the nature of the biz. (Never again, however!) Doing so tended to set me on a different, better & truer path. Unfortunately, digital photos from over the years, *poof*, no longer exist. :(


14) Any advice to new cders?

Welcome to one heck of a ride! You'll probably experience some ups & downs, and twists & turns. Triumphs & struggles. Joy & sadness. Pride & shame. It happens. That said, it is an interesting journey! Live your life & love yourself as best you can. :hugs:


15) Do you do your own makeup?

Since I was 13. :D


16) What things do you strive for (goals)?

In terms of all this? To be more brave, open & true-to-myself a bit more often.


17) Anyone you would like to tell?

Everyone who I feel needs to know, pretty much already knows, to some extent or another. And always have to take it on a case-by-case basis for people yet to come into my life.


18) Any bad reactions when coming out?

Long time ago, but 2 separate incidents (at the time: a co-worker, and neighbor-friend -- both males) each inadvertently saw me out & about on different days. Later on (while I was presenting as a guy), things escalated quickly in each case & fistfights almost ensued, no joke. They eventually backed off... I just think they finally realized they didn't want to get their ass kicked by a pissed-off "girl"! :roflmao:


19)The best time (so far) you have had dressed?

Probably one of the nights my former social circle & I used to go out clubbing/bar-hopping (including "vanilla" hetero places) -- an era where I was at the "top of my CD game," so to speak. Definitely got a good firsthand glimpse into the life of being a GG! Exhilarating. Terrifying. Awesome & surreal. Many cans of worms were opened. The grass is not greener on the other side... But it most certainly can be *quite* unexpectedly different! :eek:


20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?

To all those in a CD'er's life? It may not exactly be your cup of tea. You may even find it odd or disturbing or confusing, on some level or another. Believe me, I get it. But on the same token? This is who we are. It is a part of us. God knows why. It just is. It's probably never going to completely go away. Ever. Years later, after a long hiatus, it may suddenly pop up again out-of-the-blue, for no apparent reason. We sometimes struggle with it all -- just as you may. CD'ers have to learn to live with it as best we can... So, I suggest those in their lives wholeheartedly try to do the same. We definitely appreciate it -- and you -- so much!! :wave:

[Petra1]

1) When did you start dressing? About 8th grade.

2) At what age did you pick your name? Mid 30s, I think.

3) why did you pick that name ? Miss December 1989 is one of my favorite Playmates.

4) Are you married, single etc? Married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? Early in our relationship

7) How did that work out ( the telling) It was exciting for her, at the time.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Not sure.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Above the knee skirts and heels.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Not sure.

11) Favorite place to shop? Don't really shop. Just find things while I'm out.

12)Have you purged? Only worn out items.

13) If so did you regret it? N/A.

14) Any advice to new cders? Be yourself.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for (goals)? Having a complete transformation and going out in public beyond the late night/early morning walks down the driveway.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Not anyone I haven't already told.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Interacting in person with a GG in person.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Not sure.

[Tomi]

1) When did you start dressing?
Age 28

2) At what age did you pick your name?
I use my birth name

3) why did you pick that name ?
See 2. answere

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes

6) When did you tell them?
Couple of weeks after the first time I dressed

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
She didn't freak out, but I told her I won't do it again, which I meant then. When the urge came again a year later I told her that it's not going away and she accepted it.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
No, everything happens for a reason, and everything I did in the past is the direct consequence of something that happened before, so I'm not lingering about the past

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
The office, secretery type of dresses. Pencil skirt with matching top or short dress. For jewelry I like pearl neclases and bracelets and I have a thing for large metal wristwatches. And also I love the brides maid type short dresses for some reason.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I dress to feel relaxed and also to be turned on.


11) Favorite place to shop?
New Yorker. It's fairly cheap, has a lot of them in my city and big enough to disappear in it.

12)Have you purged?
Yes, partially about 2-3 times.

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes when I threw out my only pair of heels. I have a hard time buying heels because shoe stores don't have changing room I don't have the confidence to just try them out and not care about other opinion

14) Any advice to new cders?
Yes, it is possible to just like to dress without being gay or TG. If you are afraid of it, don't. If you are haven't considered yourself gay or TG up until this point, chances are you won't in the future as well.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
I don't do makeup at all.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
It would be nice to come out of our DADT situation with my wife and if sometimes I could go out dressed to a quite place (for example a coffeeshop) and just be there without fear or embarassment

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
One of my best friends, but since he comes over to our house quite often and is pretty close to my wife too I don't want my wife to feel weird knowing that he knows it too.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
No. I came out to my wife and to one of my friends. Both were understanding.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Once my wife were out of town for a couple of days with our daughter so it was no chance to come home unannounced. I could be dressed as long as I wanted careless. I remember one night I made myself a Mojito and watched a movie.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
Know I think I explained it pretty well when I came out.

[abby054]

1) When did you start dressing? Age 9. Full outfit for Halloween. My Mum dressed me up at my request.

2) At what age did you pick your name? Age 42.

3) why did you pick that name ? It is my wife?s nickname for me in male mode. It is the name of the source of the monster?s brain in the Mel Brooks movie, Young Frankenstein. For my 55th birthday, my daughter bought me a T-shirt with my name on the front side and Young Frankenstein logo on the back.

4) Are you married, single etc? Married 43 years as I write this.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? Year 3 of our marriage

7) How did that work out ( the telling). Mt. St. Helens was a milder reaction and it occurred the same year.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would not tell her. I was in the Army. I can keep a secret and I have several that she will never know.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Business and social casual, but the more dressy side of blending into the occasion. I go for the male side of the same style when in male mode. Skirts whenever reasonable. If the look calls for denim, I usually go for a jeans skirt. I shop with the GGs, getting many of my clothes at Macy?s and their boutique and on line competitors.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop? The nicer sides of Macy?s and their boutique and on line competitors.

12)Have you purged? Yes, once.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes. I will not do it again. If I ever get to that emotional state again, I will use the back side of the attic, not the trash bin.

14) Any advice to new cders?

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes, always. I have done only one makeover so far. That was part of a Glamour Shots photo shoot long ago.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To look realistic and blend in, but better dressed for the occasion than most. That goes for both femme and male modes.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Nope. I tried that once. It did not go well.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Yes. I will not do that again.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? There have been many. Oktoberfest stands out among the more recent. The dress and accessories and the song and dance. I never drink but I have a better time than most who do and that is saying something at Oktoberfests.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I do it for fun, to enjoy, to relax, and to escape.

[BrendaPDX]

Thanks for the twenty questions, this will be fun

1) When did you start dressing? In my sophomore year in high school.

2) At what age did you pick your name? When I joined this forum 5/30/2016

3) why did you pick that name ? Just a nice person I once knew from my childhood

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? DADT

6) When did you tell them? I left too many clues

7) How did that work out ( the telling). DADT

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? No

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Girl next door look.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? It's all in my posts:)

11) Favorite place to shop? Thrift stores. Too scared to go to women's clothing stores, but given what I have read here I might try it sometime.

12)Have you purged? Yes, once. Never again!

13) If so did you regret it? Yes

14) Any advice to new cders? Times are changing, enjoy this time in your life.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To blend, not over the top, just pretty.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Nope.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? NA

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Being complemented while buying coffee

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? NA

Thanks for the personal reflection moment:)

[Aunt Kelly]

1) When did you start dressing? Age 5 or 6

2) At what age did you pick your name? 59

3) why did you pick that name ? It's the standard for a sweet Irish colleen, of course.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? As soon as we started dating seriously.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Still together, even after we both realized that I am TS.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Started therapy sooner.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Oh my, yes. Something along these lines... 312049

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? It's pretty much all in my profile.

11) Favorite place to shop? Amazon

12)Have you purged? Yes, but not in the last thirty years or so.

13) If so did you regret it? Not really. It's a ready-made excuse to go shopping.

14) Any advice to new cders? Accept yourself. You are unique but definitely not abnormal.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Transition

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Not particularly, though that will be unavoidable eventually.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? None worth mentioning.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? That's a little to personal. Next question. :)

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Not for those that know. They pretty much get it.

[BTWimRobin]

1) When did you start dressing? Almost one year ago ? Officially at 57 although I?ve had the desire my whole life.

2) At what age did you pick your name? At 57

3) why did you pick that name ? Robin was a girl in middle school. I loved how she did her make up. Especially how she wore mascara. I wanted to look like her

4) Are you married, single ect? married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes, although I?m not sure she knows to what extent.

6) When did you tell them? Once I realized I needed to start dressing. I did not want to hide it from her.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Okay, I guess. She was pretty surprised.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Yes, I probably would have changed my choice of words when I came out to her.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? So far it?s casual everyday wear. Leggings, jeans, tunic tops.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? When I started dressing, I unconsciously stopped biting my nails. Growing them out has become my new obsession.

11) Favorite place to shop? Lane Bryant and Torrid although I wish they had a discrete shipping option.

12)Have you purged? No

13) If so did you regret it? N/A

14) Any advice to new cders? Be upfront and honest with both yourself and your SO. Take it slow and have fun.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Just mascara, lip liner, lipstick and a brow pencil.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be a feminine version of myself.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? There?s a woman I work with who I almost came out to.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? I?ve only come out to my wife and my aunt. My wife was surprised and my aunt wasn?t surprised at all and she was happy for me. So, far no bad reactons.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? My wife was away for a couple of weeks in December. I was able to dress all the time.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I wish my wife truly understood that dressing has not changed me as a person. This is something I need to do for my personal sanity. I am still the man she married and wearing a dress does not change the love I have for her.

[jacques]

1) When did you start dressing? 8

2) At what age did you pick your name? 50

3) why did you pick that name ? a variation on J'accuse (I accuse the world of bigotry)

4) Are you married, single etc? married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? yes

6) When did you tell them? aged 23

7) How did that work out ( the telling) - wife said "it's only clothes!"

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? would like more confidence

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? younger than my true age

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? said a lot already

11) Favorite place to shop? New Look

12)Have you purged? partly in the past

13) If so did you regret it? yes

14) Any advice to new cders? - enjoy yourself, you are doing nothing wrong

15) Do you do your own makeup? yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? no goals

17) Anyone you would like to tell? it is private but not secret

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? not "out"

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? that will be tomorrow

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? everything

[Cheryl T]

Twenty questions


1) When did you start dressing?
I was 5 or 6 when I first wore my mother's panties then bra

2) At what age did you pick your name?
I've had several over the years but my real name was chosen when I finally decided to come out to my wife fully. I was 49.

3) why did you pick that name ?
I was adamant that it would not be some female variation of a common male name. I wanted it to be feminine and distinct. I wanted it to be me.
It was also a slight homage to my very first crush.

4) Are you married, single etc?
Very happily married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes, I was going crazy hiding from everyone and finally told her everything.

6) When did you tell them?
Just over 20 years ago.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
It involved many tears, heart aches, long nights talking, and the most nervous night of my life when I dressed fully for her for the first time.
It took time, but she is fully understanding and accepting.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have released myself from all the secrecy and guilt at a much younger age and come out when I was in college.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I love classic styles. I prefer skirts and blouses for the variety and flexibility they give my wardrobe and for the ease of which I can better fit my figure. As I've matured my style has become what some
might call average and that's just fine. I'm happy being me and just being "one of the girls". I'm just as comfortable in jeans and a top as in a beautiful gown or dress and I feel just as much ME no
matter what I'm wearing and that's what I've always wanted.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I'm a little lonely now that we've retired. Though I dress nearly full time now I crave others to share what I've learned. Unfortunately we seem to have moved to an area without many like me and I
haven't been able to find any groups or singles within a reasonable distance to make new friends.

11) Favorite place to shop?
Lord & Taylor for one. They have some great deals on closeouts and I'm a bit "cheap"...lol. I also like getting deals on eBay. It's been a while since I've gone clothes shopping as I have a fairly extensive
wardrobe and am currently trying to wear everything just to make sure I still like what I have and that it all still fits with all this quarantine business.

12)Have you purged?
Of course, who hasn't? I've done it 4 or 5 times, not since I came out to my wife and never again.

13) If so did you regret it?
Of course, I spent a good deal of money on those things and just threw away so many lovely dresses and shoes and lingerie. It hurts just to think about it.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Find a support group. Meet others and talk, share and learn. It will help you grow and give you more self-confidence. It will also help take away those feeling of guilt and shame that many of us bear.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes. I had my wife do it once an age ago for Halloween. I've had a few makeovers by professionals, but now I simply do my own. I know how I want to appear to the world and I've developed enough
skill to be able to do it myself. Besides, I just love the process. Seeing the change is rewarding and also emotionally satisfying.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
I just want to be me. Not sure where this is leading, but I'm enjoying the journey now that I have accepted myself.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Wish my mom was still alive and that I could tell her. I think she would accept me and that would be an enormous emotional lift.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Yes, I was very close to someone a lifetime ago and when I told her she turned away and it ended something beautiful.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Some 14 years ago the wife and I took a "girls only" vacation. We traveled around New England for a week as girlfriends. I was able to spend the entire week dressed. We went everywhere, to National
Parks, shopping, to dinner, museums and a tour of Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream factory. It was nerve wracking at first but by day 3 that all passed and the trip gave me such confidence in myself.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
Everything !! I wished they understood that I was chosen. I did not select this for myself. I'm not gay as they would think. I'm not crazy or a freak. I'm just someone who has this femininity inside that
NEEDS expression and this is the way I do that.
I wish they could understand that the qualities they see in me, the understanding, the caring, the sensitivity all are derived from my femininity. I'm not trying to compete with or outdo anyone. I'm not
trying compensate for anything. I'm just trying to be me in what I feel is my best form.

[Stephanie Julianna]

1) When did you start dressing? 7

2) At what age did you pick your name? 35

3) why did you pick that name ? A girlfriend said I looked just like a girl she grew up with and it suited me. Julianna is a variation on my middle name and my Dad's who I loved and miss dearly.

4) Are you married, single etc? married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? yes

6) When did you tell them? in 1968 when we were in our first year of dating.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) - wife said "Are you gay?!"

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have transitioned

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I dress to pass and still show some class being age appropriate.
.
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? You already know my story and if you don't read my threads. It's all out in the open

11) Favorite place to shop? Nordsrom's Closet

12)Have you purged? How old are you? Before you were born and many times after that.

13) If so did you regret it? Is that a question?

14) Any advice to new cders? - Love yourself. Make no apologies. Listen to your heart and be brave.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Actually had a formal education in doing my own and then taught others.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To always pass and look genuine.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I'd love to tell my former boss and friend. She was an Administrator at a facility where I was an Infection Control Nurse.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Wife is not thrilled. Daughters OK but want it kept under wraps since they had kids. Son in denial.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Read my threads. 40 years of wonderful experiences.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I have always been the same loving person they have always known and much of that is because of my dominant feminine side.

[BarbDriscoll]

1) When did you start dressing? 10 or 11

2) At what age did you pick your name? 48

3) why did you pick that name ? I was about to play a female character in a computer game and I typed in the name of my first girlfriend. I really liked her style, so I have kept using that same name in a lot of different contexts.

4) Are you married, single etc? single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? N/A

6) When did you tell them? N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling)? N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have gotten a wig and a lot more clothes when I was in my 20's or 30's. I think I could have passed then. Now, no way. Of course it was a different era and there were consequences back then

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I tend to dress age inappropriately. I'm not going out and I want to see what I want to see
.
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I do genealogy as a hobby

11) Favorite place to shop? Payless (RIP), KMart (RIP), Target, online

12)Have you purged? Nope, much too cheap to do anything like that

13) If so did you regret it? N/A

14) Any advice to new cders? If you're young, try lots of things now. You won't look this good forever.

15) Do you do your own makeup? I don't wear makeup a lot, but when I do I do it myself. Would love to see what somebody who knows what they are doing could do.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To look as authentic as I can

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I have a best friend who knows everything there is to know about me, except this

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? The first time I put on a wig and saw Barbara looking back at me from the mirror

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? This has been a part of me almost all of my life. It's something that helped shape the person you know

[LilSissyStevie]

1) When did you start dressing? About 4 or 5

2) At what age did you pick your name? My parents picked it. I just added the little sissy part although they called me that, too.

3) why did you pick that name ? That's my fantasy.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? I told my current wife that I wanted to try it several years into our marriage. I was in my 40s. I hadn't dressed for many years before that so the subject never came up.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She thought it would be good kinky fun. It was!

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I wouldn't have fretted so much about whether it meant I was gay or trans.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I call it neo-Rococo

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Can't think of a thing.

11) Favorite place to shop? Wherever has what I want at the best price.

12)Have you purged? Yes

13) If so did you regret it? Not really. I didn't have much stuff at the time.

14) Any advice to new cders? Find something more productive to do with your time.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? I've pretty much done it all.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? My wife laughed hysterically the first time she saw me fully dressed but that was kind of a turn on.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Sorry, forum rules y'know.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? She doesn't have to fully understand it as long as she's willing to put up with it.

[HelpMe,Rhonda]

1) When did you start dressing? Pre-puberty, not sure when

2) At what age did you pick your name? Last year, not giving my age

3) why did you pick that name ? Signing up for various sites, thought my ear might recognize it somewhat in real life

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Not as far as I know

6) When did you tell them?
7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Probably would have brought it up before getting serious with spouse

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Below the knee dresses with some chest exposure seems to be the theme

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? My flickr?

11) Favorite place to shop? Macy's

12)Have you purged? Never completely

13) If so did you regret it? N/A

14) Any advice to new cders? Get a makeover before you get any older!

15) Do you do your own makeup? Not recently, but virtually yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Actual makeup again? Hips!

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Yes

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Boys Will Be Girls dressing service

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? It seems to be something that you're born with and really isn't a reflection on other parts of your life

[MonicaPVD]

1) When did you start dressing? Around age 8 as far as I can recall.

2) At what age did you pick your name? Mid 20s.

3) why did you pick that name? To honor a psycho ex-girlfriend.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Not as far as I know.

6) When did you tell them? N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Would have transitioned young.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Skinny jeans and stilettos.

10) What is something that you would like us to know about you? I look great in skinny jeans and stilettos.

11) Favorite place to shop? Fashion Nova.

12)Have you purged? A thousand times.

13) If so did you regret it? About 4-6 weeks later, yes. Profoundly.

14) Any advice to new cders? Find a way to explore the real world, to breath fresh air when dressed.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes, and I buy mostly cheap dollar store makeup because it comes off much easier than the quality stuff.

16) What things do you strive for (goals)
To be regarded as just another woman on the street.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Everyone and no one!

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

19)The best time (so far) you have had dressed? A magical night on the town in Boston.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? It's as much a part of me as the way that I walk and talk.

[CindyR]

1) When did you start dressing? I think it was around 6

2) At what age did you pick your name? 40

3) why did you pick that name ? A woman at the time who i liked her and her style, although i still like other names too.

4) Are you married, single ect? Singles

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? never told any of them, came close with one girl

6) When did you tell them?NA

7) How did that work out ( the telling). NA

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I wish I could go back in time and explain acceptance top my younger self

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I like as lot of style, frankly still getting to know most, lately I stated watching video clips on pinterest, amazed at what girls can put together.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Not really. Nothing special

11) Favorite place to shop?
I love the people on this site, your posts encourage me. I wish I could contribute more, but it is hard to write how I feel most times.

12)Have you purged? Yes twice

13) If so did you regret it? I do regret it, today it seems ridiculous to do so.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Relax...you are in good company, take one day at a time, and read the forums, a lot of good advice out there...you are not alone.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? I want to dress more, and strive to get better at makeup

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Sometimes I would like to tell my sister, but then wonder what the point would be.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
NA, but I have heard negative reactions to crossdressing from people around me, even from girls that claim they are TG friendly.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Haven't gone out dressed, but have had some really proud moments relaxing at home with some great makieup/style combinations.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I often think about how my family and friends would react...basically I would just want them to accept me for who I am, the same person I have always been..but more chic and stylish :P

[Nikki.]

1) When did you start dressing? I started wearing my mom?s clothes when I was around 5.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 46.

3) why did you pick that name ? I joined a support group and they suggested a fem name. There was a girl in college named nikki and i kinda liked the name.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? 1991. A couple months into dating. Then 4 years ago I was trans.

7) How did that work out ( the telling). She didn?t care in 1991, but that was CD. I wasn?t honest with myself or her. In 2016 it was a lot more problematic.?, but we worked it out.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I find it pointless to reflect back on what could have been. I would have taken medication to prevent hair loss earlier.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Pin up, Mod, maybe a touch of goth.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? n/a

11) Favorite place to shop? Nordstrom because they carry shoes in size 13. Not really my budget though. old navy for regular gal stuff.

12)Have you purged? yep

13) If so did you regret it? yep

14) Any advice to new cders? don?t be sexist or misogynistic. don?t assume because you like wearing women?s clothing you have ANY insight into being a woman, a woman?s experience in the world or because you?re wearing women?s clothing you?re entitled to women?s spaces or experiences. I?m not talking about using a women?s restroom when you?re presenting female and you have to pee and there?s no gender neutral bathroom. take care of the biological needs and dont be weird about being there or do weird stuff in the bathroom. be weird elsewhere.

15) Do you do your own makeup? yep

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? to live honestly to myself and my loved ones, including my identity as a trans-femme person; enby if you prefer. work in progress. FFS in september but I?m going to push it out till april 2021.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I?m out to everyone i care about.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not really. some people clearly don?t get it and still equate being trans with a sexual paraphillia. Education education education.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Hmmm, one night AllieSF and I had an amazing dinner and met a married couple who were fabulous and engaging and supportive.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I?m not a cd so i don?t call wearing feminine clothes ?dressing?. I guess I?m mostly the same person they?ve always known, except before I was hiding and repressing a big part of my personality.

[mbmeen12]

1) When did you start dressing? 7-8 years old as to most us, I found my mothers and sisters nylons etc.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 42 ish

3) why did you pick that name ? My ex and I researched Irish female names

4) Are you married, single ect? Living with my gf.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? Via phone prior to third date

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Great and in-turn she told me her brother fully transitioned

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? No because I had to learn as I go.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Retro looks sexy to me...

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Front line/ first responder

11) Favorite place to shop? Ebay

12)Have you purged? No

13) If so did you regret it? N/A

14) Any advice to new cders? Take it slow and read up...

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Retire and to able to post my face on my avatar here.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Going to Trevis in Fairfield Ct with my gurlfriend Sammi

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? N/A they dont know...

[Charla]

1) When did you start dressing? When I was 6 years old, I found some of my sister?s clothes and tried them on.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 45

3) why did you pick that name ? It?s the feminine version of my male name.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes, coming out to her was a HUGE relief.

6) When did you tell them? Over Thanksgiving holiday in 2019.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)Lots of tears, lots of reading to help her understand, joint counseling, but in the end - acceptance.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have never gotten married and transitioned much earlier.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Professional and casual.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I still struggle with self acceptance.

11) Favorite place to shop? Online, Amazon, Leading Lady.

12)Have you purged? Many times!

13) If so did you regret it? Yes, every time.

14) Any advice to new cders? Realize who you are and follow your dream.

15) Do you do your own makeup? No, still learning.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Weight loss, longer hair, female voice.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Everyone

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Just my wife initially

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Years ago I dressed and went to an all-women coffee club. I felt welcomed and went back three more times. Getting full makeovers by Brooke and Vanity was great fun too.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? My wife doesn?t care that I dress around the house, so no issues there.

[Angela Marie]

1) When did you start dressing? Around 7 or 8. Began wearing my mothers tights.

2) At what age did you pick your name? Around 50.

3) why did you pick that name ? I like the name and I think I look like an Angela lol.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes.

6) When did you tell them? On our 2nd or third date.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She accepted it. The first time I had a professional makeover she was stunned by how good I looked. She generally does not want to see me dressed but is otherwise accepting. We will talk and kid about it and she often will pick out clothes for me.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have been more honest with myself regarding my trans nature

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I love leggings and tight fitting clothes. I'm pretty small for a guy, 5ft 6 140-145. I'm 65 going on 66 and I think I can still pull it off.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Nothing really lol. By all outward appearances I'm just a regular person.

11) Favorite place to shop? Macy's, Amazon, MAC, Sephora.

12)Have you purged? Yes twice.

13) If so did you regret it? Absolutely. I discarded many beautiful clothes and wigs. Never again.

14) Any advice to new cders? Be honest with yourself and your feelings. It will take time. Just try to be a good, understanding person.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? A more feminine voice and feminine mannerisms. I have been told I am good at both but I keep trying to improve.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Yes. A lot of people. But I have to balance that with the potential reactions and I have to take that into account. It's not always just about me.


18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? After some professional makeovers.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Why I do this and how good it makes me feel to express my feminine side.

[Sarah Doepner]

Twenty questions

Thought we might get to know each other. No comments on anyone?s answer please just your answers . If there is something you do not want to answer or it does not pertain to you just put N/A


1) When did you start dressing? I was about 12 years old the first time I had the chance. I would have dressed earlier if possible, I think.

2) At what age did you pick your name? In my mid-late 40's

3) why did you pick that name ? I needed a name for my on-line presence. I felt Sarah was a calm and stable name. I added my last name about 5 years later.

4) Are you married, single ect? I was married for about 40 years. I'm widowed now and living alone

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? She did

6) When did you tell them? right after she caught me, about 12 years before her death

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She did her research, found my things and decided the things my feminine side added to our relationship were a bonus and what she loved about me.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Lots. Probably a lot more honesty earlier, but I'm not sure how that would work out.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Office, casual, comfortable age and situation appropriate has been my goal so I could try to blend in.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I've very deliberate, almost to the point of being stationary at times. Regardless I'm still moving forward.

11) Favorite place to shop? I love thrift stores. They are full of options that allow me to make mistakes without breaking the budget.

12)Have you purged? Never

13) If so did you regret it? I would have

14) Any advice to new cders? Go your own pace, it's not a competition. If you have Gender Dysphoria it will play the long game while you play the short one. Don't be surprised as your needs change over time.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? I'm just trying to be happy. I'm 70 years old and it seems I've forgotten how.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Yes, the one person who I fear the most. I realize I've given him a lot of unearned power over my life, it's not right.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? So far, none. A little silence from a couple of people has been the worst so far.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Too many to choose from; Meeting others for the first time and feeling a sense of community; Being in a group of over 100 others for a photo op and enjoying the attention from those watching us; meeting a new CD who is being with others for the first time and seeing their joy; or yesterday unloading the back of my car from a grocery trip and having the neighbor call out "Hey Sarah, when do you usually turn your lawn sprinklers system on?"

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I held back for years thinking it would make their lives easier, now it's time for me to see where it takes me.

[stephaniestilley]

1) I secretly wore a skirt once when I was 8 or 9
2) 22
3) It's the feminine version of my given name
4) Single
5) See above
6) I haven't experienced that quite yet
7)See above
8) I could have made some better outfit choices when I started dressing lol
9) I like clothes from the 60s-70s
10) I'm very shy
11) Goodwill
12) Yes
13) Not at all, I had some horrendous clothes at one point
14) You'd be surprised at how accepting younger people are of trans individuals
15) I don't like makeup at all
16) Confidence
17) I'd like to tell some of my old GG friends that I went to school with, I know they'd be delighted to know
18) Some of my guy friends found it a little bit strange
19) Spending ladies time with my roommate and her GG friends, we had a pastime of sewing things in our underwear lol
20) It's not a sexual thing for me

[lisalove]

1. I was 5 years old when I found my first pair of panties while walking to school. My dressing just progressed from there. At 18 and moved out on my own is when I started dressing full time.
2. I don't know.it was after I got my 1st computer, and joined all the CD sites I could find, and people were asking what my she name is.
3. Lisa is the name of the girl I had a crush on in high school, she would never go out with me no matter how many times I asked her out. MAries in my Grand Mother's name, she was the only family member besides my brother and sister, to accept me for who I am.
4. Single, never wanted to be married.
5. Every woman I ever dated knew. I even met 1 on a CD site.
6. Since all I own and wear is women's clothes, They'll know on the 1st date, if they knew what they were looking at, they would know they were women's clothes, I would tell them i am a dresser by way of bringing up different life styles etc. to judge how open minded they are. If they seem open minded enough, I tell them about me. If they can't accept it, I rather know before anything serious develops.
7. My relationships have lasted for quite some time, including a year or more. Something else has come between us and broken the relationships.
8.Just tried to stay thin, and keep a more feminine figure.
9. My style is casual, everyday clothes.
10. I think I have put everything about me, out there for everyone to see.
11. Thrift stores and Ebay are my favorite places to shop. I like church garage sales and clearance racks too.
12.NEVER
13.N/A
14. Accept yourself, be yourself. And never ever purge. Just put it away, out of site, out of mind, you won't regret that, but you will regret purging.
15.Yes
16. Just blend in.
17. Nope, I suspect my friend knows, but I will never bring it up. His Bro in law is a CD, and he saw him dressed, it was not a pretty site how my friend reacted. So better off not knowing if he knows or not. I really don't care to know either.
18. Nope.
19. I can't tell details here on a family site, but it involves a beautiful Mexican woman, a white lace corset at a thrift store, and what happened at her house.
20. That I am me, no matter how I dress.

[Cynthia_0101]

1) When did you start dressing? I was around 7 or 8

2) At what age did you pick your name? Used Anastasia before finally going with Cynthia around 21 or 22

3) why did you pick that name? At the time it was not a very common name

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes she does

6) When did you tell them? About 5 monts into dating

7) How did that work out ( the telling) It was hard but I knew if we were going to keep dating it was something I had to do.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have started learning makeup skills a lot earlier.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? The Classics. Long dresses and skits with nice tops.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I am a huge geek

11) Favorite place to shop? Addition Elle or Penningtons

12)Have you purged? Never

13) If so did you regret it?

14) Any advice to new cders? Take your time, don't rush into anything and have fun.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals)? I am always trying to better my look.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I think everyone that needs to know does at this point.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Only about 5 people know and none really reacted badly about it, just more spurised.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I actually left the house to take some pictures.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I think my wife has heard it all over the years and has a pretty good understanding at this point.

[marlacd]

1) When did you start dressing? Age 12

2) At what age did you pick your name? Age...... 45 (I think)

3) why did you pick that name ? I admired Morgan Fairchild. One of her careture names was Marla.

4) Are you married, single ect? single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Did know, now I'm divorced

6) When did you tell them? When I goofed, I accidentally left some of my stash out and she found it.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Very poorly.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I'd have never married.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Just what strikes me as interesting looking

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

Ohhh, shoot, Uhh, ok, I've written almost three books based on crossdressing. All are just fiction novels that went from just short stories, to full blown novels that had me doing the complete change. None are finished, but one would take you about a week to read. What's really something to think about- My book files combined, is about 16 megs, all done with two finger typing.

11) Favorite place to shop? Ebay and Amazon.


12)Have you purged? Nope, never.

13) If so did you regret it?

14) Any advice to new cders? Learn your sizes.


15) Do you do your own makeup? Oh yes.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Just to enjoy myself.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Not really.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? My ex. that was a huge fiasco.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Too many to count.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Since I've heard them say many negative things about it, none know, or really want to know. I see no valid reason why they should know.

[Michelle Crossfire]

1) When did you start dressing? Just before I joined this website back in 2010 would be my best guess

2) At what age did you pick your name? When I joined this website. that would make me around 42

3) why did you pick that name ? Cross dresser and my job

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? I don't exactly remember how or when I did

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Mixed reactions

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have never married my first ex wife. that has nothing to do with dressing, I just wouldn't do it again

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Skirts

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Not sure what to say here

11) Favorite place to shop? No particular place. JC Penney's, Dillard's, Burlington, Roses, Gabe's

12)Have you purged? not completely

13) If so did you regret it? not really. Closet got too full

14) Any advice to new cders? Be yourself and relax. Easier said that done. If you are going to do it, do it right. Don't half ass it

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Get better at presentation. I'm not exactly a small person

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No. Most of my family is already gone, so there is no one to really tell

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? I don't tell most people, so no

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? I have had quite a few times

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Why I do it. Where and When. Buying stuff and never getting a chance to wear it, rather frustrating. I would also like it if my wife was more participatory, as I enjoy her company and fashion sense.

[MichaelM]

1) When did you start dressing?

7 or so.
Restarted as an adult only 2 years ago.

2) At what age did you pick your name?

N/A.

3) why did you pick that name ?

N/A.

4) Are you married, single ect?

Married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?

No.

6) When did you tell them?

N/A.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)

N/A.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?

N/A.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?

Hosiery and lingerie.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

N/A.

11) Favorite place to shop?

I don't like shopping. Somewhere I can use self service or will deliver to Amazon locker.

12)Have you purged?

Yes when younger.

13) If so did you regret it?

Yes. Had I have known that my feelings would come back later in life I may have continued and been more open to my wife. Plus I've missed a good part of my life where I've not CD'd.

14) Any advice to new cders?

Be honest with yourself and what you like and don't like.

15) Do you do your own makeup?

No.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?

Just to be able to underdress freely and my wife knowing and accepting. Also to be able to shave my legs.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?

My wife.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?

Almost certainly will be terrible which is why I haven't.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?

All the time I'm underdressed.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?

I don't want them to know. It's a personal thing just for me.

[Paulie Birmingham]

1) When did you start dressing
10ish

2) At what age did you pick your name?
When I joined here

3) why did you pick that name ?
A girl used to call me thsta

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married


5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yed

6) When did you tell them?
She knew I wore psnties but found a stash

7) How did that work out ( the telling)pretty good after a few talks. I'm a pretty mild CD compared to most here

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
No

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Lingerie and fetish

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I'm a miad who doesn't really like dresses. No desire to go further

11) Favorite place to shop?Macy's. Kohl's Nordstrom

12)Have you purged?no

13) If so did you regret it?

14) Any advice to new cders?this doesn't have to end up with HRT. Take as far as you want

15) Do you do your own makeup?na

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?fun

17) Anyone you would like to tell?no

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?little

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?involved lots of sex

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? She know understands I do this for fun, not to transition

[DonnaJ]

1) When did you start dressing? My first experience with pantyhose is one of my earliest memories. I have no idea why I decided to try putting them on, but I did, and I really liked it. So it began.

2) At what age did you pick your name? Sometime in my late 20s.

3) why did you pick that name? The name picked me. It is a variation of how I am most commonly addressed by people who don’t correctly remember my given name. I can think of more exciting names, but Donna feels right.

4) Are you married, single etc.? Married ~25 yrs.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? She knows I have a history of crossdressing (more on this below)

6) When did you tell them? A few months into our relationship.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Initially she was tolerant. I think at that point her attitude was more like you can wear what you want. As time went by, she became gradually less supportive. It’s complicated. We have been DADT for about the last 10 years.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I settled for an SO who didn’t object. Looking back, I wish I had found one that was more willing to brace all that I am.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I love to show my legs in pantyhose and heeled sandals. These days I have been pleasantly surprised by how much I like wearing age-appropriate dresses.

10) What is something that you would like us to know about you? The part of me that is not Donna is a complete geek. I am prone to overanalyze; I once developed a quantitative choice model to try to optimize my shoe collection. That is bound to show through. If I revert to my nerdular mode, feel free to give me a gentle nudge and I’ll snap out of it.

11) Favorite place to shop? Of all places, I have been doing really well ordering online from JCPenney. The clothes are pretty and, for me, they run true to size.

12) Have you purged? Yes, on several occasions.

13) If so did you regret it? There are a few items of clothing I wish I still had. I regret it more in principle. When I have purged it has been in the interest of improving my relationship with my wife. I have concluded that it’s not effective. When my wife gets bitter about my crossdressing and I stop, she finds something else to be bitter about. It seems to make no real difference to my wife, but Donna will be much happier if she can manage her wardrobe on her own terms - so Donna’s suitcase is here to stay.

14) Any advice to new cders? Find people who are supportive as soon as you can. It’s so much easier in 2020 than it was in 1985. There is nothing to lose and everything to gain.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Up until this week, I really hadn’t been interested in doing makeup period. Now that I have seen so many beautiful women here, I really want to try.

16) What things do you strive for (goals)? To be able to be myself at all times, not having to conform to anyone else’s expectations, and to have a peaceful life.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No (more on this in #18)

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? My immediate family knows. The MO seems to be let’s not talk about it and we can all forget it every happened.

19) The best time (so far) you have had dressed? The one time I was able to make love to my wife as Donna.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I wish you would give Donna a fair chance - if you got to know her, you might like her.

[Christina89]

1) When did you start dressing?
12 or 13

2) At what age did you pick your name?
20 or 21

3) why did you pick that name ?
It's what my name would have been if I was born a female

4) Are you married, single ect?
Single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
N/A

6) When did you tell them?
N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Coming out sooner to a few people in my life

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Dresses

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I'm happy I found this place

11) Favorite place to shop?
Lanebryant.com

12)Have you purged?
Yes

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes I do

14) Any advice to new cders?
Be true to yourself

15) Do you do your own makeup?
No.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To go out in public officially for the first time

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
A few.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
My mother. She wasn't happy

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
N/A

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
That I am still me and not some freak

[April Rose]

1) When did you start dressing? I don't remember exactly. I was aware of wanting to at my first memory.
2) At what age did you pick your name? About ten years ago to join a forum.

3) why did you pick that name ? April is my birth month. I like Roses.

4) Are you married, single ect? married over 40 yrs.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes.

6) When did you tell them? within 3 mo. of the start of the relationship.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Quite well.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? There were a few pink fog situations I would have skipped.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Classically feminine styles, sort of a hip older housewife vibe.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I am not on a track to transition, but there is more to it than just cross dressing. My femininity is important to me.
11) Favorite place to shop? Still mourning for Dress Barn

12)Have you purged? More than once.

13) If so did you regret it? All but once. Once it was done with consideration and fore thought and for a reason. I didn't dress for several years after, and when I started again, I didn't feel guilty about it.
14) Any advice to new cders? You are not alone. All of this will go more smoothly and you enjoy yourself more if you make contact with a support group, or others in the transgender spectrum.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes, when I wear it.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be a more loving, nurturing and wise person.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Everyone who really needs to know, knows. BUT I sometimes struggle with the feeling that I might be happier if I just told everyone. Not being fulltime makes that an awkward proposituion for all concerned.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Really just an afternoon I spent doing embroidery on my front porch in my favorite dress.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? The ones closest to me DO seem to understand.

[Rhonda Darling]

Great questions.

1) When did you start dressing?
I remember wanting breasts and to dress in girl clothes as early as 5 or 6. While in elementary school I started trying on Mom?s clothes (in secret, of course).

2) At what age did you pick your name?
Late 50?s.

3) why did you pick that name ?
I needed a screen name and chose ?Rhonda Girl? (Ron, ?da girl). Later changed to Rhonda Darling (a bit more usable publicly) when I joined this forum.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes.

6) When did you tell them?
First wife of 34 years never knew (AFAIK). When she passed away I vowed to not go into another relationship w/o the full knowledge,and acceptance by that person. Now with a wonderful spouse - she?s known for 10 years and we?re coming up on 5 years married.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Excellent (after she did her research / due diligence.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I wish I had been strong enough to have told my first wife.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I want to look like a normal, age appropriately dressed, woman with good taste in clothes. I want to blend.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
If I knew at 20 what I know now, I?d have transitioned and lived my life as a woman.

11) Favorite place to shop?
Kohl?s / Macy?s

12)Have you purged?
A couple of times, but not in 25 or so years.

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes, absolutely.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Please learn a little of the history of CD / TG / TS and learn from us older gals what we had to deal with from society.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Absolutely.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Learning my way around my new state of N.C., where I?ve retired to, as N.C. is a bit less accepting than Washington DC was.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Everyone in my life so I could fully live life as Rhonda

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Only out to a few people.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Going out with a few other CDs and going to restaurants, bars, and generally out and about with the muggles. Also, love just doing everyday errands and blending in well.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
Wife knows this is not a choice, or hobby, or something that will fade away. Wish everyone else in my life knew that.

[shellybme]

1. 13
2.19
3. A crush
4. m
5.yes
6. When got serious
7. OK but DADT
8. No
9. No
10. NA
11. Torrid
12. Yeah several times
13. Of course.
14. Do not purge! hide it.
15. Yeah
16. NA
17. Yeah
19. No but only one person knows
19. Halloween party.
20. That I cant change who I am and its not a phase.

[MysteryWoman]

1) When did you start dressing? 11 or 12

2) At what age did you pick your name? I don't really use a name

3) why did you pick that name ? N/A

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? She discovered it

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Better than I expected, but it resulted in DADT

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have come out to my wife sooner

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I like tiered dresses. They do wonders for my figure

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? That I have 4 beautiful daughters

11) Favorite place to shop? Amazon, Secrets in Lace

12)Have you purged? Many, many times

13) If so did you regret it? Of course

14) Any advice to new cders? Embrace it!

15) Do you do your own makeup? Rarely. I'm terrible at it

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? With regard to CDing, nothing in particular

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? My wife was remarkably accepting, in spite of her DADT posture

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Every time I look in the mirror

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I'd love it if they viewed it as a hobby

[jazzysherry]

1) When did you start dressing? 11

2) At what age did you pick your name? About 35

3) why did you pick that name ? Used one part of name after a TV news personality I respect and the other after a favorite actress

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? About a year before she moved in with me

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Pretty rough but a level of acceptance (not support) came and a DADT situation

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Telling people sooner

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Style is based on situation - I dress to blend in from ath-leisure wear through to glam and sparkles1

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Sherry once met 'Paige' (Joely Fisher) from the TV sitcom Ellen

11) Favorite place to shop? Wolford

12)Have you purged? A few times.........

13) If so did you regret it? Yes, my bank balance did too but the wardrobe got better each time

14) Any advice to new cders? Enjoy

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes, but love having a professional make-over for a night out

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Blending in when out - conversely there is a feeling of wanting to be noticed at the same time

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Still feels uncomfortable talking about it

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Flying to the US from London, driving up to the 1st Class check-in, relaxing in the lounge and a great seat (and champagne of course!) The trips back were also good as the the lounge staff in JFK recognized me

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That is is a part of me, not a fantasy, and is a force for good

[Audrey34]

1) When did you start dressing?
Age 13

2) At what age did you pick your name?
I was probably 45 or 46.

3) why did you pick that name ?
Always liked the name Audrey. Also the name of one of my favorite cartoon girls Little Audrey from the 50's Famous/Paramount cartoons.

4) Are you married, single act?
Single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
No GF or wife....sadly...

6) When did you tell them?
N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I wish I had joined my CD support group years earlier...

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I just like to look nice. I lean towards dressing for the office or a date.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I try to be friendly to everyone I meet.

11) Favorite place to shop?
Dress Barn (in person, when they were there), ModCloth.com (online)

12)Have you purged?
Once, in my early 20s. Haven't done that since...

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes

14) Any advice to new cders?
Be true to yourselves.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes. Still learning and trying to improve.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
I love being with my group Pathways and I want to be out and about more with my friends.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I did tell 2 of my older sisters. They were accepting but never discussed wanting to see how I look.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
No.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Attending my first gala back in 2015.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
That I enjoy it very much!

[alexa_cd]

1) When did you start dressing?
13 or 14 yo

2) At what age did you pick your name?
I think I was about 19

3) why did you pick that name ?
It just came to me and it stuck

4) Are you married, single ect?
Single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
N/A

6) When did you tell them?
N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have dressed more often and practiced more make up and feminine mannerisms

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I would like a 50s or 60s style one day

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I am always available to talk

11) Favorite place to shop?
I shop a lot on ebay and amazon still haven't built up the courage/confidence to shop in a real shop yet

12)Have you purged?
Yes a couple of times

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes

14) Any advice to new cders?
Relax and enjoy yourself don't worry about what anyone else thinks

15) Do you do your own makeup?
I have ordered some should arrive tomorrow :)

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
I just want the confidence to walk down the high street dressed and maybe stop somewhere for a drink without the fear of everyone looking at me

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
My family

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Had a hotel room one night got all dressed up and just relaxed and enjoyed being dressed, have my own place now so that is most nights but then it was a treat

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
They don't know or say they don't but my sister did let it slip she knew and I think it was my dad who told her(he kind of caught me), I denied it but we were both very drunk and never mentioned it again

[JennasPanties]

When did you start dressing?
I was 12 the first time I put on my neighbors panties.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
About 3 years ago. I used to be Amanda.

3) why did you pick that name ? I just think it is cute.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Have a girlfriend

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes

6) When did you tell them?
Early in relationship

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Surprising and happily we?ll. She has been very supportive

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have dressed more often and practiced more make up and feminine mannerisms

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I do have a real soft spot for lingerie and stockings

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
The best feeling in the world is pulling up your stockings after you just shaved your legs

11) Favorite place to shop?
Fashion nova

12)Have you purged?
Yes a couple of times

13) If so did you regret it?
No

14) Any advice to new cders?
Relax and enjoy yourself don't worry about what anyone else thinks

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes, but need more

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
I just want the confidence to walk down the high street dressed and maybe stop somewhere for a drink without the fear of everyone looking at me

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
My coworker who I suspect also dresses

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Had a hotel room one night got all dressed up and just relaxed and enjoyed being dressed, have my own place now so that is most nights but then it was a treat

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
They don't know or say they don't but my sister did let it slip she knew and I think it was my dad who told her(he kind of caught me), I denied it but we were both very drunk and never mentioned it again[/QUOTE]

[Aaron Zwidling]

1) When did you start dressing? I don't remember exactly but I think it was somewhere around 10 or 11 years old.

2) At what age did you pick your name? I never picked a femme name for myself. I've always considered me dressed was still me but just wearing different clothes.

3) why did you pick that name ? n/a

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? When we were still dating, maybe 5 months or so into the relationship

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Very well. She accepted it and didn't tell anyone else, which was my big concern when I told her. Her breaking up with me over it would have been sad, but her telling people we both knew would have been worse.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? No

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Full skirts, high heels, girly but not over the top girly

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop? La vie en rose

12)Have you purged? Once when I was much younger. After that didn't stop me and I started rebuilding my wardrobe I decided purging was a dumb thing to do and never did it again.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes and no. For a short time I missed having some of the stuff I purged , but none of that stuff would fit me now anyway so it's not really any great loss to me. One thing I regret a bit was tossing out the first bra I ever bought myself as part of that purge. I wouldn't mind still having that as a memento.

14) Any advice to new cders? 1) Don't purge 2) Tell your significant other about your dressing before you get married so she can make a choice 3) Staff at many stores are often more understanding than you may think. I've never gotten a really bad reaction from a salesperson. Their reaction usually ranges anywhere from enthusiasm to acceptance to indifference. I don't remember ever getting open hostility.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Dressing to make myself happy

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No, I don't have any great need or desire for anyone other than my wife to know about it

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Haven't come out so no

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Nothing stands out

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? No

[Cassidyjames]

1) When did you start dressing?
For as long as I can remember, but my earliest memory is probably around age 5.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
I've gone through several but Cassidy has stuck, so about 29.

3) why did you pick that name ?
I think it's feminine and can be used as Cassandra.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes.

6) When did you tell them?
3 weeks into dating.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
She said she needed to process and did some research but she's been very accepting.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have come out to everyone much sooner.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Retro pinups

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I'm pretty boring.

11) Favorite place to shop?
Torris

12)Have you purged?
Not since college

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes

14) Any advice to new cders?
Experiment and get to be comfortable with yourself.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Most of the time.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Hourglass figure, flawless makeup, and timeless style.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Nope.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Thankfully no.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Going out for my 30th birthday. Went with the girl I was dating at the time, she was incredibly turned on and we danced and drank the night away.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
It's a way for me to express myself beyond the masculine.

[Bea_]

1) When did you start dressing?
> mid-fifties (occasional experimentation with wife?s clothes for years before that but no true inclination)

2) At what age did you pick your name?
> when I joined this group

3) why did you pick that name ?
> Bea is the phonetic for B which represents one of my initials.

4) Are you married, single ect?
> married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
> yes

6) When did you tell them?
> within a year of the beginning of the development of my new taste

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
> a few potholes before settling into a fairly benign aspect of our relationship.
> she wouldn?t miss it if it went away but doesn?t really oppose it. She's
> actually picked out a fair number of the items i have accumulated.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
> it?s been an evolution that we?ve had to figure out as we go. No crystal ball.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
> comfort. Mostly non-fitted. Soft.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
> I?m a man-in-a-dress. I?m jealous of women?s styles but not the plumbing.

11) Favorite place to shop?
> Marshall?s or clearance racks

12)Have you purged?
> partially

13) If so did you regret it?
> I regret the feelings that led to it. I have stuff I like better now
> and needing to start culling for the space.

14) Any advice to new cders?
> ultimately, decide what YOU are willing to put up with, as it's not a one-sided deal. If she only accepts you
> as someone you?re not, who exactly does she love?

15) Do you do your own makeup?
>have only tried minor makeup a couple of times. mascara or eyeliner.
> also lipstick. not stoked about makeup.
> It's not likely to ever happen, but I would be stoked to have HER do my makeup.
> To me I think it would feel like being accepted and would be totally indulgent. But, I'm
> afraid that it would be the thing that would push her that one step past acceptance.
> It's not really the wearing of the makeup as much as the experience of her putting it on that is the fantasy.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
> enjoy my manhood while also enjoying the indulgence of the clothes I like

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
> My daughter. I?m getting old enough and had enough health issues that I know
> I could go at any time. I don?t want to leave behind a lot of confusion when
> she has to go through my things.


18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
> I?m only out to my wife.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
> My dressing has been fairly even keeled since the initial bumps when I told
> my wife. Other than an occasion stealth item or outfit, I don?t go out dressed.
> Overall, there aren?t a lot of highs or lows.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
> I don?t think ?understanding? is an issue. My wish would be that my wife would
> truly appreciate my taste, rather than just accepting. Compared to a lot of wives,
> I sure she?d be considered to be very accepting, but I know that she?d love to
> see me go back to ONLY dressing from the men?s department.

[Rebekah Paige]

1) When did you start dressing? I used to do things once in awhile growing up to make people laugh and get attention. But ultimately I started at age 8 with a skirt and was hooked. Yay for twirls.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 32 I believe. I went through so many names, but finally found one I loved.

3) why did you pick that name ? I was called Beks and chose Rebekah that day forward

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes She does

6) When did you tell them? Date #2

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She is so supportive of me and this journey of self discovery.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Not at all.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Retro and Rockabilly mixed with nerdy.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I am a writer and run an independent book publishing company

11) Favorite place to shop? Torrid

12)Have you purged? Not since my early 20s.

13) If so did you regret it? I owned the cutest schoolgirl skirt, and I will never see it again. =(

14) Any advice to new cders? Be yourself and don't fight it. I learned over the years those fights lead to bouts of depression and anger. And that is not worth it.

15) Do you do your own makeup? I own a lot of makeup lol

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Better at makeup and start to transition.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? My mother

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? I never thought I would have the support that I have now. My only friend in the community was the bad reaction. But that is a long story.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Pride and Transgender weekends in OKC.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? It's not a phase.

[fly2188]

1) When did you start dressing? It's been on and off since I was a kid, but on since I was 26ish

2) At what age did you pick your name? never

3) why did you pick that name ? N/A

4) Are you married, single ect? married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? yes

6) When did you tell them? after we were married

7) How did that work out ( the telling)? Not great, not terrible

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? no

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I love the 50s/60s dresses, but don't have any. Other than that I just love underwire bras. Wish I could get away with wearing one all the time

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? N/A

11) Favorite place to shop? Athleta

12)Have you purged? Yes, after an out of state internship where I first bought my own clothing

13) If so did you regret it? yes

14) Any advice to new cders? the urge to purge can be strong. Ignore it. You will save a lot of money in the long run

15) Do you do your own makeup? no

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? nothing

17) Anyone you would like to tell? no

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? my wife was uncomfortable with it for a while, but she's grown used to it.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? nothing really stands out

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?

[AmandaM]

1) When did you start dressing? About 5 years old.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 30's.

3) why did you pick that name ? Not sure.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? While dating.

7) How did that work out ( the telling). She didn't care.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Try earlier to accept myself.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Higher-end fashion.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? My wife said she didn't understand this. I replied that neither do I.

11) Favorite place to shop? Haven't shopped there, but I really like Dillard's and Lulu's selections.

12)Have you purged? Yes, long ago.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes.

14) Any advice to new cders? Learn about yourself, don't knock yourself.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To look as good as possible. Inspired by people like Ivanka Trump, Kate Middleton, Audrey Hepburn.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Nope.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Yes, in the early 80's. Lost all my friends.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? N/A

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? N/A

[Star01]

1) When did you start dressing? approximately 1964

2) At what age did you pick your name? when I was in my late 40's.

3) why did you pick that name ? registering for an email address and I needed a user name. I have a star tattoo that caught my eye and the rest is history.

4) Are you married, single ect? married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? yes but she doesn't want to see or hear about me dressing.

6) When did you tell them? she confronted me about my shaved legs and earrings around eighteen years ago but I had already mentioned that I had done that as a kid early in our marriage. At the time I first told her about my earlier experience as a kid I thought it was just a childhood kink. We never had a talk or considered it a threat to our relationship until our confrontation in the early 2000's when the fog I had been pushing into the background my whole live came back with a vengeance.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Refer to number 6.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I denied it while I was working and raising a family so probably not. It became an overwhelming desire gradually over the past twenty years.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? age appropriate and blend into the woodwork except for when I wear lingerie.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I spent twenty five years in a strict faith that caused a lot of guilt and delayed my coming to terms with my dressing. My not coming to grips with being a crossdresser (or perhaps more) was delayed because I thought it was a sin and meant that I'm gay and all the usual stereotypes. I only began to know myself after leaving that twenty years ago.

11) Favorite place to shop? in a dadt without much secure storage space so wherever I can, dollar stores, thrift stores, hand me downs.

12)Have you purged? yes.

13) If so did you regret it? yes but aside from some sexy boots most of it woudn't fit anymore so it's a moot point.

14) Any advice to new cders? don't wait until you're almost 70 if you can avoid it.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes and I'm pretty good at it with the exception of eyeliner. I raised three daughters with one working at Ulta in high school and the youngest being very good at makeup so there was a lot to observe (in a crossdressing dad sort of a way and not kinky).

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? enough acceptance to dress at home and shop freely online. I'm in therapy and zeroing in on that subject for assistance in getting up the nerve. Something I have never experienced on any other topic in the 50 years I have been married. Aside from my crossdressing we can discuss anything freely and the fault for that probably lies more with me due to my guilt and fears of abandonment due to childhood trauma of losing my parents which is why I'm having such a hard time with asserting myself. My journey cannot progress until I get past that and get enough freedom to figure out how far this can go.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? my wife, she knows but we need to talk again.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? the usual questions, are you gay, does this mean you're going to transition, you would make an ugly woman, etc.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Any time I can get a motel room or have the house to myself and dress for long periods of time several days in a row.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? this is who I am and you can't cross your arms, stomp your feet and scare it out of me.

[Terri_Cross]

1) When did you start dressing? - Probably around age 5 or 6

2) At what age did you pick your name? - Around age 26-27

3) why did you pick that name ? - Can be used for either gender

4) Are you married, single etc.? - Single at the moment

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? - N/A

6) When did you tell them? -Told an ex by accident

7) How did that work out ( the telling) - Quite a bit of confusion, anger, and fear on her part. We worked it out and while not supporting, she's supportive of it. For me.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? - Would have been adventurous with it when I was younger, accepted it sooner, would have attempted to be more inclusive with my SO

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? - Not really

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? - Not really

11) Favorite place to shop? - No single place at the moment

12)Have you purged? - Multiple times

13) If so did you regret it? - No. Yes Yes

14) Any advice to new cders? - Go ahead and get (whatever) and enjoy it all. Learn from the mistakes. Watch out for the bra showing. Don't wear white undies under white clothing. Don't ask me how I know. If you need to speak with somebody about crossdressing, please do it. The sooner you accept yourself, the happier and more relaxed you will be.

15) Do you do your own makeup? - N/A

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? - 100% Acceptance of myself in all things. But Crossdressing is a huge part of that - Something I'm still working on

17) Anyone you would like to tell? - A couple people

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not really applicable - See #7 for more

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? - This is a family channel, and the answer is XXX Rated

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? - It's just me.

[TiffanyGreene]

1) When did you start dressing?
-- I've had a fascination with high heels for as long as I can remember. I guess I started with mom's heels, and progressed from there to whenever a chance to try on shoes presented itself. First time totally dressed? I was 17. My friend and neighbor, who was also on Homecoming Court, Prom court, etc, was out of town with family for Christmas. I knew where the spare key was so I let myself in, and tried on her black dress with red trim that she wore for Homecoming Photos at school. I also tried on her black patent heels, hose, and it was the first time I tried on a bra... the feeling was electric as I walked around and admired the outfit in every mirror I walked past.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
-- In my late teens.

3) why did you pick that name ?
-- Tiffany was a girl that was two years my senior, went to my church, and was always dressed very feminine and classy, and always wore heels. She was beautiful and I guess I associate the name with femininity and beauty.

4) Are you married, single ect?
-- Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
-- Yes

6) When did you tell them?
-- 15 plus years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
-- There was no yelling or berating, but it is basically a DADT relation

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
-- Not really, I think things have worked out the way they were meant to

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
-- Feminine, classy, professional

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
-- I guess I am on the lower end of the CD spectrum, I love heels and wear them often. When I wear a dress, I know I am a MIAD. Although I don't have time or really the place to get dressed up often, I do really enjoy the times when I can

11) Favorite place to shop?
-- Currently? DSW. and Poshmark

12)Have you purged?
-- of course

13) If so did you regret it?
-- of course. I got rid of one of my favorite dresses ever, a houndstooth wrap with matching houndstooth heels... Haven't been able to find one just like it again. Same for the heels, I loved the fit and feel of both and wish I had never gotten rid of them when I went through one of my several "I have to stop this" phases. I have gone on to either selling my shoes if they are in good shape or dropping them in thrift donation if I am truly done with that particular pair... If they are worn out then I throw them away

14) Any advice to new cders?
-- Be upfront and honest with your significant other. You have your feelings, your significant other also has their feelings. If you find yourself in a DADT, maybe you can learn to live with it. I did, and I'm ok with that. Oh, and don't purge... at least not your favorite things. Nearly every CD that purges wishes later that they had not.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
-- I don't have any makeup. Don't usually use makeup. I just don't have the time to dive that deep I guess, with work and life. I will say though, that when my wife sold Avon, I had access to samples of all kinds of items, and I do know that I love lipstick, and really enjoyed the few times I put on eyeliner and eye shadow. I even went out a few times at night dressed up in full makeup and a dress, heels and wig. I stayed away from crowds but really enjoyed myself

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
-- being a good person, showing genuine care for others.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
-- Not really

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
-- only the wife knows

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
-- wearing several of the neighbors outfits (see #1), going out a few times (See #15), I also enjoy shopping where the SA knows the purchase is for me and helps me find heels or dresses to try on. I have had several great experiences doing this, two other times the SA was indifferent, and one time the SA was visually disturbed and left me to do my own trying on.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
-- For me personally, I am comfortable where I am and I don't feel the need to pursue this further, or have it turn into something more on the TG spectrum. I am a guy, with a manly job, and a good family. You wouldn't guess there is this side of me if you met me In every day life. I am happy being a guy. I just also happen to like clothing that is traditionally for women.

[Jeanettew]

1) When did you start dressing?
I started about 9 years ago at age 55

2) At what age did you pick your name?
55

3) why did you pick that name ?
Jeannette is a freinds wife that always looks amazing and fabcy the living daylights out of her

4) Are you married, single ect?
-- Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
-- No

6) When did you tell them?
-- N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
-- N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
-- No

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
-- Smart an professional but love 40s Style

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
-- I guess I am just a guy who love the feel and look af being dressed, and love nice heels

11) Favorite place to shop?
-- Ebay & Wish

12)Have you purged?
-- of course

13) If so did you regret it?
-- Over the years I have bought some amazing cloths and shoes but can only keep a few at at time would love my whole wardrobe back

14) Any advice to new cders?
-- BBe hinest and enjiy the time dressed

15) Do you do your own makeup?
-No never troed make up

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
-- just being a nice person

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
-- Not really

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
-- N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
-- Whne my wife was away for three day sI stayed dressed for three days.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
-- I am probably going to create a problem here but I don't understand why the worked expects a guy to wear trousers why can't he wear a nice short with a skirt stockings and heels

[Stephanie205]

1) When did you start dressing? about 34 years a go started off with a girlfriend wanting to put mascara on my eye lashes that when I started to thing it was ok to have these feelings of wearing womens clothes. Since then it has progressed to being pretty well full time now and going out doing everyday things.

2) At what age did you pick your name? about 37

3) why did you pick that name ? it was a easy transition from Steve to Stephanie

4) Are you married, single ect? single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? past girlfriends knew

6) When did you tell them? at first it took a while but later I tell them fairly well at the beginning of a relationship now

7) How did that work out ( the telling) some did not accept it but some loved the idea and the women who accepted it some of them I thought would not really accepted it with out hesitation

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have fully embraced it earlier and I think I would have been happier more and had a girlfriend longer

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I like to wear clothes that are classical but flirty

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I have always been a bit of a risk taker in my work and life and that has helped me get over the fear of going out dressed.

11) Favorite place to shop? at the moment I shop online mainly shein great prices. When I go to the UK love Marks and Spencers and Next

12)Have you purged? Yes a couple of times and stopped once for 4 years but the urge does not go away so learnt not to fight the urge but to embrace it fully

13) If so did you regret it? yes

14) Any advice to new cders? It is ok to be like this and I found out that you may think you do not pass as a woman most people do not take notice as long as you are fully womanized in you clothing and jewelry.

15) Do you do your own makeup? yes and getting better at it the more I do it

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? this year to go to a public beach in my bikini and feel comfortable being there

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Lately I have been thinking about transitioning full time but not sure how my clients would react

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? no

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? I guess it was in the UK when I went in to a ladies washroom at a gay club and spent 30 or so minutes talking to a woman who asked me about my sandals with 5 inch heels.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? As I am single and my family has gone I am glad I do not have to worry about being accepted. I date and if the person does not accept me for what I am I view it as their loss.

[Sylvia Coco]

1) When did you start dressing?
Beginings of my crossdressing are in my childhood. When I was 10 I started to borrow my mother tights and panties. When I was in middle school I bought first clothes (skirt and stockings). Few yers later I bought first heels etc.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
In my late teens.

3) why did you pick that name ?
I always liked name Sylvia. But I thought that I need some kind of surname so I invent "Coco".

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes

6) When did you tell them?
2 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
All started when I suggest wering tights by my during regular sex. She was very suprised and she though I'm gay. So I explaind everything and it went well.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I should be more active when I was younger and single.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Sexy, femine, mature

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I love heels and lingerie. This is my favourite part of crossdressing.

11) Favorite place to shop?
Internet shops.

12)Have you purged?
Twice.

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes, it was very stupid, especially becouse I lost my old photos :(

14) Any advice to new cders?
Be honest with your wife or girlfriend. It is absolutly necessery.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes and I learn a lot about it.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Keep going better with make up and look.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Nope.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Only my wife knows.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Few yers ago when I bought my new wig and when my weight was better :)

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
That crossdressing doesn't give rise to being transgender :)

[Charlotte Haynes]

Twenty questions

Thought we might get to know each other. No comments on anyone?s answer please just your answers . If there is something you do not want to answer or it does not pertain to you just put N/A


1) When did you start dressing?
At the age of 10.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
42

3) why did you pick that name ?
I was doing some family history research and I found a great-great-grandmother with this name. I liked it.

4) Are you married, single etc?
I have a partner.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes.

6) When did you tell them?
After about 6 months.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
She had a good idea. I would wear her dressing gowns, leggings while lounging around the house. She called me 'Helen' for a while before I told her. She still uses that name.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have done more of this when I was younger if I knew I was in it for the long haul.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Yes, women that I am attracted to. An example being Nigella Lawson - a British TV foodie.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I have never played Scrabble, or Monopoly. I have no cousins.

11) Favorite place to shop?
Online. Asos.

12)Have you purged?
Once, completely. A couple of other wobbles, deleting all my pics, cancelling accounts etc.

13) If so did you regret it?
Yeah.

14) Any advice to new CDs?
Get a wig, and do not just plonk it on like a Christmas party hat.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To be accepted. Might not be down to me to achieve this.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Only one person. She understands me. We are similar.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
From my ex partner, most definitely. She still calls me a pervert 15 years later. Current partner took a deep breath, big swallow of her drink, pulled a face and carried on.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
I had what the tabloid press call a 'romp' with a man. When I was single. It was so far out of my normal behaviour that it stands out. I made a proper effort to look nice for him, not just for myself. I would recommend it for anyone considering having a dabble.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
The mother of my children said my cross dressing meant that our relationship was just a lie. I wish I could have changed her mind on that. Other than that, I can hardly explain to myself why I do it, let alone others.

[Molly Wells]

1) When did you start dressing? around 10yrs old

2) At what age did you pick your name? 55

3) why did you pick that name ? I was hoping to get my wife to agree to go out on Halloween, her as a mobster and me as her moll. It didn't happen. :( That was about the time I had finally accepted myself and that crossdressing wasn't going away. I had begun looking at websites and joining different forums and needed a name so I decided to do a take on a moll and became Molly Wells. I chose wells because it had a good ring to it and started with the same letter as my last name.

4) Are you married, single ect? married, 39 yrs.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? wife knew before we got married, kids came along and I kept it to myself in the closet. Any attempt to discuss since then has not gone well, she is very unaccepting. She thought it went away...

6) When did you tell them? see above

7) How did that work out ( the telling) she was somewhat tolerant when we were young, now totally against.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? maybe to not have gone so deep in the closet but worked more for her acceptance and understanding. This was before the internet became so prevelant and information was not easily accessed.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I like to blend so maybe daily wear or business casual. I would like to dress in a wedding dress or formal wear one day.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I am very conservative in most of my views but very liberal in individual rights, including personal expression. I do my thing, you do yours, causing no harm to one another

11) Favorite place to shop? Macy's

12)Have you purged? several times, but not in over 10yrs. (too expensive!)

13) If so did you regret it? yes, pretty quickly too

14) Any advice to new cders? find personal acceptance and bloom where your planted, making the best of the place you in

15) Do you do your own makeup? yes, mostly. I have had it done by Mac and others.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Acceptance for who I am

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I stay pretty private. Regarding my dressing I only talk with others I have met through this or other forums and come to trust. When out away from home I have had open conversations with women that I have seen in salons or such.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Certainly been clocked many times... only bad reaction; It was in about 2002, I had flown to Massachusetts and picked up a car and was driving it back to Texas. I was traveling back in femme. I had everything I needed in the car so I had little interaction with people, and very careful about those. Like a dummy I decided to stop at a Walmart in Little Rock. I was wearing a form fitting sheath dress, stocking, and heels. I was overdressed... Between being tired from driving, poor makeup skills, cheap wig and whatever else, I got clocked the minute I walked in and felt like everybody was staring. I teenage boy and his girlfriend were laughing at me. I turned and went out the the kid followed me, giving me a hard time. I finally asked him how he was going to explain to his mother and daddy why he got his butt kicked by a guy in a dress. And if he was smart he would go away and leave me alone. (I sure am glad he didn't take the challenge!) I got to my car and got out of there as quick as I could. My confidence was shaken for a good while after that.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? I have found that today I can dress to blend, go out in public and usually not get more that an occasional surprised look from people. Yes, I limit my interactions as much as possible. Some that I have enjoyed most have been going to salon for hair and makeup, nail salon. Just doing girl things...

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? It would be nice to have my wife to be open and accepting. She would not have to be involved, but her understanding and acceptance would be nice.

Molly

[JennasPanties]

1) When did you start dressing? I started wearing my next door neighbors panties at about 12. Slow progression to lingerie. After college explored much further.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 25

3) why did you pick that name ? Was my high school crushes name. When I was younger I used to dress and wish I looked like her.

4) Are you married, single ect? In a relationship but not married yet.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Gf knows that I like to dress but don?t think she knows to what extent I like it.

6) When did you tell them? Well we had a conversation after I fell asleep dressed up and she came home.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) she was remarkably rational and caring. Had a ton of questions more than anything, which I think is the best possible reaction you could hope for.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Just to be more open and vocal about everything. Not turn it in to a secret life.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Everything starts for me with my panties, bra and stockings. So I tend to prefer sexier outfits. Not really for every day wear.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I am terrible with my makeup and need a tutorial!

11) Favorite place to shop? VS, but lately Kohl?s has had fantastic stuff.

12)Have you purged? It was close but I would still say, not yet.

13) If so did you regret it? I think I might

14) Any advice to new cders? Relatively new to the consistent dressing so could use all the advice anyone has.

15) Do you do your own makeup? yes, mostly. Some stuff but not a full makeup kit.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be able to balance this part of my life with every other aspect and not have to feel like I am sneaking around.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Would love to tell some other friends in my area. Currently don?t have any other friends that know or dress.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Knock on wood, not yet

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Coming home with my first pair of heels, dressing up in my favorite skirt and cute top. With thigh highs and garter. Having a little liquid courage and going for a long walk in the park late at night. Beautiful night, perfect weather. People still out. Just felt amazing

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That just because I love wearing pretty clothes, nothing else has changed.
Jenna

[Jessica2020]

1) When did you start dressing? Started when I was 12 years old, have been on and off with it until recently.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 49

3) why did you pick that name ? I?ve always liked it somehow, always had a good feeling about it. Feels like a natural fit somehow.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? About a month ago.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Better than i thought it would. Never in my life before that moment did I imagine ever telling anyone else about this part of me.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Only that I wish I had done so sooner.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Feeling it out, but somehow I find myself gravitating towards modern casual with a little bit of western / country tossed in, somehow.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I?m always learning, and I always enjoy learning. That and I like to sometimes figure things out as I go along, but I do my research / homework when I can too.

11) Favorite place to shop? amazon.com

12)Have you purged? A few times over my life when I had bought clothes before but kept them hidden.

13) If so did you regret it? Somewhat, I wasn?t entirely committed to being this part of me back then as I am now though, so not really.

14) Any advice to new cders? Be honest about this part of you with both yourself and your partner. If it feels right, then embrace it.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes, learning as I go thanks to youtube.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Improving my speaking voice right now. I need to work on my makeup, but my voice is my top priority right now.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Besides my wife, I find that I do want to talk about this with other people, yes. I want to talk to my younger brother about it, mostly because he?ll likely be more open about it than other family members.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not quite. Right now I spend time alone while I?m trying to develop this part of me before sharing it with my wife. I gave myself two months to do it. At first it felt like too much time, now it feels like it's not enough!

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? The first night I was able to do so after first telling my wife about it.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That it is a part of me, and it's normal. As much as anyone does or feel about anything they are and do, this is a part of me that I want to be recognized. It is real. :)

[Amelie]

1) When did you start dressing? 18 But before that I had a glam look.

2) At what age did you pick your name? I have multiple names. My name is Yvonne, which I had since 18 Amelie(2004) is a name I used after getting out of hospital.

3) why did you pick that name ? Yvonne is from Yvonne Decarlo, my heroine. Amelie from the movie Amelie.


4) Are you married, single ect? Single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?N/A

6) When did you tell them?N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling)N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Avoid the hospital. And avoid Times Square NYC.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I'm a mix of Mod and Goth, I'm a Moth.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm a product of old Times Square NYC, got my education there.

11) Favorite place to shop? The grocery store.

12)Have you purged? Not clothes but I did try and purge life, but it didn't work.

13) If so did you regret it? Sort of.

14) Any advice to new cders? Don't listen to other cder's, be yourself and follow no rules.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To have a bigger garden so I can grow more food. So I don't have to go out much.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not the first time going out but I was attacked and raped early on.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Hanging out in a club where Andy Warhol also was hanging out at.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? N/A

[nu2me26]

1) When did you start dressing? Early, like 5 or 6

2) At what age did you pick your name? Late 20s I believe

3) why did you pick that name ? A friend of mine gave it to me

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? Before I proposed, actually 3-4 months into dating so she could decide if it mattered

7) How did that work out ( the telling) rocky at first, now she is supportive as long as the kids don?t know

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Not really

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Ultrafeminine appearance. I am more a dress and heels type

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? NA

11) Favorite place to shop? Depends, express, nordstrom. I signed up for trunk club and it has been fantastic, just pricy

12)Have you purged? Yes

13) If so did you regret it? Yes

14) Any advice to new cders? Confidence. You live in a better time for acceptance

15) Do you do your own makeup? I wish, no hand eye coordination

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Acceptance in myself and a long shot...my family

17) Anyone you would like to tell? A few ex girlfriends

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not really

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? I went out with a friend to a gay bar and had so much fun, I had no inhibitions and was treated kindly

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I?m still me, I?m not a molester or a 3 headed monster

[DanniBell]

1) When did you start dressing?

Twelve

2) At what age did you pick your name?

I was Andi at twelve until I was maybe 18 and became Danni. Still Danni.

3) why did you pick that name ?

I picked Andi because I thought the "i" at the end was cute, and I thought I was cute. :) Danni is a form of my name, and makes it easier legally.


4) Are you married, single ect?

Single


5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
6) When did you tell them?
7) How did that work out

Doesn't apply to me!


8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?

Oh, god, yes. Too much to list. I wish I'd been more consistent earlier in my life as Andi when I was a teenager. Finding a girlfriend who supported me and kind of looked after me helped a lot from the time I was almost 15.



9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?

Cute and casual. Short skirts, jean shorts. White Keds. Mini sundresses...yoga pants and a sweatshirt works when it's cool. (I love denim!)


10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

I've lurked but been nervous about posting because I don't feel like I can relate to the "average" crossdresser.



11) Favorite place to shop?

Romwe online lately.



12)Have you purged?

Once



13) If so did you regret it?

So much.


14) Any advice to new cders? Confidence.

Not really. Everyone is different. I could give confidential advice to girls I can relate to, but some crossdressing experiences are just totally alien to me.



15) Do you do your own makeup?

Hell yes!


16) What things do you strive for ( goals)?

At some point I need to make some permanent decisions about my life, whether I want to or not.



17) Anyone you would like to tell?

Sometimes I wonder how some of the first boys I interacted with as a teenager would react if they knew who they'd been hanging out with. My first kiss was at a bonfire party while dressed, and I feel kind of guilty about it when I think about it now. What would that guy say? I don't think I'd want him to know even now.



18) Any bad reactions when coming out?

A couple of bad reactions from being figured out.


19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?

The best times have been when I've been out with a couple of men I've seen off and on. Letting them define our relationship for people we'd meet at dive bars or clubs, feeling safe enough with them there to not worry about being grabbed or whatever.



20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?

I'm only really in contact with a stepsister these days, and she treats me like a sister. I'm okay with that right now.

- D