Do you think you would be recognised?

[Gemma Rhodes]

Hi Girls,

If you were out fully femme and saw a friend who didn't know of your girly side do you think they would recognise you if they passed you in the street.

I think when I become Gemma I look totally different to when Im Les and others have said this to me too, so I was just wondering do you still look like yourself when you get femmed up or do you look like a totally different person?


Gemma xx

[Francesca Chantel]

My glasses and being with my adorable wife would give me away...

[RobynB]

I do not think I would. I look completely different in male mode.
Robyn

[Lindahexi]

I don't think anybody I know would recognise me when I'm fully enfemme, the only thing that would give me away would be my voice. My female look is so different from my male look that I hardly recognise my self in the mirror. LOL

[christine55]

I was at a self serve checkout, saw a GG I know from work 3 feet away. I did a good job of not showing alarm, etc. Was not recognized.
Hugs, Christine

[DonnaT]

Heck, my own mother didn't recognize me.

[bjsa]

Ive been out when I was seen by a few people who new me as male. But i just acted natural, no one knew. Ive found if u look the part n stay calm, no one notices.

[michellecd9999]

Probably not. I was out with Tri-ess a few months ago to go out to eat. They decided on a restaurant not too far from where I live. I was terrified that someone might see me. But I looked in the mirror and realized no one would recognize me. Also, most people have will not recognize a face out of context, meaning they won't put your male face in context of a female.
Michelle

[Shelly Preston]

I think it would depend on three things

1) Your reaction when you seen them may give you away
2) How close they are to you distance wise from across the street they may assume even if there suspicious its your sister
3) Where they see you may have a bearing on ther thoughts


And yes I suspect I would be recognised

[carol ann]

there is a risk that you may be recognised - even on this forum - by those who know you well. When you are actually seen face to face there are so many things to give you away - your height- your build - your posture - the way you walk - the shape of yor head- your smile (or lack of it) - your adam's apple - a local place. Women are more astute at this than men - they would spot a wig from twenty paces,

If I was choosing to go out 'en femme', I would travel at least fifty miles away from home

[Nikki Dee]

Generally I don't think I would be recognised...but there are a couple of girls where I work that I would not want to risk the possibility with...they are very astute and "switched on"...and I would guess they might just "spot" me.
Nikki. xxx

[Melanie R]

Last year my wife with Melanie attended a musical at a theatre in Houston. While I was sitting on a bench waiting for my wife to come out of the rest room my former business partner of 15 years and his wife and daughter walked passed me. They acknowledged my presence with a smile. Again later after the performance they were getting into an elavator as I was getting out. Again no recognition. They knew "Mel" was present because my wife talked with them outside the rest room. A week later Bob called Mel and told of his disappointment in not seeing and talking with Mel. I would have loved to have told him that he really saw me but this man is the ultimate conservative fundamentalist who would never tolerate me not being in their "box".

[Sam-antha]

I reckon that I would get away with it, if :
I was not seen to slightly limp. Which I do, sometimes.
I was not seen on the same side of a pavement that I use normally.
I am not sure that my way of walking, with flat or low heels, might not be a give away.
But :
Given all that, I feel that if I just kept on without, any significant reaction, then I would be OK.

[sharifemme]

Gemma...

I guess that would depend on how I was dressed at the time and whether they heard my voice or not. When I wear a nice dress and a really feminine hairstyle, with good makeup, I don't look anything like a boy. If I just rake my bangs down, wear little makeup, with jeans and a sweatshirt with bra and enhancers, I think it would be easy to recognize me as the male personna, especially if I talked.

Sharifemme



Hi Girls,

If you were out fully femme and saw a friend who didn't know of your girly side do you think they would recognise you if they passed you in the street.

I think when I become Gemma I look totally different to when Im Les and others have said this to me too, so I was just wondering do you still look like yourself when you get femmed up or do you look like a totally different person?


Gemma xx

[sherri]

Interesting question, interesting responses. This is a question I have often wondered about and would love to know the answer to. My instinct says no, I wouldn't be recognized in a passing encounter, across a crowded room etc, but then I wonder if that is just wishful thinking. I've been tempted to go drab to the gay bar I frequent as Sherri to see if they recognize me, but haven't so far cuz if they could recognize me, I don't want them to know.

I went to a new year's party at that bar once and a professional photographer with whom I have worked numerous times came in to take pics for a local mag. I about died. He showed no signs of recognizing me, but then we never came in contact with each other. Needless to say I avoided his camera like it was a death ray.

[EricaCD]

Except for the fact that I am tall, there is no way I'd be mistaken for my male self. Even then, I would be willing to bet that I would pass first, second and third glance. I would also be willing to bet that if my wife surfed by this site and saw my profile pic she would not recognize me.

[Gail Stauffer]

with more practice on the make up, and wearing my wig, I don't think so!! need to get the confidence up, and I really think I would pass even better!!

[Penny]

Hi Girls,

If you were out fully femme and saw a friend who didn't know of your girly side do you think they would recognise you if they passed you in the street.

I think when I become Gemma I look totally different to when Im Les and others have said this to me too, so I was just wondering do you still look like yourself when you get femmed up or do you look like a totally different person?

Gemma xx
I read a thread here a while back about a CD that obtained an ID card while
dressed like a female. I thought that was a good idea so I called the state
police to find out if that was possible in my state. They said no because
the makeup, arched eyebrow ect. were considered a disguise. So I guess if that's what you want, then yes you may not be recognized. I was curious as to whether there were any laws such as something like public deception having identified myself as a CD. The officer wasn't sure be said she would check and get back with me so I gave her my real name and telephone number. I am not embarassed to get the pizza at the front door. I am not that concerned as to whether someone recoginzes me. I go into the local convenience store dressed both ways in the same week and see the same clerk. I am not ashamed to admit that I like being pretty and I could give
a damn about what people think. Nowhere in webster's does it say that making
oneself pretty is reserved for the female gender. That is all in our gender
brainwashed minds. So if wearing female clothing undergarments makes you
feel pretty then be ok with it and don't let others dictate how you should be.

[michelle_grrrl]

Wow so many responses! I'll just add to it if you all don't mind. I think if someone knew me really well there's a chance they could tell but i don't think very many of your friends will be out looking for you wearing a dress:D The way that would give almost any girl on here away is if you had to talk to them otherwise I think i'd manage alright

[Gemma Rhodes]

If I just rake my bangs down,

Thanks for all your answers but is this a US saying, sorry to sound ignorant but what are bangs and how do you rake them down??:strugglin

[Lindahexi]

Gemma I think bangs are gatherings of hair that are 'raked' or combed down the forhead, similar to my own style.

[Tamara Croft]

Thanks for all your answers but is this a US saying, sorry to sound ignorant but what are bangs and how do you rake them down??:strugglinBangs = fringe ;) those bits of hair over your forehead Gemma.

[Freo_kerry]

Hi girls

My mother did not recognise a vey close up scren shot of me even when I kept saying look closer...
This week I gave a powerpoint presentation on TG matters to my therapist and part way through I used a higher definition shot of my avatar and even with me standing in front of her and saying that it was me she had trouble seing any resemblance. Either I'm very good or money talks and she doesn't want to upst me... (I don't think so)

Kerry

[Gemma Rhodes]

Thanks Linda, Tamara,

Have not heard of the expression before in the UK, maybe its just me as you both seem to know.

Gemma xx

[JeanneF]

I've proven that I won't be recognized. I was meeting up for dinner with a fellow t-girl that I've gone clubbing with before when she was passing through Cincinnati a few weeks ago. Both of us were in "boy-mode", and neither of us was able to recognize eachother in the restaraunt. I had to call her on my mobile phone so I find her in the place.

The power of makeup is truly amazing. :)

[CharlaineCadence]

I am at this time unable to tell you weather or not I will pass well I have been out a few times and will more and more. I have been out in broad daylight and nighttimes. I can tell you that one day I left my house en-fem and jumped into my truck and went out shopping. Later that night I was asked why the woman was driving my truck be co workers but with tinted windows my glasses. it was hard for them to tell. though I have to admit that I know some people at fast food resterunts count not tell. I still have alot of work to do and have not met with my new therapist to get my hormones as of yet either. I cant wait though. http://profiles.yahoo.com/kawitolba?warn=1 this is a photo of me while i was in iraq can you tell?

[Joy Carter]

Good for you Penny I like your attitude.

[Mitzi]

I've been recognized en femme by two ladies who'd dealt with crossdressers. Each had only seen me once, en drab. They both seemed surprised at how "good" I looked as a woman. But they did recognize me.

On the other hand, a visitor at Carla's, whom I'd met as Mitzi, didn't recognized the drab me when I'd changed back.

These encounters were with persons I'd just met who knew I dressed. Whether someone I've known for some time, who doesn't know about the dressing, would recognize me, I just don't know.

Mitzi

[Adrienne Heels]

I think I look different enough as a woman where I would not be recognized.....I have to work on my voice, though. That would be a giveaway.

Karyn

[Maureen Henley]

I think I would be recognized, since I don't wear a wig, and makeup just softens my appearance a little bit. Seeing some of my Tri-Ess sisters both en femme and in drab, I can testify that the wig makes the biggest difference. Just styling my hair probably wouldn't make enough of a change or distract enough from my mug to make me unrecognizable.:(

[michellecd9999]

Let me add a funny story. A few years ago on Halloween. I decided at the last minute to get a costume. I found a black stretchy dress with below the knee length of my wife's - Becuase it stretched, I could fit in it. I went to Wal-Mart got a witch wig and green/black makeup, some cheap black low (2")heels and black panty hose. Use a bra and water-balloons for tits. I looked like a witch. I handed out candy at he door. One kid asked me "What are you suppose to be a girl?" - I said no, a witch and laughed being made by an 8 year old.
Later I went down the street to an adult party my neighbors had. I walked up and said hello to several female neighbors. They looked at me and said,"WHO ARE YOU" DO WE KNOW YOU?" I laughed and told them who I was. Their mouths all dropped and they said, "no way!" One told me I had a great figure and asked what I was wearing under the dress. Just pantyhose and bra with the water balloons. They were all amazed and said they never would have guessed who I was.
I have not dressed en-fem on Halloween since then as I don't want to be pegged as a CDers to the neighbors. But it was funny to see their reactions! It also verified that most would not recognize me in fem form.
Michelle

[Janet_Johnson_cd]

I think with a good wig, dress and make-up you would pass for the real thing.

[MsEva]

I don't think so, I look really different in femme mode.

[DonnaT]

I was unrecognizable in a crowd of other CDs as well.

My wife and I went to a holiday gala sponsored by a local TG group. After the entertainment part of the event, I changed back into boy mode and returned to my wife. She was saying her good-byes and I would join in, and the folks would wonder who the heck I was.

One is a member of another forum, and when I walked up and asked if she'd take a picture with me, I scared her and her wife was worried I was coming on to her. We had a good laugh at that.

[Janet_Johnson_cd]

I don't think so, I look really different in femme mode.

I understand sorry. ;)

[Emily Ann Brown]

Absolutely not.....when I came out to my GG pal by sending photos she was not buying it at all. She does now, but she still seems amazed.

Emily Ann

[BeckyCath]

It's an interesting question Gemma...

For me, i've been growing my hair for the last 18 months, and when i "came out" at my children's school earlier in the month, it wasn't such a "wow you looks so femme" more of a "wow, now it all makes sense" I'd say i'm fairly recognisable as her now...

However, i think if people who knew me as her were to meet "him" they'd be pretty surprised...

I do know that in my wig wearing days (thankfully well over now), i did run into a colleague... well he ran into me, looked at me, appoligised and carried on... when i spoke to him about it, he recalled almost knocking a lady to the ground in MK shopping centre, but refused to beleive it was me...

However, i'm not deluded enough to think i look so different, the difference is, for me, as a woman, i smile...

Rebecca

[renee k]

Hi Girls,

If you were out fully femme and saw a friend who didn't know of your girly side do you think they would recognise you if they passed you in the street.

I think when I become Gemma I look totally different to when Im Les and others have said this to me too, so I was just wondering do you still look like yourself when you get femmed up or do you look like a totally different person?


Gemma xx
I know I'm not recogniseable. A couple of years ago I attended a play enfemme with a TS girlfriend. Sitting a row behind us in the theater was my girlfriend's ( at the time ) mother and two of her sisters, who I knew from going to family functions as my male self. I even stood in line for the ladies room with them at intermission and exchanged pleasantries, without even a strange look. Nor, was anything mentioned to me later from my ex girlfriend. But believe me I was nervous as a cat in a room full of rocking chairs.

Huggs, Renee

[Elizabeth Anne]

I don't think anybody I know would recognise me when I'm fully enfemme, the only thing that would give me away would be my voice. My female look is so different from my male look that I hardly recognise my self in the mirror. LOL

Same here.

Beth

[Sweet Susan]

It's hard to say. I once went to an Emerald City meeting where I saw someone that I knew from my Mr. Man life, and that person didn't say anything to me, nor could I figure out who she was.

[cindybarnes]

I absolutly dont worry about being recognized but had 1 close call where I just went to another store when a work friend parked nearby. No reason to test my opinion :)

Cindy

[Bernice]

Not to be a spoilsport, but I think you never know, until you are recognized. If we were sure we would not be recognized, we'd all get out of the closet more.

Read about the adventures of Sarah West on United Air Lines. She advises to keep your real ID. She and others have said that law enforcement officials are trained to look past the wig and makeup and they WILL recognize you. So the answer depends upon who is looking.

My voice would give me away instantly, no matter how good the rest of me was.

Hugs,

Bernice

[Deborah]

My voice would give me away, but i look totally different when i'm all dressed up also.

[Jennaie]

Sometimes I think I would because when I am dressed, I look like a female version of myself, I look like my sister, but I do look female, at least I think I do. Sometimes we see what we want in the mirror.

However, I remember once I put on a long wig and wore it to a friends house. I was totally in drab, no makeup, nothing but a shirt, jeans, and wig. He did not even recognize me when he answered the door.

So, who knows.

My best guess is no, probably not. but it would scare the heck out of me to run into my sister or daughter out there.

They know my eyes all too well. I once was in a class that delt with human interaction. On the third day of class, I'm sitting about three rows back and the instructor is talking about eye contact.

He said that if anyone wanted to see what powerful eye contact is, all they needed to do was look at me. He said my name in front of everyone, I was so embarrassed.

Jennaie :be:

[Bev06 GG]

Generally I don't think I would be recognised...but there are a couple of girls where I work that I would not want to risk the possibility with...they are very astute and "switched on"...and I would guess they might just "spot" me.
Nikki. xxx
I would recognise you Nikki, you'de stand out in the crowd. Mind you dont think I'd recognise you in Male mode, that might take some doing, tee hee. As for Gemma, I seen her both ways and she gorgeous whatever.
Love ya
BEV

[Gemma Rhodes]

As for Gemma, I seen her both ways and she gorgeous whatever.
Love ya
BEV

Awww ta Bev, love you too.

Gemma xx

[JEANNE63]

I'll give you 30% for confidence like that!