Getting older

[kimberly c]

Does your desire to dress increase or decrease as you age. I'm 63 and my desire to be dress is stronger than ever

[Natalie5004]

yes, and I am older than you.

[Aka_Donna]

Too early to tell and in 70's. It all depends on SO relationships. Desire is pretty much there, but desire for frequency is lower. Some of it is liking dressing and some is just looking for something exciting, even mildly as too much of been there, done that. 63 is probably too young for that to resonate with you.

[Andie]

I’m 64, and it’s stronger than ever. Also I’m at a point in life that I can act on those desires.

[franlee]

At right at 66 and I can't feel any decline in my desire or frequency. But I do have a lot more time to reflect and enjoy now then in years gone by.

[Jodi Yardley]

Increased with age and also more free time being retired

[paulinescotlandcd]

I will be 63 in October this year, no change here, steady as she goes Captain :)

[Vikky]

I had the urge to dress from an early age but it is only in the last 7/8 years that I have been able to express my need. I am in my early 70s and if anything the urge is stronger now than ever.
Vikky

[Debs]

Stronger, and going out dressed isnt a big issue as when your younger, and makeup is a wonderful thing, 63 male, 50 female, lol

[Kiwi Primrose]

Dressing is just a part of who I am. I'm in my 80s and I dress at home everyday. My neighbours have all seen me and know but I don't go out publicly. Dressing is a way of life that I wouldn't give up.

[Elizabeth G]

I'm 55 and it is stronger than it has ever been.

[Kay J]

About the same but when i was young i only had a very short time to dress now i am retired the wife knows so have much more time to enjoy!

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Oh i am 70 years old now.

[Crissy 107]

Absolutely gets stronger, years ago I thought I had successfully suppressed this part of me, well we know that does not work.

[Angela Marie]

I'll be 66 next month and my desire is increasing. I don't know why but i'm just going with the flow.

[Victoria1]

I'm 67 and still enjoy dressing as much as I ever did. I've also reached an age where I care less and less about whether or not it's "ok" to do this. My feeling is more along the lines of, if not now, then when?

[alwayshave]

Kimberly, It really has not changed over the years and I'll be 60 next year.

[Raychel]

I would not say it has gotten stronger for me,
But being more accepting of my self,
I feel more relaxed and happier to dress whenever I want.

So although it has not really gotten stronger
it has become more standard practice and not hidden in the closet so much

[Teresa]

Kimberly,
I'm not burying my head in the sand about my age , I don't feel 69 , OK to be truthful I also don't feel 21 ( I wish !! ) I do feel with age we have to be more thoughtful of how we present oursleves , " Mutton dressed as lamb !" is OK on occasions but possibly not all the time .

I wonder if it gets stronger , maybe I'm playing catch up still after the years in drab or could it be I'm just more happier and content as Teresa so it's not increasing it just feels normal .

[Marcella59]

I will be 61 in a couple months. The desire is always there and seems to be increasing. Wanting to expand wardrobe

[BrendaPDX]

Mine still comes and goes, but the lock down isn't helping.

[NancySue]

Definitely stronger. I think part of it is, through years of practice, experiences, experimentation, I have my dressing tuned well. The pink fog continues to roll in. No complaints, mind you.

[Star01]

I will be 69 at the end of this summer which will also be two years since I retired. My desire to dress and feminize is more intense than it has ever been. I think everything came together in the perfect storm. Accepting this about myself and wanting to be free to explore this side of myself to the point that it dominates my thinking. More time to meditate about it, nobody corporate environment to fit into anymore, nest empty and more disposable income. For years I was content to go for months without dressing and my dadt situation didn't bother me, I was busy with work, family and remodeling projects. Now with all of those obstacles out of the way I am obsessed with doing more and at an age where my needs are wanting to be met while there is still time.

We are conditioned to spend.or whole life making a living so I think a lot of us get to a similar place and just want to feel right. That is where I am at and I definitely feel the urge to dress stronger than ever.

[Krisi]

I don't think it's changed for me although I have more opportunity now and the experience to do a better job of it.

[Star01]

PS, the unknown that I am struggling with is revisiting the talk with my wife so that my opportunities will be more in line with my desire. I'm stuck in limbo debating whether I want to risk destroying our relationship and end up sitting by myself in a one room efficiency apartment wearing a dress at 75. I wish that I could know the outcome before making the decision but at this point I'm not sure that a negative reaction would change my mind.

I hate to keep bringing this all up but am think my angst over the whole thing is like a resounding yes answer to the question.

[Bea_]

I was a late bloomer and started wearing panties in my mid-fifties. My wardrobe grew from there. Now, I'm wearing something from the woman's aisle pretty much any time I'm at home. And I'm home a lot...

So yeah, the desire has definitely increased as I've aged.

[GretchenM]

Mine varies quite a lot. In general both men and women tend to converge with age when it comes to gender sense and expression. It is thought this results from the decline in the hormones that fuel some of the gender differences earlier in life. So males become a bit more leaning toward the female and females tend to become a bit more male-like. But the fact that there is a wide variation in this change the change in hormone levels as the cause is quite suspect. There could be a lot of other explanations. But the responses so far are quite representative of what happens with age. Once a person gets close to 70 things tend to change more quickly and become more pronounced. But, as always, your mileage may vary. And that is why hormonal changes are often suspected to be only a small part of this gender behavior shifting; something else more obscure may be more important than hormones.

[jacques]

hello Kimberly,
my dressing is becoming more frequent. I do have more opportunities as an "empty-nester" and as I get older my life expectancy is getting shorter (so why save dressing up for later?)
luv J

[Donna St. Marten]

I don't know if it's a matter of getting older or retirement, but yes.

[docrobbysherry]

77 and I'm a closet dresser. Now that that I'm divorced and the kids have all moved out, dressing has become the driving force and social center of my life!:hugs:

[KarenSusan]

I'm 74 and the urge to dress is as strong as it has ever been.

[Georgina]

Getting stronger and I really appreciate it as well.

[JeanTG]

Almost 62, and on HRT as part of transition. The desire became almost obsessive as I got older. The HRT has greatly reduced the sense of urgency, and the need to dress super-girly. I now dress casual most of the time, as most GGs would. There are zero opportunities to go out with confinement so no urge for fancy dress. Just jeans and a top or blouse. I can't even be bothered with wigs at home, a bonnet will do. More comfortable, less trouble, and saves wear and tear on the wig which wasn't cheap.

[Michelle1955]

Does your desire to dress increase or decrease as you age. I'm 63 and my desire to be dress is stronger than ever.

My internal feelings is female and always has been, I am not a crossdressers. Can I dress more sure I am retired and the kids are grown and gone. Does the pink fog still exist yes some time.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Kim :hugs:, I am 77 and have been in this program for 73years now and Just keep going and loving it.

>>>>>>>Orchid .oO:daydreaming:Oo.

[Angie G]

As is mine but then with the blessing of my wife thd loads of time being retired that's a good thing. :hugs:
Angie

[Stephanie58]

I am 80 and the desire to dress has rapidly increased since I was outed to my immediate family four years ago, after about seventy years of hiding.

I have now reached the stage where I will out myself to the outside world as I am totally tired of being ashamed and fearful, and lying.

The thought of dying having spent my whole life feeling ashamed fills me with horror.

[BobbiKay]

67 here and the desire has increased in the last few years. Opportunity has increased also; the kids are out and on their own, and I am self-employed. And I have discovered the joys of thrift-store shopping.

[Stephanie47]

Dressing really took off after I retired and had more leisure time to be enfemme for an entire day. My wife was still working part time, but, full days. She also made trips out of state once a year for seven to ten days to visit our daughter. That was great, being able to be en femme 24/7 for days on end. Now with my wife retired femme time has gone the other way. Sigh!

[Rachel05]

I have now entered my 60's and the desire to dress is as strong as it ever was, the difference nowadays is that I can fully enjoy it without any self guilt, I just enjoy being me, I love to dress and I can and I think because I can and I love to, then the pleasure I get from it is all the more enjoyable

[Karen RHT]

My desire to wear what I want, when I want, increased with the additional time and opportunity that came with retirement at 65. It's still going strong at 72 and I don't see it decreasing in the coming years.


Karen

[Ozark]

Getting older... I am sitting here this evening in vanity fair pajamas and, of course, Vanity Fair Ravissant briefs to match the pajamas reading the posts.

I posted this 01-01-2017 Pleasant memories here. I won't say my wife accepts me, she says she doesn't care what I do, just don't embarrass her, but I will say she tolerates me. and that is good enough for me. My life has been pretty interesting since my wife retired. In the last three years we've spent about half our time traveling in our Airstream. We went out west twice and south Texas this year. I've written about these trips on here before.

The point is my wife seems to be more accepting of my 'hobby' in the trailer so much so that this last trip I brought very few men clothes, mostly shirts. My wife had a "rule of three".... for every three items of clothing I had on, one of them had to be male... So panties, chic elastic waist jeans and a Columbia shirt....

We came home shortly before Christmas. We had a nice Christmas with our children and our grandchildren. Lots of visitors so I was on my best behavior. After all the guest left, the curtains were drawn and the wife and I were settled in our chairs, she asked me if I wanted to "wear something pretty" while she got us each a glass of wine. Well, of course I did.

I also noticed that she has been folding my clothes. She used to just lay out the shirts so they wouldn't get wrinkled, fold the jeans, but panties and socks were my responsibility. Not any more. Last night I sat on teh couch and watched her fold my panties. And I wear full cut Vanity Fair and Shadowline panties.

Last night, new years eve, I dressed in a pair of Chic elastic waist jeans (she picked them out for me when I broke my wrist and couldn't do belts or button on levis), a dress barn blue sleeveless T shirt and a brown oversized top from Sag Harbor. I call it my "Iowa Farm Wife" look. I like dressing like that. She went down to the bar be que joint and got a slab of ribs with sides, while I got dressed. She told me I looked nice and we laughed because saying "You look nice" is what we heard a relative say at a family gathering and as she walked away she said "she looked horrible but I wasn't going to tell her that!" a real bee word. Anyhow, "You look nice" is funny to us.

About 11:30, I went into my bedroom and changed into a set of red vanity fair coloratura pajamas and robe. I also put on matching red panties with lace, all vanity fair. We celebrated the new year, toasted each other, had a new year's kiss and went to bed.

This morning we just lounged around the house in our bed clothes, played on the computer, drank coffee adn watched tv. She said let's do something instead of just lying around the house. So we decided to get dressed and walk through some flea markets. I went into my room and dressed in teh same clothes I had on last night--blue vanity fair lace ravissant briefs, Chic elastic waist pull on jeans, Dress Barn sleeveless Tee shirt, and a Sag Harbor over shirt. Before I went into the living room, I got one of my Columbia coats out of the closet just as she was telling me to wear a light jacket. I stood in front of her and asked if this looked ok, or do I need to change my shirt, I'll keep my jacket on I said. She said I looked fine.

Sure enough, as we were walking through the flea market I got hot. She said, take off your jacket. I said, no, I'm ok. I walked a few steps and said to myself, what teh heck! and I took off my jacket. She came up behind me and started messing with my collar and teh hem of the shirt. Should I put my jacket back on? No, I'm just straightening you up.

I was so peaceful, so serene, it was a very enjoyable experience. I wasn't trying to pass...Heck I had to grow a moustache because my hands are so unsteady that I would cut my nose shaving and since I talk xeralto I bleed like a stuck pig. No, I don't pass but I do dress comfortably. No dresses, mainly jeans, slacks, androgenous tops...oh you'd know if you were looking at me that I was wearing women's clothes...you know it takes one to know one, but most people don't pay any attention.

We got home and I messed aroudn with adding some water to the hot tub, took a shower and am now wearing light blue Vanity Fair pajamas and a matching short robe....and, of course, matching panties. My wife just told me I looked nice and she hugged me. Ain't life grand!

We have been SIP since March 10. We will get through this! Stay safe.

[SaraLin]

Does your desire to dress increase or decrease as you age. I'm 63 and my desire to be dress is stronger than ever

I'm 66.

I won't say that my desire has changed all that much. I will say that I am not pursuing it as strongly as before. This is for several reasons.

I'm getting older and my overall drive levels (for everything) have diminished (hormones dropping off?).

I can look in the mirror and see all the damage that years of being male has done to my appearance, so achieving any good look gets harder and harder to do.

I have built good life as a male. I'd be foolish to just up and throw it all away just to make myself feel better about my look.

I have a wife that I love dearly. I don't want to hurt her any more than I have to. We have reached a balance where neither of us is "thrilled", but we're OK.

There are more reasons of course. It's just that all in all, I'd have to say that the desire - or the emotional "need" to crossdress hasn't gone away. I've just learned ways to better handle it as I get older.

[Teri Ray]

65 here and my desire to dress remains about the same as it always has been. My desire for dressing appears to me to be about the same frequency. As it always has there are times when I have increased desire and then it ebbs. I am lucky to have my wife who makes effort to understand and support me when the pink fog drifts in on me.

[michellecd9999]

All through my life I desired to dress, but my ability to afford how to dress and the opportunities to dress allowed me to dress more. Also I have made conscious decisions to dress more. In my 20's/30's I traveled a lot. I seemed satisfied to wear panties, hose slip and heels and got off. In my 40's I worked from home and started dressing more completely,, went to a CD makeover service, bought better wigs, breast forms, more clothes and shoes complete outfits and began wearing more makeup and practiced my body movements, walks, etc.to be more feminine Went out in public a few times. In my 50's started going out in public more and more even during the day time and more often. I think the desire and how I present myself has changed to be more and more feminine.

[Brenda Freeman]

I think the desire has not changed but when I discovered make up and with practice my appreciation for dressing has increased as I like how I look. I started using make up after a make over showed how I could look. That was at 50 I am now 65. I have grown my hair out and my male vs femside are looking more similar these days.

[ReineD]

Kimberly, I just want to point out that of course most everyone here has a desire to dress, else why would they be here. :)

But if you want to know about most crossdressers past a certain age, consider the tens of thousands of ex-members who no longer participate here, compared the 50 or so who posted in this thread. Of course I don't know all the ex-members but I do know of quite a few for whom the desire abated with age and who just don't come here any more, much less dress.

[Gillian Gigs]

I'm 68, as time has gone by the desire to dress has increased. It was a very sexual thing for many years, and this has changed especially in the last 15 years. If I had my choice, I would wear lingerie, skirts and hosiery all the time. It's not the same as it was when I was younger, and in many ways I'm glad for that.

[Paulie Birmingham]

Mid 50s and it's gone done. Having so much intimacy with wife it just doesn't cross my mind as much.

[BTWimRobin]

I've had this desire since I was a child. At 58 all I can say is it has definitely intensified. While the intensity
ebbs and flows, the desire is always there.

[Teresa]

Kinberly,
I'm not sure what I expected when I grew older , the fact is it hasn't gone away so now I accept it's something I was born with and it's something I'll end my days with .

For me it hasn't got stonger as I now live comfortably as Teresa so it now feels normal , guy mode feels odd

[wendy]

for me, the answer is : YES !

As I look back at my history of dressing, the desire has always been there. In my 20s, I didn't have to do deal with life stressors like bills, work, and responsibilities like house upkeep and car maintenance. So dressing at that time was more for fun and enjoyment.

In my late 20s/most of my 30s, I had serious health issues so dressing was placed on the back burner, I think I only dressed a few times but I was really preoccupied with my health and I didn't feel feminine at all with all the doo dads stuck in my body at that time.

40s and onwards, finally received proper treatment and my health is back on track. Without any medical appartus stuck in my body, I feel like when I dress, I can really take on the feminine persona. However, now that I'm married and we have our own place, stressors like bills, work, and house/car maintenance is always on my mind. I am using dressing time as stress relief from those stressors, and I constantly think about dressing all the time. As I get older and look to the future, I can see myself dressing much more often.

[LucyLondon]

My desire to dress evolved over time, from doing it for a sexual thrill as a teenager, to now feeling much happier and more relaxed when I am Lucy now that I am in my late 50's.

For me it is escapism from the trials and tribulations of everyday life, not sure I would ever want to live as Lucy, but given the chance I would probably spend as much if not more time fem than in drab, like many my main problem with that is wifey! She allows be to dress as I please at home, but def no going out. I love her to bits but I do know that a single me would stay single and spend as much time as possible as Lucy, both indoors and out. The younger me did not think the same way, i'm sure that if she had I probably wouldn't have got married, but heyho such is life, and I have a pretty good one :)

[Cheshire girl]

I’m mid 60s. Desire is stronger than ever as I have the opportunity and money to be able to dress fully and go out in public feeling confident. For years it was more a closet thing with occasional trips out not looking very convincing. I have received great advice from wife friends beauty salons and others and the fact I am told I now look good dressed probably intensifies the desire to go out. I also enjoy the buying of age appropriate but very feminine quality clothing and accessories and mixing with women and being treated as a woman when I’m out. Never dreamt I would reach this level when I started this long journey!

[Genni]

My desire to dress has not declined any as I approach 61, but I am more inclined to act on it. I'm taking more of a "Life is short, do what makes you happy!" approach now.

[Jacqueline Vivaldi]

I am 85 and was immediately attracted to being female when I first wore panties and a bra 50 years ago. My interest and desires to be female have steadily grown over the years as I learned how to be more attractive. It is a continuous, lovely process. Presently, I am at the peak of my femininity both in feelings and attractiveness. I would say that all things are getting better each year and I love who I am.

[ShelbyDawn]

At 62, I don't know if my 'desires' has changed at all, what has changed is my acceptance of the fact that it is just who I am.

[Tracy Irving]

I don't remember a burning desire to dress when I was in my 20's. The desire is much stronger now.

[Maid_Marion]

I had the desire in my 20s. But, it wasn't until my 50s that I realized I had enough financial independence to dress as female in the workplace.

The recent Supreme Court ruling may help others express their desire.

Marion

[susanmichelle]

I?ll be 68 in July and dress more now than I ever have. It?s just a fact of life we are and have been getting older every second. Can?t change it or stop it only dying will stop it.

[Liz Jones]

Hi,
Just found this web site -- so new here ,started dressing about 4 years ago now 77 yrs old . Its a ( very ) steep learning curve ( more like strait up ! ) still dont know where i am going but.......

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Getting older... I am sitting here this evening in vanity fair pajamas and, of course, Vanity Fair Ravissant briefs to match the pajamas reading the posts.

I posted this 01-01-2017 Pleasant memories here. I won't say my wife accepts me, she says she doesn't care what I do, just don't embarrass her, but I will say she tolerates me. and that is good enough for me. My life has been pretty interesting since my wife retired. In the last three years we've spent about half our time traveling in our Airstream. We went out west twice and south Texas this year. I've written about these trips on here before.

The point is my wife seems to be more accepting of my 'hobby' in the trailer so much so that this last trip I brought very few men clothes, mostly shirts. My wife had a "rule of three".... for every three items of clothing I had on, one of them had to be male... So panties, chic elastic waist jeans and a Columbia shirt....

We came home shortly before Christmas. We had a nice Christmas with our children and our grandchildren. Lots of visitors so I was on my best behavior. After all the guest left, the curtains were drawn and the wife and I were settled in our chairs, she asked me if I wanted to "wear something pretty" while she got us each a glass of wine. Well, of course I did.

I also noticed that she has been folding my clothes. She used to just lay out the shirts so they wouldn't get wrinkled, fold the jeans, but panties and socks were my responsibility. Not any more. Last night I sat on teh couch and watched her fold my panties. And I wear full cut Vanity Fair and Shadowline panties.

Last night, new years eve, I dressed in a pair of Chic elastic waist jeans (she picked them out for me when I broke my wrist and couldn't do belts or button on levis), a dress barn blue sleeveless T shirt and a brown oversized top from Sag Harbor. I call it my "Iowa Farm Wife" look. I like dressing like that. She went down to the bar be que joint and got a slab of ribs with sides, while I got dressed. She told me I looked nice and we laughed because saying "You look nice" is what we heard a relative say at a family gathering and as she walked away she said "she looked horrible but I wasn't going to tell her that!" a real bee word. Anyhow, "You look nice" is funny to us.

About 11:30, I went into my bedroom and changed into a set of red vanity fair coloratura pajamas and robe. I also put on matching red panties with lace, all vanity fair. We celebrated the new year, toasted each other, had a new year's kiss and went to bed.

This morning we just lounged around the house in our bed clothes, played on the computer, drank coffee adn watched tv. She said let's do something instead of just lying around the house. So we decided to get dressed and walk through some flea markets. I went into my room and dressed in teh same clothes I had on last night--blue vanity fair lace ravissant briefs, Chic elastic waist pull on jeans, Dress Barn sleeveless Tee shirt, and a Sag Harbor over shirt. Before I went into the living room, I got one of my Columbia coats out of the closet just as she was telling me to wear a light jacket. I stood in front of her and asked if this looked ok, or do I need to change my shirt, I'll keep my jacket on I said. She said I looked fine.

Sure enough, as we were walking through the flea market I got hot. She said, take off your jacket. I said, no, I'm ok. I walked a few steps and said to myself, what teh heck! and I took off my jacket. She came up behind me and started messing with my collar and teh hem of the shirt. Should I put my jacket back on? No, I'm just straightening you up.

I was so peaceful, so serene, it was a very enjoyable experience. I wasn't trying to pass...Heck I had to grow a moustache because my hands are so unsteady that I would cut my nose shaving and since I talk xeralto I bleed like a stuck pig. No, I don't pass but I do dress comfortably. No dresses, mainly jeans, slacks, androgenous tops...oh you'd know if you were looking at me that I was wearing women's clothes...you know it takes one to know one, but most people don't pay any attention.

We got home and I messed aroudn with adding some water to the hot tub, took a shower and am now wearing light blue Vanity Fair pajamas and a matching short robe....and, of course, matching panties. My wife just told me I looked nice and she hugged me. Ain't life grand!

We have been SIP since March 10. We will get through this! Stay safe.

Nice to know i am not the only caravaner here ! like you i take Anticoagulants -- can be a problem at times so far i havent taken it ( dressing ) as far as you........

[MaryAnn1963]

My first memory of crossdressing was when I was 6ish... it has been off and on since. 20 years ago I lived alone and had a 3 bedroom home, two of the three closets were for MaryAnn. The only time I wasn't dressed was at work or out with male friends (don't think they would have understood). 18 years ago when I met my wife I tried to quite cold turkey.... that didn't couldn't happen. Now the pink fog is back stronger than ever and I'm not sure where it will lead this time....

[jamie-upstate]

68 and only own a couple pair of men's shoes shirt and pants . I have no Male underwear. Been retired 8 years derss female casual 24/ 7

[Jenny_S]

I would say it increases as I get older. But why? Perhaps my growing experiences and comfortableness provide/promote more opportunities. Also, an expanding wardrobe beyond solid dark tops and bottoms scream to be worn.

[Liz Jones]

I?m mid 60s. Desire is stronger than ever as I have the opportunity and money to be able to dress fully and go out in public feeling confident. For years it was more a closet thing with occasional trips out not looking very convincing. I have received great advice from wife friends beauty salons and others and the fact I am told I now look good dressed probably intensifies the desire to go out. I also enjoy the buying of age appropriate but very feminine quality clothing and accessories and mixing with women and being treated as a woman when I?m out. Never dreamt I would reach this level when I started this long journey!
We seem to have lost one of the best dress shops --- Bon Marche ( U.K. ) ones in liverpool & wallasey have closed only birkenhead open........

[MissAlexisRae]

So...what you?re all saying is this never really goes away? I?m 35 and already can?t pull away.:eek:

[April Rose]

Give in to the dark side, Alexis......:devil: