Heels?

[Krisi]

What's the deal with heels? I was reading another thread questioning whether high heels would damage flooring in the kitchen and several people commented that they cook wearing heels. Is it a fetish? A compulsion?

Women I know don't normally wear heels. They might wear heels to a wedding or funeral but not every day unless they are expected for work, and they certainly don't wear heels while cooking or doing housework. My wife doesn't own a pair of heels (I do though) and hasn't for years. Out in public, I rarely see women wearing heels. It's mostly sneakers or sandals. Once in a while, a pair of flats.

So why is wearing heels important to you? Does it make you feel more like a woman? Sexy? Come on, let's hear your reason.

[Sally Paradise]

The sound of heels on a floor is kinda sexy to me, and I like the look and feel in general. I actually have more of a thing for sexy boots than just heels in general. But, I suppose wearing heels frequently can help develop more feminine attributes, like more shapely legs and even force a more feminine walk.

[Jean 103]

It's simple, I like wearing heels.

I have about 200 pairs of shoes maybe twenty of them are flats that a hardly wear or only for work.

Flats feel like in walking up hill. I will wear them to the beach but even here if I'm wearing heels I just take them off when I get to the sand.

A close friend asked me this question a while ago. I told her simply I wear flats and jeans to work, even though they are women's, I think of them as guy clothes, and I only do that for work.

At work I'm up and down ladders every day. Walking on my tip toes is normal for me.

As far as what my friends (GGs) wear. That has little influence on me. Most of the time I'm the only one in a dress and heels in the daytime, nighttime is different.

I don't wear shoes around the house, there was a time that I did. Now I only put on makeup and shoes when I leave the house, but I'm out and live as Jean, so that's sometimes everyday.

As far as everyone here, as you know most are in the closet, so dressing at home is their only opportunity to wear their heels.

As far as women,

my Mom always wore a dress and heels. Mostly pumps with short heels. She didn't even own any pants or flats.

My wife , for the first twenty years she always wore heels, yes even working on the house, gardening, it didn't matter.

My best friend (GG) mostly wears flats during the day and heels if she goes out at night.

Yes some women are like my sister. She didn't have one dress or pair of heels when I cleaned out her place a little over a year ago, after she had passed away.

[MonicaPVD]

The vast majority of women today aren't interested in expressing gender stereotypes and, therefore, dress for comfort and convenience. Hence, t-shirts, jeans, leggings, sneakers, and other mostly androgynous gear. On the other hand, the crossdresser is often (to varying degrees) consumed with expressing gender stereotypes. Hence, hosiery, heels, lots of makeup, etc. Personally, I have been wearing t-shirts, jeans and sneakers my entire life as a guy. What would be the point of attempting to pass as a woman wearing clothes that is indistinguishable from what I have always worn?

[MaryAnn1963]

Just my 2 cents... I could be waaayyy off base.

I think it might go back to the generation we were raised in. From the posts I've read, most on this site are 55+, so that would put us in the era where much of the advertising and movies we saw growing up had women in heels. (yes, advertising and movies are VERY influential on young impressionable minds) So June Cleaver, Doris Day and the like, as we saw them, tended to be our role models (if you were a budding cross dresser back then), and when we saw them, they were dressed to the "nines". So for us, heels are a thing.
Again just my take on things......:)

[MonicaPVD]

In the future, everyone will be considered non-binary and will wear grey hoodies with khaki pants and white sneakers. No one will remember what all the fuss was about crossdressing.

[Asew]

Even though I am partially out in the world, I probably still wear heels more at home than out. If I doing something like thrift shopping or grocery shopping while dressed, I am typically in flip flops in the summer and booties in the winter, they are more practical for those kind of tasks. I typically only wear the heels out for special events like GNO or attending drag shows. At home, sometimes it is about fetish, sometimes its about pulling together a cute outfit, other times is wearing a new pair of heels I don't have a chance soon to wear someplace specifically.

It is weird to have shoes on in my house since otherwise shoes are off in the house. Granted my in laws wear their shoes in our house (at their house they change into house shoes). Referring to TV shows for shoes in the house doesn't reflect the culture, as my take on it is that wearing shoes is more aesthetic than bare feet or socks so TV would rather the actors wear shoes in the house.

[NancySue]

Heels important...yes. Feel more like a woman? Of course...who else wears them? Cowboys? Sexy? Yes. Fetish? Yes. Compulsion? Yes. Comfortable? At first. Cons...my golfing buddy is a podiatrist. He attributes his success and financial comfort to one thing...you guessed it...high heels. Years ago, he explained the damage prolonged wearing of high heels does to the toes, arches, Achilles? tendon, calf muscles and lower back. Really scary. My wife gave away all her high heels. It?s all about comfort now, thus flats, sandals, slippers, etc. 2? heels are the highest I own. Damage to wood floors...yes.

[Krea]

At the risk of committing an act of blasphemy here, i don't care for high heels. I prefer more practical footwear such as trainers (sneakers) or very low heeled ankle boots.
My wife seldom, if ever, wears high-heeled footwear either.

Monica, i now identify as NB, but i don't wear grey hoodies, khaki trousers & white trainers. :raisedeyebrow: (I know you were only joking, haha)

[ClosetED]

We love femininity and that may be different to each of us, based on our different environments. So the US media/advertisers has shown women wearing heels. So that is one reason. And legs look better in high heels than flats. And I like to show off my legs. But I don't wear them for more than a few hours and don't walk outside in them.
Hugs, Ellen

[Paulie Birmingham]

Most of the CDs here wear heels, pantyhose, dresses, bras, skirts, etc. Much more often than most women I know including my wife, sisters, in laws, friends.

[Leslie Langford]

...Women I know don't normally wear heels...and they certainly don't wear heels while cooking or doing housework...

That's because you're living in the wrong era, Krisi, not during the 1950's or early 1960's. Just think of all those sitcoms back then...Leave It To Beaver, Father Knows Best, Ozzie and Harriet, The Dick van Dyke Show etc. June Cleaver was famous for wearing stylish dresses and heels around the house while going about her chores. And don't forget the pearls...ohhh!...those lovely pearls she always wore...;)

[Jackiefl]

wearing high heels to cook dinner sounds strange whats even stranger is a woman who wears stilettos to bed lol

[Ressie]

I was talking to CD once that said she liked to wear heels while vacuuming! Don't knock it until you've tried it. :daydreaming:

Yes, heels are one of my many fetishes. I can't walk in them for very long because they're not good for my feet. Some heels have a very sexy appeal - pant, pant! They change ugly men's feet into something feminine, glamorous and sexy.

[MaryAnn1963]

I guess in my mind...(very scary place by the way).. I don't get to be a woman very often and when I do I want to be the best woman I can be. Heels is just part of that.

[Stephanie47]

I am almost 73 (later this month). I grew up in the 1950's and 1960's. Women in my neighborhood did NOT wear pants. There was one woman, a divorced woman, who was looked askance by the other woman for wearing pants and being divorced. As to foot wear woman wore flip-flops or sandals or maybe a shoe without any rise. Yes, on Sunday or a wedding or funeral women dressed up. It was unheard of for a woman not to wear a dress and heels to church. And, for Roman Catholics it was a head covering. Televison shows always had the wife wearing a dress and heels (Leave It to Beaver, Ozzie and Harriet).

As others have stated also, my view of femininity was formed by the women around me in the 1950's and 1960's. Even little girls in the 1950's wore dresses when they played or rode a bike which was designed for females in dresses.

I had to chuckle at your questions. My question for this forum is "What's going on with everyone wearing pants?" Pants made for women are a garment co-opted from the men's section. Throw on a bra and panty, and, then pants! Yuck! :) No need to respond to the question. I know I will get the same response I get from my wife, who, coincidentally is now "crossdressing" because she decided "men's" shorts are more functional than women's shorts. Women's shorts have lousy pockets. My wife picked up the fashion trend from our neighbor across the street. So, if I apply his concept to womanhood, then a man "underdressing" in bra and panty with his male street clothing is making a fashion statement of the "new woman." Neither wear makeup on a daily basis, either.

No pants for me. Dresses and heels, please.

[DianeT]

I discovered them only a year ago. I'm tall and it's really funny to suddenly stand a few inches higher. Plus I love the graphics look of it, if you draw a female silhouette from the side in flats and then add heels it really brings style and energy to it. I sense this when I wear them and it makes me feel great. They are somewhat mythical to me as I very much admire them on women and dreamt for so long of having a pair of my own and was sad that it was a thing reserved to ladies. Plus the click click click. And the new posture when crouching. It's just tons of fun across the board. I know I will sound a total loony to any GG reading this including my wife :) I know I am. Heck, what can I do... Anyway, that was my declaration of love to heels....

[docrobbysherry]

Krisi, I'm sure you're aware some of us r NOT satisfied to simply present as female. We strive to look like attractive, sexy females!:battingeyelashes:
Especially CD's who don't need or care to dress every day!:heehee:

Hi heels, 4" and over, not only make your legs appear slimmer and longer? They also modify your posture and your gait!:D

I LOVE watching myself walk in hi heels in the shop windows as I mince by!:daydreaming:

If it's a fetish, it AIN'T like your pantie thing.:doh: Because u and everyone can see your heels!:devil:

[Teresa]

Krisi,
I only have one pair of flat shoes and I do my gardening in them otherwise all my shoes and wedges have some sort of heel . I wear wedges to do all my jobs around the town and often forget to slip them off when I return home . Legs really do look better with a heel no matter how small , I feel skirts and dresses need that lift to look right , I would sooner wear them than wear a dress or skirt in trainers , that look does nothing for me .

I admit I'm more selective when I wear smart heels , I certainly wouldn't wear them for everyday , sadly I feel we can now look old fashioned wearing them at the wrong time .

My reason is I've basically clomped around in clumsy male shoes for most of my life , it is nice to finally look more elegant and feel more feminine and I accept sexy at times .

Monica ,
I don't consider myself NB and have never worn a grey hoodie and white trainers and never will , so I hope your prediction proves totally wrong otherwise why did I and many others separate from our wives ?

[Cynthia T]

One night, home alone, 7th Grade, I was reading a paperback that mentioned that a character was wearing high heels. Pow. I tried on a pair of my sister's heels, and that was the first cross-dressing I did. I wear heels with every outfit I own. High heels are my reason for dressing, although, yes, they are not comfortable. I walked a half mile at a Pride celebration two years ago--OW! (but so much fun)

[DianaPrince]

I have plantar fasciitis, and currently I only wear certain sneakers for good support. If I wear anything else for more than a couple of hours I feel it.

I want to try heels, but not sure I can.

[Pumped]

It depends on the look you like and your "hot" button. Heels for me are more important that any other article of clothing. I wear heels every day, heeled boots all day. Fetish? Perhaps. I know I get up in the morning and slip on a pair of heels while getting ready. In the evening, while winding down for the night I am wearing heels. I wear heels more hours a day that my wife, and she wears low heels to work.

You can take away my "boobs", my undies and dresses, but there will be a battle if you try take my high heels.

Everyone has something that makes them about crazy, one way or another. Many of us it is high heels.

[docrobbysherry]

The thing is? Some T's think of 3 1/2" heels as high!:heehee:

[Taylor186]

The thing is? Some T's think of 3 1/2 " heels as high!:heehee:

If you wear a women's size 5 then 3 1/2" is high, aesthetically. If you wear a size 12, as I do then, 3 1/2'' is not so much.

[Pumped]

I wear a size 10, and can do a 4" heel comfortably and walk in them without looking stupid. I think I have reached my limit. My ankles don't want to bend any farther, not that I haven't tried. I believe I have simply reached the end of the range of motion in my ankles.

I look at pictures of woman wearing 5 and 6 inch heels and the top of thier foot is parallel or even farther to thier leg. I am envious of that range of motion.

Like this,

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[Marianne S]

Wow, Krisi! Did this question hit a nerve! Look how many responses! There must be something intensely "symbolic" about shoes.

My answer is the same as many others'. Granted, I don't wear heels that high, though I'd love to do so, because it would be fun. Also I had an incipient ingrown toenail on my right foot that makes it painful to wear high heels for very long. I have a huge collection of shoes in various heights accumulated over the years in an attempt to find what's comfortable. (I'm a size eleven, which makes the selection more restricted. I hate to think what some males face when they're a size twelve and larger.)

But in the end it's a balance between "femininity" and comfort. I admit I wear women's sandals around the house most of the time when I'm "dressed." I'd like to wear heels more of the time, but they can get uncomfortable after a while.

So what's so great about heels? As others have found, they make me "feel feminine." And what's the point of "cross"-dressing if it's not to "feel feminine"? Naturally we want to accentuate what "feels feminine" to us, even if it isn't what most women wear much of the time. Sure, scads of women sling on a T-shirt and jeans, "unisex" clothing for convenience, just as men do. But in formal contexts we accentuate our masculinity and femininity. No woman would be seen dead at the Oscars parading herself in sneakers. It's high heels for sure. Same with men. We don't wear neckties any more, much of the time, but we do at a formal event; even with a ceremonial sword, where military officers' uniform requires it.

I don't know which is worse: wearing high heels and a tight dress, or having to tote a clanking sword around the house! Anyway we don't have to go to those extremes. We don't have to wear a five-inch heel either. An inch or two is enough. When it come to shoes, there is a compromise between femininity and comfort. The "femininity" part comes from knowing we "look" more elegant, the shoe itself more delicate, the angle between foot and ankle straightened out, like a ballerina on her "points." The whole "different feel" of women's clothing (shoes included) compared with men's, reminds us of our enjoyment of "being women." And of course there's the way "heels" make us walk differently, all the way up to the hips, more the way a woman walks.

An excellent compromise is a woman's high-heeled open-toed sandal, which jacks up the heels in a stimulating way without painfully compressing the toes.


In the future, everyone will be considered non-binary and will wear grey hoodies with khaki pants and white sneakers. No one will remember what all the fuss was about crossdressing.

Ain't gonna happen, Monica. And thank HEAVEN for that! Sure, there's been "convergence" between men's and women's clothing, but only on the grounds of convenience and utility. "Utility"--what an ugly, soulless word that is! Who wants to see men and women all alike in those dismal "unisex" uniforms worn in communist China?--the ultimate in "drab"! Where's the fun in that? Boring, BORING!

No, human nature doesn't change, unless it's deliberately suppressed. Men and women will continue to assert themselves in their gender-divergent ways; in fashion above all. Thank goodness! Fashions may change, but differences remain, even if they're annoying at times.

Forty years ago I couldn't wear earrings in public without being thought "weird." Today I can.

Twenty years ago or thereabouts I could wear denim cutoffs as a male without being thought weird. Later, gangs of females invaded that "fashion space" and tight shorts became "girly." So today as a male I wear cargo shorts. It was annoying to be pried out of a comfortable fashion space--was there anything "essentially feminine" about tight shorts that I enjoyed?--but at least cargo shorts have pockets I can use! What we lose on the swings we gain on the roundabouts.

In spite of these changes, differences remain. Could I wear a crop top, or one of those off-the shoulder tops, or women's jeans, without being seen as "feminine"? No--and I'm glad about it. Differences between the sexes remain, and always will--ever since the time "sexual reproduction" first emerged eons ago, the splitting of life into "male" and "female," the engine of change and progress that powered our evolution and advanced us to where we are today: imperfect and conflicted, but sentient and intelligent, conscious and aware, with a future ahead of us, where without the division into "male" and "female" we might still be nothing but germs floating in the mud of some primordial swamp.

So hey, "Vive la Difference!"

[AngelaYVR]

I wear heels in the kitchen because my wife said that she likes the look. Combined with stockings, me making dinner is her dessert!

But why is what we like to do a fetish and what you like to do acceptable?

[Liz Jones]

Wow, Krisi! Did this question hit a nerve! Look how many responses! There must be something intensely "symbolic" about shoes.

My answer is the same as many others'. Granted, I don't wear heels that high, though I'd love to do so, because it would be fun. Also I had an incipient ingrown toenail on my right foot that makes it painful to wear high heels for very long. I have a huge collection of shoes in various heights accumulated over the years in an attempt to find what's comfortable. (I'm a size eleven, which makes the selection more restricted. I hate to think what some males face when they're a size twelve and larger.)

But in the end it's a balance between "femininity" and comfort. I admit I wear women's sandals around the house most of the time when I'm "dressed." I'd like to wear heels more of the time, but they can get uncomfortable after a while.

So what's so great about heels? As others have found, they make me "feel feminine." And what's the point of "cross"-dressing if it's not to "feel feminine"? Naturally we want to accentuate what "feels feminine" to us, even if it isn't what most women wear much of the time. Sure, scads of women sling on a T-shirt and jeans, "unisex" clothing for convenience, just as men do. But in formal contexts we accentuate our masculinity and femininity. No woman would be seen dead at the Oscars parading herself in sneakers. It's high heels for sure. Same with men. We don't wear neckties any more, much of the time, but we do at a formal event; even with a ceremonial sword, where military officers' uniform requires it.

I don't know which is worse: wearing high heels and a tight dress, or having to tote a clanking sword around the house! Anyway we don't have to go to those extremes. We don't have to wear a five-inch heel either. An inch or two is enough. When it come to shoes, there is a compromise between femininity and comfort. The "femininity" part comes from knowing we "look" more elegant, the shoe itself more delicate, the angle between foot and ankle straightened out, like a ballerina on her "points." The whole "different feel" of women's clothing (shoes included) compared with men's, reminds us of our enjoyment of "being women." And of course there's the way "heels" make us walk differently, all the way up to the hips, more the way a woman walks.

An excellent compromise is a woman's high-heeled open-toed sandal, which jacks up the heels in a stimulating way without painfully compressing the toes.



Ain't gonna happen, Monica. And thank HEAVEN for that! Sure, there's been "convergence" between men's and women's clothing, but only on the grounds of convenience and utility. "Utility"--what an ugly, soulless word that is! Who wants to see men and women all alike in those dismal "unisex" uniforms worn in communist China?--the ultimate in "drab"! Where's the fun in that? Boring, BORING!

No, human nature doesn't change, unless it's deliberately suppressed. Men and women will continue to assert themselves in their gender-divergent ways; in fashion above all. Thank goodness! Fashions may change, but differences remain, even if they're annoying at times.

Forty years ago I couldn't wear earrings in public without being thought "weird." Today I can.

Twenty years ago or thereabouts I could wear denim cutoffs as a male without being thought weird. Later, gangs of females invaded that "fashion space" and tight shorts became "girly." So today as a male I wear cargo shorts. It was annoying to be pried out of a comfortable fashion space--was there anything "essentially feminine" about tight shorts that I enjoyed?--but at least cargo shorts have pockets I can use! What we lose on the swings we gain on the roundabouts.

In spite of these changes, differences remain. Could I wear a crop top, or one of those off-the shoulder tops, or women's jeans, without being seen as "feminine"? No--and I'm glad about it. Differences between the sexes remain, and always will--ever since the time "sexual reproduction" first emerged eons ago, the splitting of life into "male" and "female," the engine of change and progress that powered our evolution and advanced us to where we are today: imperfect and conflicted, but sentient and intelligent, conscious and aware, with a future ahead of us, where without the division into "male" and "female" we might still be nothing but germs floating in the mud of some primordial swamp.

So hey, "Vive la Difference!"

dont know if this "fits In " the thread but,--- i am of Scottish background so can ( and do -- full evening outfit ) wear a kilt. Of late i have bought a ---- cargo kilt ! use it for hill walking the only thing is the weight, they are heavy ! Swords ? i carry a small knife in my sock top when in full evening dress though these days its blunted ( by law in U.K. ) might have been handy if someone refered to the kilt as a "skirt" !

[Vicky_Scot]

I was reading another thread questioning whether high heels would damage flooring in the kitchen

Heels will damage flooring in any room of your house depending what flooring you have down. X x x

[DianeT]

No woman would be seen dead at the Oscars parading herself in sneakers.
These ceremonies have a dress code. Therefore I doubt it's women's choice to wear heels or dresses there. If no dress code was enforced, there's a good probability that we would see sneakers (and slacks and whatever), even in these formal events.

[Liz Jones]

I cook ( former employment in the M.N. ) the Sunday dinner as a change from machining metal,knocking nails in wood Ect. So Sunday afternoon i "dress" with heels Ect in the kitchen, do find i have a " normal" heel hight of around 2.5 to 3.00 inches above that its possable for a short while & for you youngsters -- i am 77 years old.....

[Krisi]

Thanks everybody for your replies. I have a couple pairs of 2 1/2" pumps that I wear occasionally around the house, but not when I go out. Why? Well at 5'9" tall, I'm taller than the average woman already and my goal when out is to pass as a woman. Being 2 1/2" taller isn't going to help with that. Also, as a size 12W, I think it's best not to call attention to my feet.

Some folks mentioned the 1950s TV shows, June Cleaver, etc. Well, that's not my thing, I'm living in the present. A lot has changed in seventy years. There was another mention of "looking sexy". At my age, "sexy" has left the building. I don't wear a silicone suit or mask so the best I can go for is "classy".

Obviously, we each have our reasons for doing what we do, I was just interested in people's reasons for wearing heels. Thanks everybody.

[Karmen]

I love wearing heels and since I don't go out fully dressed that often, the only regular opportunity to wear heels is while at home, watching TV, cleaning, cooking, etc. If I could or better said, dare to do it, I would wear them at work every day.

[April Rose]

I wore heels to the TCNE holiday party. Other than that it's flats for me. I generally only dress at home, and I'm usually doing house work or hobbies so they just make more sense.

In the past I have worn them around the house, but it's just not worth the crap I get from my adamantly anti high heel wife.

[valerie anne]

I love wearing heels, as they are so sexy with sheer stockings and they seem to project my girls more.

But I don't want them to damage my wooden floors, so I generally wear wedges indoors. I get the lift and shape of a high heel, but much more comfort and a soft footprint. I can wear my wedges all day without stress.

[MargaretJ]

might have been handy if someone refered to the kilt as a "skirt" !

Oh you're going straight to hell for that comment.:laughing:

:sf:

[KarenSusan]

It's tough to get old. I love heels and up until a few years ago I could wear them. Then suddenly, seemingly overnight, my ankles got weak and my balance is off so I can wear only flats lest I fall and break something. I dearly miss heels especially with a long pencil skirt.

[FairyCrossdresser]

You?d have to ask my Heather side that question. Seriously though, I think it is just one more thing that separates me from my male self . The same reason why I almost invariably wear either a skirt or a dress while out as Heather... they are just things that are unmistakably female and cannot be confused with stereotypically male clothes.

[alwayshave]

Because I don't get to wear heels to work.

[Stephanie47]

Seriously though, I think it is just one more thing that separates me from my male self . The same reason why I almost invariably wear either a skirt or a dress while out as Heather... they are just things that are unmistakably female and cannot be confused with stereotypically male clothes.

Amen, I'm with you! That was me with the comment about growing up with "Leave It to Beaver" and "Ozzie and Harriet." That's my thing! Sometimes I find it humorous that my wife and granddaughter do a lot of shopping in the men's section of the thrift stores, while the guys are over in the women's section. As to this issue of 'sexy' all I can say is men and women can look and be downright sexy even after they have rolled around in the mud. It's more than the clothes. My 69 year old wife is as sexy as she was fifty years ago. I've encountered many "sexy" women who were sexy until they opened their mouths and spoke. Bland as cold oatmeal.

PS: Same with "hunks."

[bridget thronton]

I wear 2.5 or 3 inch heels to relieve minor heel pain

[BrendaPDX]

What's the deal with heels? So why is wearing heels important to you? Does it make you feel more like a woman? Sexy? Come on, let's hear your reason.

Good question. I like the way they make me look (yes, my own perception of me), and love the feel, the way they make me walk, and yes a little sexy. At 5'8" I am almost 6' with heels, not many gg are that tall and I like to at least try to blend. So It's flats for me when I try to blend, and I really don't blend very well at all.

[Micki_Finn]

Because flats aren’t Drag.

[dominique]

There are certain items of female clothing that bear no comparison in the male world. Bra, skirts and heels. They 3 in my opinion if you want to project a female persona are essential to that idea. As for heels they tend extend the leg into a more feminine look and the sound also helps. If you here the click clack you know it's a woman.

[TheHiddenMe]

Because I'm of the age from whence women wore heels PLUS they make my legs look good.

[Jacqueline Vivaldi]

I love to wear heels because my legs look better shaped and longer. Most importantly, the derriere as seen from the back side while walking has a very nice elegant movement with more action. Just now I have to wear flats due to a foot injury.

[ellbee]

Women I know don't normally wear heels.

...

Out in public, I rarely see women wearing heels.

You're one person. In one geographic part of the world. With a limited pool of GG's in your circle.


Also: Are you older? Retired? Do errands in the middle of the day?

Or do you typically hang with younger, fit, femmy GG's, both professionally & socially?


Because depending on how one answers those questions? That could very well make a big difference. ;)


For example, I know of a "girly-girl" GG... Fit, late-20's, attractive, socially active (including clubbing).

She's also a total shoe-junkie. She *loves* shoes! Owns & wears over 100 pairs... Mostly expensive running shoes -- and HEELS!

And she is not the only one over the years who I've known in this particular demographic, mind you, who shared the same tastes.


I currently work a decent blue-collar job. Do women wear heels there? Nope, of course not! (Though there are a couple who work in the front office, who do.)

However, I used to work in the white-collar corporate world. Obviously you'd see more heels there... Not all of them did & not every day -- but enough of them. And it wasn't even required/expected! :confused2:



Is there an overall trend away from heels, in the Western world? Probably, who knows. Though I do know that enough of them still do get made, sold -- and worn (by GG's).

Why is this? Could be many reasons. One off the top of my head? Over the decades women (and men!) have gotten HEAVIER.

So, what's typically easier on the feet & other parts of the body, when wearing heels... Weighing 140 pounds -- or 200?


Also: Overall, women's (and men's!) clothing has certainly become "sloppier" & more casual. Doesn't particularly lend to wearing heels, does it.



I own exactly one pair of heels. Maybe 2-inch heel height? Good enough for me, these days. I typically wear 'em with a dress/skirt & hose, which isn't all that often. But when I do? Yep, it elevates that fem-factor exponentially, for sure. :battingeyelashes:

Back in the day, I did own/wear a bit more... But I was still never a huge heel-aficionado, to begin with (at least not on my feet).

Today, I much prefer wearing (genuine-leather) ballet flats, running shoes & sporty-casual comfort slip-on's (think: Skechers). Plenty of reasons for this, including my lifestyle & outfit preferences.


Anyway, yes... Heels are still alive & well, contrary to some opinions. There's a time & place for them, of course -- as well as for the "right" GG (or male! :heehee: ).

And if one doesn't really see them? Then perhaps they may need to expand their professional & social universe? :strugglin

[Jane G]

As others have said. I wear heels because the women I looked up to and wanted to be like growing up, wore heels. My sister 5ft 12 ins and a former model always wears heals out to this day. Making a simple statement of who she is. I'm happy with who I am too..

[suchacutie]

There are a number of logical reasons that our feminine personas prefer high heels:
1) they strongly assist in changing our gait. It's hard to "walk like a lumberjack" in 5 inch heels!
2) they assist in changing our body language, slowing us down and forcing improved posture.
3) those of us who alternate between our gendered selves find heels to be an assist in the transition process between gender presentations, see above.
4) heels are not (currently) 'male' fashion items so help to separate our personas
There are many other issues that have already bern mentioned that are emotional links through the wearing of high heels that are unique to each of us. For me, the added benefit is that they help to align my back (wild, huh?) so I wear a pair every morning for a short while.

[Marianne S]

I wear heels because the women I looked up to and wanted to be like growing up, wore heels. My sister 5ft 12 ins and a former model always wears heals out to this day.

"Five feet twelve" is such a cute way of saying "six feet"!

I remember one woman I worked with who was six feet two. So some women do get up there!

[Jane G]

"Five feet twelve" is such a cute way of saying "six feet"!

I remember one woman I worked with who was six feet two. So some women do get up there!

Still my little sister though....:heehee:

[suzanne]

On the negative side, heels can be uncomfortable and hard on the feet as well as expensive and possibly vulnerable to getting damaged.

On the positive side, heels look awesome on anyone who wears them, be they male, female, or trans. They make my legs look longer, my feet look smaller and my dresses and skirts are always crying out to be mated with a pair of heels. They are an important part of my look, which boosts my confidence through the roof.

I get that for many people, the negatives outweigh the positives so they don't go in for them. Not me. I see mostly the positives, so I wesr them until my feet hurt too much then switch into the flats I bring along for emergencies

[Lily88]

I?m early 30s and heels are my favourite! They look/feel feminine and really good! Chores are generally done in 4 or 5 inch heels as it?s a good chance to wear them for a while but so far only worn ballet flats outside the house!

[syome]

I love heels because i think they really complete an outfit and make my legs look long and slender, they also make me feel far more confident. I dont go out while crossdressing unless im wearing heels, I think the trap a lot of people fall into with heels is they buy them solely based on look instead of really considering comfort and it kills their feet and makes people move away from them entirely. While heels will never really be as comfortable as other shoes, they dont have to be painful after a couple of minutes. You have to get to know your feet and what you can comfortably wear.

[Maid_Marion]

Before the shutdown I started to wear booties and heeled oxfords to work. I taken advantage of the Cole Haan sales to buy higher quality shoes.
I'm petite, so I doubt there are any health risks. I've been able to wear inexpensive heeled shoes all day without discomfort.
I don't know about wearing high heels to work. That is more for the folks who work in the C-suite.

Marion

[EmilySmith]

I love wearing heels, very sexy! En femme I go for tall heels with open toes. I look for women's shoes with short heels that can pass as unisex for guy mode.

[Jenny22]

High heels used to be very important to me, but as I've aged my balance isn't as good nor my ankles as strong as in my youth. So, my heels, now, are shorter in height and with chunky heels. Wedges are good, too. And my silicone girls have sagged, too.

[Krisi]

Watching youtube videos of crossdressers, most ae wearing heels. I can't help noticing the sound of the heels is much louder than it would be for normal women. This may be because most crossdressers are considerably heavier than genetic women. A typical 200 pound woman would probably not be wearing heels.

[Angie G]

I love Heels. I only have a few flats or heels under 2 inches in the cooler weather I about live in them.:hugs:
Angie

[Karmen]

@Krisi Microphones tend to pick up the sound of the heel very good and they appear louder in videos than you would hear it in real life. How loud is the heel also depends on shoes itself. I have some heels that are very loud and some that are much more silent. Usually the shoes with high and spiky heels and those with wide plastic or wooden heels are the loudest in my experience. Normal heels for every day use are much more quiet. Most women you see wearing heels on the street are using shoes meant for every day use and walking and those heels don't make much noise when walking. Of course, how you walk and how heavy you are also makes a difference if you compare 2 people wearing same model of shoes.

[Sandra_Dodds]

Heels accentuate the legs and makes me feel more feminine but I don't need to wear them all of the time. In fact, as I type, I am taking a break from tidying up my study and wearing ballet flats because they are just so much more practical for this task.

I do love a high heel (3"-4") but I have problems with the my spine these days and so I need to be sensible otherwise I will pay for wearing my heels.

[Sylvia Coco]

For me heels were first thing in my crossdressing road. They were alway some kind of symbol of being a women. I think that they are most femmine part of wardrobe and this is the secret of their popularity in crossdresser community.

[Kimberly A.]

Krisi tbh, I really don't give much thought into heels..... For me, they're very uncomfortable and they just plain SUCK! LOL I can't tell you HOW many times I've heard GG's, whether it be online or otherwise, complaining about heels and how much they hurt their feet..... And I'm like, why sacrifice comfort for fashion then? That's one of the many things about women's fashion that I'll never understand. LOL

Anyway, I own one pair of green, peep-toe heels that I've worn out once and I think that's enough for me with that pair, because they're very uncomfortable. I also own two pairs of strappy high-heels that I've worn out a couple of times and they're actually comfortable. LOL However, I do own several pairs of high-heeled shoes or wedges, but (and I'm trying to think of the best way to describe them here LOL), they have the thick, blocky-looking heels on them and they're way more comfy than regular high-heels.

To answer your question about it being a fetish for me..... Absolutely not, heels are not a fetish of mine. I will say, though they do look good on some women, but that's more of a friendly compliment than it is something like, "Ooo, she looks SO hot in those heels". LOL So yeah, I'm not one who gets overly excited about any type of shoes.

[EmilySmith]

I am a big fan of heels, just so feminine and sexy! Still, the reality is the can become very uncomfortable for long distances, so I carry flats in my purse.

[Ceera]

High heels make your legs look better, and make your feet look smaller. That is the main reason I like wearing them. For some it may be a fetish, but that is far from the only reason.

Stiletto type heels, with very small points on the heels, can damage some kinds of flooring, because your weight as you step down is concentrated in a smaller surface area. But I have yet to see any such damage on floors I have worn stiletto heels on.

Generally speaking, stiletto heels are out of fashion among cisgender women, unless they are going to a formal activity like a wedding, a funeral, or a special evening out (fancy dinner, charity fund raiser, opera...). CisGender women have adopted casual dress for almost all activities, so pants and sneakers are a lot more common. If you might wear a formal dress and pearls to the activity, stiletto heels are still quite appropriate.

Shoes with wider heels, as well as wedge sole shoes, are still fashionable, but again, mostly for when you’re dressed up for some reason. I get complements on my wedge heel and block heel sandals which have 2” to 3” heel heights, even when I wear them with jeans and a t-shirt at the grocery store. But the only time I would wear stiletto heels to a grocery store or mall would be on the way to or from a fancy-dress occasion. I wear wedge heels a lot at home, simply because I like how it feels. And if anyone does see me, again, my legs look better because of the heels.

FYI - I am 62, but I look and dress more like I am in my late 20’s to mid 40’s. I am a transgender woman, living full time female for the last two years, and I pass for cisgender female much more often than not while out in public.

[Pumped]

My wife and I went shopping yesterday. I came home with an expensive pair of black pumps, Micheal Kors, regular price $109 on sale for $38. Plus we both bought strappy high heel sandals, Zetla from Jessica Simpson, regular price $100, on sale for $15!!

Best part was my wife was on board and we had a fun time. Still too chicken to try on in the store, but we talked about it.

[Cacique82]

I?ve only got three pairs of heels but I really like them. My wife was surprised when I told her I had some. Se knows/is cool with the CDing but just surprised I could walk in them. She?s loves Rocky Horror so thought I?d surprise her with some on me.

[MiniRock]

I sometimes knock around the house in heels and knickers, nothing else.

[Cheryllynn]

To me, heels are just complete the package- I doubt I would find this as much fun wearing flats or sneakers with my outfits. Probably would not wear them outside the house as I doubt I'd last more then 15 or 20 minutes in them...but I certainly can enjoy them while sitting down. Just makes me feel more feminine I guess.

[Mark B]

I have about 25 women on my floor and all wear heels of some sort except maybe on Friday when allowed to dress more causal. My secretary is constantly wearing 4-5" heels with no platform. Platform shoes are frowned on around here which for me is great as I am already 6' and have no need for platforms.

I wear 4" most of the time, but some outfits I like wearing 5" heels. I sit behind a desk most of the day, so not much walking involved. Most of my longer walks involve getting to and from work. High heels is what started me down this path and it lead to me wearing skirts to give the look heels require. I really try not be walk like a woman but its hard not too. I mean, I do want to look good as well so walking is part of the look as well.


I wear heels and skirts not because I feel feminine, I wear them because I want too. I want to be different and I enjoy all the colorful options a skirt and high heels offer versus drab men's shoes and pants.

[Samantha2015]

If I'm dressing head to toe, heels are just as important to me as the wig.
I don't always go for the 4 or 5 inch heels, it depends on the dress, where &
how far I'll be walking. I have some wedge heels that are very comfortable
for walking long distances and still give me the feminine look I like.
The heels are so unlike any male shoes they really make me feel more
feminine and confident in my look. Even if gg's don't wear them much anymore
hopefully our cd & tg sisters will continue the tradition
:battingeyelashes:

[DanielleDubois]

I definitely love heels because they do make your legs look more feminine. As for wearing heels in the kitchen a few months ago I was making lunch in full Danielle mode and I was surprised how much different it felt physically. I was chopping some vegetables and it was very noticeable I was towering over the chopping block compared to normal. Also combined with the tilt of the heels having breasts changed my entire centre of balance leaning over the counter.

[Genifer Teal]

Whether or not someone wears heels is almost like discussing politics. People are either all in or all out. In my experience you either love to wear heels or maybe don't even own a pair. I'm tall and I love heels and I wear them anyway and everyone says I don't need them and I don't care. LOL I think many people can't wear them. I think their feet hurt when they look at my heels. They wonder how I do it. That adds to the Mystique. I can wear them all night. Many are amazed and wonder how i do it. If it was easy and everyone did it I don't know if it would be so much fun. Who am I kidding? it would still be fun but it would take it down a little bit. I like that so many have a love-hate relationship with high heels. It makes wearing them that much more special. As far as damaging floors, that's entirely possible. That may be why metal heel tips aren't common although I think my friends here across the pond might have an easier time getting them. We don't have them much here in the states if at all and I think it's to protect the floors. There is a fetish that I guess stems from trampling and other things like that where people like to see things broken up by stepping on them and an extension of that is to see damage on the floor caused by the powerful heels. I like to keep things nice and I would never want that to happen and I do look out for that to make sure I don't cause a situation like that and I don't think I ever have. I may have made a few small marks on linoleum but nothing major.

[dtride]

I love wearing my heels, the sound they make when walking on a hard surface is amazing, All I have is 5 inch and 6 inch with platform, nothing better to feel feminine

[Krisi]

I wouldn't equate wearing heels to politics. I have a couple pairs of pumps that I wear occasionally, but for every day, I'm just a normal woman and wear flats.

I have nothing against heels or people who wear them.

[Suranne]

As I'm out and about the whole time, heels don't enter into it, even at work (when the office is open). Comfort, that's what it's all about.

[Rayleen]

Girls, heels is a real treat at home, walking on hard floor with my long skirt rubbing on my legs.

It feels great .

[susan54]

I have just seen this thread. I was the one who asked about heels and floors and so played a part in getting the thread started. About 95% of the women's shoes I own (I have a LOT) have heels. I only wear the flats when I wear a skirt as a man. I own women's trousers but almost never wear them. For some of us this is not about being a woman or blending in. It is about wearing lovely clothes and looking good in them. I am fortunate that I have a figure that looks good in a dress and legs that women envy. Women have told me I look better dressed in women's clothes than men's, even if I am not presenting as a woman. Why would I not want to take advantage of this? My heels are not super-high - just a bit above average. I wear size 8 so not too difficult to get hold of. If you wear leather they can be perfectly comfortable around the house - more so than men's shoes. If you go outside or have stone floors then after a while they can be agony. In Scotland there are still a lot of women who wear skirts and dresses and heels and the shops are full of all of these. You can wear a dress and tights (pantyhose) and heels to the supermarket and though you will be dressed more smartly than the average woman shopper, you will not stand out all that much. I also wear a slip which few women now wear but you can buy them in department stores and I doubt if it is all CDs buying them. I don't know why some CDs have trouble accepting that we are not all alike on here. Some of us don't want to be women or even feel feminine, let alone wear jeans and blend in. It is about clothes that are different and elegant and (most of all) FUN to wear. I wonder why some CDs like to get trussed up in uncomfortable shapewear but I do not ask them to justify it. The same with hip padding - sitting must be weird. My only additional bits are in my (perfectly ordinary 38B) bra. You could extend all the arguments about heels to nails. I have quite long, elegant nails but only rarely do I shape and paint them. Many young women now have very long elaborately ornamented (even extended) nails and they must get in the way at every turn - but they love them and pay for the opportunity. Because it is fun and makes them feel good. So why not? I like the sound of my heels when I first venture out of my car in a dress, with my handbag slung over my shoulder, ideally with a smart coat and leather gloves - I feel really elegant and confident (after the first three seconds). I am 5'9" so the heels make me much taller than the average woman, but there are lots of taller GGs. I do not mind if people realise I am male, as long as they think I am dressed well. To look 'right' in a dress heels are almost as necessary as a bust if you are male. I would not dream of wearing a dress with sneakers. The assertion that real women don't wear heels is absurd - the shops in Scotland are full of heels in much smaller sizes than men could fit into, and lots of women wear them voluntarily for work. I am going to visit my style consultant next week with a GG friend. At least two of us will be wearing heels. The first time I met this GG friend was at a fashion show for women and she and almost all the other women (and me) were in heels and dresses because they are part of the fun for many women too.

[Susan_onmydayoff]

No outfit is complete without heels for me, whether on me or someone else. They just ooze sexy.
I dont own a pair of flats, not girl flats anyway.
OK, they can get uncomfortable after a while but they make me feel good, feminine and so theres no downside in my book.
3? is about optimum for me, I?m comfortable walking on those, maybe 4? for a short time but I struggle with anything higher.
Maybe I need more practice?

Stay happy
Mwah!
Susan

[Genifer Teal]

I wouldn't equate wearing heels to politics. I didn't compare heels to politics. People usually have strong opinions about politics and similarly have strong opinions about heels. That was the comparison.

[Liz Jones]

Hi,
reading this reminds me ---years ago Airlines banned stilleto shoes because they punched holes through the cabin floor of the aircraft........

[Genifer Teal]

Hi,
reading this reminds me ---years ago Airlines banned stilleto shoes because they punched holes through the cabin floor of the aircraft........
Guess that was back when they were made of paper mache and balsa wood. Lol only real issue I heard today is not on the safety chute. They could get caught.

[Liz Jones]

Hi,
Could get caught or punture the slide!

[Robertacd]

Lots of people here are stuck in a past that never existed.

They imagine themselves as June Cleaver, going about her day vacuuming, dusting, doing laundry, cooking, corralling children, etc. dressed to the 9's wearing heels and pearls.

Ignoring that their mothers never did anything like that.

[Teresa]

Roberta,
June Cleaver wasn't well known in the UK but what you describe is the perfect picture most people paint . I nicely turned out woman with a shapely figure , a pretty dress that has some fullness , nice legs made to look more shapely with a pair of heels .

The image of the perfect little woman standing by the front door to greet dear old hubby from work and the children from school , lasted from the mid fifties into the early seventies . Reality ! Of course it wasn't .

[Vickie_CDTV]

Whether GG wear heels really depends on where you are. I seldom see GGs wearing them here, unless they are going to a formal event. Back in the day, business ladies wore skirt suits and not necessarily high heels some kind of office appropriate shoe with some heel; now it is all pants and often sneakers of all things. I live in a rural town. In Manhattan women probably dress up more on a daily basis. I would say that here in a rural town, the more mature women tend to dress up more than the young ones.



Why is this? Could be many reasons. One off the top of my head? Over the decades women (and men!) have gotten HEAVIER.
So, what's typically easier on the feet & other parts of the body, when wearing heels... Weighing 140 pounds -- or 200?

There is some truth to that, though as someone who weighs well over 200 pounds I have no difficulty wearing 3" and 4" heels. (Granted, I have very large feet and huge calf muscles.) More than that though is larger women tend to have low self esteem when it comes to their looks and don't tend to dress up much (obviously there are exceptions.) Which, as someone who likes larger women, think is a shame.


You can wear a dress and tights (pantyhose) and heels to the supermarket and though you will be dressed more smartly than the average woman shopper, you will not stand out all that much. I also wear a slip which few women now wear but you can buy them in department stores and I doubt if it is all CDs buying them. I don't know why some CDs have trouble accepting that we are not all alike on here. Some of us don't want to be women or even feel feminine, let alone wear jeans and blend in. It is about clothes that are different and elegant and (most of all) FUN to wear. I wonder why some CDs like to get trussed up in uncomfortable shapewear but I do not ask them to justify it.

You can do the same here, though women in dresses and hose are not common at all, it won't really upset anyone. I wish they still sold slips here in department stores, they have been relegated to a specialty item in the US.

It seems that those who dress more for fashion than gender are a very small minority. I wouldn't mind not having to wear fake breasts and just wear the clothes. I like girdles and corsets though, those who like them enjoy the feeling of being squeezed which some find relaxing.

[Karine]

For what I can see, some women like heels some don't and furthermore it depends on the circumstances. Some like them and wore them a lot, some only on the special circumstances (clubs, weddings, others night out events), some don't wear them at all.
Being, a occasional crossdesser (once in a month and only at home), so each time is a special event :)

I am a big fan of heels. From, my point of view, they the most feminine item with dresses.
However, I have 2 flats shoes (ballerinas).

Another point for me, in heels (excepted pointed toe heels), feet seem less long.

[rian]

wearing high heels are a real joy and addiction may be because we see in public lot of sexy women wearing them in which consciously we pertain the same image in our head .....being sexy

[Natasha.k]

I wear 4" to 6" heels. Depends on my outfit. I just bought some nice 5 3/4" platform spiked heels yesterday. Black with chrome spikes on them. Very sexy looking..

[BeckyPickleschlitz]

Sadly, I can't wear heels because I have arthritis in one of my big toes and into the ball of the foot. The pressure applied to that area by the angle of heal is unbearable. It's a shame really since we have many nice pairs of heals in the house.

[Carrols]

I wear my heels most every time I dress. I love the look and the feel.

I have three pairs of heels, two pair of pumps and a dressy pair of sandals. one pair of the pumps has four inch heals, the other is two and a half. The sandals, which I'm wearing at the moment, also have a two and a half inch heel.

[Just Dana]

I have two pairs of heels. I like them fine, but don't wear them that often when dressing. My style tends to be more casual, so flats go better. Also, in my mind, flats are just as feminine as heels.

What I don't own is a pair of boots. I should look into fixing that.

Dana

[French]

Hi,
reading this reminds me ---years ago Airlines banned stilleto shoes because they punched holes through the cabin floor of the aircraft........

I was a flight attendant for a couple of years. I can confirm we were taught to tell people with heels to take them off before going down the slide/getting into a raft

[Alice_2014_B]

For me personally high heels are a MUST when I doll up.
It has a lot to do with that I never wear heels in guy-mode outside the house.
It really changes it up for me; the same goes with a skirt/dress and a choker/collar.
It is what I don't wear when out as a guy I guess.
I'll sometimes where a Utilikilt normally, but not that often.
Heels definitely make me feel more womanly.

:)

[stephenie3756]

I have always loved seeing a beautiful pair of heels. As soon as I slipped into a pair of heels, i was hooked. Probably at least 200 pairs. 4" 5" and 6". Mostly open toe. Last year, I fell in love with high heels ankle booties... I worked up the courage to "fly pretty", wearing my flared jeans and pair of high heeled booties on a trip to CA. Walking through the airport at Dulles and hearing my heels click click on the concrete floor was amazing. I was in heaven all the way to CA. I've gotten bold to actually try on heels in stores in male mode. I am jealous of all my co-workers wearing open toe heels during the summer. I spend the day wearing steel toe boots.

[French]

I don't get the fascination with heels at all, they are just so hard to walk in. I feel like i am going to break my ankle every time. However, flats are what drew me into feminine footwear. The Vince Camuto Ellen flats, after just a little wear, feel like butter on the feet.

[Audrey34]

I wear wedge heels when I'm out and about. Very easy to walk in. At home I'll wear 2"-3" pumps depending on my mood. 2" heels are pretty easy for me to walk in and I think they're pretty sexy too.

[karennjcd]

If I don't wear heels when dressed, I'm not dressed. Minimum 5 inches, most of them 6 inch platform heels. They are an integral part of the package. I find myself buying heels to match dresses, or dresses to match the heels. I don't venture out of the house, but I am steady on my feet after years of dressing up often around the house (and at times in hotel rooms) so I do get to hear the tapping on bare floors and can handle walking on carpet too.

Karen

[FrannGurl]

I think heels are sexy and I have a few pairs, but I have more flats then anything. They're cute, comfortable and versatile. They go with jeans, a dress, shorts, leggings, ect and just as feminine as heels IMO

[Cassiek]

Did someone say heels!! I love them!!👠👠👠❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[amandagurl2014]

I love them too. Was the first CD item I purchased. Was stupid nervous when I went to pay for them.

[Maria 60]

Well pretty much my reason is I'm in the closet and only take a drive now and then. Depending on where my fantasy takes me on any given day I may want to wear heels with a outfit. Yes I will wear heels while preparing something in the kitchen of just chilling out. Yesterday my wife caught a deal on a pair of slig back with 4" heel I wore them almost all day.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Krisi :hugs:, See line #2 in my signature, >Orchid .oO :daydreaming: Oo.

[Pumped]

Funny, but I just remembered this.
A few years ago my wife bought me a pair of 3" black pumps as a joke. She told me if you like them so much, you can wear them! I had not dressed for decades before that time. Once I put the heels on the flood gates opened and I knew what I needed to do, buy some women's clothing!!! I did the typical thing where I hid it from my wife and just dressed when I was out of town. Real small stash, mostly lingerie and a nicer pair of heels I bought. Then one day she was at work and I was washing a few naughty bits, hung them up to dry in a well hidden place and she found them. The rest is history!

[CynthiaD]

I've known women who never wore anything but high heels. But of course, this was WWII generation, not with us anymore.

[JIJI Xx]

went crazy for heels at first, higher and higher..... but they're really not good for the bod, gave them up..... JIJI Xx

[Lea]

I wear heels most of the time when I dress. I have one pair of tennis shoes for the days when I do house work or other projects around the house.
Neither my wife or I are fans of carpet. So when we bought our flooring we had to make sure it was resisitent to heel imprints.
Occaisonally my wife will get after me for mainly wearing business office attire all the time. Dreeses, skirts, heels hose etc. I just tell her its a family trait. My mom always dressed up for work or socail events and my grandmother never wore pants or shorts.

[Heather2die4]

One of my fav motifs is the classical 1950s look and heels are essential for pulling it off. I'm over 6 ft (>183 cm) so when I'm out in public, in must keep them under 3" (7.6 cm). I love to get dressed to the nines an go out grocery shopping or run errands about town. Makes me feel so feminine, and just a bit naughty.

To your point, Krisi: "and they certainly don't wear heels while cooking or doing housework." True for sis women but I love to run the vacuum in a dress and four inch pumps. Actually, whether matched with a dress or just a bra and panty set, I find all domestic chores are so much more fun in heels. So June Cleaver.

[Liz Jones]

Its normal for me to buy Female shoes while dressed in "drab"--5days ago bought a pair of wedges (4")&a pair of coned heels while in my work (drab) gear......

Regarding looks cant see them when you are wearing them....
Liz

- - - Updated - - -

Buying heels while in "drab", here's what happened to me--
https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?270548-You-Have-to-Laugh-!&p=4457863&highlight=#post4457863
And yes i still do it in drab!
Liz

[sugababe]

Sadly, I can't wear heels because I have arthritis in one of my big toes and into the ball of the foot. The pressure applied to that area by the angle of heal is unbearable. It's a shame really since we have many nice pairs of heals in the house.
The foot DR can fix that with a Cortisone shot in the toe are and he can shorten your toe . It's called the Cinderella surgery. They can also narrow your foot.

I know from Experience!

[Liz Jones]

I have "trigger fingure" when i consulted Dr was told cortisone is banned -it reduces your resistance to Covid...........
Liz

[sugababe]

Covid causes what's called a Cytokine Storm.
Cortisone which is a immuno suppression drug that reduces swelling is used for that purpose and to calm down the immune system/reduce the Cytokine Storm.

[JustineFallow]

I loveloveloveLOVE heels. I can't walk in them worth a damn anymore, except in controlled circumstances, but I'll wear them while sitting or posing for a photo (as long as there's a wall handy!). I'm appreciating kitten and stacked heels much more now, mind.

I take a womens' 11 and can get away without extra width most of the time, but I *hate* the fact that it's the size where selection drops dramatically. Maybe that's a good thing because I might have put Imelda Marcos to shame otherwise when it comes to the size of my collection!

[Brandie.n]

To me heels are the height of femininity

[Liz Jones]

Sorry--men wore them first.........

[Liz Jones]

Hi,, this was in our news a while back--gives the history of ----Heels!
https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/LBCcR9W5nPgbYDD7lXPgFJ/nine-show-stopping-facts-about-high-heels

[Erin77]

I just like the feel of wearing them. I was just watching the film Midway and I was wearing a lovely 4" pair of heels while lounging on the couch! Just fun and feels good!

[Liz Jones]

Agree!
Liz

[Teresa]

Sometime ago I posted a thread asking what you thought your best asset was ? I replied when sitting in front of a lovely open fire seeing your legs in stockings shimmer in the glow . I'm going to add now seeing the heels you've finally been able to slip off after an evening spent on the dance floor , I love wearing them but BOY do I love slipping them off !!!

[VS Fan]

In the future, everyone will be considered non-binary and will wear grey hoodies with khaki pants and white sneakers. No one will remember what all the fuss was about crossdressing.

Hahah! I wish the forum had ?reactions? like Facebook haha.... this is funny... and quite possibly true, although I doubt I will live to see it.

Heels are fun because they feel different and yes the clicking of the heels is fun... but for me, being already tall for a woman at 5?11?, it doesn?t really benefit me to wear them... the most I will do is a 2? wedge sandal or something but more often than not I stick with flat sandals.

[darla_g]

i recognize that a lot of women when they are out and about they want to be comfortable . I guess when we as CDs dress we pick a paradigm of style that is what we prefer to see in women. I know at one point i picked out some of the ****tiest outfits but kind of outgrew that. Today i try to find classy and stylish outfits. But i do like to wear heels. As much as i know they are bad for your feet or your back etc I like them. I don't wear them for long periods and i have gotten rid of boots or heels that were too much to deal with. I have even found some kitten heels.

It makes no sense but i like 'em

[Stephanie47]

Watching youtube videos of crossdressers, most are wearing heels.

I was watching some cross dressing videos on Youtube last night. I had to chuckle a little as some stumbled around in the middle of the road. Waiting for someone? Definitely needed a little practice. As an in-home six foot cross dresser who always wears a 3 1/2 inch heels all I can complain about is the bathroom sinks need to be hanged higher on the wall. :)

[Sherrii]

They way they make you walk (and how you should walk in them). The sound of heels clicking along always means "woman". The skill and practice to be good in them. The way them make legs look. The status the height of the heel gives. Just some of the reasons HHs are feminine and why I just love heels. And classic pumps are the best look I think. Sherrii

[karennjcd]

I should add, one benefit is that I've actually changed light bulbs on ceiling fixtures without a ladder!! 6 inches makes a lot of difference! :D

[Georgina]

I have around thirty pairs of shoes with no flats. I think a lot of flat shoes look ugly. My average heel height is around two and a half inches and I find them to be comfortable and easy to walk in. I much prefer them to flats and if I am cooking or any other tasks I do not take off my shoes.

[Breeheels]

I often wear heels around the house. Have been wearing what I call stealth heels usually boots outside. Even for a hike with my gf down to the river one day.

[Lois Lane]

I would wear heels every day if I could get away with it. The clicking is awesome.

[Liz Jones]

Hi,
I wear heels (around 2.5to3.00inches)in the kitchen for cooking or baking. Only problem --you have to bend over further to do the washing up..........
Liz

[KellyTerry1819]

Wearing heels - of course. That's where I started and I don't see any reason to not do it except that I'm in the closet.
It is not always practical to get all dressed up, maybe I need to go out shopping or something soon, maybe someone soon coming over. Then I have my normal drab cloths and some high heels that I can easily kick off when needed (I can take off the heels in 5 seconds but a dress and makeup will take longer).
I do it because I like the feeling of walking in heels and the sound is also good.

[Breeheels]

I hear you on this one.

[Liz Jones]

Something that puzzles me ---heel hight. I bought a pair sold as 2.5inches high BUT on measuring the very back of the heel i find it gives me a "lift" of 3" inches. So is there a standard place (on the heel) that is used to measure hight?
Liz

[Teresa]

Liz,
The heel height is measured from the mid point on the heel tip straight up to where it joins the sole of the shoe , not at the back of the heel . There is a Youtube video explaining the details .

Also there is a natural heel height which explains why some people can wear heels or not . Sitting on the floor with your back supported and legs straight out if your feet drop away at an angle you can wear heels , if your feet are at right angles to the floor it's not recommended you wear heels . To assess your natural heel height assuming your feet drop away , take a line from the ball of the foot at a right angle to the floor , from that line measure the distance to where the heel touches the floor . My measurement is 3.5" and I must admit I'm most comfortable wearing heels of 3.5 " . I have 4" and 5" heels which I can dance in but my feet let me know all about it the next day . I have very few flat shoes , only ones that I walk the dog in and work in the garden .

[Lois Lane]

Love heels. Love hearing them click. Pantyhose skirts etc. A female friend said they hurt her feet. I told her I could walk in them for eight hours.....

[Liz Jones]

Hi Teresa ,
thanks for the in depth explanation--read it out to the o/h who is sitting on the floor as i type........
Liz

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Liz,
The heel height is measured from the mid point on the heel tip straight up to where it joins the sole of the shoe , not at the back of the heel . There is a Youtube video explaining the details .

Also there is a natural heel height which explains why some people can wear heels or not . Sitting on the floor with your back supported and legs straight out if your feet drop away at an angle you can wear heels , if your feet are at right angles to the floor it's not recommended you wear heels . To assess your natural heel height assuming your feet drop away , take a line from the ball of the foot at a right angle to the floor , from that line measure the distance to where the heel touches the floor . My measurement is 3.5" and I must admit I'm most comfortable wearing heels of 3.5 " . I have 4" and 5" heels which I can dance in but my feet let me know all about it the next day . I have very few flat shoes , only ones that I walk the dog in and work in the garden .

mods --would this be worth a "sticky"?
Liz

[Brianne_bc]

My mum wore high heels. Lots of them, so many in fact that she kept some in my bedroom when I was a boy. Till the day she caught me standing in the closet wearing her highheels. A good sound spanking came soon after being told dont ever do that again. I never got caught again, and continued to wear her heels till I out grew them and at age 11 acted on what wearing her heels did to me. Wedges, Boots and Maryjanes are my favorites. The maryjane thing goes back to grade school where I would steal girls maryjanes from the coat room in winter and wear them in my secret hide out under the stairs in our house.

[lingerieLiz]

Wood, linoleum and other softer flooring materials may be damaged by high heels. The heaver one is the higher the probability of damage. I've had many a pair, but no longer. Back in the 50/60s I wore them when going out. Now days I'm happy to wear flats.

My wife was required to wear dresses, nylons, and heels where she worked. Every night the first thing off were her heals. I can't count the number of times she ruined expensive heels walking on sidewalks that were wet.

[Liz Jones]

Hi,
We have flooring in our kitchen that is self healing-heel marks disapeear overnight (our car bumpers do the same thing) sorry to say when i ripped a hole in it it didnt self heal..........
Liz

[sometimes_miss]

I wear heels for the same reason I wear all the girl clothes, and do all the other girl specific things: Because it helps relieve the gender identity dysphoria. While arthritic knees make it impossible to walk around in heels much, I can still wear them when I'm at home, and don't have to travel more than a few feet at a time, and get the extremely 'female' experience and feeling that comes with seeing and wearing them.

[cindylouho]

Heels complete the look, personally the more sartorial my outfit, the sexier it makes me feel.

[Naomi18]

For me, wearing heels is a personal preference. I enjoy them. I am not that tall so wearing them gives me a different perspective. I used to have a large collection until we moved and I threw them all away. Now, I have a couple strappy 6-inch platforms.

[StephanieH]

I rarely get to wear heels, but I absolutely love them. There's nothing in the world that makes you feel more fantastic than walking around in a pair of 3-1/2" or 4" heels. Or, when you're feeling really outrageous, 5 or 6" heels, but, those have to have a platform toe or I'll bust my butt!

[Mezzanine]

I would imagine that people often don't get to wear what they want, and so doing so at home while cooking gives them the opportunity. I would also imagine that it can help people feel more feminine, more sexy, more confident. The opportunities afforded to those who crossdress are also very different from those afforded to (and imposed on) other women.

[lingerieLiz]

Back in the 60s and 70s I wore heels often. I thought they were part of me. In the late 80s most of my women friends quietly wore heels less often. Today I don't own any high heels. because at my age they just don't work for me anymore.

[Naty]

I think high heels are a fetish for me, but one that I really love along with wearing pantyhose. I love to wear them but I think that even if I could, I wouldn't wear them every day. On the one hand I value comfort and on the other I believe that special things are precisely special because you can enjoy them on very few occasions.

[cindylouho]

What a great Saturday! My wife put some makeup on me, just enough to give faceapp a hand making me pretty ;) Afterwards we took some pictures, and I spent much of the rest of the day playing with my new pix on faceapp. I used my favorite shoes for most of the photos, here they are in all their 5 inch glory!
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